My ex won't talk to me ever again!
Q. Hello everyone, There is a girl I had a relationship with, but for the most part we've stayed good friends. We broke up because she liked another guy, and i got pretty angry at her, but then apologized, and we went back to being friends. However...
A. 5 July 2008: It looks to me although you say you want your friendship back to how it was, you in fact really want to give your relationship another go and feel it will be easier to judge when the right time might be to approach her about this if you're still ... (read in full...)
My ex husband wants to come back, but now I can't find him and I don't know what he's up to. Can anyone help me understand?
Q. hi everyone, i just dont know what to think or do about the situation im in, after 20 yrs of marrage, my husband decided he wanted to leave, he also decided that he wanted a younger woman, so i decided to file for my divorce, place a restraining ...
A. 5 July 2008: If your ex wants to talk to you about a possibe reconciliaton let him contact you. I don't think that it's right your son is in the middle of all this, and what proof do you have that this conversation actually took place between your ex and your ... (read in full...)
I caught new wife having sex for money!
Q. This is true. Ive been married since February and Ive recently caught my new wife of 24 (im 39) cheating. The problem is she was cheating with a previous "client" for money. She used to be a dancer at a strip club. She claims there was no ...
A. 5 July 2008: I agree with DiovanLestat here, your reaction to your wife cheating on you seems to be void of any real emotion. It's like you knew what she was capable of when you married her, was half expecting it to happen and was not really that suprised! You ... (read in full...)
I'm going to be married and miss having a crush on a guy!
Q. I'm sorry this is so long.. but I wanted to get in as much details as possible and PLEASE read it I really want some input. Okay I'm feeling so confused and worried. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, and best friends with him...
A. 5 July 2008: I get the feeling you're starting to think the grass is greener on the other side......
This will unsettle you in your relationship and it's what's making you compare your boyfriend with other men. Do you want a more exciting man in your life? You ... (read in full...)
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A secret email account... What else is he hiding?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused at the moment. I have a lovely boyfriend whom I have been with for many years - we both love eachother very much and he means more then the world to me. Recently I discovered he had a second email address that he...
A. 24 June 2008: All the questions you have just asked us you really need to ask him face to face, only he has the answers there...
Obviously there are things on that account that he knows you would not approve of, maybe emails sent by other women, contacts you know... (read in full...)
Can a relationship ever work out if you've split a couple of times before?
Q. Hi everyone - can a relationship ever work out if you've split a couple of times before? I had been with my partner for 4 years when I ended the relationship. Although we didn't live together, I felt that we were at different points in our li...
A. 18 June 2008: If you ended the relationship the last time because your feelings had changed and you feel no differently towards him now, there's no point going back and trying to make yourself feel something that is no longer there.
You could remain friends if y... (read in full...)
I can't take it anymore, my ex won't stop calling and it's messing with my head!!
Q. So I took everyone's advice on here and stopped calling my EX. He moved across country and didn't want to be with me--Fine. I'm learning to accept it. Now comes the fun part---he won't stop calling me. He called me on Saturday, twice on Sunday,...
A. 18 June 2008: You need to ask yourself if he wants to talk about a possible reconsiliation if (a) you still love and want to be with him and (b) if you can cope with a long distance relationship or whether you might be better off calling it a day and moving on.
I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still in love with his ex, but wants to be with me, what should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months now, he was previoulsy married for 6 years with 2 little girls. He is in the process of finalizing the divorce in which he filed for but he is still in love with his ex. They didn't get ...
A. 16 June 2008: Well it might work for him, but I doubt you're going to be happy knowing you come second in his affections, it will lead to resentment, and I think he is being quite unfair in telling you this, hardly a strong foundation for a new relationship is ... (read in full...)
She more or less ignores me - Help!!
Q. She is waiting to be with her text man. even though they have never met. No sex just text. She writes in her diary that he is what she allways wanted in a man and feels nothing for me, It reads they will be together one day, she has been playing me ...
A. 16 June 2008: I'm not sure that I agree with the fact you read her diary. Equally the way she is treating you is not good either, but quite obviously you need to know where you stand with your partner. Does she know you know about her text friend, or do you know ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me twice and I just can't trust him! Is there no hope for us?
Q. Hi, My husband of 12 years cheated on me twice last year and we have been trying to rebuild our relationship ever since. Tonight (a year later) is the first night he has gone out alone with mates and I am shocked how little I trust him. Even ...
