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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Is it right to ask her out now she is divorced?
Q. I'm a single guy in my 40's. Two of my female friends have a friend that they used to work with who is in her late 30's - I'll call her Shirley. I met her a few times in casual social settings like going to the farmer's market and I always found he...
A. 20 June 2017: I would say, put all three answers below together, and that's your general answer. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I love her but don't know to what extent I love her
Q. I am facing a dilemma. Whether to marry, or to leave my girlfriend. I am inexperienced, and I need your opinion on what our relationship looks like to you, and what you think I should do. I also would like to hear what you think is important in a ...
A. 20 December 2016: In my opinion, the mere fact you are not sure about marrying her is proof that you don't want to marry her. Men who are madly in love don't even stop to think whether they want to marry X; they just do.... (read in full...)
We disagree about matter of religion! Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone! I thought it might be a good idea to hear some impartial opinions on an issue I have been dealing with in my relationship. So my boyfriend and I are both Christian, though I only decided to be baptized when i was 14 while he ...
A. 19 December 2016: I do not know of a single religious group that does not in some way force children to adopt the parent's religion. It may be overt, as in baptizing the child since birth and then getting him to participate in church, or not, as when churches say ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont have sex because he is anxious about unwanted pregnancies
Q. Hey there! So Ive been with my boyfriend for a year(to keep people anonymous we can call him bob) and I wasn't a virgin when I met him, but he was when we started dating. We've had sex more than a few times but he admitted to me some months ago...
A. 18 December 2016: Well, if you want to have sex and he doesn't, that's a real problem. Married people leave each other over such a thing. You have to choose whether you want to stay with him this way, or not. Only you can decide that.
I was wondering whether ... (read in full...)
I'm comparing myself to his beautiful ex and feel like I don't measure up!
Q. I have been married to a wonderful man for the last 4 years and I have yet to find any flaws in his looks or personality. In being up front, this is a question based out of my own insecurities and not from something he has done or said. He w...
A. 18 December 2016: It seems to me that he left her and moved on. I don't think he has her in his mind anymore. Don't see a problem where there is none.... (read in full...)
My inappropriate boss or My boss wants to grab my ass
Q. Hello everyone! I'm in a bit of a pickle. Naturally, I'm a very bubbly energetic person. I hate awkwardness so I do my best to make fun of myself and include others. Especially at work considering, everyone can be so stiff at times. I got ...
A. 18 December 2016: An older married man poking at a girl's behind, who is also his employee, is always wrong. I don't think he doesn't know that.
I would do as Youcannotbeserious says.... (read in full...)
I feel like my trust meter is broken. How can I tell if this guy is trustworthy?
Q. I am in the middle of a divorce. I had sworn to myself to stay out of the dating scene until at least the divorce was finalized. I even purposely stopped dressing nicely or wearing makeup in order to avoid attracting attention. My soon to be ex ...
A. 24 September 2016: There is no way for anyone to know if someone is absolutely trustworthy. As Honeypie said, go slowly and see if you like who he is, in person, not over text.... (read in full...)
He says my vagina is too loose and that I'm cheating
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend since i was 16 im 23 now. Our sex life has always been good but now he has been saying im too loose and he thinks im cheating on him, which im not!! I have been feeling the difference also but im not sure why my vagina is ...
A. 13 April 2016: Tell him that, even if what he says were true, he would still have to take you as you are, or leave. His choice.... (read in full...)
How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past?
Q. How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past ? From the time I was 18 I was in a band. Even though we were just a small town band we had our own little group of followers and got a good deal of attention. I was young and enjoy life. Ov...
A. 13 April 2016: You can't make her forget. AND, she has to take you as you are. If that doesn't happen, well, so be it.... (read in full...)
Do you think he and his wife think they'll get back together? what should I do?
Q. I have been seeing a man who's 6 yrs younger than me and he's married with 2 kids but they are not living together. This is the second time they seperated. When I first met him he said he wasn't sure what was going on between them yet. They have t...
