I think I need to leave my babies father. He loves drink and drugs more than us.
Q. hello this is a single mother to my 3 months old son ... the father is a bad person he uses the drugs n goes out a lot with his wrong friends n comes home to cause a lot of problems for us (me and my son) i plan to leave him he is always asking me ...
A. 23 October 2008: I'm sorry hon. You know what to do. You need to protect your son. You need to leave him.
Check out this site: http://nar-anon.org/index.html It's a support group for friends and family of people who use drugs and alcohol. I found it really h... (read in full...)
Should I stop paying the mortgage?
Q. My Ex-partner lives in the house we own jointly. I have moved out into another property and now pay 2 mortgages. She refuses to pay her half of mortgage and expects me to pick up her tab. I have asked that house be auctioned she refuses; the house ...
A. 23 October 2008: I don't know anything about whether you can recoup your loss if you pay her half. I do know that if you don't your credit will be damaged along with hers.
I'm glad you're going to talk to a lawyer about your options. Please don't delay.
... (read in full...)
My anus is bleeding from a foreign object. Too embarrassed to go to the doctor..will I be ok?
Q. I am a young woman. I have stuck a foreign object in my anus and it started bleeding last night. It is still bleeding when i try and make bowl movements. Its only been a day but i am worried that it will keep bleeding. I know i probably only ripped ...
A. 22 October 2008: Your doc has seen worse. You need to be seen. Time to get to the doctors.... (read in full...)
Does he disrespect me because I was a lap dancer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together 6 months. Well before i met my boyfriend i was a lapdancer which he has always known from the start of our relationship. I made an innocent comment about dancing the other day, which led him to call me a slag, a ...
A. 21 October 2008: After reading what your comment was I am even more convinced that he's unreasonable. You were offering him some advice from your experience; we ALL do that. You were even trying to commiserate.
Don't take that from him. You deserve much bet... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I have very different libido's and come from opposite sides of the fence.
Q. My girlfriend and I have very different libido's and come from opposite sides of the fence. I feel like neither of us are getting what we want out of our sex life. Is this something that will get better or is sexual incompatibility enough to end a ...
A. 21 October 2008: I guess I'm more concerned with the fact that you can't talk about it either. You deserve to have sexual contact more than 1x/month. If you can't reach a compromise you will both be very unhappy, and that doesn't bode well for the future.... (read in full...)
Is this love or something else?
Q. Let me start off by saying that I'm a 15 year old girl and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend, 17, for over 5 months now. He recently just told me that he loved me. We're both so young. Is it possible to be in love at our age? What if ...
A. 21 October 2008: I have always thought that so-called "Puppy Love" was real. It's not that you feel it any less or that it could hurt you any less -- it's that you're learning what it's all about.
Yes, you can be in real love.
It's even possible that yo... (read in full...)
Should I stop paying the mortgage?
Q. My Ex-partner lives in the house we own jointly. I have moved out into another property and now pay 2 mortgages. She refuses to pay her half of mortgage and expects me to pick up her tab. I have asked that house be auctioned she refuses; the house ...
A. 21 October 2008: I would contact a lawyer and find what you can do to get her out of the house.
If your name is on the mortgage, do what you have to do to protect your credit rating.
Since it's your house, why not rent it out? Find the most annoying room ma... (read in full...)
Does he disrespect me because I was a lap dancer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together 6 months. Well before i met my boyfriend i was a lapdancer which he has always known from the start of our relationship. I made an innocent comment about dancing the other day, which led him to call me a slag, a ...
A. 21 October 2008: I wish I had better news for you. I think you should leave him. If he calls you these things, he's thinking them.
You have nothing to be ashamed of, BTW. You've been honest, and that's all anyone can ask. If he can't get over it, it's on him, ... (read in full...)
The older sister likes me but I fancy the younger one...
Q. Hi, I'm nearly seventeen and I've recently met two sisters, one 17 and one nearly 16. I get on really well with them and I'm pretty much 100% sure that the older one likes me. The only problem is that I really like her sister, and I think she...
A. 21 October 2008: My sister has a phrase for situations like this: "Run like your ass was on fire." :-)
They are going to be sisters forever, and if you move forward on this then 20 years from now you are probably going to be that guy they fought over -- what was... (read in full...)
Just found out the man I love is married...
Q. I met this guy online about 8 months ago. From the beginning, he seemed head over heels for me but I have already gone through a divorce and just wanted to take things slow and make sure that our relationship was progressing for the right reasons. ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well, I don't have the he-was-married experience, but I do have the depression experience.
Dump him. You're much more important than ANY guy. And if he cheats with you, he'd cheat on you someday. His on-again off-again habits are enough t... (read in full...)