A. 13 June 2008: This is something I say time and time again, taking a cheating husband back is one thing, forgetting the infidelity and the hurt it caused you is another....
You have decided to give him a second chance and now you find the insecurity that the affa... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think too much emphasis is put on age these days with regard to having children. Many women are finding that due to careers or simply lack of finding the right partner in their 20's or 30's that they are settling down later in life. If you are fit ... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think too much emphasis is put on age these days with regard to having children. Many women are finding that due to careers or simply lack of finding the right partner in their 20's or 30's that they are settling down later in life. If you are fit ... (read in full...)
Can he really change after sleeping with an escort in our marital home?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 15 years, my husband never showered me with the love and affection I craved for. We have 3 beautiful children. I went away with the children and found out that he had an Escort in our house two days in a row. When I ...
A. 11 June 2008: Sleeping with an escort is one thing, but to do it in your family home is disgraceful and disrespectful to both you and your children. Forgiving him for his infidelity is one thing, but to forget is another, for you will remember what he has done ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my boyfriend, not someone I sleep with - but how do I calm down my worries before I lose whatever we have?
Q. i have recently started seeing an ex boyfriend again, we have been going out, talking and sleeping together, like old times, but are currently not boyfriend and girlfriend, this is his choice rather than mine, as he feels we should take it slow. ...
A. 11 June 2008: It sounds as if you have no doubts about this relationship, but maybe he isn't too sure just yet and as you say wants to take things slow so that he does not make the same mistake twice. There's no saying he wants someone else, but if you are ... (read in full...)
I like my work colleague but I hear rumours that he is interested in someone else! Can I take a risk and tell him?
Q. I work very close with a guy at work and have found myself falling for him over the past year. We get on very well and have even had a drunk kiss on my birthday, however nothing else was said about it. I dont know if I should say that I like him and ...
A. 11 June 2008: Well nothing ventured nothing gained, why not invite him out for a drink or a meal and take things from there, he can only say he doesn't want to get involved romantically, there's no reason for it to affect your friendship.
He may well be inte... (read in full...)
Spotted Dick. Has he got his just desserts for cheating?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit and we always had a great sex life until he started a new job as a labourer. Since then we've had sex about 10 times in the last 7months!! He says he doesn't want to have sex because he keeps...
A. 10 June 2008: Your boyfriend needs to see a doctor to find out what the problem is, it maybe nothing or something, but if it's affecting his sex life I can't understand why he hasn't seen his GP yet.
If it is an STD you will also need to get checked out agai... (read in full...)
Might my son's father snatch him from me?
Q. i have a 14 month old son by a turkish man and he wants me to take him to see him im being warned he might snatch him any views on this ...
A. 10 June 2008: Is he asking you to take him to Turkey, or somewhere in the U.K?
The thing is, if you are taking your son out of the country to visit his father, you have to use your gut instinct.....Is he the sort of man who would snatch your son, you know him,... (read in full...)
Have you any advice as to how I approach finding a compatible long-term partner?
Q. I did not lose my virginity til I was 32 - less than a year ago. I am quite attractive, funny, intelligent and love women although they never seem to give me a chance. I have had short sexual relations with two women - both of whom I unashamedly ...
A. 10 June 2008: Well I suppose playing the field is one way of improving your sexual experience, but I doubt it will get you what you're looking for, a long term partner.
You have dealt with the virginity problem, but I think you are now dwelling on the fact that... (read in full...)
Should I believe that there is someone else because of the way I feel neglected?
Q. Hi all. I really need some advice. I'm married just under a year with my husband. We have been together for 5 years. Like any relationships, we had our bumps but stuck through with each other. Recently, when he was away on business for 2 w...
A. 10 June 2008: Have you asked your husband if there is someone else in his life, or are you too frightened that your suspisions may be true?
Obviously there is a problem with your relationship if he is saying that you have changed and you no longer have sex. Apar... (read in full...)
Am I being just another married man who wants to have his cake & eat it?
Q. I should start by saying that this is going to sound very stupid coming from a 57 year old man, but it is honestly causing me a great dilemma. Over the last 6 years we have spent many fantastic holidays in Phuket, staying in the same res...
A. 10 June 2008: I think you are massaging your ego while you let your Thai lover massage other parts of you! You have a wife of 35 years, and from what you write you have a happy marriage and a lot of respect for your wife. You no doubt have children, what would ... (read in full...)
