How do I broach the subject of not wanting to get married?
Q. Ill try to keep this short and simple. The title probably sounds terrible. So, Im a 30F, my boyfriend is 7 years my senior. We both have children from previous relationships and we are both divorced. Ive known him nearly 2 years, but we only started ...
A. 18 September 2019: I for one never ever ever want to get remarried. Im upfront and honesst in the beginning of a relationship. My one boyfriend did the funniest/sweetest alternative...he gave me a "promise-not-to-marry-me" ring. That signified our commitment until i ... (read in full...)
Do I go back to my ex or see if theres potential with the new guy
Q. Almost 2 years ago i started a relationship with a guy (call him A), he didnt work and suffered with ptsd and would tell elaborate lies. After 4 months we ended things so to speak, we drifted apart very fast. Fast forward to 2 month ago and i joined ...
A. 13 August 2019: my advice is to completly ignore the first guy...he sounds completely toxic! as for the 2nd guy, hes being honest in saying he doesnt know what he wants. theres a good chance he isint gonna be around anyways.
i know you want kids but sometime... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get married but all of his baggage is making me wonder if its a good idea
Q. I've been seeing my new boyfriend a little over a year. He is a very sweet guy. He wants to get married, and I'm unsure I really want to. I know that my reasons will sound very vain. He doesn't have a tax paying job, he works for cash doing whatever ...
A. 8 July 2019: ok this might make me sound cold and heartless--but my advice to you is to get rid of this guy! not only does he not have a regular stable job but he owes tons of money to the irs then you could be held liable.
https... (read in full...)
New boyfriend gets upset because I wont let him move in.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now. Previously married for 5 years. Our relationship has been rocky to say the least but we have come to a crossroads suddenly. He lives with his mom and they are getting evicted. He isn’t working at ...
A. 6 December 2018: speaking from experience i let a guy in the same kind of situation move in with me. he mooched of me for over a year. i tried repeatedly to make him leave but he wouldnt! i got stuck buying all the food and paying all the bills.
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Why do I attract abusive men? My current bf said that I deserve disrespect because I'm not glamorous!
Q. My boyfriend said I don't deserve to be talked at with respect because I'm not glam. Why do I attract abusive men both my last two boyfriend's have been that way. Verbally and physically....
A. 6 November 2018: i used to attract nothing but abusive guys. i also had a very low self esteem. i did a lot of looking at myself and i realized the only way to chamge this was to work on me!
i took some time just for me-lost weight, changed the way i presente... (read in full...)
My ex brings his new girlfriend(who he cheated on me with) when he comes to babysit our kids in my absence
Q. My ex and I share 4 year twin girls and although he cheated on me and is now with the person he cheated on me with, we have a reasonable relationship. Recently he has started bringing his new girlfriend round to my house when he looks after them whe...
A. 22 July 2018: if the father doesnt spend quality time with the girls because the girlfriend is around then by no means are you doing a bad thing by getting someone else to watch them. it would be different if the dad actually spent time doing stuff with the kids. ... (read in full...)
After years of neglect, my teeth need dental care! Is this how I go about it?
Q. Hi guys... I think this is more for support as well as advice. I've been on before about this topic but a new angle this time. So I've now got a boyfriend and one major issue I had was I hate my teeth. It's because of years of neglect ...
A. 13 July 2018: im happy you finally feel confident enough to tackle this issue. one thing that might ease your anxiety is the fact that im almost positive you arent the worse case these dentists have seen. You didnt mention anything about pain or bleeding so you ... (read in full...)
My roommate and her boyfriend constantly hog my couch, but other than that, they're not much of a bother. Am I right in feeling irritated?
Q. I'm not sure if this is ok to ask, but I'm having issues with my roommate. I feel like I may possibly be overreacting, so tell me your thoughts. We've lived together without issues since July. However, she has a long distance boyfriend who vi...
A. 11 December 2017: you did exactly as i would have suggested...talk to her/them. are they even aware that you are bothered by them using the living room all the time? she sounds like a great room mate otherwise. ... (read in full...)
Can he be a sucess when he neglects everything around him?
Q. Need opinion on this person. Thank you? Can ignorant, careless and not taking care of self person going to be succeed? Please give example and opinion? Do you believe ignorant, stupid, and not take care of himself person can be succeed? Is ther...
A. 22 October 2017: could your friend be on the spectrum? my son is high functioning for the most part but still has a lot of accompanying issues. hes trying to start a lawn care business...hes great at doing the actual work and hes good at finding customers but just ... (read in full...)
