When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?
Q. Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...
A. 21 October 2012: I agree with the others. She chooses to sit on your lap because she likes you. Get the hint and ask her out.... (read in full...)
Should I offer myself to this guy for two months before I move abroad? I don't want to look like an idiot'
Q. Dear Cupid, I want to make a deal with this guy but I am not sure if it is normal to do so or how to get by doing the deal without looking like an idiot or making a fool out of my self. I am moving out of the country end of this year as I ju...
A. 19 October 2012: The problem with this is that you are already attached to the guy emotionally or you would not be dreaming that he's in bed with you every morning. Two months together as his sex partner, or whatever it is you're offering, is just going to put you ... (read in full...)
I can't tell where I stand with this guy?
Q. This is going to be kind of long, but I’d appreciate any help I can get because I’m really confused right now. About two months ago I started talking to this guy I worked with over the summer. Every time we’d have the same shift we would talk on ...
A. 19 October 2012: Besides that, you need to decide what YOU want before you get involved in any kind of relationship. You don't let the man decide that for you. If you let men decide that for you, you will never be in the type of relationship you want. It's ... (read in full...)
I can't tell where I stand with this guy?
Q. This is going to be kind of long, but I’d appreciate any help I can get because I’m really confused right now. About two months ago I started talking to this guy I worked with over the summer. Every time we’d have the same shift we would talk on ...
A. 19 October 2012: You said it was a booty call and that is exactly what it was. You can't have sex with a guy after only a couple dates and texting, and expect him to want a long-term committed relationship...especially in college.
If you want serious relation... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
Q. Hi all Ive been with my partner for four years now- its been a distance relationship..seeing each other weekends only and it has not always an easy thing. But we have had amazing times. Neither of us were willing to give up good jobs that w...
A. 18 October 2012: As far as getting through each day...it is a process. Take things slowly and adjust to life without her. Try to distract yourself by finding a new hobby, doing things with family or friends, or attending different events. When I was going through ... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
Q. Hi all Ive been with my partner for four years now- its been a distance relationship..seeing each other weekends only and it has not always an easy thing. But we have had amazing times. Neither of us were willing to give up good jobs that w...
A. 18 October 2012: I agree with all the aunts and uncles here and feel you have received some very good advice. All I was saying is what Cindy was saying. If you really wanted to be together, you would be making plans, or would have been making plans to do that a ... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
Q. Hi all Ive been with my partner for four years now- its been a distance relationship..seeing each other weekends only and it has not always an easy thing. But we have had amazing times. Neither of us were willing to give up good jobs that w...
A. 17 October 2012: If you really wanted to be in one anothers lives...you would find a way. It seems like you both still want your own lives (not wanting to give up jobs, etc) and that should be a good indication that neither of you are ready for moving in, or ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend possibly controlling and abusive? Is he playful or hurtful?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very playful relationship but sometimes he can take things too far. The other night we were playing around he hit my chest really hard so I backed if and that made him upset. So I pulled him outside to talk. And he was ...
A. 17 October 2012: That is the thing. He is playing games with you, and that is just something you do not need. You need someone you can rely on and treat you with respect...all the time...not just part of the time. I have had experience with this and ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend possibly controlling and abusive? Is he playful or hurtful?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very playful relationship but sometimes he can take things too far. The other night we were playing around he hit my chest really hard so I backed if and that made him upset. So I pulled him outside to talk. And he was ...
A. 17 October 2012: Having had experience with emotional abuse, it does sound like your boyfriend has abusive tendencies. First of all, *playing around* is a lot different than being violent. Partners should not hit one another in violence. I could see if he was ... (read in full...)
Why do men never EVER approach me?
Q. I feel embarassed just typing this, but well... I am nineteen year old, college student, I am extremely outgoing, I have a lot of friends and I am quite popular with them. I am tomboyish as in "loving sports, fights and cars" but you wouldn't...
