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I'm 22 years old and love giving advice. I would even consider it as my hobby as I go on this website pretty often. I have been in countless relationships throughout secondary school and calmed down after I left sixthform. Longest relationship being almost 3 years. I've also had my fair share of family problems, which I am open about if it helps someone out with theirs.
A quote I live my life by:
" Don't let today's disapointments ruin tomorrow's dreams"
Advice I'd give generally for relationships are:
- don't rush - you may not see the bigger picture
- compromise - you can't always please eachother
- don't other think everything - as overthinking can get you confused to what you really think and cause arguments
- try to be positive - trying to improve everything may lead to you forgetting what good you already have |
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I love my b/f but don't wish to have sex with him anymore
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I am 20 years old. He is very affectionate, caring, and I know he would do anything for me..he is my best friend. He wants to marry me. However, we argue constantly because I am not very ...
A. 8 April 2015: Sounds to me like you just love your boyfriend but are not IN love with him.
What happened to you, happened to me and my ex long term boyfriend. We were never sexually compatible from the beginning but I ignored it as I like a lot of his other qual... (read in full...)
2 years of crazy and we're only teenagers! what should I do?
Q. What should I do? Me and my boyfriend been together for 2 years now. At first, everything was fantastic. Like fairytales, lovey-Dovey for the first year. Second year, things changed. We became more busy, and I have a very busy life compared to his, ...
A. 11 February 2015: woow, i would get out now. just because he's not happy doesnt mean he has any right to be horrible to you. you deserve to be happy and find someone you have a better connection and relationship with. Being so young, there are many more to come.
i... (read in full...)
If you were me, would you take him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up recently. The relationship was at tipping point and although we loved each other (and still do) very much and had a great connection and friendship, it was time that we either did something about it, or brake ...
A. 15 July 2013: Ive been in this exact situation except she was my best friend. Being with my then ex, I lost who I was. Dont lose your pride for someone you feel you have to tried hard to love and deny the person you are. You can't pretend to be someone youre not ... (read in full...)
Is he still into his ex?
Q. Hi and thanks My bf and I have been together for about a yr. Its been a roller coaster at times. Hes got different rules for him and I. Don't text men don't email men but he texts his ex and hangs out with her. He swears hes over her but I get we...
A. 18 June 2013: The fact that both of you have different rules means something. You're not allowed to talk to guys because he's afraid that you'll do the same to him.
I think that you both should compromise.
Tell him how you feel but describe it with using "I... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 18 June 2013: Once you get over him, which you will, just enjoy yourself. Enjoy partying, flirting, etc and when you're not expecting some guy is gonna swipe you off your feet. That's what happened to me and i haven't looked back!... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 17 June 2013: He will give up and get bored eventually. Men like him need to be taught a lesson so kept ignoring him! ... (read in full...)
Erection difficulties at 19?
Q. Hi everyone. This is more of a health question than a relationship question but could anyone help? I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now, everything is great, except we've had a few er problems in the bedroom. He always gets an erection ...
A. 16 June 2013: I noticed that you asked if his problem has to do with condoms. Condoms don't give men erectile dysfunction. It's just an excuse made so that don't have to wear one.... (read in full...)
How to cope when you know what he was like in the past??
Q. Hey, I'm just wondering on everyone's take on this situation. My other half have been together a year and a half.... we stay together every night and are pretty settled now which is lovely... I'd known him for a few years beforehand with ...
A. 16 June 2013: P.s if you want a man to respect and love you, make him work for you. If he's seeing someone, tell him where to stick it before you get involved. Be in control, take care of yourself. Let the man prove he's faithful, because so far he's doing what ... (read in full...)
How to cope when you know what he was like in the past??
Q. Hey, I'm just wondering on everyone's take on this situation. My other half have been together a year and a half.... we stay together every night and are pretty settled now which is lovely... I'd known him for a few years beforehand with ...
A. 16 June 2013: I think the relationship was destined to fail from the beginning. The worst thing you could have done is to get into a relationship with a man who you know is seeing someone else! This tells him he cam do whatever he wants. And the fact that you are ... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 14 June 2013: Short and sweet - sounds to me like he's too lazy/pathetic to break it off and is stringing you along for whatever reason. By the sounds of it, calling him isn't making a difference. Ironically, maybe not calling him will get his attention?... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be thinking of marriage?
Q. Hi guys. Just a quick question. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 26. We have been together for 8 months. I really love him and he loves me. Everything is great. The trouble is we have started to talk about marriage- I want to marry him and think that he ...