Would friendly sex create any uncomfortable feelings?
Q. I've got this really good friend, she's 14 going on 15, and I'm 16, 17 next year. We are both virgins. I've done kissing, and dry sex and she's done pretty much nothing, she's never had a boyfriend either. We tell each other everything because we ...
A. 21 October 2008: Yeah, it would. Girls and boys are different in more than just physical ways. Girls tend to fall for the guys they're having sex with, even if they don't mean to. She may think that if she gives it up you'll fall for her later. If that's the ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend be gay?
Q. I have been dating this extremely nice thoughtful almost perfect guy, but I can't help to think that he might be gay. He is 32 years old, has never been married and has very little dating experience. He has some female mannerisms such as crossing ...
A. 21 October 2008: There's a range of possibilities here, up to and including gay. But there's a lot before you get that far.
My husband used to shave when he was swimming -- reduces friction.
Your guy may just like the feel of it, but still be into women. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of giving a hand job...
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and I'm not very experienced and I'm hopefully entering my first real kind of permanent relationship with this really nice lad. For some reason I am actually really afraid of giving a handjob! Not so much a blowjob because I've done tha...
A. 21 October 2008: As long as you don't do something that makes him go "ow" he'll like that you're touching him, so don't worry. Ask him how it feels; he should be able to tell you fast or slow. Watch to see what he likes.
You can use spit as lubrication or anyth... (read in full...)
Should I give him back his ring?
Q. okay this is going to sound REALLY dumb after my last post I just did... but my bf of 9 months dumped me last night.. He didn't even have the courage to tell me in person, or even through a phone call! He did it over texting, around midnight...
A. 21 October 2008: Giving it back is an option. I wouldn't bother. Put it into a box in a drawer.
I have a promise ring from 25 years ago. It makes me smile now. The guy was a jerk, but we were young. And it's a pretty ring. My sons like to play with it, lol.... (read in full...)
How to ask girlfriend to let me know her plans without imposing on her sense of her own time?
Q. I would like some advice on how to get over my anxious feelings when I'm on my own. In the morning and daytime I'm usually busy with things to do, but when my girlfriend gets out of work I really want to see her. The problem is that she's in a job ...
A. 10 October 2008: Well, firstly, I don't think it's really cool for her to want you to cool your jets at home while she's out with her friends, just so that she doesn't get locked out. If she wants you to stay home she should come home.
It's not unreason... (read in full...)
In love and we gave our virginity to each other. So why does her past bother me? All she did was kiss a guy!
Q. Hey people I need some help! I have been with my gf for 1 year and 9 months. she is my first ever girlfriend. She is the first girl i have ever done anything with. I have only ever kissed one girl before her. We gave each other our virginity...
A. 20 September 2008: If you can't get over her past, you have no future. What she did before she met you says nothing about her feelings for you now. She loves you; she gave you her virginity. Not anyone else, you.
You're right that it's your insecurity. If you ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you are 'bi' and like a 'straight' girl?
Q. I like this girl who's straight and i'm bi. I told her i liked her and tried to be her friend, but she said i was weird and blocked me. I really want to just be friends with her, but i don't know. What i should do?...
A. 20 September 2008: Good for you for being honest. Now give her some time. She'll either get a grip and stop blocking the friendship, or she'll continued to be freaked. If the latter, her loss. If she can't unwind you're better off without her. But just remain ... (read in full...)
Will I be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy?
Q. the furtherest i have gone with a guy is sexual contact... will i be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy... will i be judged if i get pregnant... will i be judged if i go on the pill...? the frightening thing is if the condom sp...
A. 19 August 2008: Oh, hon. Your body, your rules. Don't do ANYTHING you're not comfortable with. And if the guy you're with won't wait until this is something that YOU want, then he's thinking with the wrong head and you should dump him.
Find someone who care... (read in full...)
I had my period a week early, and it hasn't finished properly.
Q. hey.. i had my normal period, but it was a week early, it was for like 9 days, then it stopped, however im still bleeding every now and then.. what could this be? ...
A. 18 August 2008: When I was just a little younger than you I had the same problem. Turns out I wasn't ovulating and that is needed to trigger a proper period. They fixed it easily by having me take some synthetic progesterone for a few months, no problem. See ... (read in full...)
I'm confused - my friend is sending me mixed signals.
Q. I'm bisexual and I've been friends with this guy for ages. Ever since I met him I've been very sexually attracted to him. During the course of our friendship I disclosed that I was bisexual to him, he was surprised but never brought it up again or ...
