Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history"?
Q. Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history." he left the marriage for another woman who he has been with for over 5 yrs. now. there were other women before her. He is extremely dishones...
A. 12 October 2013: He definitely wants something from you and is trying to lay the groundwork before he asks for whatever it is. I really hope you tell him to get lost when the time comes though. Plus I agree that you should go after the alimony/child support you are ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to approach him once he's no longer my teacher?
Q. Hi there, I am a 18 (soon to be 19) years old. This year, i decided to carry on an extra year at my sixth form to improve my grades, instead of going straight to uni. I have been put in a physics class with a new teacher, who i think i am reall...
A. 12 October 2013: I don't see why not, provided it's once you have left 6th form altogether. The fact you are over 18 and there voluntarily makes this much different to normal student/teacher crushes in my opinion. If you met him on a night out there wouldn't be a ... (read in full...)
Help I have pushed him away
Q. Help I am ruining my relationship! Okay my boyfriend is sweet and caring. All he thought about was me. Wanted to spend time with me. Always texting me. Holding me tight in bed. Was so good. But I became a nag constant. Always horrible. Never ...
A. 9 October 2013: I think you need to stop sucking up to him now. He's made you feel like everything is your fault but it doesn't sound like he's been great to you either. I mean you loan him money and he doesn't even text back to say thank you?! That's not on! ... (read in full...)
First boyfriend and first time in love... but he changed and stopped courting me after we had sex. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys! I'd like to ask for an advice. I am turning 29 and have my first bf. He's my co worker. After a week of being bf and gf, we had sex. He was the same man I wrote last september. I felt cheap when I gave myself to him. I only go with the flow ...
A. 2 October 2013: I'm sorry but I don't think this man likes you as much as you like him. I think he knew you wouldn't have sex if you weren't in a relationship, so he told you that's what he wanted too to get you to sleep with him. Now he got what he wanted so he's ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that she wants to get herself off after sex?
Q. I'm 36, I've been married to my wife for 3 years and we never had any big sex-related problem or issue. Since a few months ago I started noticing that she was not satisfied anymore after we were done in bed. Not that she would tell me before, but ...
A. 1 October 2013: As others have said, 'after we were done' is not accurate here. You may be done, she is not. My boyfriend is good in bed and I do enjoy sex with him, but once he is finished that is it. Sometimes I'm finished too so its ok, but he never seems to ... (read in full...)
Is this just a lack or courage or a sign I shouldn't end it?
Q. I'm struggling to let go of a bad relationship and need to know whether what I am feeling is normal? We've been together for over 4 years and I love him a lot, but we've had lots of problems in that time, mainly to do with the fact I've never ...
A. 30 September 2013: Thanks for your replies everyone, I really appreciate you taking the time to answer my question. I think there is a lot about our relationship worth saving which is what makes it so hard. I also know myself, and one night a week together will ne... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: So as well as cheating on him, she told you all about her boyfriend's sexual preferences and claims he is rubbish in bed? Classy lady! Have you ever stopped to think what she's says to him about you when you can't hear? Listen I think you are ma... (read in full...)
New to sex and finding it uncomfortable. Any advice?
Q. Sup everyone. So I lost my virginity a few days ago with this girl I'm in a LTR with. We ended up having sex twice that night, and once more yesterday. The thing is I'm having issues/weird feelings while having sex. This might get graphic but this ...
A. 30 September 2013: First of all, it sounds as though the angle you are trying to insert it at has a lot to do with it. My boyfriend sometimes tries to push in and he's totally misjudged the angle so he ends up bending himself slightly and not getting fully in. Get her ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in expecting my boyfriend to spend less time with his friends?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 28 years old. He is the love of my life and the best person I have been with. We both always say how Much we love each other and have stated we want a future together. We are both saving at the moment but are thinking of ...
A. 30 September 2013: I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, in fact my boyfriend acts in the same way and it drives me mad. The problem is, even though I agree with you, your boyfriend and his friends do not. They still like to act in the same way as they ... (read in full...)
How Long Do You Pay For EVERYTHING When Dating?
Q. At what point do you start to split the bills, if you will, when dating? I'm 3 weeks or so into it with this girl, and I'm starting to really feel the burn on my wallet. I know she's not a "gold digger" and I'm almost more than certain she'd be fine ...
A. 17 September 2013: Honestly, I have never expected a man to pay everything for me at any stage of the dating process. It's nice to be treated now and again of course, but I would always offer to pay at least half and would never expect anyone to pay my way. I earn my ... (read in full...)
Isn't it an actor's responsibility to keep her partner's psyche safe?
