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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 22 October 2014: Hi Barry, I'm hoping you had a great time on your date! Any update?... (read in full...)
He gave me herpes and doesn't know he has it
Q. I've met a guy on tinder and been dating him for 5months and have just found out he's given me genital herpes, however he is unaware that he has it. He told me he got tested for STDs and came back clear however they don't routinely test for ...
A. 16 October 2014: "Derek, I just saw my doctor and have learned that I now have genital herpes. Unfortunately, the only one who could have given it to me is you. I'm sorry to have to tell you this and it is very uncomfortable but it has to be dealt with. Our ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to think that the way he wants to share expenses and chores is unreasonable?
Q. I am with my boyfriend a little over a year, and I moved into his appartment about a month ago., I am writing it to hear some opinions if I am mistaken on having these thoughts, but the whole situation started bothering me from the very beginnin...
A. 16 October 2014: I would move back out, tell him you can't afford the toll on your bank account and leisure hours. Suggest he get a roommate to cover expenses if he has to. Apparently he is making his housekeeper, cook, laundry maid, and personal shopper also pay ... (read in full...)
I can't be with both girls! I have a lovely girl here but what about the one who I met in Florida?
Q. Thank you for reading - it's quite funny as I'm normally the one my friends ask for advice, yet here I am asking you all... It's been hard and I haven't been able to sleep much so I really need an outside perspective- thank you. I met a girl about...
A. 15 October 2014: And the follow up to this question is now here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ldr-told-me-to-get-lost-then-told.html
Looks like you lied to her about having a girlfriend from the get-go. She was absolutely right, as it turns out.
... (read in full...)
LDR told me to get lost, then told my Mum she was pregnant
Q. I met a girl about a month ago when I was on vacation in Florida. We spent the last week together and I stayed at her place on the beach and we slept together a few times. She said I was the best guy she had ever met and she could see herself having ...
A. 15 October 2014: The Florida girl from this question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-be-with-both-girls-i-have.html
In that question, you wrote:
"I met a girl about 4 months ago - she lives quite near me and is from a very good family. She is 20, I am 26 ... (read in full...)
I've lost respect for my boyfriend after finding out what he has done
Q. Hi could you please give me some advice on this please,I met my boyfriend through his female friend,I became friends with her also,because I discovered he was on porn I wstarted chatting to her as I didn't have no one else,because of me being 6yrs ...
A. 15 October 2014: Zevazoe, I see that you have 2 other questions about this same man and it seems that your relationship is very troubled and you have your own family troubles as well.
h... (read in full...)
How can I look thinner, feel thinner, and have my clothes fit better, yet still weigh the same thing?
Q. I have some questions about weight. I was on a medication that I thought was causing me weight gain. (You'll find out why I said 'thought' when you read the rest). My stomach was looking bloated, and my legs were getting rather celluity. I'm 5'6", ...
A. 14 October 2014: Talk to your doctor if you are really concerned. Maybe you are carrying the weight somewhere unhealthy. Or maybe you are no longer bloated, are eating right and exercising.
I think you have just built more lean muscle and lost the fat. Five poun... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 12 October 2014: Good luck and have a great time on your date!... (read in full...)
My friends say he is a jerk I could do without .... but I miss him!
Q. My best friend and I were in love. Well, we never really went out but we were in love. We admitted to it all months later where we mutually confessed to all our emotions. He was everything to me, my best friend of sixteen years, my first love an...
A. 11 October 2014: He has a girlfriend? I'd back away and get busy with friends and family. The relationship has now sunk to adolescent behavior. Let it go!... (read in full...)
I think she likes me as more than a friend.
Q. Ok earlier this year my friend (girl) suggested we go to see a movie together without mentioning our mutual friends. I just blew this off not reading too much in to it. This then changed a few months later when she suggested we study together just ...
A. 11 October 2014: Not sure what the question is here -- did you ask her out yet ?... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 11 October 2014: She's not interested, Barry. Reading your past poets about her, she's just trying to keep things light and bright and smooth so you can work together.
... (read in full...)
Why does he always say such horrible things to me?
Q. Why does he always say such horrible things to me:( So my bf hasn't been working for 9months now and I've been supporting him with money for food. I don't think he's trying hard enough to finding a job but says we should get married. and...
A. 11 October 2014: Why does he say horrible things to you? Because you stuck around and tolerate it.
This guy? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/his-questions-are-making-me-uncomfortable--.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
I'm really down over a family sex affair!
Q. I was working my normal Sunday shift and was able to get out early. When I came home I saw my sister in laws car parked in my driveway. I thought it was odd she was at our house,then thought it was probably my brother who was there. I went inside ...
A. 9 October 2014: Oh and I would put the couch out on the curb where it can be hauled away. Yuck.... (read in full...)
I'm really down over a family sex affair!
