I want to treat my boyfriend like gold but I treat him badly!
Q. I'm super stressed by study, work and my family. I take it out on my boyfriend by being snappy, paranoid and unpleasant when really I adore him and want to treat him like gold. How can I stop this?...
A. 7 March 2011: Sounds like this is one of those cases where you need to take care of yourself before you can take proper care of the people you love. (And by "take proper care of" I mean treating your boyfriend with respect and kindness, not doing his laundry or ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask her out?
Q. I met this girl last wednesday through a society and got to chatting with her on wednesday and thursday. I felt like we had a pretty fun time coss i was making her and her friends laugh alot (like I usually do). I think id say i was quite friendly ...
A. 7 March 2011: In my opinion there's absolutely nothing wrong with asking out a girl after meeting her in a group once or twice and getting along really well. There's no harm in asking for her number the second time you meet. Actually the first time could have ... (read in full...)
Does the size of a girl's "pearl in her flower" matter to men?
Q. Ok guys, please be honest! Does the size of girl's "pearl in her flower" matter to you? I didn’t think mine was big till my boyfriend said, “wow your "pearl" gets so big when you’re turned on.” He makes jokes about it. Now I’m self conscious about ...
A. 31 January 2011: My guess is your boyfriend was being thoughtless but is not grossed out. Both women and men are very sensitive about their private parts and worry about being normal. I think he didn't consider this when he commented on it and his jokes are ... (read in full...)
I don't like the person my boyfriend has become!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 18 months now, im 27 and he is 33, we both divorced, we met at the beach and we had a lot of fun at the beginning, he use to take me on dates, dining out all around town and I would sleep at his house every single ...
A. 31 January 2011: I was in a VERY similar situation and I highly suggest getting out of this relationship. It was literally the best thing I ever did for myself. For a long time I couldn't imagine breaking up with my boyfriend--I kept hoping he would change, I felt ... (read in full...)
I want to please my boyfriend, but I don't like the taste of penis and cum! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we have a sexually active relationship. It's all good apart from one bit... he really likes head, but the problem is I really don't like the taste of penis and cum, and he keeps making R...
A. 31 January 2011: What don't you like about his penis and ejaculate? Does he have poor hygiene? Do you go down on him when he's sweaty from working out or does he not shower frequently enough? If it's something simple like this, don't give up! Just suggest in a ... (read in full...)
I don't want girls to run away because my pubic hair is all over the place?
Q. ok im quite embarrassed abart this but my pubic hair is really long around my genitals and on my bottom. every time i look down there or see my bottom in a mirror it looks very messy and horrible to look at. i don't want to get rid of it all i ...
A. 31 January 2011: Have you tried trimming it with a small-ish scissors? (Not like a nail scissors, but a safety scissors with plastic handles like kids use in art class.) If your hair is super long then even trimming will be a big improvement and a good first step ... (read in full...)
How can I stop hating my body? How can I ignore the media and men's opinion?
Q. I hate my body, I'm 22 and I'm done growing. I don't look like the typical woman men in my country like, which is busty (even if fake) slim waist, big round butt (no cellulite though) and kind of medium sized thighs. I'm almost all that except I ...
A. 5 January 2011: The thing is, I think you're not giving men enough credit. Part of what you wrote here is complaining about your body, but honestly most of what you wrote is complaining about men's opinion of women's bodies. I'm not saying that your complaints ... (read in full...)
Having trouble staying interested in straight sex with my wife
Q. I have been faithful to my wife for the better part of two decades. I love her very much. Physically, however, I find myself having grown very bored with "regular" sex over the last few years. When we have sex, I have to fantacise to get into it. ...
A. 27 August 2010: I think it's clear you are frustrated and feeling stuck, but I advise you to be patient and subtle with your wife. I think it is likely that you could get your wife interested in trying some new things sexually, BUT they have to be subtle at first, ... (read in full...)
My ex has really messed me up, and used me for sex, how can I move on?
Q. I am feeling really distraught at the moment. I broke up with my ex a year ago now, and I still can't get over him. I even went to see a psychiatrist for 4 months after the break up because I was a complete mess. I feel like I still get upset about ...
A. 27 August 2010: Oh, wow. That is such a horrible experience he put you through, and it must be frustrating to still be stuck thinking about him. However, from all that I've read it's normal for people who've been abused (yes, he abused you) to feel an attachment ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I like my boyfriend
Q. I'm not sure if I like my boyfriend I have been with him for almost 3 months and we still haven't gone out on a date.He doesn't tell me that I'm pretty or anything.He doesn't act like a boyfriend should. I'm not going to lie I have hung out with ...