A. 9 May 2013: I agree that it's too soon to consider marriage in your relationship. I suggest you live with him first before having that talk. Living happily with someone i think is a good way of saying that a couple is very compatible. My boyfriend and i moved ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to be more aggressive during sex. Suggestions?
Q. So, my boyfriend has been asking me to be aggressive with him while we're having sex. His most recent request "I seriously want you to rape me sometime. Force me to do stuff like that, hit me, scratch me, bite me, punish me. Call me names. Pee on ...
A. 9 May 2013: I think he just means you to be in control. Tell him what you want him to do in an aggressive voice. For example, tell him to do stuff to you, where to do it, how to do it. Ride him hard, turn him over forcefully, tease him from going slow to quick. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has problems with porn.
Q. Every now and then I go on my boyfriends computer to use it and sometimes I find screen shots of him skyping with girls who are showing their ass to him and stuff like that. Or conversations of him having "online sex" if you will, with random people ...
A. 9 May 2013: In my opinion, live cam is cheating as there's actual communication and interaction.
He says he has issues...what issues?
To me, it sounds like it would be hard to stop completely. I think you two should compromise. He sticks to non live porn and... (read in full...)
Sexually charged BF after a fight?
Q. hello, After my boyfriend and I have an argument and sort things out, he tends to ask for a lot of sexual attention. why does he do this? Thank you....
A. 19 April 2013: And no, he doesn't always win a argument. ... (read in full...)
Sexually charged BF after a fight?
Q. hello, After my boyfriend and I have an argument and sort things out, he tends to ask for a lot of sexual attention. why does he do this? Thank you....
A. 19 April 2013: Thank you for the reponses. I couldnt think of any explanation but now I think it was a way to dominate me as I asked him if it aroused him and he said no. also it's not him being lazy as he never says no to pleasuring me. And yes, it is brave of ... (read in full...)
Sexually charged BF after a fight?
Q. hello, After my boyfriend and I have an argument and sort things out, he tends to ask for a lot of sexual attention. why does he do this? Thank you....
A. 19 April 2013: That's what it can lead to but what I meant was that after arguments he asks me to give him oral sex. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that this girl might start flirting with my boyfriend
Q. Hello everyone I apologize in advance for this being long but I need some serious advice. I'll just start off by saying I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years with a really amazing person. We are both around the same age ...
A. 5 March 2013: I personally don't think you should say anything to her because that may add to her enjoyment that she's getting to you and she may try harder. I suggest you talk to you boyfriend and give him signs to look out for if she's flirting. Obviously you ... (read in full...)
Is my husband's honesty admirable or despicable?
Q. My husband told me that he loves me, but he's not attracted to my body, anymore. He said he just wants to be honest with me. He really isn't trying to be mean, and he's not saying it in a demeaning way. Specifically, he wants me to tone my body....
A. 2 March 2013: My boyfriend told me similar what you're husband told you and I reacted the same way you did. It's not something you can't take to heart, is it?! However, some couples in relationships break up over something like this and the fact that you know ... (read in full...)
Incredibly drunk guy called me gorgeous. Did he mean it?
Q. The other night I went to a party. One of my good friend's roommates was there. He was actually the one who texted me and told me to come party. Anyway, we both got incredibly drunk and started dancing together. It's all a blur now, but we kissed a ...
A. 19 February 2013: some people can be genuine when drunk as it gives them more confidence. However, the fact that he often brings girls home I think he was saying it to get you into bed. he might mean it anyway but is using the compliment to get something from you. ... (read in full...)
I'm so depressed about the size of my penis. I'm very depressed
Q. Hello i have a really big problem with myself im so self councious i cant live in peace this started 4 months ago when i started going out with my girlfriend she is a really nice person i love her so much but i have an issue. not long ago we start...
A. 16 February 2013: Personally, I prefer your size. any bigger and rough sex for me would hurt. it really does depend on the girl! I suggest you research techniques on the internet better for the smaller penis, for example doggie style.... (read in full...)
Gf says she'd date her ex if we broke up. How would you react if a partner said this? Unsettled? Insecure?
Q. If you were having general conversation, and your boyfriend or girlfriend admitted that they'd consider dating some of their ex's again, hypothetically, if you two broke up, would that alarm you or bother you? My gf admitted that if we broke up...
A. 12 February 2013: I think if she answered that in response to a question like "who would you date after me?" then it's good that's she's honest and direct with you and has nothing to hide. if she made that comment out of the blue, then she should have kept something ... (read in full...)
