My BF is being really controlling... could this get worse?
Q. My boyfriend is being very overprotective (or is controlling a better word?) at the moment (this has never been an issue in the past). For example, he doesn't like it when I hug my guy friends; he'll get all tense when I do. He's been touching my ...
A. 12 December 2009: Just keep a tab on it. I dated a guy that would txt throughout the day and if he didn't get a quick enough reply, he would then call asking casually what I was doing.
He was quite posessive. I have also had a guy that flipped out when a male frie... (read in full...)
Fetishes and fantasies, are we normal?
Q. hi i have a extra ordinary fantasy, i would like my boyfriend to tie in bed both his hands and legs and then have intercourse with him. how do i ask him and 2nd thing is he likes to dress like a lady, he asks me for my skirts and blouses and all ...
A. 12 December 2009: Of course its normal. He will love it if you tell him your fantasy. Sounds like he's told you his!?
As long as its not hurting anyone, & not morally wrong, fantasies are fine, in my opinion anyway!
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Why don't men spend money on me?
Q. Hello, I have always dated men who do not spend money on me. They would have splashed out on their previous gf's but not on me. Usually I am the one to get them great gifts but I rarely get anything cool in return, just cards and some random gene...
A. 13 November 2009: I completely understand where your going here. I have always noticed the same thing with myself and the guys I date.
Its almost definately becaus we are givers, these guys cotton on to that pretty darn quick. And I'm afraid they like it that way.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get your period while you're pregnant?
Q. I am sexually active with my girlfriend of course. My question is... is it possible to get your period while you are pregnant? According to those menstrual cycle calculator things her fertile days 19-24 of october. And she was supposed to be ...
A. 7 November 2009: So she started her period on the right day? Which by the way sounds about right if she ovulated when you said in october. You had sex on day 2 of her period, then she stopped bleeding? Its very unlikely she got pregnant then. But it depends if you ... (read in full...)
I am 4m pregnant and BF still wants to party every weekend. Please Help!
Q. Dear agony aunt. I am 4 months pregnant and my boyfriend is not taking my feelings into consideration. All he wants to do is go out all the time and wheb I tell him I don't want to go and that I am staying home but he can go he gets angry and s...
A. 7 November 2009: He is probably a bit too young to be settling down? Trouble is, its too late for that now! He will still need some him time to do what he wants with his mates though, middle age men would be the same I expect, so cant you guys come to a compromise? ... (read in full...)
I feel bad because I rejected my cheating ex bf... please give me some encouragement!
Q. i was with my ex for 2years and he really hurt me.. like he'd be talking to other girls, cheating..lying etc: but i stayed with him cos i was young naive and thought i was in love and the sex was great.. but i finally had the courage to leave ...
A. 7 November 2009: I think you played it well to be honest!
Stick to your guns & dont jump into bed with him. Your instincts tell you he's a bad egg. Trust them x... (read in full...)
Would having sex during a girl's period change her cycle?
Q. I had sex with my girlfriend on the first day of her period. I Don't mean to say too much, but we were at it for a long time, i don't if that has any affect or not. But on the second day there was no bleeding at all. All i would like to know is what ...
A. 7 November 2009: Nah I dont think it would actually stop the period? Crossing the red sea is messy thats all! If I had sex when I was due, it used to seem to kick start it off! But I dont think it would stop it, unless it was on its way out by then anyway.
As for ... (read in full...)
Can online romance be real?
Q. Hi everybody. I just want to ask you guys question. Do you guys believe in online love? I met this guy who have same birthday,same satuition about pass relationship and almost everything are same.We chat on the internet for couple times. Yesterday ...
A. 28 October 2009: Not if you haven't met, I dont believe anyway. You can think you're in love with a certain person, but its a fantasy person. I think the chances of that panning out in the real world is very slim. Of course you will always get the exceptions though. ... (read in full...)
I want group sex with 5 men
Q. I know this might sound crazy, but I have a long-running fantasy to have group sex with 5 men - I guess what you would call a gang bang. I would like it to be 5 men I don't know too well but who have been "pre-screened", maybe by a swingers group ...
A. 24 October 2009: As long as you play safe, whats the problem?
Dont have any other advice though, sorry. Its not my thing x... (read in full...)
Does this mean I've been dumped?
Q. My girlfriend has just told me she needs some space to sort her life out, because it is in a mess. We have bee going out for 11months. She is currently going through a divorce. Does that mean that i am dumped. I told her that i will wait for he...
