Has anyone here cut ties with their own parent? Can I cut ties?
Q. Has anyone here cut ties with their own parent? This is going to come off terribly rude but I don't know how else to put it. My mother is a drug addict who also has mental issues, and treats me bad. After having a big argument last night over...
A. 22 May 2016: Yes for your own emotional health and well-being, I do think you have to cut ties. Your mother has serious issues and is toxic. She needs some counselling and help for her issues. There are amazing people, out there with whom you can experience a ... (read in full...)
What causes my GF to go from hot to cold towards me? Could it be depression or a mental health issue?
Q. I'm a gay female. I have a dilemma I need some advice about. I have been sleeping with a good friend of mine for about six months now. The problem is she blows very hot and cold on me regularly, and I don't know how to deal with it. For a mon...
A. 22 May 2016: ,
Depression is indeed, a cause of relationship breakdowns. A person suffering through this has periods of time, where they experience distorted negative perceptions of their life and their future. So it is very possible that your friend's acti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is punishing me for his ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I've had this boyfriend for about 8 months, in general we have a very steady relationship, but he has trust issues. His ex girl friend hurt him and i feel as if he punishes me for it sometimes, i told him that i made plans with two of my good ...
A. 18 May 2016: Yes, your boyfriend does have 'trust' issues. These type of problems come up in relationships when one person is extremely insecure. And this is what he is...insecure. Why? Well, as you stated he hasn't gotten over the 'hurt' caused by his ex. ... (read in full...)
My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel.
Q. My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel. I don't know if I am being too sensitive or if I should stand-up for myself more. I don't want to get a divorce as I do love my wife, but there are times that I just ha...
A. 18 May 2016: Gosh, sounds like a tough spot here for you. You love this lady but her 'lashing out' is bad. Some individuals need to seek power and control over others. And sadly, it turns into emotional abuse which damages and hurts the victim (you).
Just ... (read in full...)
Did he really love me if he got another girl pregnant?
Q. i had a boyfriend for 8 years. while together he got another girl pregnant who is his classmate. did he really love me? he said it was all accident and did not love the girl. added he will just give the girl's request to get them married and later ...
A. 7 December 2012: Agreed with the other Aunts here..all good advice. Please heed that. Let's just make sure I understood this right.
You 'had' a boyfriend for 8 years, meaning you two are no longer together---but when you were together, he got another woman pr... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but I cant support a grown man my entire life!
Q. My fiance, my daughter, and I recently moved into our own place. My fiance hasnt held a job since last spring and that was for my dad. He was never brought up with good work ethic and was abused his whole life. He is sweet and caring but him being ...
A. 7 December 2012: You're being extremely responsible to think through this now before you get married. Good for you!! In any relationship, both people have to give 100% to making it work. Partners have to agree on what they're working towards. Financial support and ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: Superb advice from the Aunts below. Wow! I will reiterate and ear with me because I am going to be straight-up with you. You ask..."what do I do?" You need walk away. And as "aunt honesty states...Do NOT talk to his wife. You will cause so much ... (read in full...)
Can being friends with benefits bring us back together? Or is it wishful thinking?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up several months ago after her mother was ill and passed away. At first I was there for her 1000% and we agreed to remain friends. After all she's my best friend. We were together for 6 years by the way. She told me a ...
A. 18 May 2012: I have to be honest here and you must realize this: Her relationship with you is just a friendship, now..ther appear to be no intimacy or emotional ties, on her part. You need to detach yourself from this girl and be willing to give up your ... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 18 May 2012: All the below, is good, sensible advice you have recieved. I think you should take your worries here and turn it around into a positive. She cannot change her past, she was a teenager then and don't forget...she also had a long term relationship for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are on a break. Looking for advice on how to handle it.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and everything has been going really well until recently. Earlier this week she sent me a text saying that she had been thinking and that she wanted to talk. (Bad News Obviously) Well....
A. 10 February 2012: I think the young woman has made it clear, that she doesn’t want to be involved anymore. And I am so sorry. If she isn't willing then you need to look after yourself.
For her say, that the main reason for this break is that "she couldn't be a goo... (read in full...)
Should I read into his answer?
Q. My bf asked me the oh so popular question "Who would you save in a burning fire?" He told me to choose one of my three siblings. I had a very hard time and kept telling him I'd either save them all or die togpther with them because I wouldn't be ...