My step daughter is making my life hell!
Q. My step daughter is making my life hell. I'm a nurse on a trauma unit and I work nights. My job is stressful enough without coming home to a battle every day. My husband is far from perfect but his main flaw is his unwillingness to discipline his ...
A. 15 September 2017: i dont think youd be in the wrong!!! your husband most likely wont start disciplining her even i you left... (read in full...)
Should I go meet my baby's father's family or have them come to meet us even though we really don't have the room?
Q. My baby father just turned up after not being present for two months. And right now I have been dealing directly with his mom since he apparently doesnt want to deal directly with me So the thing is his mom invited me over one day becauss she had ...
A. 30 August 2017: i agree with your mom, you made the effort the last time. if you continue to make all the effort the dad probably wont step up. just take him to court and make sure he helps take care of the babys financial needs.... (read in full...)
We want to get married but boyfriend has too many irons in the fire going!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've asked a similar question before but I think I'm going to ask it in a different way since I have a little more insight for what's going on. My boyfriend wants to get married after finishing his renovation projects. But when I say pr...
A. 4 July 2017: imo hes stringing you along. id walk away from this situation... (read in full...)
My partner promises he'll be around for my son and then disappears. This is the 4th time he's done this
Q. My partner has disappeared for the 4 time now after promising my son he'll be around n that how can I tell my don that his left again n the only thing I got was that his sorry dose it mean that his left me for good or his he playing away ...
A. 4 July 2017: if it were me i wouldnt EVER let this guy back into my life again! your son does not deserve to be treated this way... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to settle for this man?
Q. I am dating this guy he is a friend who has loved me for years. I love him as a person but am not sexually attracted to him. I have a list of reasons for staying and a list for leaving I want people's opinions: staying: He really likes me a...
A. 11 June 2017: i have a different look on this! love is overrated as far as im concerned...compatability is much more important!!! if you two are honest about how you guys feel and you both want to be together and have a family i say go for it. just because a ... (read in full...)
We are two very different people. I feel stuck in this relationship. What can I do?
Q. Feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years, and we have lived together for 2. He is an incredibly kind guy, he always means well, and is all around just a nice guy. However...
A. 12 May 2017: you say you had a payment plan set up and he was paying but has stopped...do you have a written contract or is it just verbal? if its a contract you can take him to court. if it is just verbal, imo you need to bring it up again and get him to sign ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to tell someone who has depression that you can't be there for then anymore if they don't want to help the self?
Q. Is it wrong to tell someone who has depression that you can't be there for then anymore if they don't want to help the self? My boyfriend has depression which is not diagnosed but I've had it previously and know he does now. I've done everything I ...
A. 21 April 2017: nope...not at all! its a good thing you refuse to put up with his behavior. now he might go get help but if not just remember its not your problem... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and the residual odor of cigarettes is drifting into my apartment from the apartment below. How can I get rid of the odour?
Q. I am 6 months pregnant and iv literally tried everything for the cigarette odor that has been drifting in my room from the apartment beneath me to disappear. I talked with the neighbors below me, but they didn't seem like they would change. And si...
A. 24 February 2017: theres a product called ODOBAN that i know of...i havnt used it in awhile but this is an all natural product that gets rid of odors-not masks them. its strong enough to even get rid of skunk odor! you can buy it at walmart, pet stores or just about ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is gaslighting me!
Q. Can anyone give me some advice on "gaslighting" please?its a technique used by narcissists etc to make people doubt their sanity!I'm having a lot of problems with my boyfriend of 2 years...the main problem is that hes not had sex with me for 6 ...
A. 13 November 2016: this one is simple...breakup with him. why put yourself through this stress?... (read in full...)
If she liked me so much then why push me away?
Q. Hey there everyone! Hope you all are well. I need some advice about a girl i met just over a month ago. So ill tell you abit about the situation. So i met this girl on a dating site and we basically hit it off quick. I mean like we both talked l...
A. 4 November 2016: because you too hit it off so good...she got scared, cut and ran! this happens when women who have dated bad guys/jerks in the past finally find a good guy. they dont feel worthy and/or dont know how to handle it.... (read in full...)
How do we move forward? He never takes me on a normal date.
Q. I love my boyfriend, he is the guy that has been hitting on me for the past three yes so I finally accepted him. During those years we became friends so already he knows a bit more about me. We are four months in a relationship now all has been goi...