I thought we were almost BF/GF and now it's just a gray area. What should I do?
Q. I was acquaintances with this guy for 2 years. Three months ago, he said he wanted to get to know me , and we started going to dinner , drinks etc. After a month of this, he went away on holiday for 2 months. I took a weeks vacation and met him. It ...
A. 2 February 2013: Your therapist is right, they do like a chase and by the sound of it you're making it a bit easy. I think there is potential with you and him as he did text you the day after he got back, and I'm sure on wednesday he was busy unpacking or whatever. ... (read in full...)
Do I get out of my troubled relationship now or stick it out till August?
Q. Hello, I've been dealing with some issues lately and I've decided to turn to the internet for help. I've been dating this guy for nine months as of the 17th of January. Let's call him Ted (that's not his real name). Ted and I have known each ot...
A. 19 January 2013: I totally agree with CMMP about him sleeping with you! MASSIVE hypocrite. You are definitely better off without him. Yes, it will be hard. Maybe you should get some professional help? As if you're addicted to drugs to escape away from life, you'll ... (read in full...)
Truly, should I forgive her? She claims she still loves me despite all her actions?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for 5 yrs. She moved into my apartment 2 years ago. l love her deeply and she means the world to me but am beginning to wonder if my love is not being reciprocated. August 2011,she asked some boy out on ...
A. 13 January 2013: I'm going to quote something from a film called the Holiday with Jack Black about the reason why one would take someone back who has done wrong - " Because you're hoping you're wrong. And every time she does something that tells you she's no good, ... (read in full...)
Why do guys do this? Hot then cold? Happy to see you one minute, then blank disinterest?
Q. hello, I'd like help with something that I don't understand. this is for people who like understanding other people's behaviours. I've noticed it mostly from guys. I'll explain it with an example. there was a guy on a bus that I knew from school, ...
A. 9 January 2013: Thank you for posting.
I do see where you're coming and I guess I was thinking too much into it :p ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about my Christmas present?
Q. Ok... I'm just wanting some opinions. Last year for our first Christmas, my boyfriend bought me some electronics. such as a DVD player and a Nintendo wii. (which was nice of him.) I know it was the thought that counts, I am more of a romantic person ...
A. 20 December 2012: His daughter is part of what makes him, him. And obviously she's very special to her hence he thought it would be a great idea. An argument over something like this i think is very silly. I think you're overreacting.... (read in full...)
I was really looking forward to time alone with her for Christmas break, but she blew me off for her family
Q. My girlfriend and I are in college together. Before the winter break started, we had sat down and laid out a bunch of plans that we wanted to do over the break. She was going to spend some time with her family, and some with me. It is the second...
A. 20 December 2012: From reading what you recently posted, i feel like i was a bit harsh on you.
It would be nice if she invited you over for a bit but as you said she wants the space. sounds like no compromise can be made.
There's not much you can do really, ... (read in full...)
I was really looking forward to time alone with her for Christmas break, but she blew me off for her family
Q. My girlfriend and I are in college together. Before the winter break started, we had sat down and laid out a bunch of plans that we wanted to do over the break. She was going to spend some time with her family, and some with me. It is the second...
A. 20 December 2012: I'm sorry but you sound like a immature child. family always comes first and you're selfishness may push her away. give her the space and understanding she wants and she will respect you in return. at the end of the day, family is there through ... (read in full...)
Why do people in relationships play so many games with one another?
Q. Hi, I am a very honest person, in a good way. But i dont believe in lying or sugar coating. (im not an overbearing or rude person at all, i say everything as politely as possible i just know some people dont like it) So i dont understand why ...
A. 29 November 2012: I think what may be the problem is how much you tell them the truth because I'm exactly like you and I find that my boyfriend can't handle all of it. too much makes then feel like they're always doing the wrong thing. I think that you might not be ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, am I ready for sex?
Q. I am a 14 year old girl...i am from india...the question i want to ask is that am i ready for sex?...i know this guy since 8 months..we are pretty much good friends...we share everything with eachother..no secrets...he wants to have sex with me...so ...
A. 28 November 2012: the fact that you're asking if you're ready or not tells me that you're not, because if you were ready you wouldn't be asking questions as you would know exactly how you feel. And yes you are right, it is your hormones making you feel like this. it ... (read in full...)
Do biological fathers step out of their children's lives when a stepfather is on the scene?
