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Delete Facebook also, makes life so much better, just try it for a week 3 months for me and feel so much better for not needed to check each day the weather before I go out or if some sad sack has a self inflicted hangover.
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I asked my ex to meet up and she totally ignored me. What does that mean?
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend are back in touch in after 3 months. I asked jer to meet up and she completely ignored the question and changed the subject. What does this mean!?!...
A. 21 January 2013: This is women full stop mate, I ask my ex now 2.5 years ex after 8 years together things about the future and where were going etc. ignored, but when she wants something do I ignore her, no chance, cos I've got manners and respect for others. You'll ... (read in full...)
Anyone been in a relationship with a Bf in Turkey? I'd like to help him get a Visa to visit me here. How could I help?
Q. So me and my turkish boyfriend have been going out for just over 5 months now. I met him back in august when i was there on holiday and spent a month with him, I then went back in December to see him again for just over a week and I met his pare...
A. 13 January 2013: This is so common with Turks, how have you allowed him to manipulate you with his lies.
Scam scam scam all day long of everyday. End this farce ASAP or you will be hurt and made a fool of sooner than you know ... (read in full...)
I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.
Q. Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...
A. 9 January 2013: I dont buy into all this crap that he can't love his gf enough. I loved the woman of my dreams and who I worked hard to get to be mine, the greatest time of my life was spent with her yet I made some silly mistakes, not got anybody pregnant hen not ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to reduce my sex drive?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "horny" when im around him, and when im not with him i thinkg a...
A. 9 January 2013: Never have I understood selfish men. I perform only to please and thru that the effort I put in usually gets rewarded with something back which in turn makes the whole experience many times better. Some men are truly appalling but the +side is I get ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 8 January 2013: This is truly an amazing post. It's something you don't want her to ever find out and I wouldn't be telling anybody. It will come out somehow if you put yourself in there lives, I'd back right off and make your own life better ... (read in full...)
Do you just know when you are with the right person?
Q. Is it true that you 'just know' when you are with the right person? I know I love my boyfriend a lot but I sometimes feel that there is something missing, that we are maybe too different and that I don't know if I can see myself with him long term. ...
A. 8 January 2013: You know when your with the right person, it's obvious to you, them and others surrounding the relationship. Luckily I found the right person and nothing else mattered, she was my world and more. Unfortunately I then ruined my world and others... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and cousin had sexual banter on facebook. Should I say something?
Q. got on my boyfrirends facebook and in his messages back and forth to my female cousin was dumb stuff like him flirting with her like she said i might stop by to see you next week when ill be in your area and he says you bringing the condoms or ...
A. 8 January 2013: He shouldn't be your bf anymore, he crossed a line and even worse with a family member, sorry isn't good enough cos that wasn't just harmless, arranging to do things behind your back, should be kicking him into touch immediately and having more ... (read in full...)
How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And how long after that did you tell your significant other?
Q. Here's just a general question for all of you out there: How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And for good measure, how long after that did you tell your significant other? I'm only curious because my boyfriend of ...
A. 7 January 2013: I was in a relationship then one day I went to watch my team Tottenham play away to Fulham in the premiership. Out of nowhere me and this women collided, I'm not even lying but it was instant, nothing else mattered I thought I knew what love was, ... (read in full...)
How do I salvage a friendship that I miss so much?
Q. I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've known this women for 4 years...up until a few months ago, we hardly saw each other. Back in may, we went to a concert and had a great time. We had a couple drinks after and had a nice conversation in ...
A. 7 January 2013: You shouldn't have sent that text you said you had, bad move. Now leave it alone, she has you where she wants. Your moving the goalposts she needs to find you and question herself. You'll know then ... (read in full...)
BF of 2 years either doesn't pick up the phone, or he's verbally abusive. Is this because he got sex and doesn't need me now?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years lives in a different city, I visited him 2 days back and we spent a day together. I came back to my work city yesterday. From yesterday he is not picking my calls or calling me back. Even if he picks up, he calls ...
A. 6 January 2013: So now you make this moron your ex bf. Disrespectful and doesn't care at all over your shambolic relationship or you. Just be the decent person as usual and say bye.... (read in full...)
Is this as sign that my husband is having an affair?
Q. My husband had a strand of hair wrapped around his penis. It wasn't mine. He says that our daughters hair that gets everywhere including our brushes in our room, has got caught in his clothes and worked its way down there. And that this is a common ...
A. 6 January 2013: You must have some other issues going on/doubts in your relationship if you're thinking like that regarding a hair. ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy not respond to my text when I ask a question?
Q. Hi there and thank you for the response back. There is this guy that I like that has this annoying habit of not responding to text messages when I ask a question. For example, tonight he sent me a text message where he was complaining about b...
