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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 9 June 2015: If you are the one being told off by doctors and your family, had it occurred to you that the problem lies with you and the way you handle conflict? ... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 23 January 2015: I'm still waiting for the question you want answered.
Please answer the other aunts' questions. Do you have a disability that prevents you from doing so?... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 21 January 2015: Meccamega, you've stated your position and feelings about the situation several times now. Many aunts have offered suggestions and ways to deal with it. You restate your position without any sign that you've read their advice. It's like the aunts' ... (read in full...)
I feel like my father's verbal punching bag. So how can I get through this? Still saving to leave home.
Q. I'm 20 and I'm stuck in a situation where I've been emotionally abused by my dad for a few years now, even though it's not that he wants me out of the house, he just uses me as a verbal punching bag every other day. It just comes naturally to him...
A. 14 January 2015: I googled and found an researcher who suggests ways to cope with verbal abuse: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/somatic-psychology/201205/escape-emotionally-and-verbally-abusive-father
The author's name referenced in the article is Patricia Evan... (read in full...)
Have the tingling of I new outbreak. Could I have infected him due to oral sex we had last night?
Q. Ok I woke up this morning with the familiar tingling pulse of a cold sore. I've always gotten cold sores but much less frequently as an adult. My boyfriend has never ever had one. Any way my predicament is that I performed oral sex on my boyfri...
A. 14 January 2015: Can oral sex transmit herpes? Yes. http://consults.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/05/28/can-oral-sex-spread-herpes/
Probably best to talk to your doctor: http://www.patient.co.uk/doctor/herpes-simplex-oral
http:... (read in full...)
I know he isn't treating me the best right how, but I need some input to understand whether I should give up or give it another chance.
Q. I have recently been dating this guy from work. I know he isn't treating me the best right how, but I need some input to understand whether I should give up or give it another chance. Here are the details: -We were friends for a year befor...
A. 13 January 2015: Based on the way he's been behaving? I'd let him go back into the dating pool.
Don't sit around waiting for him.
You know this isn't the way a guy who wanted to be with you would treat you.
Move on and under no circumstances apologize to him or an... (read in full...)
Should I send him the present?
Q. Hi there, I've been seeing this guy on and off for a just over a year. I let myself fall for him, knowing he was self medicating, and things are just getting worse for him. I'm just so annoyed with myself at the moment, as recently again, we got t...
A. 13 January 2015: He didn't "wreasle his way" into your heart, you welcomed him back in.
No.
No.
No.
Practice that.
No, I don't want to see you.
No.
Our relationship is over.
No.
No. No.
No.
Return the present to the store and don't look back.
You are 41-5... (read in full...)
Nine years dating and still no marriage!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 years now, he is 42 years old and I am 27. We have been discussing the issue of marriage for quite a long time now. He was married before and has two boys from his previous marriage. One is 21 and the ...
A. 13 January 2015: You are 27, to me and anyone older than that, you are young.
Don't look back, look forward.
If you want more children you are young enough to have them.
If you want to be in a long-term committed relationship you are younng enough to have it.
I ... (read in full...)
Wife wants me to sleep with another girl?
Q. The other day my wife and me were having an argument about me being extra comfortable with other girls. I'm just friendly and never over friendly with them but she feels otherwise. During this argument she tells me that 'she would really like me to ...
A. 13 January 2015: You've been married to her for 14 years and you don't know her well enough to know if she means it or not?
You have a major problem in your marriage.
I suggest you ask her when you are not fighting if she meant it or not. The problem with thi... (read in full...)
I feel like my father's verbal punching bag. So how can I get through this? Still saving to leave home.
Q. I'm 20 and I'm stuck in a situation where I've been emotionally abused by my dad for a few years now, even though it's not that he wants me out of the house, he just uses me as a verbal punching bag every other day. It just comes naturally to him...
A. 13 January 2015: Dear OP, your followups clarify that your father has been abusive to you while being lenient toward his sons. What is his background? His culture?
He could be struggling with coping with being a foreigner in a strange land, he could be-as you'... (read in full...)
Should I be paying towards his mortgage or not?
Q. Hey all So ive been with my boyfriend over 3 years and weve finally agreed its time to move in together. We have our wedding planned for 2016 and it just feels like now is the right time. He owns his own house and i rent a flat so it makes sense f...
A. 13 January 2015: "So do i pay half of his overall bills or just half of his other bills? I'm just not sure whether i should be paying towards his mortgage or not?"
"Weve saved enough money but decided it would make sense to live together in his place for around 6 mo... (read in full...)
