No contact now for nine days -- is it really over?
Q. My ex and I broke up the beginning of May of this year because ofnmajor trust issues. I found out that he had not fully gotten over his Ex about 4 months into our relationship. I found out that he would go running back to her every time we had a ...
A. 6 September 2012: Did he call you back? hope it worked out for the best - for you. xx... (read in full...)
He NEVER calls/texts me but treats me like a princess when we are together?!
Q. My boyfriend is confusing me, and I'm begining to wonder if he's really just not that into me. We've been together for a little over a month, and when we're together he treats me like a princess. He's very affectionate and sweet. But then as soon...
A. 1 August 2012: Dont; call him at all unless you have to. Don;t text him at all either. Give it a month and see how much he calls or sees you. if he does not step it up, you have your answer.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my fwb, who I'm sure doesn't feel the same. What should I do?
Q. Iv had sex with this girl who was a sort of friend 3 times now. It was only supposed to be no strings sex and it still is for her. problem is i'm falling for her and not sure what i should do. she said at the start that she didn't want a relation...
A. 1 August 2012: I think you should let her know how you feel, in whatever way by talking, email- whatever you are comfortable with asap. You may be plesantly surprised as she may feel the same. If she doesn;t , at least you have cleared the air by being honset ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm drowning in despair over this and I need help!
Q. I am at a lost here. The man I have been dating for 8 months died suddenly this past Saturday and yesterday I found out he already had a girlfriend for "a little over a year". His best friend told me, because he was afraid of the drama that may ...
A. 20 July 2012: PS - the same thing happened to a freind of mine. her BF commited suicide - he told her he had never had children. When she went to the funeral - she found out he had a 12 year old son, and a long term girlfreind. She went to counselling for two ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm drowning in despair over this and I need help!
Q. I am at a lost here. The man I have been dating for 8 months died suddenly this past Saturday and yesterday I found out he already had a girlfriend for "a little over a year". His best friend told me, because he was afraid of the drama that may ...
A. 20 July 2012: I', really sorry this has happened. You have had two shocks. In life he had let you down, and now he is gone. Over time you will be able to process what has happened, but it will not happen overnigt. Go to the funeral if you can, as funerals are ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for reaching out to someone who hurt me?
Q. I was in a LDR for a year and a half. There were ups and down. The man himself was not happy with where things were in his life so he was messing up our relationship without realizing it. To cut the long story short, after realizing he called my ...
A. 8 July 2012: How are you getting on with it? I.m in exactly the same situation. No contact. My guy has tried to ring me six times this week,but i have not answered. It.s hard,but you have to think about what it would be like if he hurt you again,and then you ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for reaching out to someone who hurt me?
Q. I was in a LDR for a year and a half. There were ups and down. The man himself was not happy with where things were in his life so he was messing up our relationship without realizing it. To cut the long story short, after realizing he called my ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi. You have done really well with getting away from him for the last 3 months,but you are now slipping back into the same pattern,and are calling him back etc. He knows it too. I think you should try very hard to go back to no contact again,as you ... (read in full...)
Is it fair for my partner to blame me for looking at his emails when I found out he's cheating again?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have an 8 month old daughter together. We were starting new and moved recently to a new state because of a job opportunity for him. A few months ago I noticed him acting a ...
A. 29 June 2012: I am so sorry this has happened to you. You must be in pain, but do know that it WILL pass. I would try and leave if I were you. I know it;s not easy, but you will wake up one day and realize that it was the best desicion you ever made. Just go if ... (read in full...)
My b/f has been posting naked pics of himself and interacting with other gay men but I cant even tell him I know this because I snooped into his phone and discovered this!
Q. Hello everyone, I am stuck in a desperate situation with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years on and off but we have been stable for the last 8months and there months ago he moved in with me. we have always have issues with me ...
A. 15 June 2012: Tell him. Tell him tell him. You have to confront him about this. It does not matter that he knows you looked. You had every reason to look, and you were right as look what you found. I went through my BF;s emails two days ago and found out he was ... (read in full...)
How do I turn my FWB relationship into a real relationship?
Q. i have a fuck buddy who i have been shagging for a year, we started seeing each other few years ago then he said i dont want a relationship. we have mutual friends that do not know we are fb weve have known each other 9yrs and always ask our mutual ...
A. 22 May 2012: Um. thats not very nice him saying he STILl wouldn;t want a relstionship with you. Have you considered looking for someone else to keep you occupied in the weeks apart you have? Hopefully, the new person might even be able to take you away from him ... (read in full...)
