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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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Trusting him isn't easy because I'm afraid he's trying to get into my pants
Q. Just started talking to this guy approx. 2 weeks ago and after a few days we got flirty. He came home Friday for Thanksgiving break and was completely excited to meet me.. so he drove over and we hung out and kissed a bit. During that he kept ...
A. 20 November 2012: I don't think you are thinking negatively, you are thinking realistically. It has only been two weeks and he is saying he is going to be in love with you and you will be his, then he says he does love you now... That's a bit too soon. Keep your ... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with very dry, coarse, curly, frizzy hair that is FRIED!
Q. Hi. This isn't a sex/relationship question, but I guess you could say it's a self esteem one. I have very dry/coarse/curly/frizzy hair that is FRIED! I will be getting regular trims from now on, but I desperately need tips as to what I can do it...
A. 20 October 2012: I researched your hair issue and came up with these 3 links. I don't know how much research you have done on the actual products but after checking numerous links these looked the best and most informative for what you are looking for. What I ... (read in full...)
She loved me, left me, and now wants to come back
Q. Hi I had never been with a girl ever an then met someone in jan this year!! Fell for her head over heels an gave her my heart. An she used me and then dropped me in April to go back to her ex who had done the same to her!!! But I haven't moved on ...
A. 20 October 2012: Well do you want to be second best or do you want to be someone's first choice? She is only coming back because the person she LEFT YOU for dumped her, so now all of the sudden you are good enough. I wouldn't go back because I have some self ... (read in full...)
How can I move past the size issue of my 4 inch penis? What might help me?
Q. Sigh* so lately I have been stressing out about what most guys stress out on. My penis size. I am about 4 inches long only and as for girth I'm not really sure but I know it is not that big either. It's been bothering me because everybody makes fun ...
A. 20 October 2012: What they are saying is typical of young immature girls. They know very little of what they are actually talking about, it is just the thing to say when you are younger. You brag to friends about all sexual escapades. The first anon poster had it ... (read in full...)
He ignores me now. Why would he do this? Is it that he just randomly just start hating me?
Q. Hi, So there's a guy that I met a few months ago through some family friends, and when we first hung out, we really hit it off. We had a lot of fun. But as things progressed, I clued into my girl instinct and picked up a few signs that maybe he li...
A. 20 October 2012: So you broke eye contact with him for a few seconds and now he won't speak to you? That's pretty insane. It is very off putting and I wouldn't bother with this guy anymore because he clearly has issues. Even if he thought you weren't interested in ... (read in full...)
The Ex factor. How do I stop becoming obsessed with my partner's ex girlfriends and ex-wife?
Q. I am doing my usual self-destructive stuff that is driving my new boyfriend away. Right now I feel sick to the stomach that I am at this again. Nearly every relationship I have become obsessed with their ex girlfriend/wife. Currently I am ...
A. 18 October 2012: Ah I wish he had never told you how often they had sex. It makes no sense to tell you this, how does this help anyone or do anything? I, too, have suffered from what you are going through, retroactive jealousy. I learned never to ask any questions ... (read in full...)
Married six weeks and now he has left me to live in another country? What can I do? No warning. No idea why.
Q. I've just got married, and been married for 6 weeks now. We haven't even had our honeymoon yet, it's been busy with work etc. Our wedding was lovely - cost about $25,000 - at HIS request, not mine, so I can't really be called a bridezilla for t...
A. 18 October 2012: Yes, how long have you known him before you married? I'd say he had an ulterior motive for marriage (no idea what) or he freaked out and left. I would do as SVC said and get it annulled. It's not a marriage when he's in another country and won't ... (read in full...)
Is it Good if she refers to me as her "younger brother" ? Does that mean that I'm not likely to be more to her?
Q. Hello there everyone :D it has been 2 years since i posted here, and i must say i got some realy good advice back then. so im in need of help once more it seems.... ok so long story short, 4 year ago i met a girl, had a crush, we were besti...
