It seems like I'm always the one initiating the conversation. Does he like me? What do I do?
Q. Hello, So I'm gay, and I recently met someone online who is two years older than me. When I went to meet him, he told me that we have actually known each other for a very long time. He told me his full name and I was in shock, and I immediat...
A. 5 October 2010: I think he really likes you but as he said is really busy. I think that you are doing the right thing in neither smothering him, nor ignoring him. Let me end this with a quote, "There are all kinds of fun things ahead... Im sure... Keep up that ... (read in full...)
The answer in the face of question
Q. I've been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Things were awesome at first! But my fears became true, the honeymoon phase ended and now all we seem to do is fight, argue, and not get along. I can't say that the ...
A. 15 April 2009: I am so sorry, if it were in my power now, I would wrap my arms around you. You are a good person who is suffering. I suspect that your spouse is also a good person who is also suffering. I wish I could offer you and your partner advice on how to ... (read in full...)
Did he do something wrong or am I being over-sensitive?
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks. This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often t...
A. 19 January 2009: Hi Pastfirst, I must have been very unclear. I have no romantic feelings for my housemate, my feelings are for someone else that I was seeing until my housemate slept with him.
Griffo - Don't sweat the personal pronouns mate.... (read in full...)
Did he do something wrong or am I being over-sensitive?
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks. This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often t...
A. 18 January 2009: Hi Jake I don't seem to have explained the situation very well. They both knew how I felt about this guy. Nor was I playing 'hard to get,' or being aloof. Also, it's not the guy I like that's moving, it's my housemate. ... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair.
Q. I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair which is a turn off for me. I want to ask him to trim it, but I don't know how to ask him. He's very insecure and I don't want to make him feel bad. How can I suggest it without ...
A. 16 January 2009: It's just like the first rule of economics, people tend to do what is in their best interests so make it in his best interests to trim down there.
"You know, I could go further down on you if there wasn't all this hair in the way..."
Watch h... (read in full...)
I want to leave because I can't trust him any more.
Q. hello i have a question to ask should i stay or leave him alone. hi i am 24 yr old male from chicago, illinois i have a boyfriend who i have known for almost for two years and i been through so much with him. he had a stroke in feb 2007 when we ...
A. 15 January 2009: Hi Stephen
I don't know what the laws are in the US, but you need to have this guy kicked out with no prior notice in such a way that he has no claim over your belongings. If he trashes your stuff (or more likely sells it) it's highly unlikely... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like CRAP after finding out an old friend is in Playboy?
Q. Hey all, this is probably kind of a stupid situation, but I just found out a girl I went to high school with and was friends with is on the cover of the new Playboy lingerie magazine. Ever since I found this out (it was just yesterday) I have felt ...
A. 15 January 2009: I can understand only too well what you're feeling. About a year ago I moved in with a guy I had known on and off for about three years (we had mutual friends in common but didn't know each other very well). The truth is, my housemate is a s... (read in full...)
How do I stop being nervous around guys?
Q. hi i was woundering how do i relax arounds guys if a guy touched me i go weak in the kness and get nevervous and tense up.the last time i was in nightclub a guy had his arms around my waist and i felt very nervous and shy.i was weak in the kness.the ...
A. 14 January 2009: I'm not sure how you should become less nervous around guys. I'm less nervous now than I used to be, there are only two kinds of guys that make me nervous now: Creeps and guys I'm interested in (and the creeps are FAR more common).
As for acceptin... (read in full...)
I don't know what our status is?
Q. i met a man on the internet and originally it was just for slightly kinky sex which neither of us had tried before, this didn't really get started as we soon were contacting each other daily and seeing each other weekly.over the past 2 months, and I ...
A. 14 January 2009: Do you even know what you want from this? It obviously wasn't something that was planned. Relationships are not the clean cut, romanticized fiction you see on TV, they're messy. Chances are, he has just as little an idea of what's going on as you ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my b/f or go for the other guy?