A. 8 August 2008: I never said he was malicious. I don't think he's doing any of this on purpose. I think he acts without thinking, and I think that you will be hurt because of it. That's what I meant by "dangerous." I'm glad you're distancing yourself. Good ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals...what does he want from me?!
Q. There is this guy I like, same age but he is my teacher and soon ex teacher, he likes to stare at any chance he gets, he uses the word beautiful very often in my company while looking at me. I run into him frequently and im begining to think he is ...
A. 8 August 2008: He wants his cake and to eat it too. Distance yourself from him. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused - my friend is sending me mixed signals.
Q. I'm bisexual and I've been friends with this guy for ages. Ever since I met him I've been very sexually attracted to him. During the course of our friendship I disclosed that I was bisexual to him, he was surprised but never brought it up again or ...
A. 8 August 2008: This guy sounds dangerous and immature. I don't think he will ever have your best interests at heart, or he wouldn't have told people what you told him in confidence.
Turn it around: if you told people that HE was bisexual (based on his acti... (read in full...)
How can I prevent myself ejaculating early?!
Q. I'm a male virgin, but I want to loose my virginity to someone. I've read numerous books on dating and charisma and conversational skills. I've even read books on sexual techniques. My only concern is lasting a "respectable" time with someone I ...
A. 8 August 2008: About the best thing you can do is to concentrate on your partner. If she's so excited by what you're doing to her body, if she's absolutely ready before you enter her, then she'll be happy that it's a short ride. And then 30 minutes later (or 15 ... (read in full...)
Monthly bill obligations...he's not fullfilling his end of the deal. What should I do?
Q. I think perhaps i already know the answer to my question but need to hear it from others too, this month my live in partner has decided he can only pay one quarter of our shared bills instead of the usual half, he says he cant afford to give me more ...
A. 7 August 2008: Good for you! I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself; I know that's really hard when you love someone and want it to work out. You see what he could be "if only." Don't trap yourself there.
If you can, go one step further and give... (read in full...)
Monthly bill obligations...he's not fullfilling his end of the deal. What should I do?
Q. I think perhaps i already know the answer to my question but need to hear it from others too, this month my live in partner has decided he can only pay one quarter of our shared bills instead of the usual half, he says he cant afford to give me more ...
A. 5 August 2008: Get out from under this guy's horrible habits. You will be stuck supporting him for the rest of your lives and he will never want to take care of anyone but himself. Before he can damage your credit, and before he can suck anything else out of you ... (read in full...)
What noises should I make during sex??
Q. well im going to be losing my virginity soon as me and my boyfriend are ready for sex. but im really worried about how itll feel like but most of all what kind of noises to make. i mean, just soft moans or screams? what should i be saying?? what do ...
A. 5 August 2008: If you're in the middle of sex and you can think about the noises you might make, then you're not into sex enough and you should ask him to slow down and/or stop. Whatever comes out when you're having a good time is acceptable, as long as it's not ... (read in full...)
Is he still attracted to me even though he and I have different views on porn?
Q. I share a computer with my bf. He left the computer on one day, and when I got home decided I would go on and check my email... I looked in the search bar and saw he was looking up porn. (He forgot to delete the search bar.) I felt insecure like ...
A. 5 August 2008: My man watches porn and it doesn't bother me. Sometimes he does it with the sound down in our room before we have sex; I leave my glasses off [grin]. Porn doesn't do anything for me at all (I'm not that visual, and watching a sexy woman suck off a ... (read in full...)
An enemy "told" on me to a boy I fancied, and it ruined everything. How can I recover?
Q. :( problem is i love this lad to bits , everything wa sfine between us until my enemy said to him that i fancied him , and yes i do but i kept it to myself so i didnt ruin anything , so i denied it of course to save my friendship , but now he ignor...
A. 16 July 2008: You have 2 choices:
(1) pretend nothing happened and act the same way you did before. (This has the benefit of one-upping the person who told, as it looks like she has no effect on you.) or
(2) level with your crush. Let him know that it... (read in full...)
At 26, should I stick to sex with guys or try switching to girls?
Q. I am 26 years old and never had sex with a girl, only guys, I never had the loving for girls, until few months ago, what is the best way to see if I like girls,as i am trying chatting a going clubbing but cant get any girls, should i just stick to ...
A. 16 July 2008: Sexual orientation is who you fall in love with. Wait until you find a connection with someone, whatever gender, and go for it.... (read in full...)
I want answers from real women about parenthood!
Q. Hey girls( andblokes without sonding too sexixt)! I'm in a dilemma at this point in my life. You see, I really think that I might want a baby. Im 26, have a great career(well okay career- I'm a family planning nurse-the irony!), loving partner, ...
