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anonymous
writes:I'm dating this guy and I am absolutely in love with him. We've had sex a few times and each time it's only been for about 10 minutes. (if that) because he cums pretty fast. we do a lot of foreplay and he normally fingers me and things like that before we actually have sex. He's been with other girls and he told me after we had sex for the first time that he was sorry he didn't last long. (I didn't mind, I was totally satisfied) and that the other girls he had been with didn't feel as good as I did and sex wasn't enjoyable for him before. So maybe that's why he doesn't "last long"? I'm not sure. It's pretty annoying because we'll be having sex and everything's going great (like really great, I'm completely satisfied with him besides the fact of how short the time we do it is) and then it kinda slows down and he stops. Please don't say that he's only worried about pleasuring himself because I know he's not, he spends a right good while getting me turned on and wet. But my question is, is there anything I can do that'll help him last longer? Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha-1, when I say that I was totally satisfied I mean that things were going well. I'll give what you said a try, thanks!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 July 2014):
 I would adjust your expectations for now. He'll eventually calm down and slow down, I expect. Ten minutes is actually pretty long in terms of intercourse. Unless you mean that the entire encounter from taking off your clothes to his climax lasts 10 minutes?
When you say 'sex' you mean intercourse, right? Because that's kind of how guys see it. Sex is the good stuff when you are inside her, everything else is just a distraction or a delaying tactic, in the inexperienced lover.
Start to look on foreplay as sex as well, it's sex for you, after all, aren't you being sexually stimulated?
When you say "completely satisfied" does that mean you've had an orgasm? Or does that mean that you are happy with the way things are going? Most women do not orgasm through penetration alone, they need stimulation of their sexual center, their clitoris. I think lots of men think that because being inside her feels so good to him, that the reverse is true for her. They don't realize that the vagina doesn't have the same nerve endings as the penis. The clitoris, however, does. What a happy thing to know and to get to explore, don't you think?
I would do the selfish thing for a bit, make sure you are sexually aroused and have an orgasm, and then do the same favor for him, make sure he is sexually aroused and then has an orgasm too. How you get there is the fun bit, it doesn't have to be all about intercourse, now, does it? :)
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