Are most people judgmental?
Q. I expected that people in the working world etc. would be more mature but they aren't. A lot of adults are so petty (both genders) and gossip about/say stupid things like "that client looks old" or "that co-worker is weird" or "Spanish people ...
A. 13 January 2015: Ah, dear OP, you have found that awful secret of life. That some people never grow up. They stay stuck in patterns they grooved their school years.
We all pass 'judgment' on someone. You are doing that now to your co-workers. The question is how ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and wants the relationship to move forward, but I feel like that's just asking for trouble!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for about 6 months. I really enjoy his company. He is funny and very understanding. And very passionate. But over the 6 months certain things have been bothering me and Im wondering if I should really be In ...
A. 13 January 2015: Hi Susan28 (or countryaly76???), in an answer on this question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-great-except-that-he-cant-follow-through.html you state that he is healthy, runs a couple of times a week and takes no medication.
Please clar... (read in full...)
He's great except that he can't follow through in the bedroom
Q. I've started seeing someone that I like a lot. he is a little older than me, I'm 38 and he is 47. For the most part things are going well. We communicate easily, laugh a lot together. the kissing and cuddling are great. we do have a problem ...
A. 13 January 2015: Susan28 or countryaly76 (not sure who the OP is here), in this question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-says-he-loves-me-and-wants-the.html you reveal that your lover has Hepatitis C, that he abuses pain pills and he has no money.
Please clar... (read in full...)
Nine year affair and the woman I love decides to have another child with her husband.
Q. I am a married man with 2 kids who fell in love with a married woman 9 years ago. She was in a "loveless" marriage with 1 child and I was getting bored in mine. She recently "broke" it off with me without any explanation a few months ago and would't ...
A. 13 January 2015: "Are women this manipulative and deceiving? Is her reasoning to do this rational?"
Well, as someone who has been lying to his wife for 9 years, you have some idea of what manipulation and deception entails. So perhaps, yes, some women are as mani... (read in full...)
I feel like my father's verbal punching bag. So how can I get through this? Still saving to leave home.
Q. I'm 20 and I'm stuck in a situation where I've been emotionally abused by my dad for a few years now, even though it's not that he wants me out of the house, he just uses me as a verbal punching bag every other day. It just comes naturally to him...
A. 12 January 2015: Also, please research "learned helplessness." I suspect that you may be repeating behavioral patterns that no longer serve you and you need to break free.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I feel like my father's verbal punching bag. So how can I get through this? Still saving to leave home.
Q. I'm 20 and I'm stuck in a situation where I've been emotionally abused by my dad for a few years now, even though it's not that he wants me out of the house, he just uses me as a verbal punching bag every other day. It just comes naturally to him...
A. 12 January 2015: Let's take this one step at a time.
You have 2 counselors and neither has offered help in this regard? Take it up with them ASAP.
You can't change him, so all you can change is your reaction to this.
Give us something he said tonight and let's se... (read in full...)
How can I discover the truth? Is he not interested, or is he just having time-out?
Q. Hi I just started dating someone new. Before meeting, we were in touch for 10 days quite intensively by text/ SMS. Couldn't meet up sooner as he was away. Then we met up and had a nice first date as far as I was aware (we were intimate, yes a...
A. 12 January 2015: What Honeypie said.
If he wants to date you, give him the chance to ask you out. If he doesn't, then, well, his loss. :)... (read in full...)
Went on a date with my online friend, but received mixed messages. Did I offend him?
Q. Dear all. Your views would be welcome. Thanks. I went on an online date on saturday night. I had been talking on the phone to this guy for over a week. He was polite, and interesting. Anyway, we hit it off on the date, but after about 30 minutes h...
A. 12 January 2015: He was coming on too fast and too heavy.
Don't waste one more iota of your life on worrying if you offended him. He should be worried about offending you. Joking about going back to your place once.... maybe a joke. Joking about going back to your... (read in full...)
Stay renting where I am? Or move in with him? Do I pay him rent when he's the one buying the apartment?
Q. My boyfriend plans to buy an apartment, and asked me if I would like to move in with him when he's bought one. I have suggested we rent together instead, but he's very keen on buying his own place and not rent. He can not afford a big place, so it ...
A. 12 January 2015: Don't move in with him. If he wants to buy a place then he should do so with his own financial resources. If he needs to have a roommate to cover his payment then he needs to factor that in. Just because you are dating does not make you the ... (read in full...)
What should I do when my parents say judgmental, vulgar things?