A. 24 October 2009: Sounds that way in all honesty :o(... (read in full...)
4 years affair and I don't think he's ever going to leave his wife
Q. first of all im begging you all not to pass moral judgment however tempting it might me,, heres my problem ive been seeing a married man for 4 years..and hes been giving me hopes..that we could be together as his wife had an affair and hes n...
A. 23 October 2009: Oh dear, well atleast you have that closure now.
And Bubuvn, you wouldn't of minded if he chose you though would you? Atleast his wife was married to him in the first place x... (read in full...)
I can't shake these feelings!
Q. I have been in a relationship for two and a half years. My BF has a kid. I don't want to be around her nor do I want him to bring her to my house. It really hurts him and I know it. I know what I'm saying is wrong but I can't shake my feelings about ...
A. 20 October 2009: So you dont want someone with a kid, cant be helped that can it! But he comes as part of a package, with his kid. So probably best to move on?... (read in full...)
Why did the drunken 'you're hot' texts stop now that we're dating?
Q. This is probaly gonna sound stupid but... back before summer, this guy liked me, and whenever he went on a night out I would recieve drunk texts and phone calls. They basically said 'Your hot.' or 'I want you.' Ya know usual guy stuff. Now we have ...
A. 17 October 2009: Sounds like he's the classic playa. Likes the chase, but once he's caught the prey, he loses interest and this girl he's txting is the next target! Hard to say obviously. Just throwing my tuppence in there x... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my husband wants me to abort the baby!
Q. I am 38,my husband 46, we both has a daughter from previous marriage, 15 and 13. Now I am pregnant, but my husband does not want the baby. He wants me to do abortion. what I should do? He even wants to divorce! Help!...
A. 15 October 2009: Sounds good xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my husband wants me to abort the baby!
Q. I am 38,my husband 46, we both has a daughter from previous marriage, 15 and 13. Now I am pregnant, but my husband does not want the baby. He wants me to do abortion. what I should do? He even wants to divorce! Help!...
A. 11 October 2009: Of course you will expect him to pay child maintenance. He could also have the joy of bringing the child up full time too! His choice. Yours is if you want to bring a child up on your own if he has made his choice to leave. x... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my husband wants me to abort the baby!
Q. I am 38,my husband 46, we both has a daughter from previous marriage, 15 and 13. Now I am pregnant, but my husband does not want the baby. He wants me to do abortion. what I should do? He even wants to divorce! Help!...
A. 10 October 2009: I believe if people wait until they can actually 'afford' a child, they will never have one! x... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my husband wants me to abort the baby!
Q. I am 38,my husband 46, we both has a daughter from previous marriage, 15 and 13. Now I am pregnant, but my husband does not want the baby. He wants me to do abortion. what I should do? He even wants to divorce! Help!...
A. 9 October 2009: What Uncle Phil said!
Right or wrong, as a female, you still hold all the cards when it comes to this decision x... (read in full...)
4 years affair and I don't think he's ever going to leave his wife
Q. first of all im begging you all not to pass moral judgment however tempting it might me,, heres my problem ive been seeing a married man for 4 years..and hes been giving me hopes..that we could be together as his wife had an affair and hes n...
A. 8 October 2009: Thats because he's more bothered about how SHE feels. There's more at stake at home, afterall! xx... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy to have sex during my period?
Q. Okay bear with me... it will make sense when you get to the end. My parents raised our family as naturalists and we would go to different nudist resorts for vacation a few times each year. When I was 17 I met my future husband at a nudist resort ...
A. 7 October 2009: What a load of tosh. It doesn't do you any harm at all!!
Sounds like you have an ace relationship going on there. Good for you! x... (read in full...)
Is he really going to leave his wife for me? Or is he just saying the things I want to hear?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice on my situation. Have been seeing a married man for 2 and half years and both in love with each other and see each other lots, had few holidays and weekends away etc. He has 2 children under 18 but not babies a...
A. 7 October 2009: Well, speaking from experience, I can relate to lots of that. I was seeing a guy years ago that was 17 yrs older than me, he was married. Had been bringing her 11 yr old daughter up from quite young, and she didn't have any contact with her ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. hi guys, Ok your all going to think im total mad for this but i really cant help it, Im doing everything for my ex bf, who dumped me coming upto a yr now, i give him money sometimes when he really needs it, buys him drinks and will always l...
A. 7 October 2009: Madness. Talk about a lucky bloke! Real ego boost for him. And he sounds like a real good catch too! Not..
I cant understand why you would be bothering with someone that has a child on the way with someone else, and also has another girl on the go. ... (read in full...)
Was I in the right for asking him to end a friendship?
Q. i was recently really uncomfortable with my boyfriend spending time alone with one of his friends who happens to be a girl. she constantly asks him out, and he always has to be alone when he sees her, either watching romance movies, going out late ...
