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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 27 August 2014: Sorry, hit 'send' too soon, my bad.
You've lost a whole size in clothing which must feel amazing! Well done.
Keep on finding what motivates you and look for the healthy choices. Sometimes a healthy choice is to have a piece of chocolate. Sometime... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 27 August 2014: Great job, you have done so well! No diets with the word "strict" in them are sustainable. So well done for not depriving yourself.
The key is to find balance. Enough exercise and activity and the right amount of food with the nutrients that will... (read in full...)
Should I pursue trying to date a woman with dysmorphia?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to see what your opinions on this is. I met someone well over a year ago and it was amazing. We got on really well, so much so we had 3 dates on one weekend. When I was at work the next Monday she send me an email and text m...
A. 12 August 2014: You need to work on your communication skills and venues.
First of all, stop trying to make major life decisions based on texts. They are useless in conveying important information. "I'm late for our date for the opera." is fine. "I love you and ... (read in full...)
I want to be popular in college!
Q. hey i am 18 and i am in big problem i have no nice friends in my new college and in my previous college i didn't have friends and people who i talk to won't concentrate much in my talks and many will start talking over me and i feel so alone in my ...
A. 12 August 2014: Hi Wow, there is a very famous and helpful book that was published a long time ago and has sold millions of copies. It may help you in your quest to make friends.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People is the wiki... (read in full...)
I love my late father's mistress
Q. My name is Trevor, 35 years old and Black and unmarried. In 2000, my father, then 57 years old started an affair with Asma, a 19 year old married Indian woman who was divorcing her husband. After her divorce my father spent a lot of time with Asma. ...
A. 12 August 2014: Asma has said no to marriage so the question is pointless. She is not going to marry you.
She was your father's wife in all but legality. Just because you are attracted to her does not mean she will reciprocate. I do think it's questionable for you ... (read in full...)
Can my child be taken away from me because I had an affair with my uncle by marriage?
Q. so i will start by saying where i have messed up, i am in a commonlaw relationship with a man that is also the father to my 5 year old, we have been together for 7years and i have never truly been happy with him, i stayed for so long just to make ...
A. 12 August 2014: I would go seek legal advice on this question. No one here is an expert on Colorado divorce law, and you are asking questions that could impact your life in a significant way. Rather than try to puzzle it out online, go find legal representation and ... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about his lies?
Q. Im 21, nearly 22, and have been getting to know this guy since May, but have been speaking since February. We were both at university (far apart) so we used to Skype every day, talk on the phone for hours and text throughout the day for 3 months...
A. 11 August 2014: You didn't answer my basic question. What do you want?
Once you define that, you can see if he actually meets your criteria.
You keep winding up with men who treat you badly. One man treating you badly could be a bad choice, two men treating... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about his lies?
Q. Im 21, nearly 22, and have been getting to know this guy since May, but have been speaking since February. We were both at university (far apart) so we used to Skype every day, talk on the phone for hours and text throughout the day for 3 months...
A. 11 August 2014: "The thing is, we aren't official, we're going with the flow and seeing how things pan out, which I am happy with. However, things between us are physical as we do have sex, and we have both mentioned that we won't be seeing other people or sleeping ... (read in full...)
I want my ex out of my life but will feel guilty if I have to call the police
Q. My ex boyfriend kept going through my email. He read emails, accused me of sleeping with multiple guys in my past (pretty much any guy). He then would contact them as if it was me to ask them if I had sex with them. He created a fb profile of a guy ...
A. 11 August 2014: So you left a known liar with a history of stalking behaviors and invasion of privacy behaviors alone with your stuff while you left the country? And expected him to skedaddle with no problems?
In between the break up and the flight overseas shou... (read in full...)
Do you think the age difference of 3 years is a problem for two teenagers?
Q. So, I'm 17 years old, and I'm a lesbian. I'm talking to this girl, we'll call her "M," and she's about to be 14. We started talking through Facebook, and I didn't know her age by looking at her profile. She told me, and I had no problems with it. ...
A. 7 August 2014: It's actually a four year gap.... She's still 13.
Do her parents know she's dating?... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend and she will never love me!
Q. I have a crush on this girl who is my friend and it is killing me. I love Sam so much and she found out and hated me 4 it. She was awful tome 4 weeks. I had had a crush on her 4 at least 3 months befor she found out an it was so painful. ...
A. 6 August 2014: This question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-should-i-handle-the-fact-that-private.html has the back story.
This is one of those painful life lessons: you can't always get what you want. This includes having people reciprocate your feel... (read in full...)
Can anyone give tips about lesbian anal sex?
Q. Hi guys, I need a bit of help regarding lesbian anal sex. My girlfriend and I experimented a while ago with a dildo - first time for us both but this time we are intrigued to try anal sex. I personally am scared from reading things online it...