A. 18 October 2012: Well it really wasn't stupid to distance yourself from her in the past, she liked you as only a friend so you took some distance from her. That's smart, you were saving yourself heartache from hanging onto someone that wasn't interested the same ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about him. Is this normal or am I being too obsessive?
Q. Dear cupid. So, I deleted my friend's number off of my phome. He is a boy that I like A lot. I deleted his number off of my phone because...I like him so much, I (well I used to) text him everyday, and he'd never push me away or say I'm being ann...
A. 18 October 2012: I think you made the right choice to distance yourself from him. He isn't interested in a relationship with you but is trying to be nice and let you down easy by saying "maybe one day..." he's not a bad guy, too nice in fact, he needs to be more ... (read in full...)
How did you feel a few days before your marriage?
Q. Hi! I am about to get married and I'm having so many feelings going through my heart and my head. How did you feel a few days before your marriage? Did things change in any way after you got married? Were you even remotely worried things might not ...
A. 16 October 2012: I just read anonymous's post and I forgot that the change after marriage would make a difference depending on if you live together already and have been sexually intimate. My husband and I had lived together for almost 2 years before marriage, and ... (read in full...)
How did you feel a few days before your marriage?
Q. Hi! I am about to get married and I'm having so many feelings going through my heart and my head. How did you feel a few days before your marriage? Did things change in any way after you got married? Were you even remotely worried things might not ...
A. 16 October 2012: Fun question! I was just married in January of this year so it's pretty fresh in my head. Ours was a destination wedding, so a lot of my thoughts were worry. Worry about traveling, everyone making it ok, etc. I was also worried about married life. I ... (read in full...)
What do I do now? I lied and told my boyfriend that I wasn't a virgin
Q. So this is the problem, this guy I really liked we met on a night out and instantly hit it off, we were attracted to each other so much and i don't know how this came out in our conversation but we ended up talking about how many people we slept ...
A. 16 October 2012: Relationships need honesty and communication. If you are afraid to talk openly with him, then you shouldn't be having sex with him. Just tell him you lied when you first met because you were embarrassed and he was acting like such an ass that you ... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 16 October 2012: I'm with KC on this one, I'm torn. At first I thought, how could she?? But the more I thought about it I know I wouldn't want a pink diamond engagement ring, and it's my favorite color. Nor am I materialistic by any means, my engagement ring is a ... (read in full...)
Broke up, it was the right thing to do. Soooo Why do I miss him so much ?
Q. In September I broke up with a guy who I have been on/off with for the past year and a half. I know I have done the right thing as I wasn't happy and wasn't getting what I needed from the relationship. We had recently got back together at the end ...
A. 16 October 2012: Yepp, it's common. It's happened to me, I made the mistake of thinking missing him= I still love him. It doesn't. It's just natural to miss someone you had feelings for and spent time with. Like the other poster said, it will fade over time and you ... (read in full...)
He's perfect -- except that we can't have kids
Q. Ok - I have a slight issue... lol I really like older men - like REALLY like them. 3 previous relationships have always had a 20 year age gap. Is this normal?? Now I've started seeing a guy who is early 40's and he's everything I am looking...
A. 16 October 2012: If you are happy together now and don't want kids now then I don't see the point in breaking up. You have no idea how you will feel in the future so don't break up because it's a possibility you may some day want kids, deal with that when and if it ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my boyfriend, but at the same time I need a partner who can support himself!
Q. Hi everyone. Just wondering if someone can give me their perspective on my situation. I've come across similar situations, yet none quite like mine. Here it goes,... I've been with the same guy for almost 10 years (I was 20, him 21). We've de...
A. 16 October 2012: So he is 30. Lives with his parents. Has no job and is content with this situation. You have been together 10 years (that's a really, really long time...) and still no more serious than you were when you started. He is lazy and immature. Also you ... (read in full...)