I am getting back together with my boyfriend of 8 years, do you think he will change?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and have a child with him. Last December, I broke it off with him because we never spend time together. We had time to spend together but it's more like we were roomates. For example, he would be in the ...
A. 6 June 2008: If you have already moved in with him you must have some idea whether or not he has changed, it may be early days and too soon to tell, but you have probably jumped in too quickly, maybe you should have started dating again, taken it a lot slower ... (read in full...)
My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job opportunity in another country... how should I handle this?
Q. My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job 'opportunity'. He works for a finance company who wants to set up offices in Australia (either Sydney or Melbourne they are not sure which at the moment) and they have asked him ...
A. 6 June 2008: This should be a mutual decision and you should not be pressurized, you will both have to weigh up the pro's and con's before a final decision is made which means you will need to discuss your fears and reasons for not wanting to go, maybe he can ... (read in full...)
It's his ex. And it's his ex. And it's his ex again. I don't know what to do.
Q. Argh, I am so confused and there probably is not answer, but maybe someone can share something? I began dating my boyfriend casually, we live in separate cities and so communicated alot through email and sending things in the mail and stuff. He wa...
A. 5 June 2008: I don't think there is any point in you continuing with this relationship if you are in any doubt as to whether he'll keep his word about severing contact with his ex as it seems to be the root to all your problems. I can understand your ... (read in full...)
Should I cut my ex out of our kids lives?
Q. Hey, just wondering if anybody had any advice for me. I split with my ex last year and now she's starting playing silly games. She arranged to take the kids out on Sunday (I look after them) and I'd made 100% sure with her that it was fine for her ...
A. 5 June 2008: Unless your ex cannot be trusted with the children whilst they are in her care, I do not think you should consider cutting her out of their lives altogether as they may resent you for that in the future.
However, I think you need to sit your ex down... (read in full...)
How can I improve my relationship with my ex? It is still so awkward!!
Q. Oh dear, hoping some people can help me out here. I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago. I felt really bad about it and tried to let him down as best I could but it was hard as I think he is a good guy. We are on a committee together and I assume...
A. 5 June 2008: Some people find rejection hard to deal with, so he may need some time to lick his wounds and move on.
What was it you said at the Christmas party that upset him so much?
He may still have feelings for you which is why he cannot be your friend a... (read in full...)
I feel as I am running out of solutions and am considering prostitution...
Q. i want to be a prostitute i am struggling with money at the moment and i need some to help me life and enjoy myself i live in england does anyone no of how i can do it or of any agencies to call ? ...
A. 4 June 2008: I'm not sure if you're for real, but just in case you are, do you really think anyone on here is going to give you advise on how to get into prostitution?
DON'T THINK SO !!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Sad and confused
Q. Hi all, just wanted to share my story, and maybe get some advice, or new views on this So I can deal with the hurting… A year ago, I met a girl and we became rlly good friends. However, after a few weeks of hanging out a lot we started to get a ...
A. 4 June 2008: I'm afraid that you were being used as a safety net, someone to fall back on when the ex wasn't interested. I think you had all the right qualities and she liked that about you, even cared about you, but for some reason she could never let go of her ... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 3 June 2008: It is bad enough finding out your husband had an affair three years ago, but to have to deal with the fact that he fathered a child you knew nothing about is another blow to you. The time frame makes no difference and to find out after so long must ... (read in full...)
I'm going through a divorce and feeling confused any advice?
Q. I am going through this divorce after 25 yrs of marraige we have both had an affair but I dont want our marraige to end he has moved out and we are still friends we have this wonderful 10 yr old daughter still at home who is doing ...
A. 2 June 2008: You should not be pressurized into divorcing your husband if you feel you are not ready to go down that road yet...
You have separated and it seems you have kept things amicable, which is good news for your daughter. You are talking to your husb... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that if I got into a relationship with him again he will dump me for somone else again, as it happened in the past!
Q. 3 years ago my ex dumped me for someone else. At the time I was heartbroken and it took me months to get over it. Now, 3 years later, he's dumped her and we have started meeting up occasionally and I have had sex with him a couple of times....
A. 1 June 2008: With the history you two have you know you are taking a chance with him, you have to ask yourself if it's a chance worth taking?
He could well be on the rebound you know the old saying better the devil you know!
I suggest you take things real slo... (read in full...)
He came home from working abroad and I think he is not as interested?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who's moved interstate for work. He told me he's coming home in a few weeks, but has been booked out by his friends and family and wont have time to see me. I'm not upset that he's spending ...