A. 6 September 2016: hes a mooch!!! hes treating you like all your good for is sex...i know the type very well. if i were you id get rid of him. hell always have excuses as to why he cant take you out!... (read in full...)
Met him on a dating app, he's perfect but I'm too self-conscious to meet him!
Q. Long story so I'll try to shorten it as much as possible. So I matched with this guy on tinder 10 months ago. We messaged for 18 hours non stop, slept for 3 then started again. It was an incredible instant connection. If I could describe my perf...
A. 18 August 2016: talk to him...explain your situation. if hes such a good guy looks might not even matter to him.
im disabled and not picture perfect and i totally understand your insecurities. try talking to him about whats going on with your weight. dont mis... (read in full...)
Met him on a dating app, he's perfect but I'm too self-conscious to meet him!
Q. Long story so I'll try to shorten it as much as possible. So I matched with this guy on tinder 10 months ago. We messaged for 18 hours non stop, slept for 3 then started again. It was an incredible instant connection. If I could describe my perf...
A. 18 August 2016: talk to him...explain your situation. if hes such a good guy looks might not even matter to him.
im disabled and not picture perfect and i totally understand your insecurities. try talking to him about whats going on with your weight. dont mis... (read in full...)
What help is available for a man who feels "lost"? Loving wife and family, and yet I feel so very alone and isolated
Q. I am at the apex of my career. I have a wife who loves me and three great kids. Everyone sees a picture that is so far from what I feel inside. I feel increasing disconnected from everyone and everything. I have no one whom I can ask for help, or...
A. 23 July 2016: im thinking you would benefit from talking to a dr or a mental health counselor...this would be kept confidential. this is nothing to feel embarrassed about...life gets overwhelming/stressful to a lot of successful people. if you dont have proper ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas I can try to help me with my 2 year old son? I'm concerned about his actions
Q. i really need some advice. im 22 years old and i have two beautiful kids. my daughter is 3 soon to be 4 and my son is just tuned 2. my kids have very diff. personalities. my daughter is very calm and very well behaved, she is amazing. my so...
A. 18 July 2016: to me it sounds like your son might have o.d.d.-oppositional difiancy disorder. its quite common nowadays and it does take a strongwilled person to get it under control but it can be done! my son has it and omg when he was younger he was VERY hard ... (read in full...)
How can I get Dad off the phone and talking to me?
Q. My Dad is always on his phone and doesn't listen to me. Whenever he picks up his phone I get really mad but I don't show it. He just makes one phone call after another, he is also always texting. When I have important information to tell him he is ...
A. 11 June 2016: what if you write him notes...force them into his hands while hes on the phone... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated in a sexless marriage
Q. I am currently in the most wonderful marriage... Married my best friend and we share a beautiful Family and a very blessed life... Every day I thank my stars that he's In my life and we are enjoying this journey we are on together... So what's the ...
A. 2 June 2016: could you go away for the weekend or just a night to have adult time?... (read in full...)
I found out by accident that my biological parents are not the parents who brought me up. I feel hurt and so confused. What should I do?
Q. I found out something awful and I'm hurt and disappointed and don't know what to do. My mom's brother and my dad's sister used to date in high school. I never met my uncle because he's been in prison since I was 9 and we live states away from our...
A. 9 May 2016: i understand you are mixed up and possibly hurt but you need to understand your life could be a lot different if your birth parents had kept you. from what i read it sounds like you have good parents who treat you like you matter to them. with your ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Troubled and at the crossroads. Abort or stay pregnant?
Q. I am 21, have a 3 year old girl and have been with the father for almost 5 years. We moved together 7 months ago to a new house with a roomate who is close friends of us, (used to live at parents home, never had a stable relationship, always c...
A. 8 May 2016: imo first thing you need to do is walk away from both of these guys! next you need to wic, womens care center and your doctor. if you dont have any type of insurance the womens care center can help take care of everything. if you need a place to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family about our wedding plans? We want just a small ceremony!
Q. hey everyone......my boyfriend and i have been dating for 1.5 years now. we love each other and we are ready to tie the knot and start having children. we cant cant wait to have a baby. so we have decided to get married. the problem is we do...
A. 2 April 2016: if youre worried about them changing your mind, tell them after the fact...just have a simple ceremony and be done with it... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my teacher, what will happen ?
Q. Hello,so I will start by saying this isn't a sordid affair. I am 21 and have been at university for two years. (I started at 19, as I had a gap year) Anyway, I have been dating this guy (who is much older than me) since June 6th 2015, so nearly ...