A. 17 October 2012: With all due respect to my fellow aunts and uncles...I respectfully disagree. Some men simply are wimps. Some women flirt, bat their eyelashes, lure them in, and all the rest, and the men are so scared they run in the opposite direction. Now I ... (read in full...)
Two teens madly in love. Do I stay or go? Or should I move on and try again when he grows up?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had been together for a year before suggesting that we take a break from the frustration of not seeing each other and fighting about it all the time. I was upset but found out that he just wanted me to be happy with someone....
A. 16 October 2012: You broke up because there were issues, I would leave things alone. I had this pattern with a guy I was seeing for awhile. Fight, break-up, get back together, fight, break-up...you know the rest of the story. If he is a "Romeo" of sorts, then you ... (read in full...)
Why do men never EVER approach me?
Q. I feel embarassed just typing this, but well... I am nineteen year old, college student, I am extremely outgoing, I have a lot of friends and I am quite popular with them. I am tomboyish as in "loving sports, fights and cars" but you wouldn't...
A. 16 October 2012: I have to laugh reading some of these responses. I work in a professional setting and have never once had anyone tell me I have an "attitude" or come across "too strong" or am "too outgoing".
I also do not think I "chat it up"...in fact...I... (read in full...)
Why do men never EVER approach me?
Q. I feel embarassed just typing this, but well... I am nineteen year old, college student, I am extremely outgoing, I have a lot of friends and I am quite popular with them. I am tomboyish as in "loving sports, fights and cars" but you wouldn't...
A. 15 October 2012: This has generally been my experience also. I have had a few men approach me, but usually, I have to approach them. I am not sure why because I am friendly and outgoing too.
If you ask around, you will get various answers from "men are inti... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?
Q. A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with...
A. 13 October 2012: Personally, I think 5 weeks is a bit long, and even if he was "busy", how long does it take to send a text? An email? Give you a call? Realistically, I'd say find someone who is more attentive and who let's you know he is interested without ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend keeps texting me for sex!
Q. My ex boyfriend got dumped by his girlfriend now he keeps texting me asking for sex and it is really annoying me and my boyfriend now! I am ignoring him but he just isn't getting the picture, if I don't reply he gets a little abusive in the text...
A. 13 October 2012: Well if that is all it takes...then save it to your phone and block him. Or call your phone provider to see if there are other ways to get the job done.... (read in full...)
I don’t think I can ever respect another woman again.
Q. Right now my brain is the midst of a battle...Why? It’s because I’m somehow beginning to see women in a completely different light than I did before. Long story short, Wednesday at work, the topic of women came up. In my office there are 3 guys and...
A. 13 October 2012: First of all..this is a ridiculous question. Try having a girlfriend or wife in reality and telling her you think one of her friends is sexier than she is and see what you get. You might be honest, but you're also being hurtful for no good reason. ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend keeps texting me for sex!
Q. My ex boyfriend got dumped by his girlfriend now he keeps texting me asking for sex and it is really annoying me and my boyfriend now! I am ignoring him but he just isn't getting the picture, if I don't reply he gets a little abusive in the text...
A. 13 October 2012: You find ways to block him or dump your entire Facebook site and start over. There are ways to go about this. Also, you never communicate with creeps like this...it just fuels them even more because they know they can get your attention. ... (read in full...)
I just want to know what I did wrong with her?
Q. Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i ...
A. 13 October 2012: And the fact you are disrespecting her wishes shows exactly the opposite of what you are saying. If you liked her, you would respect her wishes and move on.... (read in full...)
I just want to know what I did wrong with her?
Q. Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i ...
A. 13 October 2012: I did not think you were a creep before, but now I do. The reason is because she is not *acting up*. She does not like you, she has told you her feelings, and it is best to move on. The more you pursue this, the more she is going to find you ... (read in full...)
Does he have commitment issues and needs to be single?
Q. hey, im in a dilemma, my ex i am still in love with dumped me in june because i looked at new farms and didnt want to go live with him in his dirty home(but it rly is). i need to make my own living, yes i didnt tell him i was doing so but now ...