A. 6 August 2014: I think the rule in anal is sex is lube, lube, more lube, lots of lube then some more lube.
If you are scared as in fearful, don't even go to the dildo thing.
If you are scared as in a bit intrigued then I think the next rule is start small.
... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer it shaved?
Q. My question might sound simple but why do so many men seem to like shaved vulva as opposed to a natural hairy one ? I found that the man I am with says he finds it much sexier and several men have said this before . I prefer to go natural as I get ...
A. 6 August 2014: Do you ask them what they prefer? Or do they volunteer this opinion? I would just gleefully assume that the man in bed with me was happy to be so.
Are these men professing a preference for no hair at all also hairless as well? As in, all hair remo... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 5 August 2014: Did you buy the book So Very Confused recommended? If not, focus on ordering it today.
If you are this distraught over dreams, definitely seek counseling. ... (read in full...)
My mother called my friend's parents, now he's not speaking to me, what do I do?
Q. I have a friend who rings up a lot.i had expressed this to my parents that i was irritaed.My mother out of the blue texted my friend that he should not ring up daily.His mom and dad read that text and from then on he has not spoken. I was not at f...
A. 5 August 2014: I think you'll just have to wait until his feelings of hurt subside. Let your mutual friends know that you regret the incident and did not intend to cause him personal embarrassment and humiliation.
Obviously, your mother can't be trusted not to b... (read in full...)
He won't sex chat with me!
Q. Hey guys I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 24 and we're in long destines relationship It's really hard to meet and i might meet him after 6 months or more I never had sex before but he did anyway before 2 days i was talking about chat sex and he re...
A. 5 August 2014: Why can't you be with anyone else?
If all you want is sex chat, there are millions of men waiting in chat rooms for women willing to do that.
You can't force him into something he doesn't want to do. Respect his boundaries.
Have you ever met him... (read in full...)
How come he never thinks my 'look' is quite right?
Q. I'm confused. When I hadn't been with my boyfriend for long I overheard him say that I look ok but not as good as some other girls he knows. Fast forward a couple of years I've tried dressing normally, conservatively, flamboyantly,using full mak...
A. 5 August 2014: Well, the good news is that as it seems he's critical of your look no matter what you try, you can stop dressing to please him, and simply dress to please yourself.
It sounds like you are working very hard here and all he needs to do is utter a few ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 years has started to ignore me, and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi, i'm a little lost right now and unsure of what to do. My boyfriend of 4 years has started to ignore me. its been a week now and at the beginning i sent him some horrible messages trying to get a response. which, of course i felt horrible fo...
A. 5 August 2014: Have you tried just stopping by his home to speak in person?... (read in full...)
He tells me to stop all of this "drama," please help as it's been weeks since I've had proper meal or left my bedroom!
Q. I met this guy a year back and we have been dating...he is very different from the entire world and i can vouch for it...maybe he loves me but i don't really matter to him...he seems like the kind of person who just can't love anyone but himself and ...
A. 4 August 2014: I have to say, if he is causing you this much pain and you are this upset, it would probably be best for now to end the relationship and take a break. You can strengthen yourself by being with family and friends and let them know you need some extra ... (read in full...)
What does "in a complicated relationship" on FB mean, exactly?
Q. My friend last week on her fb account put in a complicated relationship, what does it mean???? Ive asked her if shes ok and if she wants to talk im always hear to speak to but im not really sure what it means Does it mean her relationship is ...
A. 4 August 2014: I think messages like that are designed to punish the significant other of the poster.
"I'm in a relationship but I'm mad as hell."
"I'm in a relationship but he's cheated on me and I want to humiliate him a bit before I attempt to break his hear... (read in full...)
How should I handle the fact that private information about me was revealed to others by a ''friend''?
Q. Ok, so, I have had this crush on one of my female friends,who i will refer 2 as SN, for months now, and i had only told 1 person im a bi female, my best friend. SN is one of my best friends 2 other best friends. So anyway, i got sick of keeping it f...
A. 1 August 2014: Let's approach it this way. We are going to have you imagine a situation.
Let's say there's this boy J, who is one of your friends, you like him as a friend but only as a friend because you are not attracted to him "that way."
Suppose that he gets ... (read in full...)
I know in my heart that something isn't right between my husband and this girl at work
Q. My husband and I both got jobs in the same company...so we work together most of the time...I've been there for about 5 months...He has been there for about a year. I noticed strange behavior coming from him and this other coworker of ours...she's ...
A. 1 August 2014: No, it does sound odd. It sounds like a relationship that happened at a gym that I go to. There was this instructor and one of the members and they had an affair with a lot of behavior similar to what you describe. The wife was clueless because the ... (read in full...)
I understand we can't commit -- how do we avoid getting hurt?
