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... Send *ittykhaos a private message | | | *ittykhaos's profile:Hay, I live in the south of England but i have lived all over the country. In my 25 years i have had some pretty strange and wonderful experiences. I have been in a long term relationship, ive been in a violent relationship, ive fallen for my best friend, ive been cheated on and ive been the other woman lol so i have picked up some useful tips on the way but other things still baffle me to this day.I am a musician my life revolves around it and so do my love interests usually lol
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She says she loves me but can't be a girlfriend right now. HUH?
Q. So my girlfriend told me that she wants a break because she can't be a girlfriend right now but she isn't breaking up with me but she tells me that i am the one. so i don't know what this means. does this mean we are broken up or just seperated or ...
A. 17 March 2012: i love this situation, read my list of questions over the past three years exactly the same. Now were getting married. Maybe she just has some stuff to sort out on her own time. Good luck!! xx ... (read in full...)
Can a woman get Thrush even if she is not sexually active?
Q. Hi, I know what Thrush is. Can a woman get it even if she is not sexually active?...
A. 17 August 2010: yes, i got thrush at 14 from riding my bike to much. It is a yeast imbalance. Some women get it form taking medication some from wearing tights and all kinds of different stuff. You may never have had sex (i hadn't). Some people get it once, some ... (read in full...)
Do I need to worry about my boyfriends girl-mate?
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf 5 months now and I know that isnt too long but I really feel strongly about him and things have been pretty perfect until very recently. He was staying over with me the other night when his friend called him up at 450am so...
A. 27 July 2010: OMG there are some serious over reactions here..
Firstly i have MOSTLY male friends i tell them i love them maybe not in a i love you i love too kind of was but deffo in an oh love you man kinda way.
I have a wonderful boyfriend who i wouldn't... (read in full...)
How do I let my suitors down gently?
Q. I have two guys in love with me, three who really like me, and five I "talk" to. I'm sleeping with ONE. No matter what I refuse to sleep around. But, here's the thing, I'm hurting the two who claim to love me. They're very nice, I consider them ...
A. 15 July 2010: honesty ... it hurts but its pure and it works.. My house mate is in love with me but i have a boyfriend who i love and he is also in love with me.. He knows this making it his problem, as i have never so much as shown more than a passing interest ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 19 and have never even kissed a girl!
Q. Hello. I'm 18, nearly 19 and I have never kissed a girl before, infact I've never hooked up with a girl before (or whatever all you hip kids are calling it nowadays). I feel there are several factors affecting this. 1; I'm a naturally very reclusive ...
A. 10 July 2010: First of all ditch the "mates" it doesn't matter if you're a virgin and it shouldn't matter to them either, you don't need them shouting about it in public. Secondly well done on getting fit and healthy its true most girls don;t like chubby men so ... (read in full...)
How can I make her my girlfriend without coming off needy?
Q. I started talking to this girl 3 months ago. We talk almost everyday for hours through text and calling. Gone out on a few dates and have slept together. I'd like to see her more often as we only now see each other only once a week to once every 2 ...
A. 8 July 2010: Maybe shes worried if she asks you you might say no because she thinks its just a friends with benefits situation. Just ask her in a straight forward and not in an overbearing OMG I LOVE YOU be mine kind of way and im sure it will be fine :)... (read in full...)
Why do women always lie about there sexual past???
Q. Hello everyone, Today im here too really find out why women always under sell their sexual past. I found out two of my good friends and including me, That are wives have liad too us about there sexual past. Ive been married for 13 years and come too ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think the reason a lot of women lie is there is a lot of pressure to be "pure", Some men assume that if a woman has had many sexual partners she must be dishonest and un trust worthy. NOW, there is a difference between telling someone you are a ... (read in full...)
He said he was clean but why am I having these symptoms?
Q. sorry to be graphic but i want the most accurate answers i can get. ok, so i went to see(we live 5 hours apart) my new bf who i have been with for 2 months, and he has had a bit of a history with girls(im the 8th girl hes slept with) and he has pick...
A. 7 July 2010: sounds like a UTI to me but get it checked out as you will need anti biotics for it. its not an sti but they can be braught on by sex go to a doctor... (read in full...)
Would you (as a guy) turn a girl away over something like this?
Q. Bonjour, I just wanted guys opinions because even though I know it's normal, as in it's not unhealthy, I don't like it. On my left side I have always had one long inner labia. I feel like it will freak guys out and/or get in the way!! Argh I hate ...