He hurts me so much but he is like a drug I cant live without! Help!
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 2 years constantly avoids me, often humiliates me and when i ask he says he was joking, joking or not joking, his words affect me. I told him not to do that, he never listens. I dont want his words to affect me so much, but it ...
A. 22 March 2012: Switch you phone to incoming calls and texts only. That wil stop the tempation to call him. He's getting off on the power trip right now. Remove that. Show him that you are strong. One fine day he wil regret this and wish he never treated you this ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over her?
Q. As with many people on here before me, I find I am suffering from a period of emotional torment to do with the girl I loved briefly for nine months and who broke my heart repeatedly because she was not ready in her own mind for a new relationship ...
A. 2 February 2012: No contact what so ever for 60 days . No emails, texts nothing. You will wake up one morning feeling ok. It works. good luck. :o) xxx... (read in full...)
We have not spoken for over a week and its his birthday tomorrow. What to do?
Q. I need this advice before the end of today. Me and my boyfriend had a disagreement and we have not spoken for a week and three days. Even though he was at fault I was willing to forgive him so I called him last Thursday but no response. I did leave ...
A. 9 November 2011: Three weeks and two days is to much.
The guy ia hard work. Send him ONE text wishing him Happy Birthday , and if that dones;t pull him out of his mood, don;t do anything else.. Just respond after that if he does. You need some peace.. this guy migh... (read in full...)
My life ambition is slipping away as I feel too old now to pursue my dreams...advice?
Q. Ok guys... in advance, thanks if you can help me. I just have so many feelings that I think I'm going to burst, and I don't know where to start. This isn't exactly about a relationship but about a dream that means everything to me. I feel like...
A. 25 October 2011: I know how you feel. it is heartbreaking. I am a 43 year old singer songwriter who has never made it, and has the material to make it; It rips you apart. PM me if you fancy a chat :o). xx... (read in full...)
Would you be okay with your bf if they were divorced for over 10 years and still really good buddies?
Q. My BF has been divorced for 10 years+ approx. The problem I am having is he is friends with the ex wife. I try to be okay about it but really I am not. I have just given birth to his son about 20 days ago. Bf doesn't have any kids with her but they ...
A. 25 October 2011: I am in the same postion. I can;t stand my BF being freinds with his ex who has his kids. it makes me very uncomfortable and i have been struggling wih it for months. PM me if ou like. :o) x... (read in full...)
Cosmic Bad-Timing
Q. Why is it that whenever I like a girl they always like someone else or are in a relationship, and then when a girl likes me I like someone else? is there anything I could do to change this?...
A. 13 October 2011: Good Answer person 12345. !! :o)... (read in full...)
What is the average amount of sex to have per week?
Q. Hi Guys, What is an average amount of sex to have per week? My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year and have sex once every 1-1.5 weeks. I feel like this isn't enough but maybe I'm the one with high hopes and will always be disapp...
A. 21 July 2011: You need to tel him how frustrated you feel. Seriously. You need to say you want to be happy and that you feel you are going out of your way to help spice things up and he is not responding and that if there are any underlaying problems, he needs ... (read in full...)
I need to stand my ground this time and not take her walking all over me, but I still love her! What should I do?
Q. First off my name is James, yesterday me and my girlfriend and her daughter went out to go eat. To celebrate our anniversary. We've been together for about 16 months. Lately i've been feeling unappreciated. I feel like i do everything in this ...
A. 11 July 2011: you are way to good for her. Please leave. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect. Natx... (read in full...)
Concerned about my dad's health and his problem with food. Please help me. I'm really worried that I will end up losing him
Q. I am really quite concerned about my dad...he is 50. I am 25. He has always eaten alot for the past ten years or so but has recently gotten worse. He eats no fruit or veg (except peas very ocassionally) and lives off a diet of coffee,cake,choc, ...
A. 9 July 2011: hi. Make healthy meals for the both of u,and make an occasion of it. Eg. Sit at the table and eat together . Leave bowls of fruit and nuts out around the house,and healthy snacks in the fridge and cupboard.u love your dad so much. That,s beautiful. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. a few months ago i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he wasnt giving me enough attention or spending any time with me and he also hadnt called in two weeks.even though i was hurt,during the time we werent together i met other guys and ...
A. 3 July 2011: I,d say go with the new guy,and let go of the old bf. The same things that split you up before will split you again,.gd luck!... (read in full...)
I found gay porn on my boyfriends laptop and he is getting closer to his gay friend, help!