A. 18 August 2011: I agree with Abella's assessment. Your boyfriend has a son, so I must assume he's around the same age as you are? This is one of those silly 'test' questions that one expects much younger people (eg: adolescents) to ask each other, in history ... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with this guy and I want my mother to accept it!
Q. Hi, I am 21 years old guy, just came out yesterday to my mother that I am bisexual and she didn`t over reacted but the thing is, she did not convinced that I am actually capable to love also guys and enjoy sexual intercourse. She thinks that thi...
A. 18 August 2011: You are 21 years old...an adult. Carry on with your life..date whomever you want. But...do not push this issue on your Mother. She loves you very much and it sounds like she has 'accepted' your bisexuality. However, she still has hopes that this ... (read in full...)
How do I fix this?
Q. My boyfriends family dont have that much money (well they didnt before but do now) and my family have been always been comfortable lets say. I am use to giving and receiving big gifts at birthdays. My boyfriend has a very good job and big savings so ...
A. 18 August 2011: Great advice from below. Just adding my 2 cents here. I would say your boyfriend over-reacted and certainly not the reaction you expected..I am sure. Going by the age you have stated..it's not like you are both young 'kids' here. He had the choice ... (read in full...)
Is there a nice way to tell a guy that I'm not interested in dating anymore?
Q. I have been sort of dating this guy for a bit over a month, I'm physically attracted to him but that's it. I've been away for Xmas break. He texts me every day. He seems to really like me but I don't feel the same way. Is there an easy way to let ...
A. 19 July 2011: Dating is a selection process...a way of finding the one that suits 'you'. So you have to do what makes you happy. Ending a relationship is part of the dating game but it is never easy. Men like to hear the news in a upfront, honest way. My s... (read in full...)
He pretended to be young, when really he is a 44 year old man! What should I do?
Q. hi ... i'm a girl 18 ... i met some guy on on internet on a 3D game ..he told me his name is Paul and he is 18 ... i loved him ...he shown me some pic for young boy pretending its him.. after being his gf ... in some night he told me he is Ahmed ...
A. 15 July 2011: I think the rationale of calling him a predator was because by the information you gave us Aunts, this fellow had all the clear markings of one. I would go as far as calling him a cyberpath: Check this link:
http:... (read in full...)
He pretended to be young, when really he is a 44 year old man! What should I do?
Q. hi ... i'm a girl 18 ... i met some guy on on internet on a 3D game ..he told me his name is Paul and he is 18 ... i loved him ...he shown me some pic for young boy pretending its him.. after being his gf ... in some night he told me he is Ahmed ...
A. 15 July 2011: Seems like you have been well advised by the below Aunts! Great comments. Just had to add my two cents. This whole scenario you are experiencing is disturbing. Sexual predators pretend to love notoriously. This is how they operate. He used ... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 15 July 2011: You have recieved wonderful advice from all the Aunts here. Now read the below comments over, and please take their well-thought out advice to heart and good luck, in all your future dating endeavors!
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I hate myself for being so brutal to her in the past...how can I move on?
Q. I was in a relationship with a girl for like six years and in June 2009 , all of sudden I dumped her saying that she was hell of a talkative and belong to lower class than my family. She was begging and doing all sort of desperate things not let me ...
A. 14 July 2011: Well, plainly she loves you because she is with you..right? But, it appears she has not forgiven you or is experiencing difficulty fully 'trusting' you. You should get out there and make a good life with her, rebuild the trust through loving ... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: Your body and who you share it with, is a huge decision. I am going to tell you to never allow a boy to pressure you into having sex, when you are not ready. The physical and emotional consequences are devastating. Unwanted pregnancies, stds are 2 ... (read in full...)
B/f just vanishes on me and then has reasons, but I hate it!
Q. hey.. i don't know if its a really big problem but its all i think about all day, so here goes. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and 5 months now. and right now i'm only 19. i have been with the same guy since i started dating. i really ...
A. 14 July 2011: Clearly this is a huge problem, if you think about it all day. Stop fighting with him and stressing yourself out. Think rationally and reassess this relationship and really define if it's making you happy, anymore. We can't tell you what he's ... (read in full...)
Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating?
Q. Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating. This is past dirty messages and includes videos of them selves being passed back and forth. I have seen for myself. He says I'm overacting since he's not physically cheating. i ...
A. 14 July 2011: You are not over-reacting. Some couples do this with each other's consent. (Each to their own) But, if he engaged in these actions knowing the hurt it caused you, or he hid these cybersex behaviours from you, then he knew his actions, was a 'slap ... (read in full...)
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