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... Send *ilenced a private message | | | *ilenced's profile:I love to help people as much as I can, especially with relationship issues. Let's face it, love is a huge factor in everyone's lives and if love isn't going so smoothly, life becomes harder. It's great to come onto a site like this and help people gather a third-person opinion on their issues and help them see more clearly.
I am currently only 19, but I found the most amazing guy I've ever met. We have been together about a year and I have had many issues that tore down our relationship. However, through these hardships and a big downfall, I finally learned what it's like to accept love and to be truly loved and truly love another person. I just want to help others find this sort of love and hopefully make them not make the same mistakes I've done or I've helped my friends through.
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I just got married but had a fantasy of kissing my husband's friend. Whats wrong with me?
Q. I have always been someone who has felt a great deal of guilt, and lately this problem has come back to bite me. I'm wondering if I have overreacted. I recently got married to the most wonderful man in the world. It was a small wedding, and the...
A. 9 May 2012: I would agree with eddie85.
Just because you are in a relationship, which of course marriage is still a relationship, doesn't mean you won't be attracted to other people. I've had these sorts of fantasies. As long as they aren't recurring and you ... (read in full...)
Our first time, losing our virginity together
Q. I am planning to lose my virginity in a few weeks :) My boyfriend is also a virgin, therefore I want it to be a special, loving and satisfying time for both of us :) But especially him! Any tips ? Lingerie? Positions? etc :) Thank you!! ...
A. 5 December 2011: Ah, this is so sweet!! I think it alone will be great. Seems like you two have grea respect for each other so just explore each other's bodies together and experiment and be open and honest to figure out wha feels good for each other! Congrats and ... (read in full...)
I prefer to be alone so I don't cheat on my LDR partner
Q. I'm in a LDR and speak to her almost every night through the week, weekends however we don't talk at all hardly. I don't like weekends. I basically wish the weekends away until I'm back at work and it keeps my mind busy. I love my girl very much but ...
A. 19 September 2011: First off, you're not crazy.
That being said, I think it's good that you're doing all that you can to stay faithful. Long distance relationships are definitely lonesome and difficult.
However, the fact that you have to isolate yourself isn't t... (read in full...)
How much of this am I responsible for?
Q. I feel really ill and responsible for something terrible. I have been dating someone on and off for about a year and a half. He has a roommate that has been his friend since he was four years old. Just incidentally from being at his house so often I ...
A. 13 August 2011: Just because he has some issues doesn't make what he did excusable. He was thrown out once by his wife, but then started stealing from his friend who saved him from homelesness. He screwed over the one person trying to help. It's his own fault that ... (read in full...)
Is there any explanation for this?
Q. I have this problem after sex, I feel like a constantly need to urinate, I go to the toilet to relieve the feeling and only a small amount of urine passes. So, I have tried to also suppress the feeling because I can't stay on the toilet all day, but ...
A. 11 August 2011: It's good to pee after sex. It gets rid of any bacteria that may cause a urinary tract infection.
However, pee does not come out of your vagina. Any dripping from your vagina is from your body being turned on and from having sex. As So Very Con... (read in full...)
How much of this am I responsible for?
Q. I feel really ill and responsible for something terrible. I have been dating someone on and off for about a year and a half. He has a roommate that has been his friend since he was four years old. Just incidentally from being at his house so often I ...
A. 11 August 2011: Obviously your boyfriend is protective of you.
This is the last straw because this guy has already stolen from your boyfriend among other issues, and now he is trying to get in his girlfriend's pants. It's not over this sole issue that your boy... (read in full...)
My wife kisses and sucks her high heels??
Q. My wife is so crazy for her shoes and high heels that she kisses her shoes and sucks her heels when we have sex. Although I too find high heeled shoes sexy isn't this going a bit too overboard? Is it normal for women to do that?...
A. 10 August 2011: Not necessarily "normal" but it's a fetish.... (read in full...)
My sister's ex is coming on to me -- hard -- and I don't want anything to do with him
Q. I don't know how to explain this situation. I just know that it's the worst thing that could have possibly happened. Basically, my sister and her ex had been together for almost 14 years and they have two children. They only split up a few months ...