Q. I was working my normal Sunday shift and was able to get out early. When I came home I saw my sister in laws car parked in my driveway. I thought it was odd she was at our house,then thought it was probably my brother who was there. I went inside ...
A. 9 October 2014: First of all, you can't continue to live in a girlfriend's house with your kids. That's not sustainable long term no matter what. It may look later to a divorce judge that you abandoned the marital home and took the children with you. That may not ... (read in full...)
I'm considering running away and getting pregnant to get away from my controlling family! They treat me like a child!
Q. Am a 17 year old girl,i sudenly fell in love with a 20 year old guy,we,ve been so inlove bt the problem is my famile treat me like 10 year old ,they lock the gate at 18:00 i cannot even text my bf to tel him that i cannot meet up with him because i ...
A. 9 October 2014: Ask him to dinner with your family, so they can get to know him. Then you get to spend time with him after 1800hrs.
Threatening to run away and get pregnant is an immature and overly dramatic teenager response to your situation. I can see why your... (read in full...)
She's exactly my type and we have had fun talking about stuff and joking around, but I can't help feeling like she's not all that into it. What do I do?
Q. I recently moved to a nee city and a new country. Since I don't know many people here, I decided to give online dating a try. I didn't have a lot of success at first but about 10 days ago I came across the profile of an absolutely gorgeous girl who ...
A. 9 October 2014: You say you've spoken multiple times a day. So you speak to her on the phone? Or is this all via texting or social media messaging?
Have you met her in person yet? Have you asked her out on a date? It sounds like she may be polite enough to resp... (read in full...)
Why would a guy avoid saying your name?
Q. I've known this guy for a long time through friends, and I've noticed he never, or rarely, says my name. In a group setting he always refers to me in a group as "she", rather than my name. He'll say things like "what is SHE doing?", "I think it's ...
A. 9 October 2014: Assuming the last post is from the OP, you say you are in a relationship? Then who cares if this guy speaks to you or not? Maybe he dislikes your boyfriend so much that he can't believe you are stupid enough to date the guy?
Look, we can only spec... (read in full...)
I don't think I am that much in love with him. Is it key to a happy marriage to be absolutely in love with your future spouse?
Q. The story of my life is that never ever a man who I was in love with and adored was in love with me back. Every time something starts and I feel incredibly in love, after awhile an interest in me fades. My boyfriend is a very nice man. He has...
A. 9 October 2014: I would set this man free, to find a woman who does love him and want to be with him. You sound like you are following some prescribed life map. You are x age and should be having y children with z career goals.
It doesn't work well if you are tick... (read in full...)
Does this suppressing of feelings really work? Will she just eventually forget all about me?
Q. Does suppressing your feelings after a breakup really work? My ex of two years and I split up a few weeks back and since then, it has seemed she doesn't care at all. I seem to be the only one having a hard time. According to her, we are just coping ...
A. 8 October 2014: I think some people can simply acknowledge they have bad feelings about something, and then get on with the day. They don't allow it to consume their thoughts.
If she was the one who broke up with you then it's likely she'd already started the proc... (read in full...)
Why would a guy avoid saying your name?
Q. I've known this guy for a long time through friends, and I've noticed he never, or rarely, says my name. In a group setting he always refers to me in a group as "she", rather than my name. He'll say things like "what is SHE doing?", "I think it's ...
A. 8 October 2014: Ideas:
He's shy or has social awkwardness
He has a mental block on your name
He's on the autism spectrum and has difficulty deciphering social cues
He doesn't want to associate himself with you because there is something about you that makes h... (read in full...)
I'm still left wondering.... does he see a future for us?
Q. what does he want from me ?!?!? me and my partner have now been dating for nearly 4 years and its fair to say we have had our shares of ups and downs. but now I'm left wondering what is it he wants... a couple of weeks back he said tha...
A. 8 October 2014: So you were 14-17 when you started dating? So you two started off as a very young couple. You've had ups and downs and then he wanted space and time to think about the future. He's will not talk about feelings and won't tell you if he thinks you two ... (read in full...)
I want to be a better boyfriend and be able to trust her again, how do I do that?
Q. (Sorry for the length but I have to vent)... Me and my gf have been dating since we were 16, she was absolutely perfect, beautiful smart funny. Everything I've ever wanted! I've had girlfriends before but never as serious as her. She was very hes...
A. 8 October 2014: "What do you think I can do to be able to trust again?"
Absolutely nothing. You're dating but are not in a mutually satisfying or healthy relationship.
I would end the relationship as soon as she leaves if not before. Stop spending money on her n... (read in full...)
How do I put these thoughts back where they belong and continue building on our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a year and have lived together for 8mos. We have set up a cozy little house and love spending time together as a couple. We basically have the "perfect" relationship (if there is such a thing, I think you get my ...