Long distance and little effort
Q. I have been seeing this girl for 3 months. Now we are long distance. I suddenly had a job meeting in her city so I took a flight and got suddenly there. Upon leaving I told her I was coming. She said she was busy but she ll try to see me that night, ...
A. 16 October 2012: I agree with the other posters, she just isn't that into you. She couldn't make any time at all to see you and chose to do other things (the gym? Really?) rather than be with you. I would understand if it were spur of the moment and she had work and ... (read in full...)
Is ALMOST cheating, cheating?
Q. Hello, I'm in a very confusing dilemma with my boyfriend at the moment, and I'm afraid to talk to my friends about it because if we do stay together, I don't want them to think badly of him. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relations...
A. 15 October 2012: It is possible that he wasn't all that serious about you early on when this happened. It's possible that when he is serious he won't want the attention of other women anymore. BUT the problem is he is a liar. In the beginning of one of my ... (read in full...)
I want to propose to my girlfriend, but need to get her brother and mother's permission first! How do I do this, and what happens if her mother says no?
Q. Next weekend I am going to be asking the biggest question I have ever asked. My gf and I are in a gay relationship and have been for just over two years. She's the one. We have discussed marriage and have both said we'd like to get engaged soon. ...
A. 15 October 2012: I think talking to her brother will be very easy. You already get on with him and he knows your relationship well. I don't think he will be comparing you to her ex, you are two totally different people and a totally different relationship. When you ... (read in full...)
He made a big fuss pretending to not know this woman when she only said 'hi' to him, is he hiding something?
Q. I'm not sure if my husband is hiding something from me. The other night we went to dinner and after went window shopping. A female said hi to him. I immediately said who was that. His first response was I dont know. So I said to him well think ...
A. 15 October 2012: Do you ever push him about other things or are paranoid about other things with him? I am that way with my husband at times. I will give him the third degree at times when I am paranoid and something seems off. Then other times when I am completely ... (read in full...)
I don't think we can have vaginal intercourse because of my yeast infection, what else can we do?
Q. I got a yeast infection and im doing treatments and it is helping very well. My fiance and i are spending friday together. Im meeting his parents and then to his place for one on one time. Im concerned because i read the back of my box to see if we ...
A. 15 October 2012: Well you shouldn't have sex if the medication advises against it, sounds like you are smart enough to not try anyway. Explain to your fiancée Ryan (my husband's name :)) that he did not cause the yeast infection and to not be upset with himself. ... (read in full...)
Four months absence. Some tips please on how to look amazing for him when he returns and we go on a date together?
Q. I have a boyfriend who has been to america and is home next week. I havent seen him for 4 months as thats how long he goes away for. On his first night back when i will be first seeing him we have arranged to go out for a meal and then onto the...
A. 13 October 2012: Well I'll tell you what I do when I really want to dress up.
I have hair extensions that I bought when I cut my hair too short awhile back, I put those in. They give my hair some length and volume (my hair tends to be flat) and looks amazing,... (read in full...)
Advice on how to stop worrying over someone's sexual past?
Q. Okay so for those of you who are going to say "get over it" or "the past is the past" please dont bother. For the rest of you here is the problem. I am a virgin, i have only ever kissed(by kissed i mean a peck that lasted 1 second) a girl before, ...
A. 13 October 2012: The good news is you are young. But you definitely suffer from retroactive jealousy which is very common. I don't think you should stop asking about a girl's past completely, ask if she is a virgin since you are one and that's what you want. If she ... (read in full...)
Is a four year age difference such a deal breaker? We broke up. I still love her. Will this work?
Q. I am a man 21 doing a Degree and in my second year. I have been dating a gal a four years older than me for four years. But last year we talked about our age difference and asked if I was going to work. After sometime, I felt intimidated ...
A. 13 October 2012: I agree with Lolly completely. My husband is almost 8 years older than me and we never even think about it. If it's that big of a deal to you then there's something else holding you back, 4 years older is nothing. You obviously have some negative ... (read in full...)