A. 10 August 2011: His actions don't seem like that of love or like. They seem like that of a creep and someone who could hurt you.
Be very wary of this guy, and I agree with everything the posters before me have said.... (read in full...)
He doesn't put effort into the relationship
Q. My boyfriend is really irritating me. He doesn't seem to try in our relationship. Today, he knew I was being weird on him and he knew why. He said he didn't think I was in the mood for kisses. Could he not try? Could he not try and cheer me up. Tell ...
A. 10 August 2011: Guys are guys. And it doesn't seem like he's completely not trying. You told him that it wouldn't be better if he doesn't kiss you, and he gave you kisses...exactly what you asked for. He didn't say 'I love you' though, but you didn't ask for it. He ... (read in full...)
I get extremely excited when boyfriend kisses me or holds my hand
Q. Ok this is gonna sound strange but I need to know is this normal. Every time I hold hand or just kiss my boyfriend I cum. I don't know what it is but it just happens like if being honest he hasn't been in my trousers yet but he just so romantic and ...
A. 8 August 2011: Are you sure you cum? Is it wetness/discharge, or do you actually have an orgasm?
If you just get wet by his touch and kiss, this is normal. It just means you are very sexually attracted to him.
If you "cum"/orgasm, then it isn't normal, bu... (read in full...)
I'm scared this girl is too perfect!
Q. I’m seeing this girl who is the most incredible person I’ve ever met!! But I think she is too perfect and too good to be true that i'm skeptical whether to carry on seeing her. Guys what do you think… She is so beautiful, knock out figure, grea...
A. 8 August 2011: Ah, my boyfriend seemed too good to be true, and I messed up the relationship by doubting everything and constantly questioning him because I figured something had to be wrong or that I couldn't be good enough. Well, what I ended up doing was ... (read in full...)
Why do some think black people are tough and can't be romantic?
Q. Hi, I've always wondered Why some of us think that black people are tough or cannot be romantic. I couldn't recall from where did I get that idea. My friends avoid black guys, they consider them harsh and don't consider starting a relation...
A. 6 August 2011: I can't tell you why a lot of people think that. I know plenty of black men who are kind, honest, and wonderful to their girlfriends. And I know some black men who are complete jerks, insensitive, and only care about superficial things.
Sayin... (read in full...)
Am I just naive and blinded by love? How does one know that he/she is the one?
Q. Am I just madly in love and perhaps a little blinded by it or is this the real deal? I am a little confused because I feel like my feelings might be moving a little fast. For those who have found their life partners, how did you know that they were ...
A. 6 August 2011: Embrace it while it lasts! I'm not saying it won't last, but it does sound like you may definitely be in love. As for him being "the one," that will take time. I fell in love with my boyfriend exactly after a meager month of dating him. I'm only 19, ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he didn't meet my expectations. Was I settling?
Q. Dear Cupid, So I met this boy in my freshman year of college... I met him through a Christian group on my campus. We became good friends. What I liked about him was that he shared my faith in the love of God. It definitely showed in his life; he...
A. 6 August 2011: I have two opinions on this.
Just because he didn't read his bible daily does not mean he wasn't disciplined in his faith. He obviously shows many Christian characteristics and is a very kind and courteous man. There are plenty of Christia... (read in full...)
I've discovered my penis is smaller than average and its really messing with my mind!
Q. I've recently done some research and I've found out the WORST possible news. I've discovered that my penis is below average in all aspects. I've been concerned with this for years and it's one of the reasons I've turned down or just didn't atte...
A. 6 August 2011: Yeah, you're size is average. Not small at all.
Now, saying that, just because your penis size is average doesn't mean your sex will be average. It's all in the techniques you use. Every woman likes something different. No woman is going to look ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my body is changing. Could I still be going through puberty?
Q. Lately I've been feeling my hips getting wider and my breasts went up a cup size. I'm not sure if this is because of puberty because I'm almost 19 in a few weeks and I heard you stop "growing" when you're 18. I have been eating a little more than I ...
