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well ya see i think i'm good at giving advice because i think i've had a lot to deal with and been through a lot at such a young age...
when i was at a very young age i was ABUSED by my baby sitter
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then at 11 i had my first 'boyfriend' where i was FORCED INTO BLOWJOBS for him n his mates
i got used a lot by a few other boys, i was young and thought that the next guy would be different... but got USED a lot because i had had all my confidence knocked from me and i didn't know how to say no.
by the time i was 15 i had my first serious boyfriend, who was different... and we lasted a few months.
i then lost my VIRGINITY at 15 to my best guy friend, on a ONE-NIGHT-STAND.
a month later i went out with my other guy best mate (for one and half years)
i had a MISCARRIDGE at 16...
DUMPED my boyfriend, started DRINKING a lot and doing DRUGS. got ARRESTED, started to SLEP AROUND.
now im back into a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP with my first boyfriend (from when i was 15) and we are now living together.
i am still good friends with my other ex boyfriend though.
also my home life wasn't very good.... my dad moved to london (300miles away) when i was 7, and admitted to being gay...
my mum re-married but my stepdad hits me.
so because i think i have had quiet a lot of experience and stuff from my past, i think i give good advice, i just don't want to see other people do stuff that i regret.
so i hope i can help other people with their lives, and i don't want to see other people doing the same as what i did which i now regret. |
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We are gay and we wanted a child, we found a sperm donor, and used a syringe to get pregnant, does anyone know if there is a chance our baby will have a disability, because of how we impregnated the mother?
Q. hi, im a 27 year old woman and im lesbain. Ive been with my girlfriend for 8 years. We both decided that we would like to have a baby. We got a friend of ours who is a man to put his sperm in a cup then with a needleless syringe i sucked up the ...
A. 21 August 2008: hi there.
it shouldn't affect the sperm how it is inserted into you.
sperm can't really be damaged just because its not in the penis no more.
but you you cant ever be 100% possitive that your babys going to be fine, it could get somet... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for staying? My wife's pregnant, we don't know who is the father, the other guy lives with us.
Q. Hi I am 26 years old I have been married almost 2 years now. well let me start off by telling you my faults so that you might understand her side of it. Before we got married I started talking to a girl from work, but never did anything sexually ...
A. 20 August 2008: how come you wern't invited to the family get together?
no offence but it sounds like shes stringing you along,
the baby may be his,
she has loads of time alone with him,
she invites him to everything you want to do alone with her
she invi... (read in full...)
He told me months ago that he liked me, could I have upset him now during our msn talk?
Q. im really confused, and this is kinda botherin me alot, me and this guy have been mates for like 3 years or so, hes 20 now and im 16, we have liked each other, well ive liked him for probably all three years, and he told me about 10 months ago that ...
A. 20 August 2008: hi there maybe he just felt a bit weird because your 16 and he's 20 (if you were 20 and he was 24 it would be different) but its because he will still see you as a teenager while he is an adult. so he is feeling weird because your texting is very ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want kids, but not want the sex or the husband?
Q. Is it normal to want kids, but not want the sex or the husband? People say i'll grow out of this feeling but i am not sure whether i will. I would love to be a mother but a sex slaving wife, no thanks. Is what i am feeling normal as i am not a child ...
A. 20 August 2008: nah, this is normal, it might just be a phase, it might not.
it's up to you, give it a bit more thought. many woman feel like this, they want a child, someone who will offer you unconditional love and the responsability and the feeling of being... (read in full...)
Am I moving too fast?
Q. i am 14 ,15 in december and i had sex wif my girl friend i have only been goin out wif her 4 2 weeks am i movin 2 fast...
A. 20 August 2008: if you'r only 14, how old is she? if she's older than 16, then that's illegal.
but if your both under 16 then its not illegal.
i don't think your moving to 'fast' if you both really like each other and were both ready for it, but if youv only... (read in full...)
I can't remember what I did with my tampon at my friend's house!
Q. Argh!!! I had a blank spot and I took out my tampon at my friends house and I can't remember what I did with it!!! They didn't have a bin and it's really bugging me that I flushed it down the loo, coz, though I'm not sure, it could get stuck. even ...
A. 20 August 2008: hi there.
don't worry about it, you probably put it in the toilet and it wont get stuck half way down and come back up because tampons break up like toilet paper.
and if you put it down and left it, and her parents/brothers pick it up, it'l... (read in full...)
Can a virgin have a smear test done?
Q. Hello, I am near reaching an age where the doctors start to suggest smear tests. A thought occurred to me the other day and got me wondering whether female virgins get smear tested because wouldn't it break their hymen?? Can't spell. Unless hu...