Q. How do actors' spouses feel about love scenes in play or Sensual Couple Dance? Recently I had this same experience as a partner to my performer girlfriend. This was first time I saw her doing this sensual piece on stage, slow routine half in ...
A. 16 September 2013: No I'm sorry, your psyche is your responsibility not hers. I understand that it must be hard to see her acting romantic towards someone else, but that's exactly what it is - acting. It is her job and if you can't accept it then your only choice is ... (read in full...)
How do I keep this rude and obnoxious man away from my wedding, yet still have my close friend attend?
Q. Dear All, I am getting married next year and I'm really happy about it. We are planning a very small, intimate wedding of about 25 people. My problem is that a couple of years ago, one of my closest friends left her husband, and started li...
A. 16 September 2013: I would use his creepy texts to you as the reason why he isn't invited. I'm sure your husband to be wouldn't want him at the wedding either after the way he was with you, so I would tell her that he crossed the line and neither of you would feel ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be seen as an "asexual" nice guy anymore. How can I change?
Q. I have been drilled from a young age to be a gentleman to women. I have been kind, courteous, a good listener in addition to being myself. However, the unspoken message from any woman I've dated (I've never been on a second date) is that they don't ...
A. 13 September 2013: To me you are doing everything right, apart from maybe flirting a bit more and making them laugh. A woman will want to see you again if you make her feel interesting and desirable. Usually a couple of small jokes at your own expense will help too ... (read in full...)
Straight guy with gay porn addiction!
Q. Straight guy with gay porn addiction. i seem to always want to fap off to hot pictures of guys. Usually its the jock type with the amazing bodies. I actually feel not much sexual attraction to them and the thought of gay sec doesn't really do much ...
A. 13 September 2013: Do you have dreams of looking like that yourself one day? I ask because I am currently eating right and working out with the intention of improving my body confidence. I have no desire to sleep with a woman at all, in fact the idea is a serious ... (read in full...)
How can you just not care if your partner had orgazm or not
Q. I am in my early thirties, met a guy in his late 30s. Went on a date several times and we had sex. It was so lousy that I am not sure that i want to see him again. I would understand if it was someone young and inexperienced, but he was married, now ...
A. 11 September 2013: I think it's likely that no-one has ever told him how bad he is. I mean you had an awful time and you didn't discuss it with him so chances are other women have done the same. If he's a good catch in other ways many women may have decided to put up ... (read in full...)
Wasn't the sex good for her? Why did she have to start masturbating immediately after I had my orgasm?
Q. If I slept with a girl after our 2nd date and after a 10-minute intercourse where I orgasmed, she proceeded to immediately start masturbating and even asked me to do it for her the next 20 mins. Does it mean she didn't enjoy the intercourse or ...
A. 11 September 2013: It means she didn't have enough stimulation during the intercourse itself to reach orgasm. This is very common for women, hardly any can orgasm from penetration alone. The clitoris isn't in the right spot for that to be possible for many. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
He's become distant, why do you think that is in my case?
Q. Hi everyone. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and recently he asked me to move in with him. I told him I wasn't sure because he spends most of his time with his friends and I don't want to move in to basically live myself (I've posted ...
A. 10 September 2013: Ok this is my last post on this because I don't think we will ever agree on this. However before I go I'd just like to ask you what you think I should have done differently? HE asked ME to move in with him. I said no due to the fact I don't thi... (read in full...)
He's become distant, why do you think that is in my case?
Q. Hi everyone. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and recently he asked me to move in with him. I told him I wasn't sure because he spends most of his time with his friends and I don't want to move in to basically live myself (I've posted ...
A. 10 September 2013: I am leaving him with a choice! I told him I wouldn't move in because I don't think we are both on the same page in terms of our level of commitment at the moment. I'm happy to carry on living apart right now and for the foreseeable future until he ... (read in full...)
He's become distant, why do you think that is in my case?
Q. Hi everyone. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and recently he asked me to move in with him. I told him I wasn't sure because he spends most of his time with his friends and I don't want to move in to basically live myself (I've posted ...
A. 10 September 2013: Hi again and thanks for your reply. While I do understand that it's all about give and take, I really disagree with you when you say it will be better when we share a living space. In fact this is the crux of my argument. At the moment we see ea... (read in full...)
He's become distant, why do you think that is in my case?
Q. Hi everyone. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and recently he asked me to move in with him. I told him I wasn't sure because he spends most of his time with his friends and I don't want to move in to basically live myself (I've posted ...
A. 10 September 2013: Hi it's the OP. Thanks very much for taking the time to reply, your answers have given me a lot to think about. Just to answer some of Wise's questions, I'm not a loner or a homebody at all. I have a good group of girlfriends who I see regularly,... (read in full...)