A. 6 January 2013: If he was interested he would be more open in his messages to you and be looking forward to your contact. Your nothing more to him than a friend who he can text whenever he wants, he may string you along at times but that's for his own confidence ... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: I did the dating site thing many times but never realised the damage that it caused.i fucked up badly. Lost everything, but it was down to a confidence thing, I didn't meet any really, traded texts etc but it cost me the 1 thing I treasured and ... (read in full...)
Should I risk losing my family and friends for a guy?
Q. I'm in love with my boyfiend, but my family doesn't like him, but they haven't really gotten to know him.. they just know of his family, which i admit have some bad people in it, They think i can do better, they like my ex so much better, and don'...
A. 5 January 2013: My ex chose her family after 7/8 years we had, the most important person in your life should be the one you choose to be with, live with, have kids with, spend your life with. Don't bottle it because of others like my ex. Make yourself happy ... (read in full...)
Is my Gf cheating on me with my mate? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us. I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor. Then he st...
A. 5 January 2013: You know the answer I'm afraid to say. He isn't a mate and a line has been crossed. Your choice, but they should both be kicked into touch. Sorry ... (read in full...)
My ex husband is constantly fighting my current partner!
Q. Im a mother of twin girls aged 6 from my ex husband. We divorced offically in August last year and he has a great relationship with the twins. We were 18 and 20 when i became pregnant and we married when the twins were aged 8 months. We were far too ...
A. 4 January 2013: I will do more than just cause issues and fight to anybody who ever my ex gf goes out with, a line shouldn't be crossed. I never had my sons to not live with them, maybe you need to arrange a week or 2 week on off arrangement perhaps? I'm not able ... (read in full...)
I'm lost and confused about how he feels about me, whether I can get pregnant and why he stops talking to me!
Q. I have being seeing this guy for five months on and off every time we have sex he tells me he wants me to marry him and wants me to have his baby so he can keep me forever.. Is he crazy or am I? Another thing every time we have sex he cumms inside ...
A. 4 January 2013: Count the stars you've not got pregnant, delete his number and go to clinic and find a real man who isn't gonna mess you around and respect you ... (read in full...)
How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: It's whatever you keep from your partner that you know they wouldn't like In my opinion.
I have knowledge cos I ruined my life due to cheating but to psychically various other forms. I saw it as harmless, but my life has changed badly and I ca... (read in full...)
I may have been too honest with her about my feelings, but I never thought I would find another woman who I could be with, and I don't know how to handle things.
Q. Right, after the awful life I've had and been put thru by my ex gf and struggling to do anything for last 2n half years, somehow I've managed to find another lady out of the blue, because she knows of my past and my dislike for women and seeing them ...
A. 3 January 2013: I'm afraid I never will be able to get over her. I know she was the perfect 1 as she knew I was for her. It was surreal the way we was, magical and more. Just a shame as I lost and have a very long hard road ahead ... (read in full...)
How do I salvage a friendship that I miss so much?
Q. I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've known this women for 4 years...up until a few months ago, we hardly saw each other. Back in may, we went to a concert and had a great time. We had a couple drinks after and had a nice conversation in ...
A. 3 January 2013: Interesting. The facts are something I don't get and if she wasn't interested she should never have allowed you to meet her kids, under what term was u known as to them? Modern society of broken homes and different men meeting kids is my issue I ... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.
Q. Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...
A. 3 January 2013: I take responsibility for my actions but they were of a fool, somebody who lost sight of the most important thing and person in my life. New Year's Eve she told me to f@uk off and die and I just wonder how n why this turned out the way it has. When ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if he stares at you but won't talk to you?
Q. Why would a guy do this? What does it mean? What does it mean •when a guy constantly stares at you, but looks away when you catch him in the act •goes out of his way to open doors for you •Is really friendly and talks to everyone b...
A. 3 January 2013: He could be a mute... (read in full...)
I may have been too honest with her about my feelings, but I never thought I would find another woman who I could be with, and I don't know how to handle things.
Q. Right, after the awful life I've had and been put thru by my ex gf and struggling to do anything for last 2n half years, somehow I've managed to find another lady out of the blue, because she knows of my past and my dislike for women and seeing them ...
A. 3 January 2013: No wasn't stringing. I was serious, trying to do what everybody keeps telling me to do after 3 years miserable and alone. Genuinely wanted this lady, she had trust issues from her past which also was a factor. No game playing or pretence I wanted to ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the breakup of a 10 year relationship?
Q. I'm in a dilemma. My girlfriend of 10 years has just broken up with me. I loved her with all my heart and soul. We were together sinceour high school years, she was 15 and, I was 18. We spent every chance we got with each other, like lovebirds. We ...
A. 3 January 2013: I know if my ex ever even thought about seeing somebody that would bother me. Just be thankful you haven't children. I do and never will I forget or forgive this part time dad rubbish when I should be there every moment for them. Chin up and be th... (read in full...)
