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writes:I had dated a guy for about 4 months. Things hit off great between us. But, he was dating myself and another girl that same. (Which I understand is normal in the dating world). We would stop talking and then would get back together and start dating again, this would happen because I would get so frustrated on the fact that I wanted to know a decision on where he saw our relationship going.Unfortunately, I got really upset at him one day and said some things I shouldn't have. But, they did put in his place and he had said it before that he liked that I would tell him "how it is". This caused us to stop dating. Eventually, he did become exclusive with the other girl, but they broke up within less in a month. He started dating again and once again, is in the same situation that he is now, he want's to break up with her.We wanted to remain friends after everything, because we both couldn't give each other what we wanted at the moment when we dating. We had a lot of interests in common and our religion which plays a big role in both our lives, our culture and how family is important to us. I do feel guilty when he text me because he has a GF, and tells me he's not happy with her because of religion but he says the issues go far more beyond that. It bothers me that he does tell me these things because I don't want to hear it and it's not my business.Here are my questions:1) Why is he telling me these things?! He has his own friends to talk to about this.2) Does it seem he is regretting his decision with not pursuing our relationship?I the end I will always want to try to start dating again we were just not ready for each other. He has mentioned that he wants to be remain friends, and see were things led too but he wants to remain friends at this moment. I don't want to start dating again, but I wouldn't mind just to see were things go. I know he needs time to himself before any dating would start between him and I. My friends all tell me your Miss Right, but he's not ready for Miss Right, right now he wants to have fun and he's trying to keep your around until he is ready. I feel that my friends are right about this, he said to me that he's tired of dating people he knows it's not going to work out with and is finally deciding to stop ignoring the situation and do what's right now.3) What do you think he's trying to do?And any advice or input you can put on this would be appreciated.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 1 ) His friends know him better, they'd laugh in his face and tell him: yeah right,dude, whatever.
2 ) No it does not sound as he is regrettng anything, it sounds to me as he is exactly where he wants to be at
3 ) He is tryng to string you along big time. Don't wait for him to make his decisions- you make yours. If you want to be in a committed relatonship, obviously he is not the one, and even if he was telling you the truth about you being the right girl but just not now, so ? The right time for him might come in 5 years, 10 years. Are you going to wait for his convenience ?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 August 2014):
 What is this religion that encourages dating other people while lying to a girlfriend? Fascinating. He's so religious that he...
okay, I've read enough.
He's full of it, and you are naive if you think this is normal or something that is okay.
Why is he telling you these things? To keep you hanging around while he does what he wants to do. It's been working for a while, it appears.
Does he regret not pursuing your relationship? If he did, you two would be an official couple and there would be no doubt. He does not regret not making you an official girlfriend.
What is he trying to do?
He is trying to keep all his options open.
if it bothers you to get those idiotic *sorry, regular* texts from him then, STOP reading them. Block him, move on.
You are so wasting your time.
Move on, seriously, move on.
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