Q. Hi guyz,my case is, i have been in a relationship for a year 6 months, i loved ths guy alot but he things are sometimes not good between us,he lied to me about somethings but i stood by him after he explained his reasons and never did it again. we ...
A. 14 January 2009: Hi Pawa,
If you were really in love with your current boyfriend would you be thinking about leaving him? From what you've said you seem dissatisified with the contribution he is making to the current relationship. You really need to examine ... (read in full...)
What must I do to keep him?
Q. i'm a gay guy, aged 23 and i fell in love with this guy, aged 36. i really, genuinely love this guy and would do anything for him. however, he is the type that looks around, not only to other guys but women also. last weekend he broke up with me and ...
A. 14 January 2009: Sweetheart, my heart melts for you, you poor thing! Being in love with a player can be torture. Personally I think if he's not going to be monogomous with you (and I doubt that he will be) then you should break up, however that's not your ... (read in full...)
Anyone had sex on a first date that turned into a relationship?
Q. I just wanted to know if anyone has ever had sex with a guy on a first date and it turned into a relationship? Men and Women please both answer. Thank you....
A. 14 January 2009: My longest relationship (4 years) started when we met in a club and had what was supposed to be a one night stand.
My best mate was also in a relationship that lasted four years that started with a random hookup, he's now in a one year relation... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I can get pregnant if my boyfriend rubs his penis and ejaculates on my vagina when I have my panties on?
Q. Is there a chance I can get pregnant if my boyfriend rubs his penis and ejaculates on my vagina when I have my panties on? There wasn't any direct contact but my panties got wet, I'm wondering if some of the sperm may have passed through....
A. 12 January 2009: Highly unlikely, but possible that you could have got pregnant from this, in much the same way that it's highly unlikely, but possible the a flash flood will tear through a car parts yard and leave behind a fully assembled automobile.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating with my cousin!
Q. My Bf thinks I'm cheating, with my COUSIN but he doesn't know he's my cousin. Ok yesterday I went with my guy cousin to the atm, he's never met the cousin coz he's just visiting, well as we leave the atm we see him coming in a car, but my cousin ...
A. 12 January 2009: I'd be cautious about this boyfriend of yours, over-reacting like this over such a small thing and accusing you of cheating on him just because you were walking down the street with someone else is indicitative of a larger issue here IMHO. The fact ... (read in full...)
I slept with him when drunk, now I regret it so much!
Q. About 3 months ago I got immensely hammered (drunk) and lost all my limits completely. My friend had recently split up with his girlfriend, however i'd been single for quite a while. His ex girlfriend was my best friend. I've always had suspicions ...
A. 12 January 2009: First of all if you think he's going to tell his ex/your best friend the best thing to do is pre-empt him. It would be a lot nicer hearing it from you rather than hearing him using it maliciously.
Also, if you feel your safety is being threaten... (read in full...)
In love but hugely sexually incompatable - what to do!?
Q. I am a 25 year old gay man in a very loving and committed relationship of four years. Everything is perfect except for the fact that I have the strongest of desires to have sex at least every day while my boyfriend would be happy with once a week...
A. 12 January 2009: I've found myself in a similar predicament some time ago. I was the one with the lower sex drive and if your partner is anything like me it's not because he doesn't find you attractive or is cheating on you. I know you're frustrated and probably ... (read in full...)
His age is messing with my head.
Q. I met this guy at a bar, sort of a friend of a friend, and I spent the night talking to him and having a great time. Afterwards, though, I found out ... I'm five+ years older than him. He's 23; I just turned 29. Is this sketchy? We've been email...
A. 12 January 2009: My ex and I were five years apart, it was never an issue for us, we got together when I was 19 and my ex was 24, we broke up when I was 23 and my ex was 28 (we're still good friends).
Do you honestly have problems with having friends that are... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom I'm dating?