Q. The differences between me and my parents are unbearable and I find myself avoiding them. My parents are in their early 70s and I am 42. I was divorced nearly 3 years ago and have not found a new partner yet but am taking my time to meet a good ...
A. 11 January 2015: I would wonder if they may be showing signs of dementia and I would not take it personally.
I would practice the tactics of distraction or redirection and I would not engage in a battle that upsets me, as obviously at 70 years of age they are not ... (read in full...)
I'm mad at my BF for not getting in touch with me when he got back from a trip. Am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend went away to visit family out of town for four days. He turns his iPhone off anytime he is in a foreign country not to incur extra charges so we do not speak on the phone. He sent me one email to tell me he had arrived safely an...
A. 11 January 2015: I asked because you are 30-35 and as he may be in the same age bracket, he may have other family living in the house.
"I can be a bit demanding sometimes. I had an ex husband who basically worshipped the ground I walked on."
So why did you split up... (read in full...)
Follow up to previous post: How should I act when he comes home?
Q. hi all. Following my previous post where basically my bf of three months went to india- sister's wedding and his cousin's wedding. Also his parents live there. Even though he had said not to msg as his sisters will be near him etc, i found it ...
A. 11 January 2015: I second the notion of acting 'normal.' By that I mean calm and collected and not a weeping mess because he's been gone for a few weeks.
You feel hurt and broken because you are expecting far too much from a relationship of only 3 months.
Light... (read in full...)
I'm mad at my BF for not getting in touch with me when he got back from a trip. Am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend went away to visit family out of town for four days. He turns his iPhone off anytime he is in a foreign country not to incur extra charges so we do not speak on the phone. He sent me one email to tell me he had arrived safely an...
A. 11 January 2015: Who else does he live with?... (read in full...)
When I asked him if he loved me, he replied with "I'd rather not comment." Does he love me or not? How do I know?
Q. So there is this guy who I love deeply (or maybe its infatuation for a whole year). I think he has feelings for me although sometimes am not so sure. Last night while we were chatting, I told him that I loved him and he said "That ain't no secret" ...
A. 10 January 2015: Why do love this particular man? How is it that you are talking about your principles and morals? Could it be that you are moving too fast, declaring love before you really know and understand one another?
Have you been out on dates?
... (read in full...)
When I asked him if he loved me, he replied with "I'd rather not comment." Does he love me or not? How do I know?
Q. So there is this guy who I love deeply (or maybe its infatuation for a whole year). I think he has feelings for me although sometimes am not so sure. Last night while we were chatting, I told him that I loved him and he said "That ain't no secret" ...
A. 9 January 2015: By the way, are you chatting via text or other social media platform, or are you actually talking face to face?
Does he have a girlfriend or something?... (read in full...)
When I asked him if he loved me, he replied with "I'd rather not comment." Does he love me or not? How do I know?
Q. So there is this guy who I love deeply (or maybe its infatuation for a whole year). I think he has feelings for me although sometimes am not so sure. Last night while we were chatting, I told him that I loved him and he said "That ain't no secret" ...
A. 9 January 2015: So when he says something that you don't understand, you are free to ask him to clarify.
"Sorry, I don't understand. Why is being with me a risk?"
I think he's being honest as he can but is relying on you to not ask him the followup question... (read in full...)
When I asked him if he loved me, he replied with "I'd rather not comment." Does he love me or not? How do I know?
Q. So there is this guy who I love deeply (or maybe its infatuation for a whole year). I think he has feelings for me although sometimes am not so sure. Last night while we were chatting, I told him that I loved him and he said "That ain't no secret" ...
A. 9 January 2015: No, he doesn't love you. He likes you a lot and doesn't want to lie to you but he does not feel the same way you do.
If this is confusing for you or upsetting, I'd take some time away from whatever relationship it is you have going with him. It s... (read in full...)
Do I really have to turn my back on my cousin to make my g/f happy?
Q. Hello, This may get complicated so please bear with me. My girlfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship and we have been for at least a year. She lives in the Philippines and I live in the US. We met more than a year ago, and st...
A. 9 January 2015: I think your girlfriend sounds like an immature teenager and that you two are facing a cultural difference that will cause major problems for your relationship. That's coming from the standpoint of someone who lives in the US and is not estranged ... (read in full...)
So are we dating or not?
Q. Okay so me and this guy have been texting a little bit over a year and over the time we have been texting I have been developing strong feelings for him. Recently(like three days ago)we were roleplaying(it was clean)and during the role play he told ...
A. 8 January 2015: Do you see him in real life besides just texting?... (read in full...)
Is it bad to be in a relationship and watch porn?