A. 20 August 2008: you can get cervical cancer whether your a virgin or not, it is good to get a smear test even if your a virgin, just to be checked or not,
i disagree with Hlskitten, because cervical cancer isn't like a sexual transmitted disease, you cant pas... (read in full...)
How do you get the trust back without checking up all the time?
Q. My husband looks at alot of porn and has had inappropriate text conversations with other women. One such relationship started 4 months after we were married and carried on for another four months. I discovered the conversations by accident from the ...
A. 20 August 2008: you have to trust and believe him. if you find you are questioning things he tells you then it'll be difficult to trust him again. trust me, my boyfriend didn't trust me for months just because of a rumour. it'll take time, but finally yo... (read in full...)
We became very close, but now it's all gone complicated. How can I get things back to how they were?
Q. we've know each other for like 10 months. Before that, once in awhile we will hang out together with some other friends.I never taught of liking her and stuff like that but at 3 weeks back, we are getting closer, sometimes she asked me out, ...
A. 20 August 2008: hi there, well from the sounds of it, she does really like you and you really like her, and she sounds like she does want a relationship with you... but it might be a bit weird for her considering she recently broke up with her boyfriend, and a... (read in full...)
I caught my mother cheating on my father, she also lies on my father, I love her as she is my mom, but I have hateful feelings towards her, how can I change this?
Q. I have had a real big problem with my mother ever since i caught her cheating on my father that was when i was twelve and now im 18. The thing is she will lie to any one that will listen. She says my dad used to beat her. He would never ever hurt a ...
A. 20 August 2008: tell your mother how you feel, and tell her how much you hate the lies and that its upsetting you.
if she respects and loves you more than she loves cheating, then she should stop the lies and stop the cheating - for you.
don't fall ou... (read in full...)
Heartache from a guy at work, and blackmail from another guy. I hate going to work now.
Q. i really like him! thers a guy at work that i really like and the feelings are mutual or so he says but he says he is not ready for a relationship at the min! we shared a kiss when on a work night out but thts as far as it went. we text each other ...
A. 20 August 2008: if you are worried that the blackmail will affect your relationhip with the other guy... then tell him yourself, just explain that you really like him and say u kissed another guy, it was drunk and ur worried how he will react. he will probab... (read in full...)
I lost the promise ring my boyfriend gave to me! Do I tell him or just buy another one?
Q. Dear all help two days ago i lot my promise ring that my boyfriend gave me , i havent told him as i dont know how to , should i tell him or should i go and buy another ring help ...
A. 20 August 2008: well how much would it hurt your boyfriend?
would he think you were just being silly if you bought a new one?
if its a big thing to you, tell him and apologize and say it'll never happen again etc...
i'm sure he wont be too mad and he will ... (read in full...)
She said the age gap was to small - what's a 'proper' age gap for couples?
Q. me and my girlfriend met two years back and i had to leave my country a week after we met for studies an stuff. We had a really good connection since then, we trusted and respected each other. We had a short holiday 3 months ago which i decided to ...
A. 20 August 2008: hi there,
there's no propa age gap for couples, although many woman prefare men who are 2+ years older than them, there is no propa age gap.
people dont care how much older you are when you really like each other.
she may have said this i... (read in full...)
I really like two boys, one really likes me and the other one tells me I'm pretty and how he wants to have sex with me.
Q. hello, im a 14 year old girl and i really like this boy called andy (16) i met at a swimming pool where he works and i think he likes me but i really like this other boy called jamie (17) but all he seems to talk about is how pretty i am and how he ...
A. 18 August 2008: do NOT get with jamie.
if all he goes on about is sex, then he is a user!
he would go out with you, make u feel special and make u sleep with him,.. then he would leave you.
he would jut use you for sex! trust me... iv had my fair share of ... (read in full...)
I am 14, he is 18. Should I date him?
Q. dear cupid well im seein this guy ive known for a long time now and he is understanding and he would never pressure me to have sex he told me he wud wait for me when im ready but thats the thing im 14 and he iz 18 and he iz realy nice but i dont ...
A. 12 August 2008: if you want to then do it.
as long as he doesnt pressure you into anything you dont wanna do then, go for it =)
but the 4year age gap could be a problem for your parents and other people. as they will think he is just tryin to have sex with yo... (read in full...)
I masterbate and look at porn, even gay porn!
Q. hey ! im a 16 year old guy. i still masturbate almost everyday, and look at porn frequently. sometimes male porn, but im totaly straight! is there something wrong!...
A. 12 August 2008: no nothings wrong at all.
I'm a straight girl n i enjoy looking at gay porn (gay men or woman)
i dont think anythings wrong with it, cause its still a turn on as its still sexual activities.
x... (read in full...)