Q. This is really embarrassing and I really don't know who else to ask. I am a 26 year old man, who because I lost my job had to move back in with my mother. The problem is that mom, now wants to know everything I do, who I hang out with, which is ...
A. 12 January 2009: When should you tell her: As soon as possible, the longer you leave it the more akward you will feel not only that but I imagine your girlfriend wouldn't like the idea of you concealing her, nor would your mother like the idea that you feel you have ... (read in full...)
We are arguing all the time and I'm not sure what is going on anymore
Q. hi thank you for taking the time out to read this, well to start things off, i have been with my girlfriend for nearly 15 months now, i am 17 she is 16, anyway when we started going out she was only 15, we got to talking about diffrent things and ...
A. 8 January 2009: Ryan, my heart ached for you when finally managed to get to the end of your essay.
Look, I know this is all really intense for you now, and I understand that you love this girl.
What you need to understand is that you need to look after yours... (read in full...)
Why is he sleeping with me when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Hay i need help!! Here is the Story. I am gay and this lad is straight, His name is Lloyd. I know him from school we used to hang out after school get drunk on a Friday night and stuff. Then one night he courts me and this over straight lad doing ...
A. 8 January 2009: This guy is one of those people who will fuck anyone they can. Use it as a means to move on and increase your self-respect and self-worht beause you are much better than this! Not that there's anything wrong with casual sex (protected) but there are ... (read in full...)
Too many jokes... is he joking or being serious?
Q. Is this his way of trying to be funny? He does have stories to tell.. Like getting his privates stuck in a zipper! Ouch! Or riding a bike with shorts (yeah small) on a chilly day. Lol. And these are things that he brought up on our first phone ...
A. 8 January 2009: Heya Sounds to me like your commedian is using humour in more than one way: Firstly it seems that he wants to impress you.. How many times have you seen people sigh that they want a man with a Good Sense of Humour (GOSH)? Secondly, it sou... (read in full...)
Living with my boyfriend but messing around with his friend!
Q. Hi I'm a 22 year old male whos been with my boyfriend now for close on two years. I moved in with him last October and everythings been fine...until now. Last weekend I kissed one of his best friends and don't know what to do. I first met his ...
A. 20 July 2008: You don't seem so keen on your boyfriend but are excited by this new guy. Do the right thing by yourself and your BF, breakup with him. THEn see if this new guy is interested.... (read in full...)
She said she had been "forcing her feelings" to try to make it work. Is this possible?
Q. I was wondering, is it possible for someone to fake feelings because they want to be with someone. I was seeing a girl for about three weeks and she seemed very into me...lots of texts saying how much she liked me, etc. She stayed over at mine on ...
A. 11 July 2008: Some people are just good at dating, jumping from one relationship to the next without attaching much meaning to them. They go through all the motions, the text messaging ect only to discover much to their surprised that they aren't actually in ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned, is it normal for a guy to still have a few feelings for his ex?
Q. I have a concern: Ok i hav dated my bf for a year now. Back in January he told me he still had some feelings for his ex (the reason y they dindt work out was cuz they cudnt get married..our culture is diff -- we ask parents approval and her...
A. 11 July 2008: 1. Yes it is normal for someone to have feelings for their ex, especially if they are not together because of his choice (although personally I think he is hiding behind his parents and just used them as an excuse to break up with his ex. 2. M... (read in full...)
Should I just be patient and wait for his call?
Q. Hi, I just recently got back from a vacation where i met an absolutly wonderful guy. He wrote me a little letter before we left, and we were romantically involved. He gave me his cell number, even though it went into the ocean and doesn't work. I al...
A. 1 May 2008: I agree with the previous posters, calling him on his home number is probably going to creep him out and make you look obsessive and desperate.... (read in full...)
Is she my friend or is she just screwing with my head?
Q. I have a rather involved question. In high school I developed romantic feelings for my best friend who was also a female. At the time though I wasn't totally willing to admit to it, and I really tried to push those feelings away, and as such I ...