Q. Is it bad to be in a relationship and watch porn? I used to love Watching porn til I met my bf. my bf feels that watching porn will only destroy our relationship and gets mad if I do watch it... But he watches it behind my back so I get upset over ...
A. 8 January 2015: He's a bit of a hypocrite, isn't he? Is he controlling in other ways? How about you both delete your browsing history and just trust that the other will do what is best for the relationship?
If you don't feel that's possible, then are you sure you ... (read in full...)
Should I discuss the problem of our living arrangements with his mother?
Q. Hi.. I need some advice and insight about my current situation. I've been with my bf for 5 year and he proposed and decide to marry this year. Problem is I don't like his living condition. I don't like our future living because there's crowded ...
A. 8 January 2015: Find a small flat near his parents' home and show him that it's affordable. Show him that you have another option that is possible and let him know how wonderful you'd be to his parents, that you'd visit every day.
Are you working, by the way?... (read in full...)
Should I discuss the problem of our living arrangements with his mother?
Q. Hi.. I need some advice and insight about my current situation. I've been with my bf for 5 year and he proposed and decide to marry this year. Problem is I don't like his living condition. I don't like our future living because there's crowded ...
A. 8 January 2015: I think I would tell him that I would not feel comfortable having sex with him with so many people so close by in the house, that you would feel inhibited and would only want to have sex when there is no one in the house. That having sex with his ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he does not love me if he says he'll not put up a fight if I leave him?
Q. If you tell your boyfriend you will leave him and he does not put up a fight does this mean he does not truly LOVE you or care for you enough? My BF says he would not stop me if I decided to leave him as he is not a fighter and if leaving him is w...
A. 8 January 2015: Has this been a good relationship up till now? Or have there been issues?
What does "put up a fight" mean to you? Yelling? Screaming? Trying to convince you to stay.
Obviously you've told him you've thought about ending it. His response was to s... (read in full...)
Got no response from him. Should I write back and tell him what I think about him?
Q. Hello everyone, I posted a question here not too long ago about a man who had shown me tons of interest and who gave me long gazes, and asked me to go visit him at his work place and repeatedly asked me to call him. When I wrote him an email a f...
A. 8 January 2015: Just as a P,S, tt's possible he's had life-changing issues with his family/parents and just isn't able to keep tabs on a woman he stared at for a while.
Hospitalized parents or siblings or life-changing diagnoses can alter one's approach to life... (read in full...)
Got no response from him. Should I write back and tell him what I think about him?
Q. Hello everyone, I posted a question here not too long ago about a man who had shown me tons of interest and who gave me long gazes, and asked me to go visit him at his work place and repeatedly asked me to call him. When I wrote him an email a f...
A. 8 January 2015: I'd just let it go. You run the risk of creating a lot of drama and to what end? You'll wind up looking like a stalker if you show up at his workplace and go off on him.
Let it go. Let it go.
Repeat as necessary.
Let it go.
[If you can't let... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 7 January 2015: You need to get out of the victim role you've chosen for yourself. Most of your original question is written in the passive tense;
*It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time
*It was never something either of us so... (read in full...)
She never asked why I dropped the friendship?
Q. Well I finally unfriended a girl who ran off with a guy I was into. They both had stopped speaking to me on Facebook, so because I was annoyed about the situation - I unfriended her thinking it would make me feel better. However, although I can't se...
A. 7 January 2015: You are waiting for the woman who ran off with your boyfriend to ask why you unfriended her on facebook? Really?
She's demonstrated that she cares nothing for your feelings. So why are you punishing yourself waiting around for her to say "I'm sorr... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 7 January 2015: He's texted? That's not much effort. A few typed words in the phone. Big deal. He's a loser, I'm sorry.
If he wanted to be with you beyond whatever it is you ahve, he'd have taken concrete action to get a divorce.
You say he's older.
So he pro... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 7 January 2015: "It is unfair because sometimes he lets go and gives me the intimacy and closeness I am wanting from him. And then he pulls it away. Gets scared. Says he does not want to have these feelings because he is a married man."
Of course it's unfair. Life... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 7 January 2015: Here are some of the questions from the woman who is in the same situation that you are in:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/married-man-dumped-me-and-i-am-feeling.html
http:... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 7 January 2015: "Clearly there must have been a disconnect between him and his wife for him to seek out a relationship with me outside his marriage"
Um, no. He just wanted some extra sex and you provided it.
"If I walked away, I would miss him for the rest of ... (read in full...)
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