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I rarely feel satisfied after sex with husband

Q.   My question, my husband and l have sex but he never really releases inside of me. That to me is a real turn off and makes me feel very unwanted, and somehow full of emptyness and feeling pretty much down. On the other hand once in a blue moon when ...

A.   27 March 2010: Have you spoken to your husband about this? Have you asked him why he does not like to "release" inside of you? I can understand how this can make you feel unwanted, as there is an emotional closeness involved here, when a partner who loves you will ... (read in full...)

My wife wants to have sex with a black man

Q.   I am an average size guy and my wife is large down below after having our child and since I have noticed that she has become frustrated as I am not satisfying her, We have toys and have fun but she has asked if she could sleep with a black man to t...

A.   27 March 2010: Agree with "marriedlady" - either this isn't a real post or you two do not have any information and no knowledge of where to find any. Has she not heard of pelvic floor exercises? If not, then being satisfied in this area is going to be the leas... (read in full...)

I've been offered to appear in an adult film. Any advice as to what goes on behind the scenes?

Q.   I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion, I have recently been offered ...

A.   27 March 2010: When you say "adult film" what do you mean? Is is Hardcore or soft porn? Have you done research on the makers/producers? Do you understand all the legalities involved when you sign your name on that dotted line? Have you watched these films onli... (read in full...)

My fiance wants to end our relationship, should I hang in there?

Q.   my fiance has just been disnosed with depression and now he says he wants to finish,but cant give me a reason,should i just except it or hang in there? ...

A.   27 March 2010: Hi, Would love to speak to you some more as I have knowledge of this subject - but you've not stated much info in your post. So, ok, going on what you've said Alone... What would be your response if your Fiance had just been told he'd got C... (read in full...)

I found my dream girl, but I can't tell her my feelings. Help!

Q.   Dear Friends, it's the first time i really feel i need help !, till now i was in control of my life. i thought i would not fall in love simply because this special girl in my dreams doesn't exist and i decided to lead a single life . however ...

A.   27 March 2010: How well do you know her? Is she a friend already, or just someone you like but don't know very well? Have you tried writing down all your feelings, how you feel about her, how you feel about your life as it is right now, what is good and not good... (read in full...)

Should I leave him and start my life over again?

Q.   Please help. I am so confused. I don't know what to do now. I date with this guy for 2 years now. He is 8 years older then me and he said I am his first girlfriend. He said he use to date before but nobody take him serious. He is kind of plain (ugly ...

A.   28 September 2009: This is very sad, I am sorry to read that you are going through this. Have you tried to talk to him about this without fighting and arguing? Is there a language barrier? ie: do you both speak English to each other but he is better at it? I don't th... (read in full...)

Did I just get a version of the "let's just be friends" talk?

Q.   I was going through a very rough patch in my marriage. my wife suddenly wanted a divorce and while I resisted it at first, I eventually decided it was probably worth going through with. during this time I spent a lot of time talking to a fem...

A.   30 August 2008: Hi, I really feel for you, and not surprised you feel confused! I think it may be a good idea to give her her space as if she feels pushed she may go in completely the opposite direction, and you may end up losing her friendship altogeth... (read in full...)

Have I had an ongoing infection? And what was that odour?

Q.   when i was 16 i had a very strong fishy vaginal odour that lasted just one day. im now 23. my discharge has always smelt 'normal' but some days it would smell quite strong. ive been with my new partner for 7 months and have noticed it smells quite ...

A.   30 August 2008: Hi, Please don't try to self diagnose! Like the others said, it could be an infection or it could be nothing, but you need a professional to answer your question! The GP or nurse at your surgery, or if that's too embarassing, go into the sexual ... (read in full...)

This boy likes me, but I don't! How can I turn him down gently?

Q.   Im getting so upset lately because im so stressed about two boys. I have meet up with Danny about 4 times, we have never kissed or anything but he told me he likes me on a text and i told him i dont know how i feel yet. But the way we talk you woul...

A.   29 August 2008: Hi, You can only go with your gut instinct, that's all you can do. You don't feel the "spark" with Danny? You don't "fancy" him, or whatever the word or phrase is, and you can't see him being more than a friend? But then if you compare this to ... (read in full...)

I feel he has taken her away from us! What can I do?

Q.   i know this isnt really a relationship problem, but it kinda is.. Ever since my father passed away in feb of 2006 me and my mum have become very close, i was 13 and had no brothers or sisters but my mum was 34 and pregnant. i think because my dad w...

A.   29 August 2008: Hi, I am sorry to hear you are having such a rubbish time of it :o( You seem to me though to be very mature and understanding, and you can see both sides of this. I think your mother is very fortunate in that you are as understanding as you are, ... (read in full...)

He's alcoholic, won't help around the house and demands sex all the time. What can I do to improve the situation?

Q.   My husband and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and boy do we have drama. He's alcoholic and he recently relapsed, he's isn't as bad as he was before he started going to AA but it still bugs me because I've had past relationships with people who ...

A.   8 January 2008: Hi, Was your husband clean and sober when you met him? Or did he get into recovery since you have known him? The disease off addiction/alcoholism is not so much the act of drinking or taking drugs, it is the mindset and behaviour undernea... (read in full...)

How do you get over an abusive relationship when you're being framed as the crazy person?

Q.   Recently my boyfriend broke up with me. This relationship has lasted over a year. It was at first the greatest thing I had, but became abusive - I seemed to be blind and held onto it because I remembered his kind self at the beginning and hoped he ...

A.   31 December 2007: Hi, I am really sorry to read this, for one reason being I know how it feels to be treated like this, and I know how painful it is to go through. I too was in a psychologically abusive relationship, and I ending up turning to drink to escape, ... (read in full...)

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