A. 12 October 2012: Then why would you even ask if you should continue trying with him? The way you portray him is something of an emotional abuser...putting you down, keeping you down, etc.
And I do agree with my fellow Uncle about how your ex is a controll... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 12 October 2012: You set your own boundaries. I think a lot of women let men get physical too quickly because they want things to work out. If anything, getting physical can often set you back. If he really likes you, he'll be willing to get to know you first. ... (read in full...)
Does he have commitment issues and needs to be single?
Q. hey, im in a dilemma, my ex i am still in love with dumped me in june because i looked at new farms and didnt want to go live with him in his dirty home(but it rly is). i need to make my own living, yes i didnt tell him i was doing so but now ...
A. 11 October 2012: If you and your ex were talking about living together, why didn't you ask him to go look at new farms with you? Would he have been completely opposed to that? He probably felt like you went behind his back in looking at places to live.
I am ... (read in full...)
I just want to know what I did wrong with her?
Q. Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i ...
A. 11 October 2012: She's ignoring you because she told you she doesn't like you in a romantic way and you are still pursuing her. You need to respect her and listen to what she is saying.
Plus, she is only 13 years old. That means she's in junior high school. ... (read in full...)
How do I go to the next level without making him feel pressured?
Q. Hello Aunts, so I think I finally met a keeper. I met a cute, dorky, funny, mature, and out going guy on a dating site three weeks ago. He stated he's only looking for friends because he just moved to this town, lets call it A, for school. I mo...
A. 11 October 2012: Is this a trick post? If not, how in the world could you believe you have "found a keeper" after knowing some guy online for only 3 weeks? Are you kidding? You know nothing about him. You know only what he has told you. You can't know anyone in ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he accept me on facebook? He acted like he liked me
Q. Hello, i recently filmed a movie for college with some people and someone brought along one of their friends to play my boyfriend in the scene. We had to take loads of shots of us kissing and stuff and it was all really good. He kept making excuses ...
A. 10 October 2012: Why are you obsessing over whether he accepts you on FB? It means absolutely nothing in the realworld. Obviously because he talks with you and works with you...why does he need to click a button on the internet to prove he knows and likes you?... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: I agree with ChiGirl. If a man cannot take care of himself financially, it is an indicator that he will not be a good partner. The fact is...we all have to make money to support ourselves. You don't have to be rich, but you have to be able to ... (read in full...)
In a relationship. Is this flirting or being friendly, and is it wrong?
Q. Hi there, I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years. I am from australia last night out of nowhere, the singer of one of my favorite bands (an american band who are quite famous and have played shows in australi...
A. 10 October 2012: Instead of looking at this like he is interested in you romantically, you should look it for what it literally is. You are a graphic designer and he asked you to design something. I would think a member of a band (of all people) would have no ... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: I agree with both posts. It is possible he has just fallen on hard times, or it is possible that he is lazy. I would be careful as some women fall prey to the "I don't have any money" man who then proceeds to never have money to do anything--go ... (read in full...)
I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 9 October 2012: Aside of that, there is no *insight* to be gained here. You either both want the same thing in life or you don't. The two of you do not, so be true to yourself, let her be true to herself, and leave. You know that is the proper thing to do, or ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 9 October 2012: Yes, I think responsibility is the correct word. It is your responsibility to stop someone from treating you this way. If it means leaving, then that is what it means.... (read in full...)
I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 9 October 2012: Yes, he definitely needs help, but he also says that she is ready to settle down and he isn't. She also wants kids (and has one already) and he doesn't. He still wants to be out enjoying life. My comment still stands. Tell her it's over, so that ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified he will post naked pictures of me on the internet! Is that illegal?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site. He keeps saying he was set up, he deleted the account and it actually says closed by user so there's 100% proof he did it. He got nasty and said I'd set it up or my friends or sister ...