A. 8 October 2014: Why did you move in together after just 4 months? That's barely enough time to know if you squeeze the toothpaste tube in the same way, let enough to know if you are actually compatible enough to live together?
If you were that certain he was a good... (read in full...)
If I have a healthy libido then why does my husband need to masturbate?
Q. I have discovered that my husband has started masturbating and lying about it. I feel puzzled because I have a healthy libido and he knows it. Why would he do this? Is this a sign of trouble ahead? We have been married for two years. ...
A. 7 October 2014: Maybe he just doesn't want to be grilled on what he does by himself on his own time? It sounds like you think he's avoiding something by lying to you. What is he avoiding? Telling you something uncomfortable, perhaps. Maybe he is worried about the ... (read in full...)
Will the Doctor respect my privacy or is it likely that the Doctor will tell my Mom that I'm not a virgin?
Q. I'm 17 and my bf and I got carried away in the moment and so three days ago I lost my virginity. My mom is making me go to the doctor for a yeast infection. I know they will ask if I have had sex without my mom in there but can they tell her I'm ...
A. 6 October 2014: Did you tell the doctor you are sexually active? This is important information for her to know. Lots of people try to hide things from their doctors because they are embarrassed or worried about being judged or what you feared that your doctor would ... (read in full...)
Has anyone here ever traveled with herpes meds in their luggage and if so did it cause any issue?
Q. Has anyone here ever travelled with herpes meds in their luggage and if so did it cause any issue . I will be travelling on January to the USA with a group of people ( some of whom I don't know that well ) and would not like to have it cause an...
A. 6 October 2014: I travel a lot and have never seen anyone questioned about pills. If there's a problem they generally pull that person aside and deal with them individually. i was pulled aside for a random explosives check on my last flight. No biggie.
I agre... (read in full...)
Will the Doctor respect my privacy or is it likely that the Doctor will tell my Mom that I'm not a virgin?
Q. I'm 17 and my bf and I got carried away in the moment and so three days ago I lost my virginity. My mom is making me go to the doctor for a yeast infection. I know they will ask if I have had sex without my mom in there but can they tell her I'm ...
A. 6 October 2014: On the plannedparenthood.org site, I found this link: ing-to-the-doctor/what-to-expect
"Will my doctor keep my information private?
Most doctors and nurses don’t tell your parents (or anyone else) the stuff you tell them. Planned Parentho... (read in full...)
My alcoholic ex boyfriend died 10 months ago and I still feel empty inside
Q. So fed up with life. My ex alcoholic bf who I spent a crazy 6 years with died 10 months ago. Time does heal but only because it has to. I have a job I do what I gotta do but I am empty. I feel like a nothing. I have a great family but they...
A. 5 October 2014: http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk
Go find a meeting so you can get support from people whose lives have been affected by someone else's alcoholism.
If you're self-medicating then maybe it would also be helpful for you to find an AA meeting yourself... (read in full...)
Attending college leaves me little time to work out
Q. Hi all! Hope everyone is having a good week. Some of you may remember I posted a question a few months back about losing weight, I bought an exercise bike and managed to lose a stone! However I am now having some problems with it, and would lo...
A. 5 October 2014: Google HIIT workouts and Tabata drills. These are short (20 minutes max) that will rev up your fat-burning.
Prepare healthy meals and snacks in advance so you don't make poor choices.
Get better at time planning.
Build in some down time and som... (read in full...)
Should I change my style of dress for my boyfriend who says I'm too old to wear certain things ???
Q. I just recently found out that I am the oldest women my boyfriend has ever dated minus his ex wife who was 5 years older than me. I have been dating my boyfriend 6 months and he has already said he loves me and I don't doubt that he dose , but I ...
A. 5 October 2014: "How can I get over this and get my confidence back?" You just turned 30 and have been dating this guy for 6 months. He picks out your underwear and is negative and judgmental of your clothing choices.
You get over this by losing the loser. End ... (read in full...)
I need to see a doctor but I'm afraid my mother will assume I'm sexually active
Q. My vagina has had a fishy ordor on and off again for the past year or two and I know I should have gotten checked out by a doctor a long time ago but I'm not sexually active so I'm worried my mom wont believe that because I want to see a doctor. I...
A. 4 October 2014: Lots of women get non-sexually caused vaginal infections. It's no biggie! Just tell your mom you think you might have a yeast infection and need to see the doctor.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I want to see a doctor about a reoccuring UTI, but I have some concerns
Q. My age is kinda important in this so, I'm 16. Every time I've ever had sex I've gotten a uti afterwards. I always pee when we're done, but I still get one. I've even tried peeing at different times afterwards. One time I peed right after me a...