Q. I met a man I get along with really well about two months ago. He's been clear from the start that he doesn't think he can be in a relationship now, and I'm hoping to leave the country for a while in about a year and a half, so neither of us think ...
A. 1 August 2014: If you know already the he doesn't tick the relationship boxes then stop trying to change that.
If you want to have sex with him, without commitment, then do so, who cares what a bunch of anonymous agony aunts might think about it. If it works for ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I was wondering, is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm? My boyfriend says that, after climax, any stimulation at the head of his penis feels painful. Does this happen to all men? O...
A. 1 August 2014: Just tell him to let you know when to stop.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I was wondering, is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm? My boyfriend says that, after climax, any stimulation at the head of his penis feels painful. Does this happen to all men? O...
A. 1 August 2014: 1. Reading the resources about your question, it sounds perfectly normal.
2. How to know when to stop? Isn't this obvious? When he asks you to stop. The moment he says "enough" then stop.... (read in full...)
Why is my ex telling me about his problems?
Q. I had dated a guy for about 4 months. Things hit off great between us. But, he was dating myself and another girl that same. (Which I understand is normal in the dating world). We would stop talking and then would get back together and start dating ...
A. 1 August 2014: What is this religion that encourages dating other people while lying to a girlfriend? Fascinating. He's so religious that he...
okay, I've read enough.
He's full of it, and you are naive if you think this is normal or something that is okay.
W... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get intimate with a guy!
Q. Hey agony aunts! I know this will sound really pathetic but I don't know how to get intimate with a guy. There is this guy I like a lot and am super attracted to and I can hardly think of anything else when we're together- I want to get close to him ...
A. 31 July 2014: Have you tried asking him out?... (read in full...)
Do guys always stop intercourse after they cum?
Q. Hello agony aunts and uncles! So I just have a pretty straightforward question, do guys always stop intercourse after they cum? Every guy I've been with has. But I've heard before that not everyone does (i don't know if they're lying or not) th...
A. 31 July 2014: I'm a bit worried about the education system in our country. We've had a couple of youngish posters asking very basic questions today. To answer your specific question, "do guys always stop intercourse after they cum?" Well, virtually all men, aft... (read in full...)
Question on BDSM: What things could I do or use sexually to drive my B/f wild?
Q. Hi cupids, this is a question in hope of gathering all of the BDSM style members. My partner is into BDSM and loves anything considered dirty/experimental. In the past we have used hot candle wax, being tied up etc but what I'm here to ask is, how ...
A. 31 July 2014: There are bajillion sexy sex ideas on BDSM forums and as EWO pointed out, there's alway 50 shades of grey as an idea book. What websites does he look at? Take a look at those.
If he's the dominant type, isn't your role to be submissive and not try ... (read in full...)
Why marry me if I wasn't his type?
Q. Why would my husband have married me when I was cjwarky not his type ? All through our marriage he would make little comments about my looks .. Implying that there were things about me that disappointed him . He was constantly looking at other ...
A. 31 July 2014: Unless you seriously are considering taking him back, why bother trying to figure him out. He's in the rearview mirror, that water is down in the sewage plant now that you've crossed that bridge, he is ancient history. (How many more metaphors and ... (read in full...)
I'm going on a summer holiday! Or am I?
Q. I have booked a holiday with my boyfriend of 2 years,(it was to be our first together) and was excited about it until he let it slip that the itinerary will consist exclusively of places he visited with his late wife of 17 years (she died 4 years ...
A. 31 July 2014: You might want to clue him in to your discomfort and uncertainty as to his motives before you leave on the trip. Basically give him a mini-sensitivity course, as you are working to be sensitive about his grief for the loss of his wife. It wasn't ... (read in full...)
Greiving and my boyfriend is ignoring me.
Q. I hope someone can help. i am greiving for a family member and my boyfriend has, in the last two days, started to totally ignore me. Ive sent him some horrible messages to him today out of desperation for a response and he still will not reply to ...
A. 31 July 2014: Why can't you just go over and see him? Is this an online relationship?
At this point, it's pretty clear he's not going to be the type of boyfriend you need at this point, so I would stop trying to get him to respond and instead deal with the grie... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant from dry humping?
Q. My boyfriend and I dry humped. I have like cheer shorts on, they are short and thin plus underwear. He had underwear and like guys athletic shorts. Well we were humping and I felt something wet down there. Im scared I could be pregant please help!...
A. 31 July 2014: Get that book that So Very Confused mentioned. It will help educate you about your body and contraception and keeping yourself healthy as well.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/birth-control Has information on birth control.
Good ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 31 July 2014: Sounds like you have a plan! By the way, you can do weight training with an implant. http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=158156963 is one discussion I saw on this. Lots and lots of women exercise with the implant. Don't let that be an ... (read in full...)