I want to have children with a man who is experiencing it for the first time too
Q. I recently met a lovely man off a dating site. We chatted for around two months online before we met, and we've been dating for around five months. He's a little older than me, I'm 24 and he's 32 but the age gap doesn't bother either of us....
A. 5 September 2013: I don't think you are being selfish at all, in fact I feel the same way myself (although with me it's more because I don't think I could handle being a stepmum and have to deal with the ex always being around and the fact he has a whole other family ... (read in full...)
She enjoys sex, so why not more often?
Q. Hi all This is going to be a long post, props to those who take the time to read it. :) Me and my gf have been together for 18 months now. We had our ups and downs, as most couples, for the most part we solved our issies, but there is one pro...
A. 5 September 2013: I totally agree with the others. If she has a reoccurring yeast infection I'm not surprised she is never in the mood. It's itchy, painful, uncomfortable and yucky, so the last thing she will want is anyone going down there while she feels like that. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to where my loyalties lie regarding friends!
Q. hi guys, just needing some advice regarding my best friend and an ex 'friend' of mine. Firstly i'm not a person that would ever expect my friends to choose between friends, but i'm confused as to where my best friends loyalty lies, loyalty is a big ...
A. 3 September 2013: Sometimes people lie to avoid having to tell an uncomfortable truth. I don't think that's right necessarily, but I do understand why it's easier for some people. I'd say your best friend (rightly or wrongly) lied about it to keep the peace. It's not ... (read in full...)
My friend feels threatened by me around guys and I don't know what to do
Q. Okay. I have a friend who i have known since i was a kid. We are pretty close. But she is a bit hard to get along with...especially when it comes to guys. Maybe it is because she was sexually abused as a child. So she has never had a real relat...
A. 3 September 2013: Your friend sounds a lot like mine (minus the abuse issues). When I met my boyfriend, I called her to tell her I'd met a guy and had a date. When I told her his name she got mad at me because she had apparently met him a few weeks before and decided ... (read in full...)
If he loves me, shouldn't he want to be intimate more often?
Q. My husband and I are celebrating our second wedding anniversary in October. We have been together for 6 years and have two beautiful but trying daughters. This weekend we had a huge fight and when I confronted him about the fact that he doesn't ...
A. 2 September 2013: Reading your follow up, it sounds to me that your husband views making an effort with you as something to do in order to get sex. Since he is happy in that area, he obviously feels no desire to do anything to please you. That is not on at all. S... (read in full...)
Where does her money go?
Q. For about 1 month now, I have started dating a stripper that I met in my neighborhood (she's my neighbor's niece). The relationship so far has been going great, her line of work hasn't interfered with our relationship. So far she has been very ho...
A. 2 September 2013: I'd just like to throw in another possibility for you. Perhaps she has financial responsibilities that she hasn't discussed with you yet. Maybe she gives money to family or has debts she is trying to pay back? A friend of mine always said she was ... (read in full...)
We had a fight and now I have to beg for sex but its been a month!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 3 years, we had our ups and downs. Currently i live 3 hours drive from him cause of work, will be going back in max 6 months. A month back we went for a weekend trip, it was a diaster as he was hanging out in...
A. 1 September 2013: I think you are the person who posted a while back about this, saying that on your couples trip your boyfriend ditched you to sit at the bar and got mad at you because you asked him to spend more time with you. Am I right? If so I really think you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?
Q. My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...
A. 31 August 2013: What you are suggesting is not healthy at all. I understand why you are so mad and what your girlfriend did was totally wrong, but you can't get back together with her with the intention of getting revenge later on. What kind of relationship would ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with my family? Why can't they be happy for my result?
Q. HI! A year ago a started the toughest job selection on the planet dreaming I would get my dream job. The firm said they would hire 12 people: 6 in Sept 12 and 6 in Sept 14. The competition was ruthless- I had to undergo 3 super selective exams an...
A. 29 August 2013: You did amazingly well and I'm so sorry your family don't seem to see that. I think they are either an incredibly negative bunch, or they are maybe a bit jealous of your achievements? Some people don't like it when others aim high as they thi... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll move in with boyfriend but end up spending most of my time alone
Q. Hi everyone, I'm looking for some second opinions on my situation if that's ok? So I'm 28 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He is 26. He has just asked me to move in with him but I'm not sure if I want to or not. The main re...
A. 28 August 2013: Hi everyone it's the OP here. Many thanks for commenting it's been really helpful. I think your answers basically sum up everything I've been thinking. As sad as it is, I think it's time for some hard decisions :( ... (read in full...)
What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?
Q. Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...
A. 27 August 2013: To me, anything that has sexual undertones. Kissing, oral, sexting, cyber-sex.... the works.... (read in full...)
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