A. 8 October 2012: I have to agree with Aunt Honesty. NEVER let people take naked photos of you. I don't care how much you love the guy (or girl in some cases) at the time, naked pictures can and will come back to haunt you. Remember that if pics like this ever are ... (read in full...)
My LDR of 4 years wants to break up when we are set to move in within a month! Help me!
Q. We've been in a long distance relationship for 4 and half years now , and in 1 month I could finally move in with her and we could start our lifes together , even yesterday we were planning what car we should get etc. (she is Norwegian I am ...
A. 8 October 2012: It sounds to me like she could still love you, but she may fear that if she moves in with you, she may be making a mistake. She may need some more time. ... (read in full...)
My LDR of 4 years wants to break up when we are set to move in within a month! Help me!
Q. We've been in a long distance relationship for 4 and half years now , and in 1 month I could finally move in with her and we could start our lifes together , even yesterday we were planning what car we should get etc. (she is Norwegian I am ...
A. 8 October 2012: For one thing...you shouldn't move in together period if she is feeling this way. She could be second-guessing her original decision after being in the LDR for so long. Call it all off and give her some space. In fact, I would tell her that is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 8 October 2012: You need to drop kick this guy and find yourself someone else. Why would you stay with him after the things he's said??? He'd like to go above 100, but he'll stop at you? Highly doubt that is the case. Listen to your instincts girl, and leave ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 8 October 2012: And honestly, I wouldn't be so gentle about it. She's not a china cup...she's a woman. Just call her and ask her out. And you could even say...I'm calling to ask you out on a date...would you like to go to dinner with me?! You'll have an answer ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 8 October 2012: I think if the frequency of you asking her to do things increases, she will get the idea. We woman aren't that dumb about these things. The fact she discussed it with you says a lot. I wouldn't just discuss that type of information with any ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he accept me on facebook? He acted like he liked me
Q. Hello, i recently filmed a movie for college with some people and someone brought along one of their friends to play my boyfriend in the scene. We had to take loads of shots of us kissing and stuff and it was all really good. He kept making excuses ...
A. 8 October 2012: I can't really answer that question...only he can. This is the problem with Facebook. People use it for friendships with people when they should use real life. Are you planning on seeing him again? Why not call or text him and ask him to grab ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and think she lies to spare my feelings
Q. help me, am a guy and am having a really hard time with my gf past she recently confessed she has been with 20 man from the time she was 20 to 26 and its really bothering me i feel so desperate and bothered by the fact has given herself to all these ...
A. 8 October 2012: Also, I do not believe you are feeling retroactive jealously with all due respect to one of my fellow uncles. I believe you probably have standards and morals, and it bothers you that a woman would have such an intimate experience with that many ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and think she lies to spare my feelings
Q. help me, am a guy and am having a really hard time with my gf past she recently confessed she has been with 20 man from the time she was 20 to 26 and its really bothering me i feel so desperate and bothered by the fact has given herself to all these ...
A. 8 October 2012: I agree. If this is something that really bothers you, and you can't seem to get over it, I would leave. Life is too short to spend dwelling on something like this. I agree that some people can get over it, but it requires a lot of hard ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 8 October 2012: Please leave him. I went through this with my ex. We were together 7 years and everything was wonderful. Then all of a sudden he tells me that he just wants to be friends. I tried that for awhile and decided I couldn't do it. I was still in ... (read in full...)
I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 8 October 2012: If you are looking at other girls and wanting to be with other girls, then do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her. She deserves a man who wants her and only her.
Honestly, what guy asks for an open relationship and then does his girl... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 7 October 2012: If you are friends...I would just ask her to do things with you. It can't hurt and all she can say is "no". Or, if you know she is particularly interested in something...sports, art, concerts, etc...you could always ask her to go to one of these ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 7 October 2012: Is this woman divorced? Was the separation amicable?
At this point in time, I would ask her out to coffee or possibly grab lunch somewhere on the weekend. Make it very low-key and non-intimidating. If she agrees, you can both go and enjoy on... (read in full...)
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