Q. I love my boyfriend very much but I found gay porn on his laptop a few months ago. After much talking and thinking, I decided to ignore it and I hadn't really thought about it. My boyfriend claims it was spam and had no idea why it was on there...
A. 3 July 2011: . You need to have it out with him. Don.t waste too much time hoping he.ll change. He,s bi,or gay,and is getting to the point of coming out. ... (read in full...)
He has completely changed, what should I do??
Q. My story is huge but please, please read it I need help so much!! Im a gay male 19. I met my ex at the most unlikely time, I wasn't looking for anything and didn't really want it. I didn't have a physical attraction to begin with. Im...
A. 3 July 2011: I.m sorry you had to go through this. He,s a mess,not mature enough to have a relationship,selfish and not good enough for you. You deserve so much more. How dare he humiliate you on holiday like that. You,ll never be able to trust him again. I ... (read in full...)
Why wont he take his profile down from an online dating site?
Q. I just got back with my boyfriend and he is still on match.com. I know he is not active on there but his profile is posted and he is still a paying member. And women can contact him. You know last time we broke up he stayed posted on there too and ...
A. 1 July 2011: Hi. Yes,it,s disrespectful of him to keep it on there.Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. If he does not take it down after that, you may need to review your options. X... (read in full...)
Guy I like broke up with me after seeing blood from my period during sex. What can I do??
Q. I had a huge crush on somebody that I met 3 years ago. He was so cute and from another state. From the first time we met, we knew exactly that we were attracted to each other. He stayed at the hotel and we exchanged our cell phone numbers. The sex ...
A. 30 June 2011: maybe, but I doubt it. he sounds a bit shalow!!these things happen.. it should not have been enough to turn him off for good;.... (read in full...)
Guy I like broke up with me after seeing blood from my period during sex. What can I do??
Q. I had a huge crush on somebody that I met 3 years ago. He was so cute and from another state. From the first time we met, we knew exactly that we were attracted to each other. He stayed at the hotel and we exchanged our cell phone numbers. The sex ...
A. 30 June 2011: What did you say in your emails to him?
When did you send them to him? Sounds like he gave up pretty quickly . He may have thought you tricked him and new you had your period. Some guys hate that. x let me kwno how you get on. x... (read in full...)
Husband verbally and emotionally abusive. What do I do?
Q. im 21 years old and met my husband half way through last year.. he was the most charming, handsome man id ever met and id prior had several really bad relationships.. when i met my husband, ive literally never been so happy in my life.. we were so ...
A. 19 June 2011: Im sorry you are suffering. Do you have somewhere to escape too? Freinds or family? You really must start planning your exit,as hard as it may seem. That man is heartless,and cruel. He will destroy you if you stay. You are young,and have your whole ... (read in full...)
It's been over a year and my heart still hasn't healed...
Q. I really need help its been one year in a half that ive been broked up with my ex I am suffering for him still I cry alot over him its just hard to forget about him why?what can I do?is it love?omg im confused I cant be happy with other guys because ...
A. 2 June 2011: That's a good sign that he siad he misses you and wants to see you.Maybe the sooner you see him the better, as sometimes when we see that person again after a long time, we dont; feel the way we thought we would, and it can 'lay the ghost' so to ... (read in full...)
It's been over a year and my heart still hasn't healed...
Q. I really need help its been one year in a half that ive been broked up with my ex I am suffering for him still I cry alot over him its just hard to forget about him why?what can I do?is it love?omg im confused I cant be happy with other guys because ...
A. 1 June 2011: HI. I;m sorry ou feel like this, I think male anon is right. Sned him an email or text and tell him exactly how you feel. Even if he does not respond.. you will feel better for having said it. Do you ever see him anywhere? when was the last time you ... (read in full...)
Should I stop stretching and bending my fingers?
Q. Hi Cupid. This isn't about love but it's a small question. When im in class or just bored I start messing with my hands. I gently yank my fingers and then I bend them one at a time to each side. I was just wondering if this helps in any way to ge...
A. 27 May 2011: Yes!! it's very bad for your joints, and could cause arthritis later in life. Stop it !!:o)... (read in full...)
Oral sex with a canker sore?
Q. so i perform oral sex on my gf and i had a canker sore... im super scared and so is she...can she catch somthing from it??? and if so what?? ...
A. 26 May 2011: Hey.. why not get it sorted out and let it clear up, then go back to the BJ's? I think that is healthier and would make you feel better. :o)... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a bad idea? I want to get back together but I don't think he takes me seriously
Q. i broke up with my ex because he stopped spending time with me. he had a lot going on in his life, including being depressed and incredibly unhappy with himself (before all of that, we had a blast/great relationship and he talked about the ...