A. 27 August 2010: Why are you with this guy at all? It doesn't sound like you're having a very enjoyable dating relationship with him and three months into it you're already asking him to change. That's NOT a good sign, if you are feeling the need to ask him to ... (read in full...)
Are we rushing things?
Q. I startd seening my boyfrnd early january this year what happend ystday we took a step by trying 2 have sex but i didnt happend a we rushing things or what!we both love each other and the guy spoils me and sametimes i turn 2 feel unhappy!plz help ...
A. 27 August 2010: It's only rushing things if 1) you don't feel ready, if you feel more scared, worried, or grossed out to have sex than you feel excited, attracted, and nervous; 2) if you are having sex because you believe you have to, whether because he's putting ... (read in full...)
How do you make up after a fight when you still think the other person is wrong?
Q. I'm stuck in a horrible horrible place. I am on the verge of tears -- again, just having to right this out. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months TODAY! Should be exciting.. but it's not, because we've been in a not so good place for a couple ...
A. 27 August 2010: What I've read in your message is two different thoughts: "I know I need to change, and I don't know how" and "How do you make-up after a fight, if you both think the other ones wrong and your always right?"
From that, it sounds like you BOTH nee... (read in full...)
Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?
Q. Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...
A. 22 August 2010: I'm not a guy, so I don't know firsthand, but my theory is that guys spend so much of their lives feeling really super horny but girls don't often talk about being horny, so SEEING evidence of a girl's horniness is really exciting. It must be cool ... (read in full...)
Why is he distant now that I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend treats me like a princess and we get along very good but ever since I've been pregnant he spends every spare minute out in the garage distant from me. He is 38 and I am 36 this is both our 1st child and both wanted this child. I am just ...
A. 22 August 2010: It may be that as much as he wanted this baby, he's scared about it arriving and changing his life forever. (Which would show that he's dedicated to being a good father, which is a positive!) So maybe he's trying to get in as much "fun" as possible ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel anything during sex?
Q. Why don't I feel anything during sex? This past time was only my 2nd time. And I don't feel anything, afterwards the first time I felt a little sore. When he fingers me I do feel that. It's really bothering me that there is like no real ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hmm, maybe he's not fully hard? Sometimes it's hard to feel when the guy isn't hard enough. Other than that, I dunno, sorry I can't help....... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel anything during sex?
Q. Why don't I feel anything during sex? This past time was only my 2nd time. And I don't feel anything, afterwards the first time I felt a little sore. When he fingers me I do feel that. It's really bothering me that there is like no real ...
A. 21 August 2010: I'm guessing it's because when your guy fingers you, he's touching your clitoris. When you're having sex, his penis is inside you and he's not touching your clitoris. About 70% of women are only able to get so much pleasure that they climax from ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I have much of a future!
Q. Im only 13, but I dont see much of a future for myself. I have never had any "real" friends [ ones that I can really talk to about serious things ]. I dont hang out or talk to anyone at all. At school most people talk about me behind my back saying ...
A. 21 August 2010: Oh, wow. You sound soooo much like me when I was your age: being the weird and ugly girl, ignored by my classmates, feeling like everyone else's life is going great while I'm just a spectator. It's a hard way to live. Looking back, I have said ... (read in full...)
Should I visit a prostitute to lose my virginity?
Q. I'm a male virgin. I've never kissed a girl, I've never been on a date and I've never had a girlfriend. I've been told by numerous women that I'm not handsome or as some put it, ugly, even though I thought I was average looking. Guess I can appr...
A. 21 August 2010: Actually, a lot of women I've talked to enjoyed the idea of taking a man's virginity. A friend of mine bragged about how she'd had two boyfriends and took the virginity of both. It seems that nerdy girls are more likely to feel this way, so if you ... (read in full...)
I've worked hard to change to get him back, how do I show him things will be different?
Q. ive been with my ex fiance for 4 years, engaged for 3 and living together for 18 months. we were really happy before we moved in but after things went wrong. i started treating him badly unintentionally. i drifted from my friends and felt very down ...
A. 20 August 2010: It sounds like you've taken some really important steps to fixing your mistakes and your lonely lifestyle, which is an excellent choice! Bravo! I think you've made an excellent start and you should continue no matter what.
That said, I think ... (read in full...)
Do I deserve her? How do I come to terms with myself?
Q. [OP original title] i have been dating this girl for 10 months. i liked her for along time and i went for it,i still think its a miracle that im with her. for he first nine months of our relationship i was really happy when i was with her, she so b...