A. 16 July 2008: I had my sons at 37 and 39. You have LOTS of time. Don't rush into it, because it's a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice. (And a lot of joy.) Wait until you know you're ready, the go for it.... (read in full...)
Can I work out the date I conceived?
Q. my last period start 2 march then i have no periods till now i check it its positive now i m pregnant and i want to know my concive date i had sex on 13 march 15,16,18 march i visit to doctor 21 may they tell me by ultersound my baby is 11 weeks...
A. 16 June 2008: If you're concerned about parentage, you can look into getting an amnio.
Amniocentesis is usually done when a woman is between 16 and 20 weeks pregnant. Women who choose to have this test are primarily those at increased risk for genetic and chro... (read in full...)
Can I work out the date I conceived?
Q. my last period start 2 march then i have no periods till now i check it its positive now i m pregnant and i want to know my concive date i had sex on 13 march 15,16,18 march i visit to doctor 21 may they tell me by ultersound my baby is 11 weeks...
A. 3 June 2008: Okay. Assume you have a regular 28-day cycle. Count the first day of your last period as day 1. THAT'S the day they count as the first day of your pregnancy, for the full 40 week term, even though you probably CONCEIVED on or around day 14 (when ... (read in full...)
Insecure girlfriend, what do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3months now, but she keeps thinking that im going to cheat on her, she says she trusts me, but i cant go out without her getting worried, and she hates how she is and wants to change because she doesnt like it, and ...
A. 2 June 2008: She probably doesn't feel like she deserves you or that she's as good as you are, and so she doesn't trust the relationship. Until she gets some self-confidence she's not going to believe that she's good enough for you, which means she'll always ... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my boyfriend, all he wants is sex. Your advice on how to dump him, or at least try and make this work without sex?
Q. I've been dating this guy, lets call him Sam, for 6 months now, and it was all going great. Until a couple of weeks ago when we lost our virginities together at only 15 (using protection). Before this the only sexual thing we did was kissing....
A. 2 June 2008: Tell him the truth: that you weren't ready for sex and don't want to have it again until you feel you really are ready. And that you'd like to stop talking about it for a while, too. If all he wants is sex then HE'll break up with YOU, and so ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm still mourning my dog's death, I have exams and I'm not eating! I just feel that I don't care about anything.
Q. Please help me. I feel like I have changed so much, and I dont expect anyone to put up with it, or even care. I dont understand it but recently I just have been feelin that I dont care about anything and I just cant be bothered. And thats not like ...
A. 29 May 2008: You're showing classic signs of depression. Please talk to someone (school counselor, if not a parent) so that you can get help. Talking helps.
When we had to put our 19-year-old cat to sleep, the vet gave me this poem and it helped me:
G... (read in full...)
Am I throwing away a friendship to prove a lie?
Q. I dont know what to do ! im feeling pretty low right now. I feel like im about to lose something i could of had, because of my friends. me and my friend wre talking in a conversation on msn. She thought i liked this boy that i have been talking ...
A. 29 May 2008: why don't you want your friend to know that you like him?... (read in full...)
I slept with my wife's sister and best friend, one is now pregnant...what can I do?
Q. Hi all This is all a complete mess!!! I slept with both my wifes sister and her best friend and dont know what i can do now. They both came onto me and are so hot that i could not resist either of them... The problem i have now is t...
A. 29 May 2008: You need to know that you had a choice. "they came onto me" is a REALLY LAME excuse, and one that your wife won't take. Man up, accept responsibility that you COULD HAVE said NO, even if you don't say anything to anyone about it.
How would yo... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this first time hook up? I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself...
Q. I really don't even know where to start. I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself and filled with regret. I met this guy Dan through a friend a couple of years ago. We really hit it off, but he was then deployed to Iraq. I haven't seen ...
A. 29 May 2008: I'm sorry hon. Yeah, I'd let him go, and good riddance. Don't beat yourself up, though. You deserve much better. Just make sure you hold out for better next time. All the best to you.... (read in full...)
Is this size small for a 5 foot 5 inches tall man?
Q. is a 6 and a half inch,2 inch wide penis small for a 5 foot 5 man?...
A. 29 May 2008: You sound normal to me! Tisha has the perfect answer.... (read in full...)
Why isnt my girlfriend keen on moving in together?
Q. ok i've been dateing my girlfriend 6 months were engaged, where trying for a baby, we spend as much time as possible with each over but i wanna move in with her and i asked her the other day if she wouldn't mind looking for somewhere sh...
A. 29 May 2008: well, lots of people don't move in together until just before they marry, so I wouldn't worry about that. What concerns me is that you're "trying for a baby" but you don't ALREADY live together. Put the breaks on the baby until everything is ... (read in full...)
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