A. 7 July 2010: I have big labia (oh i said it in public) lol i hate them i once slept with a guy who in fact said What the fuck is that!! He was a jerk it turns out. the thing is anyone who i have actually cared about or who have cared about me never say anything. ... (read in full...)
Implant and pregnancy
Q. Hey, i turned 16 at the end of march this year and had the implant placed in the begining of April. Me and my bf have been together since i was 14 and he was 16, yeah he's nearly 19. Our parents are happy with us having sex as they know and w...
A. 7 July 2010: if your on the implant you should be fine but you sound quite naive you should maybe read about sex and give yourself a better education so your not so worried about things. The implant is a very safe form of contriception and works the moment ... (read in full...)
I haven't dated in a few years because of my anxiety. What can I do to get back into the game?
Q. Hello dear Uncles and Aunts. I have many questions for you, but I do apologize for the book I am about to write you. ;-)I'm a twenty year old college student wondering, "WTF is happening to me?!" Once upon a time, in the glorious land of high sch...
A. 6 July 2010: You are clearly very funny and intelligent. I love the way you wrote this, its was almost like an English assignment. Look, I know how it feels to be dumped on by some "Adonis". The truth is he was probably not even on your wave length so he went ... (read in full...)
When will be the right time to get our relationship out into the open?
Q. hey, when i was 12 i met my boyfriend, he was 15 at the time, we went out secretly with only a few of our friends knowing, now i'm 16 and he is 19 and we are still secretly going out, firstly, is it wrong for me to go out with someone 3 years older? ...
A. 6 July 2010: your 16 and in england you are legal... when i was 16 i went out with boys who were 18/19 its fine. Now its the other way round and im 25 and my boyfriend is 21 but no one ever seems to find it odd or think its a problem. As you get older the age ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I think she's "the one"?
Q. I've been dating this girl for around 6 months now, and she's amazing. We're really into each other, and I've never felt so much for any girl in my life. I believe I have finally found the lady I want to take my virginity. My main concern is ...
A. 16 June 2010: First of all tell her that your a virgin. Second of all tell her that you feel you have finally found the girl who you want to give yourself to that way. If she has anything about her she will be flattered . Next take it slow, it can be just as ... (read in full...)
Wow! Where did that come from???
Q. Hello everyone! So, I am 19 years old and so is my boyfriend. Now that its summer time he is away at work while I am home. He comes home once a week so I look forward to it...very much so. This time he will be coming home this Friday. ...
A. 16 June 2010: Just wear something really nice, cook some dinner I would say have a bottle of wine but as your in the states your too young. Just go to town on him if you're waiting to have sex I have the up most respect to your choice to wait. Give him a massage ... (read in full...)
Love: what does it feel like?
Q. This might be a strange question But what does 'love' actually feel like? Could do with a little guidence i suppose in a way :)...
A. 9 June 2010: For me love is the intense desire to be with a person, touch them, smell them when you touch someone you love there skin feels like silk. you get excited to see them and to speak to them. The man i love is the god of my universe if he is shaken so ... (read in full...)
Did he join a dating site, or is it just spam?
Q. If your man checks out an online dating website, can they get your email address or addresses without joining this site as a member? My guys says he is just getting spam from this website. But he is getting 5-6 emails a day from this site. I ...
A. 7 June 2010: I get a lot of spam from dating web sites stuff i "had joined" (the deleted my account) and stuff that just finds me through facebook/myspace and other such things that i have never joined. I wanted to write about this because i know a lot of ... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 21 May 2010: OMG just get rid find a new girl what kind of girlfriend is it if you never see her? she sounds like a bitch and you've gone 3 years with out sex? you deserve better than her. x... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list?
Q. Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list? A long time ago I broke up with him and he ended up sleeping with someone shortly after. He says it meant nothing and we've worked through this. I ...
A. 20 May 2010: non you don't have the right to ask him to delete anyone off there plus if he is going to do it again he doesn't need facebook. This just makes you look controlling and under confident and a lack of confidence is one of the least attractive features ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me. Why isn't he ready for a relationship?
Q. So im still having trouble with *parker* it had been over six months since we spoke and he turned up to where im living now. I avoided him for 3 days i was so worried about seeing him . So i go out and he's there, he grabs me and we start to have a ...
A. 17 May 2010: I meant to tell you true to his word a few months later he came to me and told me he was ready to give it a shot and we have been together ever since (6 months) i think from what we have talked about there has been alot going on with his family and ... (read in full...)
Why does it take longer for him to respond to certain texts?