A. 20 August 2010: I think the issue is definitely with you, not about her and your relationship with her (you probably knew that, but I thought I'd state it right off the bat). It sounds like you have formed this really negative self-image and you are clinging to it ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I want to tell her how I feel.. just one last time
Q. Hey people.Ive posted a few quetions on this and yes ive used allot of peoples advice(so helpfull).I started posting quetions to help me get over my ex.I was in a really dark place and somedays i still am(today).The girl was amazing looking and ...
A. 19 August 2010: It sounds like this relationship you have with her is really stuck in a cycle. The way you described it as "I miss my ex like mad and she used to feck me off then contact me again,then feck me off,then contact me again,now that has stopped" really ... (read in full...)
She's my sweet angel and not a slave!
Q. Hey yall, My GF is like my Sweet little Angel, but the problem with her is that she accepts to anything and everything that I say... like If I wanna have sex midnight she is OKAY with it... If I need a blowjob she is OKAY wi...
A. 18 August 2010: It can be frustrating when a person won't answer your direct questions, but maybe she honestly doesn't know what she'd like. Maybe she hasn't had enough experience to know what she likes and doesn't like. So use YOUR brain and shower her with ... (read in full...)
My relationship is falling apart what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. We both tell eachother all the time how we have never loved anyone more than we love eachother. We talk about marriage and having kids one day. We both have been through horrible ...
A. 18 August 2010: It sounds like you both are incredibly stressed out for legitimate reasons but you're both having trouble keeping that separate from your relationship with each other. I think maybe you both need to verbally acknowledge, out loud, that you are ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my long distance relationship strong
Q. Im so worried! My and my boyfriend have been dating for about four months now, hes 25 and im 19. We had been dating about a month and i moved an hour away to go to college. We see each other almost every weekend when either i can come down or he can ...
A. 18 August 2010: If you guys can see each other once a week, I don't know hwy this relationship can't work. Technically it's long-distance, you say, but you're able to bridge the gap pretty well. Honestly a lot of couples who don't classify their relationship as ... (read in full...)
Why is she going out so much alone after 20 years of marriage?
Q. me and my wife have been married for twenty years now . until recently she never went out without me . now she out at least once aweek . i trust her and i know she would never be unfaithful. but i can help feeling very hurt by it.we argue so much ...
A. 18 August 2010: This sounds like a very hurtful and confusing situation for you, but I don't know if it has to be. I mean, I don't know the nature of her outings (other than the fact that you don't think she's being unfaithful but you feel hurt anyway). Can you ... (read in full...)
How do I come out of my shell?
Q. So im a really shy person. I party and chill with my older brothers friends, ive known them for 4 years and they lovee me, but i just cant seem to stop being shy around them, and it holds me back from becoming close friends with them, how can i come ...
A. 18 August 2010: I have two suggestions for you on how to overcome shyness and self-consciousness (which I would say is often the real problem shy people are experiencing--they feel self conscious). No wait, actually 3! 1) Fake it till you make it. This is wha... (read in full...)
Please help I want to be with her
Q. Ok there is a girl that I really really like I've only known her for 6 months but it feels like I've known her for years I have told her that I like her but she never tells me how she feels towards me this has me unsettled I don't think it's for me ...
A. 18 August 2010: So, how have you been telling her you like her? Have you been hanging out and just blurted out, "I really like you!"? Things like that? Because I think HOW you tell a girl you like her is important. Girls tend to be very attuned to langu... (read in full...)
How can I build up my confidence around women?
Q. Hi how can I build confidence to ask a girl out. A couple of years ago my mum died and I lost contact with alot of people got heavy on weed and I aint had a girlfriend now I dont no how to go about it...
A. 17 August 2010: I wholeheartedly agree with Cerberus. Focus on building yourself into the person you want to be, a person you really like, and don't worry about women for the time being. Really enjoy improving yourself and by the time you're at a good place with ... (read in full...)
Do I deserve better?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Our 5 year anniversary meant nothing to him. He told me that. He never even remembered even though he knew it was a big deal to me. I'm going back to Uni soon and he's never ...
A. 17 August 2010: Straight off the bat I would say that no one deserves to be treated the way he treats you. It sounds like he guilts you and cannot be happy for your success, AND he is also resentful of you AND expects you to do more than your fair share of the ... (read in full...)
Should I take a pregnancy test?
Q. Hello everyone I need help. I had Unprotected sex on the 4th of this month and used the pull out method I'm not sure if any semen got inside of me but about a week later I started having really bad nausea mostly during the night time and my acid ...