A. 5 August 2011: What you're going through is completely normal. Many women's hips and breasts change even after 18.... (read in full...)
Am I bothering my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend just moved down to Florida three weeks ago for college. I drove down there with him and stayed for a week before flying back up. For the first week I was home, there was minimal communication, then we started skyping every night. It's ...
A. 5 August 2011: Ah, I'm exactly like you are and my boyfriend is just like yours.
I think the best thing to do is just wait for his replies and text back accordingly. Also, try not to wait on his texts. Just text back when you notice his texts and don't expect h... (read in full...)
He says he will be with me in the future, but I am scared he might meet someone else before then!
Q. I Have This Guy That I Really Like But We Live And Different States We Both Really Love Each other But We Dont Wanna Be In A Long Distance Relationship. Were Both In High School. He wants to see other people instead of trying to make it work but i ...
A. 5 August 2011: You're young and in high school with plenty of boys. Don't tie yourself down. You may find it's way easier to find someone at school than you think. I think you should try and get over your boyfriend. If things are meant to work out in the futur... (read in full...)
I still find the school girl uniform sexy! Am I pervert?
Q. Hello guys. I am quite young and I have just left school to go to College. The thing is I still find the whole school girl thing sexy (the uniform, pigtails and so on) I'm worried I might have a problem. I don't want to be a pervert! Am I weird!? ...
A. 5 August 2011: What? You think you're a pervert for that?
You really have nothing to worry about. All of us find different things sexy and plenty of men find the school girl thing sexy. Many guys dream about it, fantasize about it, and want their girlfrie... (read in full...)
Why do some think black people are tough and can't be romantic?
Q. Hi, I've always wondered Why some of us think that black people are tough or cannot be romantic. I couldn't recall from where did I get that idea. My friends avoid black guys, they consider them harsh and don't consider starting a relation...
A. 5 August 2011: The best thing you can do is put yourself out there, be confident, and eventually you'll find someone who will give you a chance and want to be with you.
Don't waste your time on those that think badly of you just because of how you look. They are... (read in full...)
Could I only be considered beautiful if I were white?
Q. Is white beauty the 'ideal'? I'm brown skinned, black haired asian female and I'm getting a bit disillusioned about being brown. Blonde hair, thin lips, blue eyes and all that is meant to be the 'ideal' of beauty and quite frankly without gouging ...
A. 5 August 2011: I'm so sorry you've been put through so much just because of how you look.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder is a cliche statement to make people feel better...but it's completely true. Be proud of who you are and know your good qualitie... (read in full...)
My guy will not talk to me. I'm devastated. Am I making mountains out of molehills?
Q. I feel like i'm losing everything in the last 24 hours it feels like i've lost everything. The guy i liked won't talk to me. My friends don't act like friends around me anymore and it makes me feel like crap. Like for the fella I think i may have...
A. 5 August 2011: First step would be to talk to them. You said that past 24 hours, which means it hasn't been going on for long. Talk to the guy you're into--however, don't pester him--and ask him if he's okay. Then possibly ask him where he sees things going bet... (read in full...)
Should he have asked me first before going and making these plans?
Q. My husband just informed me he asked two of his single guy friends to go on a roadtrip to see a baseball game. He didn't ask me before he asked them and I know these guys are single and always looking for women. should he have asked me first before ...
A. 4 August 2011: Maybe he was waiting to tell you until the plans were definitely going to happen. And just because he's with guys like that doesn't mean he'll become that guy. He's married to you, and if he's telling you where he's going, I don't see any reason to ... (read in full...)
He is acting weird, how do I know if he really likes me?
Q. My question is How Cann I Tell If My Boyfriend Really Likes me? So we met at camp. We knew each for 6 weeks. Talked evey single day. Saw each other everyday monday-friday. 3 dasy before camp ended he asked me out. He is so sweet and cute and fu...
A. 4 August 2011: Just try asking him what he's been up to. Go from there. As a couple, even a new one, your lines of communication should be open.
Maybe he's been caught up with a project or family/friends. Or it is possible that maybe he's looking for an out. But... (read in full...)
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