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writes: There was a mutual crush between my friend and her married boss.They sort of developed a strong liking for each other, But for him, it was more of an infatuation. He did not know that he was flirting with her at the beginning( his wife also works there but not during the period my friend was there)Anyway he then realised that he had feelings for her last few weeks, but she says that they could not help from looking at each other still... They don't exactly work closely and rarely see each other. No one mentioned their feelings to each other. There were attempts but because of shyness from her part and wanting to remain professional, nothing was mentioned.My question is why did he give her a personal (leaving)card and a gift mentioning indirectly that she is really going to be missed ( written already in the card)with kisses.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (31 July 2014):
 Mild crush, fond feelings, what does it matter? He's married! If he was inappropriate then he's a doubly creepy. Married and someone's supervisor? Yikes.
You put him firmly in the rearview mirror, spin those wheels and get the hell out of there. Don't look back!
Or tell your friend too. I'm still confused about who's asking the question and why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to let you know I already had a departmental's leaving gift and a a whole company 's gift and loads of leaving cards including a leaving card signed by all staff, however that was a personal card which I thought could simply have been a leaving bye card or a good luck card... without the need for mentioning that. What I am trying to say is that I have not worked closely enough with him for him to miss me nor "really" miss me ...Moreover if he wanted to be polite and assuming that it was only me who had a crush on him but he knew how I felt for him, then why would he not simply give me good luck card??? unless he had a crush on me. Am I getting this wrong???
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 July 2014):
By kisses, do you mean X's on the card? I sign just about everything with an 'xo,' a kiss hug, it's meant to be a friendly goodbye.
Don't most people leaving a company on good terms say that the person leaving will be missed? It's a polite thing to say, even if you are secretly glad never to hear her slurping down her diet Coke ever again.
Often people will give a goodbye gift too, I had some from bosses when I was moving too.
I wouldn't worry about it, it sounds pretty standard.
I agree with EWO, all's well that ends well, and it sounds as though the relationship didn't amount to more than a crush thing. Happens but as long as no lines are crossed, it eventually dies its natural death, which it sounds like here.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 July 2014):
 He gave her a going away gift and card because he IS going to miss her but then he also is most likely aware that he just missed making the biggest mistake of his life as well. So all is well that ends well, nice of you to be so interested in your friend's life.
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