Is it too early to do this? Should I allow this boy to come into my tent while we are camping and share my sleeping bag?
Q. I'm 14 (girl) I have been talking to this guy that I met the other day, we have been sending hearts. He's coming camping with me and one of my friends and one of his. He wants to if he can sleep in the swag (sleeping bag) with me, is it to early fo...
A. 13 October 2012: By "too early for anything" I assume you mean sleeping in the same bag and doing something sexual. Yes, it is too soon. Even just sleeping in the same bag is too soon. You have only been talking for a couple days, just met him the other day. And all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wrongfully accused me of lying to him. Is this a deal breaker for us?
Q. My bf and I have been together off and on for over a year now. Before we started dating, I was hanging out with him and an acquaintance of ours, after a night of drinking and partying with some friends. We decided to call it a night and this o...
A. 13 October 2012: Hmm, I can see how he would ignore that message. It did sound like he would be getting into the middle of a couple's argument. I would send another one, last one, and say "I don't mean to start anything, I just want my boyfriend to know that nothing ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend really hurts me during sex
Q. My boyfriend hurts me when we have sex. I'm a small built girl and quite skinny and he's a whole lot heavier than me. He lies down ontop of me and puts all his weight on me. He grinds his chest into my boobs and literally drags my nipples down my ...
A. 13 October 2012: Uh he's abusive. I thought at first you just haven't let him know you are in pain. But you have, he doesn't care, says you complain too much and does it anyway. That is abuse. Why doesn't he stop? Because he cares only about his pleasure and your ... (read in full...)
I don’t think I can ever respect another woman again.
Q. Right now my brain is the midst of a battle...Why? It’s because I’m somehow beginning to see women in a completely different light than I did before. Long story short, Wednesday at work, the topic of women came up. In my office there are 3 guys and...
A. 13 October 2012: Ok so let me get this straight. You hate women because most women would prefer not to hear their friend/sister is hotter than they are. And because your mom said she would prefer to be lied to if cheated on. Is that it because that's all I saw. Well ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wrongfully accused me of lying to him. Is this a deal breaker for us?
Q. My bf and I have been together off and on for over a year now. Before we started dating, I was hanging out with him and an acquaintance of ours, after a night of drinking and partying with some friends. We decided to call it a night and this o...
A. 11 October 2012: Oh but I will add I do not think you should agree to disagree and ignore this. You need to find proof to back you up or tell him he has to believe you for you to continue in this relationship. It won't go away by ignoring it, you will bring it up in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wrongfully accused me of lying to him. Is this a deal breaker for us?
Q. My bf and I have been together off and on for over a year now. Before we started dating, I was hanging out with him and an acquaintance of ours, after a night of drinking and partying with some friends. We decided to call it a night and this o...
A. 11 October 2012: He sounds like a negative person. It is easier for him to believe it happened and accept the bad truth than to hope you didn't do it and feel like an idiot. He's pessimistic and expects the worst outcome. As for him saying he wouldn't care if you ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with the insecurities? Help me please ...
Q. Well my boyfriend and i have been dating almost 2 months. On october 13... I love him so much, but for some reason we dont get along. We fight over the stupidest stuff. When we make love...everything is great. We get along when its just me and him,...
A. 11 October 2012: There's nothing else you can do. You have deleted and turned your back on all your friends for a boyfriend of 2 months. I hope you don't lose them permanently as this relationship will never last. Fighting so often and having so many problems so ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he make the first move or admit his feelings for me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some assistance conquering an odd situation with my guy friend. Since meeting him over a year ago, we have become really close friends where we talk on the phone almost everyday religiously and hangout whenever we have time in ...
A. 11 October 2012: This reminds me of a movie called "He's just not that into you." In it the main character is always reading into men's signals and signs. The guy asks her "why do women do this??? If a man is interested in you then he will say so." The truth is if ... (read in full...)
What was my ex thinking when he wrote this message?