Why don't I make noise during sex?
Q. So my boyfriend and I first had sex about a month ago. I was a virgin, and he wasnt sure if he was or not. (he woke up at a party naked next to a naked girl) But anyways, neither of us make any noise during sex, other than the heavy breathing....
A. 12 August 2008: nah its okay to not make sounds.
when i have sex it depends on who its with and what position we have sex in.
when i had sex with my ex i hardly made any noise except the heavy breathing.
but with my currant bf i moan so much,
i think... (read in full...)
Where can I buy a vibrator?
Q. I'm 16 and I live in the UK. I want to buy a dildo/vibrator but how can I get one and how do I keep it a secret from my parents?...
A. 12 August 2008: hey you can buy one from loadsa diff sex shops in UK. the main one in ann summers, but they can be expensive depending on what type you want.
also just hide it in your room somewer. your parents wont search your room will they.
i have a larg... (read in full...)
Could I have broken my hymen by masturbating? If so, why did I not bleed straight after?
Q. Hi, I'm a virgin. In the past I've, erm... experimented with putting things 'up there', and the most I can fit is about 5" - but it wont go any further and I'm worried about TSS (toxic shock syndrome) or anything worse. I tried last night, and this...
A. 12 August 2008: hi there,
many people brake they're hymen by doing normal everyday things like gymnastics, ridin a bike, horse riding etc...
but sometimes you don't bleed a lot wen u brake your hymen.
most peole don't brake they'r hymen when masturbating, b... (read in full...)
Excessive vaginal discharge, could there be something wrong?
Q. Quite often i have so much vaginal discharge it feels like i have wet myself. is there something wrong with me?...
A. 12 August 2008: no, nothings wrong with you, many woman have excessive vaginal discharge when they hit puberty (which im presuming you are as it says 13-15yr old)
you can buy discharge pads, which you put in your knickers (the same as pads you buy for your per... (read in full...)
Is it ok to offer him fellatio before sex, how will this influence actual sex?
Q. Is it OK to give the guy a blowjob before you have sex, will he still have enough cum? Or should you just have sex with him and not make him come beforehand?...
A. 12 August 2008: hey,
its okay to give him a bj before sex.... but id advice that you don't make him cum, or it could be painful for him to have sex after and he might not be able to actually have sex.
but its fine to toss him off or give him a bj for a bit b... (read in full...)
I am depressed and don't know how to get out of it
Q. A few months ago i had an early miscarriage and although i was quite upset, i never really grieved about it and i just carried on with my life. Recently i fell in love with a boy four years older than me and although things were going well i haven't ...
A. 12 August 2008: hi there. i had this problem when i had my miscarridge late last year.
i didn't tell anyone about it apart from my best friend, but then when i told the father (woh is now my ex bf) we wer both very upset because he really would like a familly ... (read in full...)
My ex got together with a good friend of mine but now he sends me a message saying he misses me!?
Q. my ex boyfriend recently got together with a good friend of mine but now sends me an email saying he misses me. what should i say? ...
A. 9 August 2008: tell your friend.
she needs to know that her guy is not being comletly faithful.
if she was a true friend she will respect you for telling her and ditch the guy
the guy will end up breakin the friendship you and your mate has if he carries ... (read in full...)
I have to make a choice between my boyfriend and my education.
Q. i went out with my boyfriend 2 years ago, then we got back together last year, its great because although we hadn't seen each other in the two years we were apart, we just got the spark straight back and it was like we hadn't even seperated. i'm ...
A. 8 August 2008: Just wanna say,
i wrote this question
n i think i am going to carry on with my education becasue you all give very valued points.
and if my boyfriend did care he should come with me, i' asked him too but he said he wont leave his friends. ... (read in full...)
How should I greet my boyfriend when I get back from travelling?
Q. hello, im about to turn 16 in a month. but anyways, this is kinda stupid but you see im traveling at right now and though i know it wasnt the best idea i got back together with my boyfriend while ive been away. thing is last time we were together...
A. 8 August 2008: dont plan it, just go with the flow.
do whatever feels best. if you meet eachother and he just hugs you, then its just a hug, but if he goes to kiss you then kiss him back.
he is probably thinking and worrying as much s you are.
but i do... (read in full...)
I am dating my best friend, who started to be with me before she broke up with her last boyfriend, I have trust issues here, she is a "friendly" girl, do I try to have her draw the line with her male friends?