A. 31 May 2008: How nice of him to fit you in! No you're not being insensitive, he is!
Think you need to clarify your relationship and work out where you fit in, if you are under the impression you are his girlfriend then you have every right to feel put out and ... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife now that she cant have sex for medical reasons?
Q. DEAR CUPID I AM MARRIED FOR 15 YEARS MY WIFE HAD AN OPERATION ON HER BACK AND NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX SHE HAS LOST HER DRIVE BUT I AM STILL VERY RANDY. DO I SLEEP AROUND ON HER AND NOT SAY ANYTHING.SHE DOES NOT WANT ANY SEX ANYMORE PLEASE ...
A. 31 May 2008: This one's easy...Ask yourself if the boot was on the other foot and it was you with the back problem and couldn't have sex would you find it acceptable if she slept around to fulfill her needs? Bet you would have a problem with it!
Do to othe... (read in full...)
It is so hard to be just his friend with benefits because I love him
Q. I fell in love with my best friend brother. We started out as friends and eventaully became lovers. As a result, feeling got involve, mainly mines. I wanted to take our relationship to the next level. as for him, he was not ready to commit. ...
A. 31 May 2008: I agree with DiovanLestat here, the writing is on the wall... You are in love with your friend, he has not mislead you into thinking that you have a future together other than frindship and has an open honest relationship with you.
If you are find... (read in full...)
Do you think a 20yr old guy is too young to be dating a mother and become a father figure?
Q. I am a 20 year old guy who is still living with his parents at the moment ( i am currently looking for a apartment to move out). i have a decent paying job and i have begun dating a 25year old mother of 1. My parents dont think im ready to do this, ...
A. 31 May 2008: O.K. so your girlfriend is a single mother...nothing wrong with that in my eyes or yours it seems.
Do you love her? Do you think you could be a good role model for her son? Do you see yourself being with her for a long time? If the answers to thes... (read in full...)
My partner is so unsociable and forbids me to go places... because "he's a man." If only he would spend the evening with me alternatively, but he won't!
Q. I have 2 children with my partner and i'm finding it really dificult not being able to go out. At the moment i have 2 weeks off work and my bf just had a week off. I would love to go to a fancy dress party my friend's having, i haven't seen any of m...
A. 31 May 2008: What would he do if you said "I'm going out tonight, will you be home to look after the children or should I arrange a sitter"? You are a grown woman with two children why do you ask his permission? Does he ask your permission to go out or is that ... (read in full...)
Has he really got issues, or am I just trying to believe he has?
Q. My ex broke up with me a week ago. During the relationship he was controlling, extremely jealous and insecure... but I still don't know if he's normally like that or if it's actually because I made him that way. He's a bit mean with his family wheh ...
A. 23 May 2008: Sorry a decent 1 whatever a woman has done in the past does not give a man the right to bully and intimidate her, if he has a problem with her past he should move on and get out of the relationship, his hang ups are his problem and he should learn ... (read in full...)
Has he really got issues, or am I just trying to believe he has?
Q. My ex broke up with me a week ago. During the relationship he was controlling, extremely jealous and insecure... but I still don't know if he's normally like that or if it's actually because I made him that way. He's a bit mean with his family wheh ...
A. 23 May 2008: Why are you wasting your time and energy trying to analyze why this guy is doing the things he is.
Of course you think it's your fault he's like that he probably tells you time and time again it is, any excuse will do, your mouth, your past ect.... (read in full...)
A two-year marriage with big problems. Advice please.
Q. I'm married and have a 1 year old kid, I've been married for 2 years and already their are problems, I'll make it quick and straight to the point. We moved to a new area, and got to know everyone they all seemed nice, I had the baby and then couple ...
A. 23 May 2008: Obviously you have spoken to him about how him taking the word of others over you has hurt and confused you as to why he didn't trust you. Has he said he now believes you and knows that what the others said was just gossip? Of course you need to ... (read in full...)
Tell me everything I need to know (and already know) about married men who cheat?
Q. I'm married too...He's nearly 20 years older than me. We've been attracted to each other for months after we met professionally, but I didn't think it was anything more than flirting. I perceived him as someone who had set limits for himself and ...
A. 21 May 2008: You are also married why do you need advise about cheating men because you are a woman thinking of doing it does not make you any different to him! YOU ARE BOTH AS BAD AS EACH OTHER!!!!!!!!
Affairs wreck people's lives, destroy family units and in m... (read in full...)
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