Q. My boyfriend is always talking about us having beautiful children together. Is it OK when he has no emotional connection to his 14 year old son? He used to take him presents and take him out but the boy's mother apparently used him as a pawn to get ...
A. 18 November 2012: my parents divorced when I was 4 and my biological dad stopped seeing me when I was 13 so I haven't seen my biological dad for almost 7 years. if my biological dad told me what your boyfriend told you and if he made such little effort like he does, ... (read in full...)
I have many questions about sex
Q. I often visit this web and see how many problems have people with their relationship and sex. That's why I decided to ask few question and your ansewer are highly apprechiate. 1.How often you have sex per week, and which one of you initiate it? 2.H...
A. 18 November 2012: 1. we have sex about every 2 days. he initiates it more as he has a bigger sex drive than me.
2.I think the last time I orgasmed was over a month ago. to be fair, for me to orgasm is hard! it took my boyfriend long enough to find my clitoris! ( 9 mo... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen, she's thirteen. Is this too much age difference?
Q. Hey I'm 16 years old. I just came back from hoilday with my mate and his family. Throughout the hoilday I started to get more attracted to his sister. Problem is she is 13 and I'm 16. Her personality is what I like in a girl everything she like I do ...
A. 18 November 2012: Yeah, I think a bday present is a good idea! I think you should get something that suits her personality/hobbies, e.g. if she loves simpsons, get her a Simpsons plush toy... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen, she's thirteen. Is this too much age difference?
Q. Hey I'm 16 years old. I just came back from hoilday with my mate and his family. Throughout the hoilday I started to get more attracted to his sister. Problem is she is 13 and I'm 16. Her personality is what I like in a girl everything she like I do ...
A. 17 November 2012: I agree that it's wrong! I dated someone in y11 when I was in y9 and I thought I was mature enough blah blah. we only lasted 5 months after he dumped me for someone his age. but when I turned 16 I thought he was a total creep because in y11 hormones ... (read in full...)
Could a man who is 10 years older than me, fall in love with me? Or is this a major teen crush?
Q. All right. So I am seventeen, and my supervisor where I volunteer is probably around 27. I don't know for certain but he's between 25 and 30. Before you go berserk, yes, I know there are many reasons a relationship between us would be inapprop...
A. 17 November 2012: what you think is love at your age isn't the same as his age. he can drink, drive and probably has to pay bills and rent. you arent legally mature for a reason. he's going to have to wait about 5 years till be can take you out to a club, bar et... (read in full...)
How old were you the first time you had sex? How was it?
Q. Hello I'm curious to know in what age you had first time sex(intercourse), and how was it?...
A. 14 November 2012: I was 16 when I lost my virginity with my boyfriend. we did it outside in a forest, with a blanket surrounded by candles and a bonfire. it was romantic but the sex was nothing special. even though I was totally in love with him, I wish I waited and ... (read in full...)
She's not interested in "shrooming" with me...
Q. I really love her, we've been together for 9 months as of the other day. I ask that anyone who reads this, do so with an open mind and not cast judgement or speak against "drugs", assert that I have a problem or anything likewise. Things were really ...
A. 13 November 2012: without reading other peoples perspectives, I would say that you should respect her for it. she obviously really doesn't want to do it and even if you force her, she will trip out and have a bad experience. her mind isn't in the right place for ... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly I cry.
Q. Recently i have been feeling ugly. Im 22 years old and married. First i would like to start off by saying that im over weight, i have thick facial hair which i shave, black arm pits and elbows, knees and between my thighs, im very insecure of my ...
A. 4 November 2012: I know its hard to lose weight as I'm doing it myself but don't give up. it takes time and persistence. I play badminton weekly for 2 hours and do 200 push ups every day and slowly but surely it's doing something. I suggest going to the gym with ... (read in full...)
How can I move past the size issue of my 4 inch penis? What might help me?
Q. Sigh* so lately I have been stressing out about what most guys stress out on. My penis size. I am about 4 inches long only and as for girth I'm not really sure but I know it is not that big either. It's been bothering me because everybody makes fun ...
A. 20 October 2012: it really does the depend on the person. I've had from 4 to 8 inches and I love 4 inches. for me, it means we can do every position comfortably and he can thrust harder and quicker on me and it doesn't hurt, ever. 8 inch penis really hurts me, we ... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: when you're in a relationship, anything sexual/intimate with someone else is cheating. your reason doesn't make sense. you need to understand what being in a relationship is before you get into one. a good relationship only involves 2 people, ... (read in full...)
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