Q. hi just started dating my best friend. We've been friends since her last relationship and well she's a really "friendly" person. I know cause when we were friends she kinda cheated of her bf. We nvr did anything that's considered cheating but with ...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there, my currant bf has the same problem with me, i was still with my ex when my bf and i got together.
and we are now living together and everything but he will still question if i have cheated when i have been out with my mates.
you can... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to go on top. My boyfriend keeps asking me to. Tonight I'm going to try. Any advice?
Q. Im quite a shy girl, and tonight i'm going on top for the 1st time. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend im with now. That was about two weeks ago. And he has asked me to go on top several times. And i say next time alot. Or i dont want to. He asked ...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there.
i had this problem - a lot!
i was with my ex for nearly 2 years, and it took nearly like 6months before i would be on top.
i think a lot of young woman have problems about the way they look and don't want to embarres themselves... (read in full...)
We want to go out somewhere different but we don't have much money. Ideas?
Q. My boyfriend is taking me out tomorrow night. But he always puts me first, so said its up to me. I dont have a clue. Lol. Tbh, he's money might be a bit tight because he's got to pay out for a new engine for his moped as it blew up. He has ...
A. 8 August 2008: well if you like walks in the park, but he's not much of a walker.... go for a picnic in the park, set it up dead romanticly, that way you have walked in the park like you want, but not doing much walking, like he wants.
also its something diff... (read in full...)
I have discovered I am bisexual. It's confusing, and I am unable to tell my wife.
Q. I have discovered that late in life that I am Bi sexual! I am married to a wonderful lady but I do have a regular male partner and soon we are going to have a threesome with another guy that I know and trust! I am scared of the intensity of my ...
A. 8 August 2008: well first thing first - does your wife know you are regulary having sex with other people? if she doesn't then that should be the first thing you should tell her.
but towards the bisexual thing, i think you should tell her before you include ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from this relationship but remain friends with her?
Q. My girlfriend has recently broken up with me and no i do not want to get back with her, but i do want to remain friends but i dont know what steps to take to make that happen because now she happens to be dating my best friend and every time i see ...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there.
i think you should hang around with both your ex and your best friend but in a big group with a few other friends.
this way you can show your girlfriend and your ex that you are fine with them being in a relationship, bu... (read in full...)
I was going to visit my love and he said "I'm not going to be there cuz I don't want to meet you". Was he joking?
Q. hi. i need some advice. there is this guy i m in luv with and he loves me too..i recently told him that i wud be visiting his town soon,and he said..i wanna tell u that i m not gonna be there...cuz i dont want to meet u... i was shocked an...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there.
just text him casualy saying somthing like 'hi, just wondering if you do wanna meet wen i'm in your town? cause im gonna have a few hours/days to spend doing whatever, so wanna meet and do something? if not i understand'
if he still s... (read in full...)
Is he taking advantage of me?!
Q. Is this taking advantage? I have lent someone money, they are my best friend and he needed help, and the deal was to pay back once a month but this month he couldn't afford it so I said it was ok to miss this month and he was very grateful but now...
A. 8 August 2008: my boyfriend is very much like this man.
always lending money / saying he has none, but then can afford to go out with the lads.
i think you should ask him how he can afford to go out, yet he can't afford to pay you back. because maybe hi... (read in full...)
I can't seem to orgasm - is there something wrong with me?!
Q. I am sixteen years old. My boyfriend and I have had sex over sixty times, and I've never orgasmed once! Sometimes it feels better then other times.. but I can never actually GET there. Is something wrong with me!? I need tips....
A. 8 August 2008: hi there. i am 17 and was in a realtionship with my ex for two years. every time we had sex i almost never had an orgasm, yeah sure it felt good, but i never actually had an orgasm or 'came'. he said he really enjoyed sex and it was great f... (read in full...)
How do I start to get to know this girl better?
Q. Stuff about me is I'm 16, I'm pretty slim cuz of the high metabolism and good looking. I'm on the computer like 75% of the time but am willing to go out anywhere and anytime. I have goals to go to college and get a good job. And like most gentleman ...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there.
well to find out if she has a boyfriend you culd say something like
"will your boyfriend mind if i take you to the prom?"
this way she could tell you if she has a boyfriend and how she feels towards him. if she says she has a boyfr... (read in full...)
I've had this crush for a long time, should I give up on him?
Q. I had a crush on this guy since March 2008, and it wasn't just the puppy-love kind. I felt really attracted to him. He was younger than me, but I felt it didn't matter, because he was still my classmate. Anyway, I gave up on him a week after I fell ...
A. 8 August 2008: hi there.
it says you'r 13-15, so you are still very young,and love and crushes could seem very much teh same thing.
the only thing i can say do is to still be mates but spend a bit of time alone, just talking about how you feel towards eac... (read in full...)
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