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writes:I have a friend who rings up a lot.i had expressed this to my parents that i was irritaed.My mother out of the blue texted my friend that he should not ring up daily.His mom and dad read that text and from then on he has not spoken.I was not at fault here and have apologised to his mom,my ma has apologised to his parents.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): If you had been honest with him that you did not appreciate the constant calls and not complained to your mum then this would not have happened. Sounds like you are missing the attention you used to get or you would be happy that your mum resolved your problem.
I don't think he would be calling you any time soon as he is very embarrassed and further his parents would have told him not to contact you again.
Problem solved - no one nags you going forward.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 I think you'll just have to wait until his feelings of hurt subside. Let your mutual friends know that you regret the incident and did not intend to cause him personal embarrassment and humiliation.
Obviously, your mother can't be trusted not to behave like a meddlesome nag, so don't share this type of information with her in the future.
Beyond that, all you can do is wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): Has anyone apologised to HIM? You say that you've all apologised to his parents but you don't mention him. Your mother definitely needs to apologise.If you've tried to apologise but he won't listen, then you'll need to write to him (or email) but other than that, I don't think there's anything you CAN do.Your friendship with this guy may be irrevocably damaged because nobody wants to find out that their friendship is complained about to others. Your friend may be able to get through this but he'll need time to process his thoughts and feelings so don't try and force things.And it sounds like you really need to sit down with your mum and let her know that you need to sort out your own problems with your friends/boyfriends and that her opinion is valued but that she must NEVER take matters into her own hands again.Sometimes we can't actually change a bad situation but we can learn from it to make sure someting similar doesn't happen again. I think you need to look closely at the relationship you have with your mother.
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