I may have been too honest with her about my feelings, but I never thought I would find another woman who I could be with, and I don't know how to handle things.
Q. Right, after the awful life I've had and been put thru by my ex gf and struggling to do anything for last 2n half years, somehow I've managed to find another lady out of the blue, because she knows of my past and my dislike for women and seeing them ...
A. 3 January 2013: Well that ended on Christmas Day as she knew I still love and miss my ex deep down. I'm afraid this is gonna be a pattern for the rest of my life. I can get any woman I choose nearly, but the only 1 I want truly want and love won't allow me back. ... (read in full...)
Cheating and guilty men?
Q. I understand that both men and women can have the possibility to cheat and some act on that. My question is directed towards men. Do men who cheat, specifically married men, actually feel guilty for what they are doing? And if they do, wher...
A. 3 January 2013: I didn't have my sons so they would grow up in a split up family, I wanted them to be better and different than every other kid from this awful society we are in. I know I was wrong, and realised after that I'd made an error. But never did I mean t... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: id like to thank everybody who has contributed to this thread and given me food for thought. ive been lucky this week that work has been quiet and ive managed to reflect on myself more than ever and my situation. ive msgd laura afew times and think ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: she found out last time cos she read text on my phone which went off after we went out for a night and was being intimate at home. (couldnt make it up) so from niceness she turned into dr evil, attacked me, bruised and cut me with her nails that ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: i understand what both of you are saying. ive told her just that. i wont ever give up hope. truly cant get over how stupid ive been and why?? ive asked her to watch me from afar and notice the changes in me and that all i ask of is that chance. i ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: dont deny i was a fool also. but i never cheated as i said to her last night, if id stuck my dick in another woman or similar then fair enough got no comeback on that but i didnt. what i saw was harmless actions, obviously not on reflection, but to ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: yeah youve probably summed that up pretty well, but i did explain in my words on the link below. i earned what i got and had. took me months to get laura, wasnt easy with friends and family issues on both sides. weve had other issues to contend with ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: your trying to blow holes thru all my hard work and the future. of course i want her to be happy, and id prefer it like we was, we was very happy, we went everywhere and did everything, we was best friends. theres been added pressures with the kids ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: i take it youve not read the reply i put on the other thread with the link below about why does that womans husband chat up other women??? i know im at fault. ive worked on my issues, im over my issues, ive got myself sorted out just and only for my ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: worldywise. how is leaving my woman and kids the best for everybodys sake? im now in a poxy flat on my own whilst she is in a nice 5 bed house, to add i dont wanna have to be apart from her a minute longer and being on my own for the next 30-40 ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: cos our 1st relationships were over long before we met, just stayed together cos it was easier. it doesnt have any bearing on my situation now. she should know already that she is the only woman on this earth i want to be with be. i gave up ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: ok the answer is a no, im meaning we met up and discussed being with each other and how things would have to go for the future. ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to the guy I met online? I think he is talking to other women as well as me.
Q. Hello everyone, I used an online dating site for the first time. I met a man that I was interested in meeting. We have been emailing each other once a day for 1 week. He keeps pointing out how much we have in common and how great I seem. H...
A. 12 October 2011: i think youve answered your own question. move on. ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: fao lovegirl, no didnt really cheat on x with laura. we waited til we was both single really.... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: i messaged her on (my X) on fb the msg i sent the lady on the link above which i was asked to look at.
all ive got back basically is words are words. you f**ked up, its all my fault and i shouldve known better.
i wonder if she has a heart anym... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: ive answered that question, tried to be honest as possible.
my counselling was basically 3or 4 sessions working out why i made those stupid mistakes., got to the bottom of it that i was insecure and always believed i wasnt attractive to myself a... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i asked her recentley about trying again and she replied the answer just now is a no and if that changes she will let me know.
she says she just wants to be on her on. why would you wanna be apart from the man you loved, struggling with 5 chil... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i knew the moment i met her i hadnt been in love or been happy with the woman id met wen i was 18. we had 2 daughters and if it hadnt been for them sure we wudnt have stayed together. the moment i met laura it was like bang, what on earth is this ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: no counselling on her part, she refused to go saying she could sort her on issues out and didnt need others to help. but reagrdless i went alone to show her i meant that i wanted to change this stupid behaviour. nothing ive done thou has gotten me ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i can never move on as she was the 1 woman for me. the only woman for me, never have i connnected to somebody like it. when we met there was something special about it, we was drawn to each other and both knew it.
she has always maintained she was ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: he had to leave cos we met each other. 1 set of twins there not 3 pregnancies. we both left our long term partners to be with each other, cos it was the right thing to do.
its a shame that in todays society people dont want to try and sort ther... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: the girls father was moved on once we met each other, we kept bumping into each other at the most odd venues and locations, fate brought us together, yet she denies this even thou we both know its true. no matter what i do or say to her about the ... (read in full...)
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