A. 17 August 2010: You can check the instructions on the pregnancy test box at the store, but I'm pretty sure even the best pregnancy test can't give you reliable results until 5 days before you expect to miss your period. (So if you usually get your period around ... (read in full...)
Does it mean you don't love her?
Q. If you don't stand up for your girlfriend and defended her to your family members and adult children etc. dose it mean that you don't love her. ...
A. 17 August 2010: I think it's never so clear cut as "he does love her if he stands up for her" or "he doesn't love her because he doesn't stand up for her."
I think it's a complex interplay between a man's temperament, his confidence, his feelings of loyalty ... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to pass the time during school holidays???
Q. hey everyone! My dilemma isn't necessarily about a relationship, but i'm really confused. My summer has been very, very long... it's been 106 days since i got out of school, and i've been bored. My mom and dad are a little lazy; they think that ...
A. 17 August 2010: Sports are definitely a good way to pass the time, but it's understandable you don't want to do them during such hot weather. The simplest answer is a question: what else interests you besides sports? Learning something new is always an excellent ... (read in full...)
Is it a one night stand or rape?
Q. I've been wondering for a long time whether what I experienced was just a one night stand or rape. A while ago I went to visit a friend of mine at school. We went out, and I drank way too much. I remember I was flirting with this friend of hers most ...
A. 17 August 2010: I think the legal definition of rape varies from state to state and country to country (and there are probably definitions for sexual assault and other terms like that), so if you're curious about what happened to you legally, you could probably do ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? My boyfriend is boring and this other guy isn't.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend for 4 months now. I have been talking to this other guy who is 18. I like the boy who is 18 but I also like my boyfriend. My problem is my boyfriend is very committed more than I am. The 18 year old is very funny an...
A. 17 August 2010: First of all, I think it is important not to make life decisions based on whether they will break someone else's heart or not. It may sound harsh, but you really need to do what is best for you. Please don't stay in a relationship in order to be ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I don't have a job or a car
Q. i have recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months, we were getting along so great untill this week. she seemed really distant from me and really moody in everything i did, then she broke it off with 2 days ago, saying that she cant do this ...
A. 17 August 2010: It sounds like you are really on track with her life and I'm unclear on why she became distant and moody about your current lack of a job and car. Does she feel inconvenienced by your unstructured and vehicle-less lifestyle or is she looking ahead ... (read in full...)
Does it offend you when guys do this?
Q. Im a 17 year old girl in college. When i usto go to school iv'e had a few guys/friends who were attracted to me come up to me and touch my bottom and private areas. I HATE IT! it really offends me. This has happend to some of my friends aswell but ...
A. 17 August 2010: It's definitely inappropriate and unacceptable for guys to treat you this way (or for girls to treat guys this way). I know it is hard to have presence of mind in the very moment it's happening, so try to prepare yourself beforehand when you're ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill and I haven't had my period for 8 months. Is this normal?
Q. I've been on a combination contraceptive pill for about 2 years now and my periods stopped 8 months ago. I am sexually active and I tested a number of times and I know I'm not pregnant. I'm not complaining , periods are a pain in the ass, but is ...
A. 17 August 2010: It's definitely not normal to miss so many periods in a row. It's good and responsible of you that you've tested to make sure you're not pregnant, but there are a number of other factors that could be causing the lack of periods. My first guess ... (read in full...)
Are these kisses real???
Q. Okay, so this is kind of a weird question, but I'm really interested to know; Do the kisses you read about in books and watch in films actually exist? I don't know if its because I've never been in love with someone, but every kiss I've had with a ...
A. 17 August 2010: I definitely agree with YouWish. You can definitely experience the electrifying, never-want-it-to-stop, wobbly-knee kisses if you truly know and love the person you're kissing. Your mind and body work together in a powerful way. When you find a ... (read in full...)
Intimacy gone after only a year
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 1 year now. He's 3 years older than i am, and we are in the 20's. I've been told that in the beginning of the relationship, sex is always great. Well i've read somewhere. But lately i feel that i'm ...
A. 17 August 2010: First of all, DO NOT do what I did when I was in this situation in my previous relationship! Namely, do not complain to him, "It's been so long!" and "I miss sex with you!" At first I thought it was okay to say that kind of thing, and then when he ... (read in full...)
Testicular trauma
Q. I don't like sex as much as I want to because I have sustained testicular trauma in early adolescence. I don't like to think about it, even if its a constant reality that even affects my physical appearance to the world. In what ways to you thin...
A. 12 August 2010: I don't really understand your question "In what ways to you think that this impairs my life to a level that is significant?"
Are you asking about how it affects you on a biological level? I feel like this is a biology quiz.
I'm intereste... (read in full...)
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