A. 3 April 2016: This man won't leave his wife, and you should leave him.... (read in full...)
He said I'm wife material, not casual dating type. what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone I have a question. Men are easy to meet on dating sites. Been out with some and met a few at store bar etc. I'm told and shown the same thing. I'm so sweet all say then disappear. My good guy friend says I'm a good catch for long te...
A. 3 April 2016: Those guys were afraid you would eventually want more than a roll in the hay, which was the sole thing they wanted.... (read in full...)
How to distance myself from my arrogant, know-it-all brother?
Q. I'm getting to really hate my brother. I am the only one of my siblings that my brother stays in touch with on a regular basis - basically because the others are married and he doesn't really feel comfortable around the inlaws. The trouble is...
A. 3 April 2016: Well, next time tell him to cut the crap or else.... (read in full...)
Will he ever love me the way he loved her ?
Q. I’ve been dating a guy. Its been a year and I really love him. The thing is, he has some major relationship issues that i believe . His ex cheated on him which has caused him to be very closed off and wary of relationships. I really think we have ...
A. 3 April 2016: Bad experiences do make you see people and things in different lights. However, we can't know why he is acting this way.
All relationships are different, and that is good, actually. Maybe you're not just as good as she was in some sense, b... (read in full...)
I don't want to be fired but feel uncomfortable with what my boss is requesting me to do
Q. I started my job yesterday as an administrative assistant, at a private accounting firm. My boss told me today she wants me to call tomorrow a credit card company and be her and ask them to waive a fee for her. I feel kind of uncomfor...
A. 30 March 2016: Everyone is right about this being a bad thing to do. The good news here is that you will probably be fired when you refuse to do as your boss asked. And that way you will learn that some things just can't be accepted, even if our job depends on ... (read in full...)
Why am I good enough to spend all her time with and have amazing sex, but not good enough to date
Q. This is going to sound a bit backwards since it's usually the other way around. However, I have a fwb and she kinda confuses me sometimes. We have been sleeping together for around 6 months. And the sex is mind-blowing. Two people could not have b...
A. 27 March 2016: I see a funny situation here. Two people who do everything people do in a relationship, but do not consider themselves to be in a relationship because they haven't said so.
It seems to me that this relationship does not involve any honest t... (read in full...)
We had a one night stand and now she is pregnant1
Q. We had a one night stand, and now a month later she's saying she's pregnant. I checked the condom after for holes and it seemed find as no water was dripping through. I wanted her to get an abortion as I'm sure she doesn't want kids with me an...
A. 27 March 2016: If she had been interested in money for an abortion, she would have taken your offer. Since she didn't, she was interested in you becoming responsible for the baby.
Assuming that she doesn't want kids is too much assuming.
You say that this wa... (read in full...)
Should I marry him, considering that I have major trust issues?
Q. Ive been with my fiance for 6 years and last year he proposed to me. Our relationship has its ups and downs. Ive known his positive and negative traits more than anyone he knows. Probably more than his family do. He is quite loving and caring ...
A. 27 March 2016: I would say no, you shouldn't marry him. Either he's not a good match for you, or you suspect his every move.... (read in full...)
How much does dating actually cost?
Q. So, I was telling my roommate about my plans to build a new computer and media center for the living room, and he told me I should get a girlfriend (instead of appreciating my contributions to the house). While he might or might not be right, I ...
A. 27 March 2016: If you loved the girl, then budgeting wouldn't be a problem.... (read in full...)
I try to love my friend's child but it's just so hard! He's incredibly rude and I hate spending time with him
Q. I'm not sure how to express myself on this one or even what my exact question is or even if I HAVE a question.... all I know is that I feel really bad about this. My friend and I have known each other for over 10 years now. Her son has just tur...
A. 27 March 2016: In my books, this child is very impolite and has been spoiled by none other than the mother. Well-reared kids don't behave this way.
Also, something is going on at that house. Kids aren't usually that aggressive.
... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and has asked for my help!
Q. How should I feel? My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and wants me to take her to get a abortion? ...
A. 27 March 2016: I see a very high chance of you ending up very much used and then tossed away like garbage.
You don't say how long ago you broke up, or how old she is, and what her relationship was to that other man. I would have wanted to know all that before I... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...
A. 24 March 2016: I agree with your family: The relationship has no future. You cheated on her and she may forgive you, but will never forget that. In her eyes, you're not reliable. Trust is easy to lose and maybe impossible to restore.
I recommend that you... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-date happy birthday?
Q. Three months ago, I dated a man for one month. We spoke every day and went on 6 six dates which were all wonderful. After the last date, the following week he seemed to be withdrawing then coming back. It left me unsure of his feelings so I chose to ...
A. 24 March 2016: Don't.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy come back after turning him down for sex?
Q. I was talking to guy about 6 months ago who made it plain the first time around he only wanted a hook up through his actions. He didn't verbally tell me but his actions indicated that he just wanted to hook up. He brought up sex in our first ...
A. 22 March 2016: Yup, he's trying to see if he will get lucky this one time.... (read in full...)
When people say they are ''not ready for a relationship'' is that just a line to discourage the other party?
Q. I was seeing a 25 y.o. woman over a month ago. She just lost her mother due to very complicated circumstances so she went through a very hard time. I took the 'not ready for a relationship' line as sincere. I didnt pursue but was open to go on mo...
A. 21 March 2016: Many people don't say what they truly think, either because they don't want to be rude to you, or hurt your feelings, or come across as rude. So they drop hints, or sugarcoat things. The problem is, because what they say isn't explicit, you don't ... (read in full...)
Why isn’t she wearing her bra in this instance?
Q. OK I don't mean to sound creepy or pervie, but what does it mean when my economics tutor at uni doesn't wear her bra when I was alone with her? Does she like me? Because during class in the morning I noticed her bra straps but later in the afternoon ...
A. 21 March 2016: Don't get any ideas. It's not about you.... (read in full...)
Despite his reassurances, there’s something telling me not to trust him. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months and in the first month we started dating, I found out that he was messaging other girls on Facebook wanting to hang out with them. I just found out recently and when I called him out on it, he ...
A. 16 March 2016: I didn't even read beyond "He says he texted other girls because he didn't trust me". It's one of the lamest excuses I have heard.
Dump that guy right away.... (read in full...)
Should I give up on him completely or talk to him? Or am I wasting my time?
Q. For about a month I've been talking to a guy I met through a dating app. As we got to know each other more, he said that he really liked and wanted to get to know me better and go on dates together. At first he said numerous times that he's ...
A. 16 March 2016: He'll look for you if he's interested.... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out again or should I take it as her not being interested?
Q. I have the biggest crush on my coworker. We hardly see each other or have alone time at work. When we do work together I feel a lot of tension and I get nervous around her. I think she may sense that I like her because I do stare at her a lot. We...
A. 16 March 2016: Dating coworkers is a bad idea. If things go wrong, the person is there around you all day.
Trying to hit on a coworker who is not interested is even worse.
I think you should not do this. Besides, don't stare - that freaks people out.... (read in full...)
Why do some people like my boyfriend feel the need to embellish the truth or just outright lie?
Q. Have been with my boyfriend six years, all is very good except one thing, his bad habit of telling silly lies. He knows how much I detest lying yet still keeps doing it, he doesn't lie about anything important so I don't get it, what is the point! I ...
A. 14 March 2016: They are liars.... (read in full...)
Ex partner is a born again Christian now and I am scared of our daughters upbringing
Q. Hello everyone, Can anyone please give me some advice on how to deal with bringing up my 2 year old daughter with my ex partner who is now an evangelist born again Christian. Before we split up I was with him for years and he hated all forms...