A. 4 October 2014: "I've been to the doctor and got antibiotics for it and it went away, but about a week later when I had sex, I got another one. Me and my boyfriend do not use a condom because I am on birth control." You need to see your doctor. Tell your mother you ... (read in full...)
He broke up with the real me, but not before agreeing to a date with the fake profile I made on a dating site! Should I cancel in advance or just stand him up?
Q. I was seeing a guy from work for about 4 months but nothing was too serious as I had just come out of a long term relationship. One night as we was snuggled on the sofa, his phone went off and it was a notification from a dating website. I didn'...
A. 3 October 2014: "nothing was too serious as I had just come out of a long term relationship"
So it was casual. You perhaps started dating too soon?
"he'd talked about being exclusive"
He'd talked about it? And you said.... "nothing too serious" I'm just getting... (read in full...)
My friends say I can have my pick of girls here but I've fallen for this American
Q. Thanks for reading. It's quite funny as I always get asked for advice and I'm normally good at giving it but this time I need some help. I live in London and vacation in Florida every year. I came back 3 days ago and I'm miserable as hell. I met...
A. 29 September 2014: If you feel you can afford this and can go see her then go for it.
I know many people who were from different cultures and backgrounds and made it work.
I hope it works for you!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially BF/GF for 4 months but have been dating for 6 months. He is 28 and I am 23. My boyfriend says he isn't like every other guy. He respects the idea of making love and prefers to have sex spontaneously. H...
A. 29 September 2014: How do you know he is not gay or asexual?
Sorry you are trying to figure out how to fix this problem. I would assume that he has a very low libido and what your sex life is now is going to get worse by 1/4 every year. If you can live with that then... (read in full...)
My (platonic) date to a wedding had to cancel. Should I invite the girl I've just started dating?
Q. I have a wedding to go to this upcoming weekend with a plus one, and as I've never had to go to a wedding before, so I'm not sure about proper etiquette about these things. I haven't been seeing anyone steadily and I've been in medical grad sch...
A. 29 September 2014: As you have never been to a wedding before, and your friend can't be with you, I would decline the invitation. Unless it is a close family or personal friend?
And I think I think taking your messaging friend as date to an intensely personal and fami... (read in full...)
Why people assume that this much older man is my husband?
Q. Why people assume that this much older guy is my husband?? I belong to one club. One member who is 24 years older than me which makes him only 3 years younger than my father drives me there sometimes as we live very close to each other. His daughter...
A. 28 September 2014: I'm guessing your body language is saying something that people are interpreting as "married couple." If it bothers you so much have someone video you while you're in each orher's company and examine it for clues.
It could also be people assu... (read in full...)
How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good?
Q. How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good? Ive dates three girls, one for two years, and the other two for two dates each. Asking them out was a huge thing in my mind. When I did I felt good, but I am really unsatisfied with how I do ...
A. 27 September 2014: Ah the aunts are expected to give the magic solution to your obsessive and unhealthy thoughts which cause you distress and despite several years of advice you haven't actually made forward progress.
You are right where your thinking leaves you.... (read in full...)
If it's FWB why does he care who I date?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a sexual relationship with a colleague of mine for almost a year now. Prior to anything sexual, he made it clear that he did not want any emotions or attachments to form once we had sex. He also stated that we w...
A. 26 September 2014: I guess he's hoping he doesn't have to worry about STDs or losing his casu sex partner. It probably takes a bit of time to cultivate and keep happy an NSA sex partner. If he's used to it he would like the heads up if he's going to lose that sex ... (read in full...)
How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good?
Q. How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good? Ive dates three girls, one for two years, and the other two for two dates each. Asking them out was a huge thing in my mind. When I did I felt good, but I am really unsatisfied with how I do ...
A. 25 September 2014: You've asked this many times now.
You've had lots of advice on this.
I know you're in grad school and so not a slow learner. But when it comes to yourself, you have a major blind spot and a lot of avoidance behaviors. You avoid situations that mak... (read in full...)
Fifth Date and then He Disappeared.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month. We have a bunch of mutual friends and he knows my sister. We don't text often, mostly just to make plans and then he calls me the day before or day of to finalize. Majority of the time he would text me ...
A. 24 September 2014: Have you tried calling him? Texts can be misunderstood as offensive or dismissive or in some cases, not even sent. I found I had some weird data thing that kept some key texts from being sent until 3 weeks after I hit 'send'.
Call the man. Ask him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is never horny anymore!
Q. so ive been dating this girl for 2 years things are going okay besides the fact that we argue so much and she is very immature at times .. But anyways i really been stressing because we've always had sex every single day almost multiple times aday ...
A. 24 September 2014: Maybe she's pregnant? Did you ask her why things changed?... (read in full...)
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