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend always replies to text messages really quickly when they are business or funny. but as soon as i say something like 'i've missed you' or similar it always takes up to an hour for him to reply. he always gives an excuse l...
A. 17 May 2010: some guys just arnt good at words. Im in a LDR my boyfriend NEVER texts me or calls me or messages me and if i send him a text and he does happen to text me back it will never say he misses me or he loves me. But when im there he treats me like a ... (read in full...)
He didn't trust me but I never did anything wrong!
Q. Hi guys, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years but he's always had trust issues when it comes to me. I can't go out to parties without him and if my girlfriends are planning a girls night out we have to argue before i go and he will find ...
A. 16 May 2010: He sounds like my ex who was deadfuly abusive and controlling. It started out like this always asking me where i was and what i was up too, despite the face i never cheated on him and in fact he had cheated on me several times. Then he started ... (read in full...)
How do I shake this feeling?
Q. Hi everyone, i and my boyfriend have been dating for 3years now, we have a very good relationship, but i cant stand it when girls look at him flirtyly, its obvious they like him, he seems not to notice them, but it makes me nervous. How do i get rid ...
A. 4 May 2010: My b/f is hot, drop dead sexy, tall and talented. Girls notice him all the time. Sometimes they even try and talk to him but hes not even slightly interested. Don't see it as a threat see it as a compliment. If you start to get insecure he will ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this happy?
Q. I'm 19 and I just had a general question. I have been good friends with my now current boyfriend for a few years. We have been dating for almost a month. I have never smiled so much in life, I feel like I'm glowing from the inside out and whenever I ...
A. 4 May 2010: I was stood in London the other day with my best friend he had his arm around me and i was smiling, he was smiling too because we remembered that not only is he my best friend of 7 years but we have been together for 5 months and it has been ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to the concert? My ex is her good/best friend!
Q. I'm really into this girl. Theres a concert coming up. I'm planning to buy the ticket then invite her to go. But i'm not sure if i should do it or will she go with me. The reason... I just broke up with my ex about 4 months ago. My ex is on...
A. 4 May 2010: Are you and your ex still friends? Talk to your ex about it so then there can be no blame or accusations. If your ex has a problem then leave off for a bit but you should never deny yourself something because it will upset someone unless it will be ... (read in full...)
My husband loves me completely but I don't love him. Should I leave him?
Q. I've read other peoples' questions and answers about whether they should stay in a loveless marriage, but no one seems to be in my situation. The fact is, my husband of 25 years is a kind, affectionate, caring, loving, reliable, attentive man wh...
A. 4 May 2010: You should leave take your half nothing more and explain to him in the least hurtful way you can. No one deserves to live in a loveless marriage least of all him. He may find someone to give him back all the love he has been pouring into a ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had any success turning friendship into love? I want to hear some stories, good or bad, before I tell my friend I love him!
Q. Right guys and girls i need your help! My best friend is a guy, we've been really close for the last 2 years, but known each other since college. But it has been the last 2 years we've become closer. Its only been the last few months though,...
A. 3 May 2010: Im with my best friend of 7 years. it took 3 years of hard work heartbreak and emotional stress but we have been together for 5 months and i love him more than life its self and i have done for the past 4 years. I was in your situation with a few ... (read in full...)
Three years ago, she freaked when I told her I loved her. Should I tell her again, now?
Q. I've asked this question before but I never get many responses so I'm trying it again. I will have a very long detailed version of this and then at the bottom I will have shorter simplified version, if you want the short version scroll to the bott...
A. 11 April 2010: Its illegal now, The thing is no one would frown upon a 17 year old and a 20 year old (ok they might but less would be said) but a 14 year old and a 17 year old especially in the USA i just don't think it would go down to well. Im 4 years older than ... (read in full...)
Three years ago, she freaked when I told her I loved her. Should I tell her again, now?
Q. I've asked this question before but I never get many responses so I'm trying it again. I will have a very long detailed version of this and then at the bottom I will have shorter simplified version, if you want the short version scroll to the bott...
A. 8 April 2010: as sad as it is she is far to young to understand those feelings give it another three years and then maybe give it a shot..... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't appreciate the lifestyle I have given him
Q. My (51 year old) Virgo boyfriend of 3 years with an IQ and EQ below par came out and said; he'd prefer his next partner to have a job! I felt this was a criticism of my contribution and worth as we are set to going our separate ways. I know it was ...
A. 4 March 2010: Hes obviously a bit of an asshole, two divorces should have sent you running. Theres a reason men like him have nothing. He will miss you and your easy ride when your gone dont let him make you feel small because he is the inadequate one here. ... (read in full...)