A. 20 March 2016: juust simply say you were scared and in pain... (read in full...)
Should he already know that he should be contributing or is he taking me for a ride (using me)?
Q. My boyfriend hasn't got much money but he got a full time job a few months ago. He had been waiting to be paid but the company was waiting for all the paperwork to go through first so when he eventually got paid it would be in a lump sum (back dated ...
A. 16 March 2016: HES A MOOCH!!! sorry about the caps lol. imo get rid of him! hes not gonna change. if he does it will just be for token sake to make you think he learned his lesson.... (read in full...)
He has anxiety and OCD and I have anxiety. I'm not sure that this relationship is working out!
Q. I just moved 2 weeks ago with my bf. We have been together for 6 months. He is a good guy and he has always been patient with me and my issues. But, he can be so difficult at times. Right now, I am unemployed, and he is paying the rent and my ...
A. 14 February 2016: imo this isint worth it. he seems very emotionally abusive! if i were you id move back home and find someone else. noone should put up with this kind of treatment...after you find a job im pretty sure hell just find other reasons to put you down.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know the difference between making love and just having sex
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. When I'm with my boyfriend, we usually spend a week together each visit. During that week he's want sex at least once, sometimes twice per day. He has a high sex drive and is always erect when we lay together. ...
A. 2 February 2016: thatsa big problem with ldr...they end up being a never ending hookup! even with daily hour long phone calls its just not the same. in my experience it feels like the only reason why guys in an ldr want to see me is for sex...not even to get me a ... (read in full...)
I lied to my dying friend and told him that I loved him. Now he's gone and I feel sick
Q. I slept with my friend because he was dying and because I felt guilty for leading him on. Each time after having sex he would cry and hug me and profess his love for me. He had a crush on me for years. During his last days I lied to him that I loved ...
A. 15 January 2016: dont feel guilty...he died happy thinking that you loved him. i think its better than him being unhappy because he didnt think you dont/didnt love him.... (read in full...)
My master manipulator sister is ruining our wedding plans and our life. Help!
Q. My sister is a master manipulator. Over the past year, since getting engaged, not only has she tried to get money out of me for stuff we borrowed, as well as bringing money for family suppers (instead of food), but she also has tried to interfere or ...
A. 15 December 2015: this ones simple...get someone else! sure shell get upset but oh well this is your wedding... (read in full...)
Fiancée's attitude makes me sick but how can I leave?
Q. A few weeks ago me and my fiancée of 2 years went to her parents house for her mom's birthday. It was there, her mother told the family she was sick. This is the wonderful woman who put my fiancée through school twice!, bought her a car when she ...
A. 1 December 2015: regardless if shes pregnant or not i wouldnt marry her. if she is pregnant be there for the baby as much as possible...it doesnt sound like shes mother of the year material. then start distancing yourself emotionally/physically from her asap!
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I fell in love after moving on then he moves back. HELP ME!!!??? PLEASE??
Q. I need help. I fell in love with this guy then he asks me out his name is i am going to say John(actually 21 years old) and at the same time the guy i was once with named Tom(now 18/19years old) . Well tom is an ex of mine from sophomore year of ...
A. 15 November 2015: people change in 4 years...youve had different experiences. if youre happy and so in love with the new guy id stay with him.... (read in full...)
Should I quit school and get a second job?
Q. I am in a bit of a dilemma. I work full time and take college classes full time. My days are 'split' my classes are in the early morning - to early afternoon time, and I work a 2-10PM shift at my job. The problem is I need more money. I ...
A. 15 November 2015: do you qualify for any grants to help pay school related expenses?... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my six-year-old's sibling jealousy
Q. Hi not sure whether can post this here but here goes I have a 6 year old son who is extremely jealous of his 10 mmonth old Sister I have tried everything I can think of keeping him involved spending time just me and him and him and his dad just ...
A. 2 October 2015: what about spending some extra one on one time with him...sometime with you and sometime with dad. also if possible some time with both of you with out the baby so he knows hes still special/important. it doesnt have to be anything special.... (read in full...)
Why did he disappear when I expressed interest in him?
Q. So I was talking to this guy that I met.We haven't spend time in person yet but we coommunicate regulary.He brought up sex the first time we spoke .Last time he wanted to come over at my apartment but I told him that I'm not comfotable inviting him ...
A. 30 September 2015: imo all he wanted was sex...nothing more. im sorry but a lot of guys are like that but atleast he had enough decency not to lead you on.... (read in full...)
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