Q. Some background information about me: I'm 22. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me more than a year ago (yes, it's been a long time). There's a 17 year age difference between us and we were together for about 4 and a half years. We were happy toget...
A. 11 October 2012: I think you are reading too much into it. You want it to mean more so you pick apart every piece of the message, we have all been there. When I read it I read someone who is very much over the relationship and wants nothing to do with you. I'm sorry ... (read in full...)
We were starting a family and I gave up my job to move. He left for his ex.
Q. My boyfriend and I had known each other through mutual friends and exes for years. We got along the first day we met, both having laid-back personalities. We never got the chance to really get to know one another because we both were with ...
A. 11 October 2012: Wow. You probably didn't feel relief because everything he says is bullcrap. He is so flaky and is flipping back and forth. And why? Because you aren't there in person yet?? You already have made every preparation to move, when were you planning to ... (read in full...)
We were starting a family and I gave up my job to move. He left for his ex.
Q. My boyfriend and I had known each other through mutual friends and exes for years. We got along the first day we met, both having laid-back personalities. We never got the chance to really get to know one another because we both were with ...
A. 10 October 2012: I hate that I can't tell you why this happened. No one can really. I'm sorry you are going through this. Everything you described sounded like an ex I had in my past. We fit perfectly in every way possible, even down to when you described how he ... (read in full...)
Period brought on by sex? It only lasted 1 day!
Q. Okay so I am in a relationship have been for quite a while, just the other day I was due on my period, at first it was late evening, after having sex with my boyfriend it was spotting and only showing when wiping which was fine. Next day I was at my ...
A. 10 October 2012: Hmm that is strange. No idea why that would happen. Well if you are worried then seeing a doctor would be a good idea. I'm not one to rush to a doctor that's why I said I would wait to see what happens during your next period, but it's up to you. ... (read in full...)
We broke up a year ago and I still think of him, should I contact him?
Q. Its been a year now since my bf and I broke up. He cheated on me and shortly after we broke up he was in a relationship with her. We were together for three years. I haven't spoken seen or spoken to him since we broke up. It took me a while to get ...
A. 10 October 2012: DO NOT contact him. He already crushed you by cheating on you. He has made no attempt to talk to you in a year. And if you contact him then you are the one who still cares and is pining away after all this time. He will know, and it will do nothing ... (read in full...)
Abusive past and can't tolerate any porn. How can me and my partner move on?
Q. I have been in an on and off relationship with the father of my youngest son for 7 years. Things have been tumultuous from the beginning, us both being insecure and having other issues, mine being from an extremely abusive upbringing. My step father ...
A. 10 October 2012: It sounds like you are settling for him because you think everyone watches porn and that's just how it is. It isn't. There are men that won't watch porn if it bothers you so much. And having pictures of naked ex's?? That doesn't fly for anyone. You ... (read in full...)
He's chatting to other girls online behind my back, is this cheating?
Q. i dont know how to word this effectively, my boyfriend and i have been together over a year and i thought we were happy, i know he has cheated in the past and im no saint myself but i thought that was all in the past, hand on my heart i can say ive ...
A. 10 October 2012: I dated a guy and had this happen to me. When I was checking his email for a coupon I saw it. He denied it, then said it wasn't anything bad, etc. I forgave him. I never trusted him again after that. I checked up on everything he did and caught him ... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: According to your update he sounds fine. As the other posters said, as long as he is not lazy and content doing nothing while struggling financially then it should be okay. I dated 2 different lazy men with no work ethic and I would never do it ... (read in full...)
Period brought on by sex? It only lasted 1 day!
Q. Okay so I am in a relationship have been for quite a while, just the other day I was due on my period, at first it was late evening, after having sex with my boyfriend it was spotting and only showing when wiping which was fine. Next day I was at my ...
A. 10 October 2012: Ok so when was the day it was really really heavy? And have you had anything since then? You had a day of spotting then the next day was heavy and then the period ended if I'm reading correctly. Are you on birth control? When I was on birth control ... (read in full...)
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