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writes:Hi guys, I need a bit of help regarding lesbian anal sex. My girlfriend and I experimented a while ago with a dildo - first time for us both but this time we are intrigued to try anal sex. I personally am scared from reading things online it will hurt and some say you need a 'butt plug' instead of a dildo. I have read you use special thicker lube, but do we use the dildo or not? Also, people have commented you should finger the anus first before inserting anything else - any tips please!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 I think the rule in anal is sex is lube, lube, more lube, lots of lube then some more lube.
If you are scared as in fearful, don't even go to the dildo thing.
If you are scared as in a bit intrigued then I think the next rule is start small.
A finger with no long or torn nails and wait, lube again!
The next rule is to relax.
If you can't relax or continue to be scared then drop it for a while.
If the finger thing feels okay or even nice after a bit then you can start to think about contemplating the next thing.
This will be over several days and weeks. There's no rush.
Again, you said "I personally am scared" then do more research. This site has some help:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/anal_sex_lowdown (replace the word penis with the word dildo and it should mostly apply here) http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gender/figuring_out_how_to_be_a_lesbian_safer_sexpert
Start small and stop if you are scared at all.
If you want to experience it, by all means go ahead and start small, lube, safer sex so you don't transmit bacteria to where they don't belong.
The anus is not like the vagina. It does not provide any natural lubrication. Keep that in mind. If it hurts, stop. If you are really scared, stop.
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