Can I be friends with a girl who is older than I am?
Q. He cupid, i want to ask some question here. i met a girl on the internet. we shares pictures to each other and also share mobile number. she have a good work and i have a good work too. she was born in 1985 and i was born in 1987. now we are ...
A. 4 March 2010: im 4 years older than my boyfriend go for it... (read in full...)
Love triangle with my boyfriend's best friend
Q. I have a boyfriend who absolutely adores me. I really like him too. He is so hot it's not even a funny. But one of my best friends and I are really attracted to each other. He is 100 times hotter than my boyfriend. He is really sweet and considering ...
A. 3 March 2010: You know what i have to agree with caring guy. I fell in love with mine/ my x's best friend but i never told him how i felt un till i was well clear of the relationship i had with my ex. I am now with my best friend but it took us 2 years to get ... (read in full...)
Should I cut my family out of my life for the man I love?
Q. Dear cupid, I have been having a terrible time with my family and friends harrasing me about the man I have been dating for the last year. He is kind, respectful, and treats me better than any man I have ever been with and I am hoping we could ge...
A. 25 August 2009: I think this story is so sad and far to common. I am from the north of england a poor and inherently racist part of the country. My brother is so racist it hurts my feelings and he once said to me that "if you dated a "nigger"(i hate that term) then ... (read in full...)
She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?
Q. Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...
A. 24 August 2009: Fair enough it came across as if you were telling him not to invest emotionally and I was pointing out that because she has slept with that many people it didn't mean she was incapable of pursuing a emotional relationship. poster if you like this ... (read in full...)
One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?
Q. I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...
A. 23 August 2009: Well she asked you and in front of people too and all though it made it hard for you to say no it also made it impossible for them to be discreet this is a GOOD thing. I shouldn't worry too much i have often had dinner with my ex we are good friends ... (read in full...)
Am I losing out on who might be the only one for me or will I meet someone like her?
Q. Hi, im having quite a bit of love life trouble. 4 months ago i split up with my girlfriend (who we'll call EMMA) of 2 and a half years. she was my first love and we loved each other very much. the main trouble in the relationship was that she has a ...
A. 23 August 2009: I know you have some issues with there being a child in the middle of your relationship but i have to agree with Sphronas. I had that one in a million a man who was my best friend and i would do anything to be by his side day and night. its been 5 ... (read in full...)
She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?
Q. Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...
A. 23 August 2009: I know some people will judge me for the answer i am about to give but, I was in a violent relationship and i didn't sleep with my ex 10 months prior to the relationship ending (i also didn't cheat on him). After the end of the relationship i knew i ... (read in full...)
Her ex is like a Calvin Klein model - how can I stop feeling like I can't compete?
Q. Hi there, i've had something on my mind for a few weeks and its eating at me so i thought i'd post on here and get the general consensus... I have recently got a new girlfriend, and it turns out that her most recent ex partner was into bodybuil...
A. 23 August 2009: Its really not about looks in a stereo typical sense my long term ex b/f is so much better looking than my last x but i was in love with the last guy because of his personality and i was attracted to him for completely different reasons. Men like ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but don't want to get pregnant
Q. well im in love with my boyfriend verry much and he lives in texas he is comming down to see me next summer and we planed on making love but im afraid i have done it b4 but now i can get pregnant and i realy want to with him but i dont know what to ...
A. 23 August 2009: There are many forms of contraceptive, condoms are probably the most all round as they protect you from sti's as well as unwanted babies:P but there is also the pill. You may need to try a few before you find the right one for you. There is also a ... (read in full...)
Side effects of the morning after pill?
Q. I've just taken the morning after pill prescribed by my doctor, but didn't think to ask what exactly is going to happen to by body, and I can't find it any where on the internet. I was just wondering if any one else who has taken it can tell me, ...
A. 23 August 2009: The side effects are on the packet or they should be. I took one years ago suffered with a massive headache and nausea was moody for a couple of days felt a it dizzy and spaced out but it didn't affect my period at all. Usually you take the morning ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my drinking husband because of our daughter?
Q. I am a 49 year old female with a 14 year old daughter. I have been married 15 years and for the entire time I have known this man he has drank; but it seems every year his drinking is getting worse. Even though I am married, I feel like a single ...
A. 23 August 2009: You should leave, your daughter is now 14 and before she was 9 so now she is old enough to understand whats going on. She probably is aware of her fathers drinking and she is also probably aware of how unhappy you are. You can't force yourself to ... (read in full...)
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