A. 13 May 2011: Well. that';s the chance you would have to take. Could you really really trust him 100% after his behaviour? he would have to be consistent for some months for you to even start relaxing a little? Maybe this is who he really is, and managed tohid it ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a bad idea? I want to get back together but I don't think he takes me seriously
Q. i broke up with my ex because he stopped spending time with me. he had a lot going on in his life, including being depressed and incredibly unhappy with himself (before all of that, we had a blast/great relationship and he talked about the ...
A. 13 May 2011: I would try really hard to get over him and move on if I were you. He has alot of issues, and will drag you dowon. I know only too well how hard this is going to be for you.. I am in the process off moving on from someone who is just the same. I ... (read in full...)
Man in a womans body, but where do I start if I want to change gender?
Q. ive known that my gender and my sex didnt match since i was a toddler and now ive come to realize that i could be ftm (female to male transgender).i want to start transitioning asap but i dont know where to start.how do i come out to my family,how ...
A. 12 May 2011: Initially you need to go to your GP. He wil then refer you to a psychologist for sessions. The whole thing works in stages. It is a huge decision to make , and before any surgey is carried out,the medical team, and other professionals in this area ... (read in full...)
Any of you had bad karma in r/s?
Q. Does karma in relationships really happen? Like if you lie/cheat on/ or treat your ex badly and get into a new one.. does karma really come back to bite you? Any experiences to share? ...
A. 2 May 2011: Cause and effect ( Karma) works in ALL areas of life includiing relationships. It;s nothing to be worried about , but defintely something to be aware of. The effect will appear at some point when the condtions or right. This might help to ... (read in full...)
My family are prejudiced towards Chinese people and China in general, but I am marrying a Chinese girl! What should I do?
Q. I've being thinking A LOT about this over the last few months, and it is a painful one. I am from Europe, but living in China, Beijing, and have had a girl friend here for 3 years now. I do plan to stay here and do business here, and it is also...
A. 21 April 2011: Put them right and stand your ground. be firm and tell them you will not tolerate such ignorance, and that you are ashamed of them. Invite them to the wedding if they dont; show, they dont; show . Stay with you Girlfreind. Fight the good fight.x ... (read in full...)
My ex ignored me and it hurt like hell. Now he's wished me Happy Birthday. Should I respond?
Q. Hello,Im hoping to get some advice on the following situation. Thanks in advance. I moved to Europe and met a guy that i really liked and was in a relationship with for 3.5 months. (We are both 28 years old). I got attached very quickly. I was mean...
A. 16 April 2011: Did you respond? what happend? he is being mean x... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 8 years told me last week that she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. My life has come crashing down!!
Q. Please my girlfriend of 8 years last week told me she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. I always thought we were great together as does others Iam devastated sick everything you could think of we are both from different countries so I've ...
A. 14 April 2011: You have every right to know why she split with you., Call her and ask her in a calm way exactly what changed after 8 years. Email her if it is easier for you for your own peace of mind. x... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 8 years told me last week that she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. My life has come crashing down!!
Q. Please my girlfriend of 8 years last week told me she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. I always thought we were great together as does others Iam devastated sick everything you could think of we are both from different countries so I've ...
A. 14 April 2011: It sounds as if you she has just simply drifted away. SHe may have felt this way for sometime, and now has found te courage to break it off. BUT, as far as I'm concered - she owes you an explanation after all that time togther.x... (read in full...)
I have been waiting for her for 2 and a half years, how do I get her to leave her boyfriend for me?
Q. i love a girl and she also likes me but she is in relation with some another guy... i told her what i feel about her and i want to get commited with her and i am not able to forget her im truely and madly in love with her... i told her all this , ...
A. 18 March 2011: Hi. I am sorry you are so much in pain with this girl. She KNOWS you are ion pain, yet contiunes to hurt you like this. Do you really wnat someone like that? I really think you need to start getting used to the idea of not being with her. Are there ... (read in full...)
Lost the weight and now I'm eating out of control!
Q. Within the past 2 months, I was on a very intense diet and lost 35 pounds. Now that I have lost all of the weight I needed to lose, I am off of my diet and I am eating uncontrollably. I really don't even realize until I'm done eating what I've done. ...
A. 26 February 2011: Firstly - WELL DONE FOR LOSING ALL THE WEIGHT!! GOOD ON YOU!! I know how hard it is as I did it myself a few years back. Ok.. so now you are undoing all your hard work. Let me tell you - you are going to regret this when the weight starts showing ... (read in full...)
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