They never acted on their mutual crush, so why would my friend's boss send her a goodbye card with kisses?
Q. There was a mutual crush between my friend and her married boss. They sort of developed a strong liking for each other, But for him, it was more of an infatuation. He did not know that he was flirting with her at the beginning( his wife also...
A. 31 July 2014: Mild crush, fond feelings, what does it matter? He's married! If he was inappropriate then he's a doubly creepy. Married and someone's supervisor? Yikes.
You put him firmly in the rearview mirror, spin those wheels and get the hell out of ther... (read in full...)
Should I give up on this girl? She's come up with all kinds of excuses for why we can't get together.
Q. I am very close to giving up on this girl and I just want to see if I should or if there is still hope. I met her a couple months ago at Wondercon, we connected well and I got her number. After a couple text exchanges (with very delayed response...
A. 31 July 2014: Five excuses and no real offers to reschedule?
I'd take it as a polite brush-off. You haven't had a date since the beginning of June and we are now at the end of July. I wonder if she's started dating someone else, doesn't know if that will work... (read in full...)
Help please... does my coworker like me?
Q. I met this guy at work and started working quite closely with him about a month ago. He is a warm, friendly person and helps me out all the time at work. One time because I did something wrong at work, he had to wait for me to fix it for three...
A. 30 July 2014: Is this guy married or single? A married guy who likes to flirt may have suddenly caught on that you like him 'that way' and he's decided to keep his distance.
... (read in full...)
I want to help my boyfriend last longer in bed!
Q. I'm dating this guy and I am absolutely in love with him. We've had sex a few times and each time it's only been for about 10 minutes. (if that) because he cums pretty fast. we do a lot of foreplay and he normally fingers me and things like that ...
A. 30 July 2014: I would adjust your expectations for now. He'll eventually calm down and slow down, I expect. Ten minutes is actually pretty long in terms of intercourse. Unless you mean that the entire encounter from taking off your clothes to his climax lasts 10 ... (read in full...)
Do a lot of people misinterpret politeness as flirting?
Q. Do a lot of people misinterpret politeness as flirting? I hate it when I'm friendly to people only to have them act cold. I smile at people passing by while out in public. Sometimes I'll get a scowl in return, usually from women. Men just look aw...
A. 30 July 2014: Depends on the stranger and the context and the part of town and which country I'm in at the time.
If a young woman your age caught my eye while I was out and about and she smiled, I'd probably smile back and keep on moving.
If a young woman sm... (read in full...)
Am I being silly to be upset over the fact my boyfriends mum made a joke over whether I should wear white I get married because I have a child?
Q. Am I being silly to be upset over the fact my boyfriends mum made a joke over whether I should wear white I get married because I have a child? I know it may seem harmless but it's actually rather hurt me. I was 17 when I had my son, who is now...
A. 30 July 2014: Maybe she was speaking from personal experience? After all, if she was pregnant when she wore her white gown, perhaps there were some nasty snarky people who did laugh at her.
I expect if she's of a certain age or from a certain background that... (read in full...)
They never acted on their mutual crush, so why would my friend's boss send her a goodbye card with kisses?
Q. There was a mutual crush between my friend and her married boss. They sort of developed a strong liking for each other, But for him, it was more of an infatuation. He did not know that he was flirting with her at the beginning( his wife also...
A. 30 July 2014: By kisses, do you mean X's on the card? I sign just about everything with an 'xo,' a kiss hug, it's meant to be a friendly goodbye.
Don't most people leaving a company on good terms say that the person leaving will be missed? It's a polite thin... (read in full...)
He's dry in his texts and never compliments me, but he keeps asking to see me and is messaging while on his holiday?
Q. Hi there, so im seeing this guy for about a month now we see each other about once a week! i cant tell if hes into me or not as hes really dry over text and never compliments me? but he still asks to see me! hes on holiday just now and managed to ...
A. 30 July 2014: Sounds good so far, why not wait and see what happens? It's only been a month and you are still getting to know each other.... (read in full...)
My fiancé keeps trying to take nude photos of me without my consent!
Q. Okay, so we were on vacation and hot at it and my significant other (my fiancé) got up from the bed, then all of a sudden I saw a flash in the dark room and he took a picture of me nude and then he wanted to take closer pictures of my body parts. I ...
A. 30 July 2014: I've never experienced anything like this and I would break up with him as soon as I could, but not before I ensured no unwanted images of me remained in his files.
This guy is a creep and is violating your trust and privacy. Get rid of him ASAP... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 28 July 2014: Hi, it all depends on you and your body and your level of readiness for a particular exercise. You are new to this so may not realize that muscle soreness is usual after starting up a new exercise. The key is to not worry about it unless you feel ... (read in full...)
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