A. 1 May 2008: I think your friend eels that she has something to prove, she can see that you have moved on and now she's trying to convince both you and her that she has as well. I don't think that her behaviour is intentionally directed at making you feel ... (read in full...)
He hardly talks to me on his own. The relationship is going downhill, as his school results!... What to do?
Q. HI... I'm sure youi get like a million letters with the same problem as i seem to be havin, but that doesnt change the fact that it makes you feel pretty much miserable. Well.. here goes... My boyfriend and i have been together for two and a half y...
A. 30 April 2008: You seem to be making him feel inadequate, his poor results shown up even more by your good results. The fact that he is confiding in others and not you seems to indicate that there is a real rift devoloping between the two of you. Maybe you should ... (read in full...)
Should I risk friendship if there is the chance of a relationship?
Q. Hi guys hope that your advices help me to take a decision. I really like my flatmate. I'm 30 and she is 29. We live together for 3 months now. We get along very well and I really enjoyed her company. I'm trying to decide if I tell her what I'm fee...
A. 30 April 2008: Annon, truthfully only you are in the position to best decide how to proceed. If you feel that you need to build up more o a rapport with her before telling her directly how you feel then go for it! :oD... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I give up?
Q. ive been working with a guy since last october, im really into him and i was unsure whether he felt the same, the people we work with tell me he talks about me, saying how nice i am and that he'd love to take me out. But yesterday was my last day ...
A. 29 April 2008: When I get a number I wait two days before calling it. It may be that your co-worker forgot to pass your number on. Why not pop back in there in a weeks time to say hello to your old co-workers and invite them out to drinks to celebrate your new ... (read in full...)
Help! I lost my erection!
Q. I have recently started seeing a girl, this is the first girl i have been dating for several months now. She is extremely nice and sexually stunning. After seeing her a few times we decided to make the next step to the bedroom. Unfortunately ha...
A. 29 April 2008: You might need a larger sized condom, if it's too tight you won't be able to get blood pumping into your cock.... (read in full...)
Should I risk friendship if there is the chance of a relationship?
Q. Hi guys hope that your advices help me to take a decision. I really like my flatmate. I'm 30 and she is 29. We live together for 3 months now. We get along very well and I really enjoyed her company. I'm trying to decide if I tell her what I'm fee...
A. 29 April 2008: I'm in exactly the same situation (only my flatmate isn't going anywhere). If you are going to tell her I recommend that you tell her before she leaves on this 10 day trip for two reasons: Firstly, it will give her a chance to sort things out in ... (read in full...)
In love with my flatmate ,but he's taken, should I give it a go?
Q. I have some strong emotional feelings for my housemate G. When we first met three years ago it was just for casual sex as I wasn't ready for a relationship with anyone after comming out of a four year relationship. Then he started dating someone ...
A. 29 April 2008: Thanks for your reply Waterloo, as for what have I got to lose? Well we live together, it would make things very akward for the two of us to be just friends afterwards if G said no, even more akward if he started seeing someone else. I don't want ... (read in full...)
I've been thinking about trying guys?
Q. Ok guys i have tons of questions so bear with me. Ok so i've been thinking about trying guy cause girls just cause all sorts of problems. But i have LOTS of issues... 1. I want to expierament but idk anyone who would want to 2. I don't know any ...
A. 29 April 2008: "Ok so i've been thinking about trying guy cause girls just cause all sorts of problems"
Guys cause just as many problems. Just decide who you are attracted to, guys, girls or both.... (read in full...)
It's a sticky situation but I think I'm really in love! What do you think?
Q. My married ex-boyfriend introduced me to his single brother by setting us up on a casual date that wasn't supposed to go anywhere, since he was gonna meet my bestfriend from out of town...Long story short, no matter how it happended it's been 2 ...
A. 29 April 2008: Of course your ex is going to feel akward having you at family functions and not want you there. Tough luck for him! I totally agree with your boyfriend, that you should attend with him and let your ex sort out his own problems.... (read in full...)
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