A. 14 March 2016: This is going to be very difficult.
He's always been very religious, only he took a break from it and that was when he met you. Now he's paying for his past sins. He will think he has to make up for all the bad stuff and will zealously work for... (read in full...)
Love or Money? Which relationship would I be more happy in?
Q. I'm torn apart between 2 ridiculous factors: Love and money. At the same time, I'm torn between two guys that I'm currently dating in my life since the end of last year. (Not in an official relationship with any of them) They are both really...
A. 14 March 2016: I say none, because you don't love any of these guys. I would make them and yourself a favor and would not get involved with any of the two.... (read in full...)
He's not hit me. But could the other things he does be called abuse? what should I do?
Q. To be blunt and simple, when my year long boyfriend and i argue, he pushes me around. He'll grab me and squeeze my face, throw me down, he'll push me in front of almost anyone.. All throughout the year, he's never hit me though. He will punch...
A. 14 March 2016: He will lose it at some point. Leave this man.... (read in full...)
Are we actually together or just exclusive FWB?
Q. A few months ago I started a friends with benefits relationship with someone at uni, it went on for four months and we saw each other regularly. Eventually I started developing feelings and i thought it was only fair to tell him. He actually ...
A. 14 March 2016: He means that he doesn't want YOU to sleep with anyone else, but he will sleep around if he can.
If he had left things at "I will try not to sleep with anyone else", then you'd eventually think that there was no reason why YOU would be exclusiv... (read in full...)
Can I learn to be a sexual 'sub'? The man I love is ending our relationship because he doesn't think so!
Q. My boyfriend just ended our relationship and I am devastated. He really was my best friend and in my whole life I have never met anyone on my wavelength like that. The reason, he said, he ended it is that he is into bdsm in a big way and is ...
A. 14 March 2016: He found someone else.... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend, so what does he want from me?
Q. Hello everyone. A little back story, my boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 months now. The break up was a lot harder on me than him because he is the one who broke up with me, and told me he didn't feel the same about me anymore. It was ...
A. 14 March 2016: He wants sex. Run away from him. He will use you and dump you.... (read in full...)
He's my boss and ten years older. Should I end the relationship?
Q. Basically, I am 19 and in university I work part time and for a while I really hated my boss, I met him on a night out one night and seen a side of him that I didn't see in work (a side I liked). At first I thought I was just having a crush bu...
A. 14 March 2016: Love in the workplace is usually a very bad idea. I fully agree with Sageoldguy1465. YOU will get hurt.... (read in full...)
Can a married man fall in love with another woman, yet never leave his wife?
Q. Can a married man fall in love with another woman he has been with for 2-3 years but never leave his wife?...
A. 7 June 2015: Yes.... (read in full...)
Could we be together again? Does she really want to just stay friends after all that's happened?
Q. Hello Everyone I'm coming to you for some help on if there's any hope for me and the girl I'm in love with. To try and make a long story short about a year ago I was engaged and that girl ended up leaving me, I bottled those emotions up which ...
A. 7 May 2015: I think most people wouldn't give you the time of day after breaking up three times with the poor girl. No one could be sure you wouldn't come up with another "shinier object" to break up. So it's easy to understand she wants to stay "friends".
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My bf wants me to come out but I feel that I can't!
Q. So I'll try to make this post as short as possible. I'm 31 years old gay guy ! I live a very conservative city , I work as an academic staff in a University. I'm in love with a young 23 years guy We have a very strong relationship (8 months )...
A. 7 May 2015: I'm not gay, but it's easy to understand that telling the world you are gay is indeed a big thing to do. If you don't feel ready, then you aren't. One would expect your boyfriend to have no problem understanding that.... (read in full...)
Why hasn't she reciprocated and told me she loves me too?
Q. I told my GF I loved her two months ago and she hasnt reciprocated. Weve been together since dec 2014. She has not gotten distant only closer to me. I havent asked her why as im not a soft wuss im just wondering if she needs more consistent action ...
A. 7 May 2015: Maybe she doesn't love you?... (read in full...)
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