A. 7 October 2009: I dont think you should. There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, and normally I would say its a bad move trying to come between it. And even a tad possesive. But having friends of the opposite sex also means it should be ok to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants kids, but I don't think I do. How can we get through this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. I'm almost 28 and have two kids, 6-8 from a previous marriage. What is preventing our relationship from progressing is that I have had a vasectomy and am not really sure if I'm going to wan...
A. 7 October 2009: This is a biggie really. If she wants kids and you dont, then its not really going to work out is it in the long run. x... (read in full...)
How do I let him know I'm ready to lose my virginity?
Q. ok well me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 4-5 months...he hasnt tried to kiss me ... he used to talk about sex but now he isnt. i dont know if i should break it off with him or what. i like him a lot and he says the same about ...
A. 7 October 2009: Possibly sounds tight, but I cant help thinking that if you need to ask how to let him know, then its probably not the right time yet?? x... (read in full...)
Are you genuinely happy being single? If so why?
Q. Are you single and stuck in your ways? It seems these days that most people only feel complete if they are in a relationship. I will admit I used to feel the same way. And went from one relationship to the other, quite quickly. I have been single n...
A. 4 October 2009: Some brilliant replies, thanks folks. I am totally getting the not wanting the hassle thing. I too find the whole relationship thing really exausting. The last guy was ok, but I struggled to share my attention between him and 2 young teens. And my ... (read in full...)
Orgasm only during foreplay not sex
Q. hi, im not sure if this is too open for this but i will give it a shot anyways. So every time i have sex i can't seem to have an orgasm. I can only during foreplay. Is something wrong with me?...
A. 3 October 2009: Only 30% of women will orgasm through penetrative sex alone.
And a female will be able to tell you that more than a male. There's a lot of fakers out there ya know! lol x... (read in full...)
4 years affair and I don't think he's ever going to leave his wife
Q. first of all im begging you all not to pass moral judgment however tempting it might me,, heres my problem ive been seeing a married man for 4 years..and hes been giving me hopes..that we could be together as his wife had an affair and hes n...
A. 3 October 2009: He's not leaving his wife, not no way, not no how. If he was going to, he would of done it by now.
Such a shame as you are quite young and are wasting time on this guy x... (read in full...)
Are you genuinely happy being single? If so why?
Q. Are you single and stuck in your ways? It seems these days that most people only feel complete if they are in a relationship. I will admit I used to feel the same way. And went from one relationship to the other, quite quickly. I have been single n...
A. 3 October 2009: Yes that makes sense. I didn't put in that I have children too, as it would of lengthened the post even more! But mine are early teens and I just feel at the moment that I want to concentrate on them for the next few years.
I work part time too.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her over this?
Q. I am having an issue with my girlfriend. I have been with her for a bit over 7 months. She has facebook. When i first starting dating her, about a month into our relationship, one of her facebook friends left her a comment on one of her pictures ...
A. 3 October 2009: Well its flirting in the least I guess. When we're young, its just part n parcel with life! You cant expect someone as young to never speak or flirt with anyone else ever again. You have to trust them and accept thats what will happen. Its a normal ... (read in full...)
My online guy of a month wants to marry me! Is it really meant to be?
Q. OMG..I have a problem I'm so confused idk what to do..so here I go!! Ok I met this guy through the internet and we have been talking for a while now close to a month but we talk on the phone and txt and send pictures of eachother but you see he ...
A. 3 October 2009: No of course you cant love someone you have never met. This person is a fantasist. Be very warey!
Cant say anymore than that really, its way too wacky! Talk about flighty!
xxx... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 3 October 2009: Good on you. It is hard I know. My children whitnessed things they shouldn't have a couple of years ago. I was always one of those people that said people shouldn't expose their children to things like that. But when you are in the thick of it, you ... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 28 September 2009: It just seems such a shame that over a year later, you're still stumbling along in a life thats not good enough for you. I suppose people do it all the time though. I can just imagine feeling extremely drained and exausted ive gotta admit. I think I ... (read in full...)
Is being with a drunk better than being alone?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship w/ a man off and on for 9 years. He's cheated in the past, been very emotionally and verbally abusive. Recently, he's been trying to make up for the past, however, he expects me to trust him again overnigh...
A. 29 August 2009: No its not. Not to the average Joe Bloggs anyway. It depends what floats your boat though!... (read in full...)
I'm young, in great shape and fiance still won't stop looking at porn!
Q. I am having a lot of problems with my fiance CONSTANTLY looking at porn. I can't understand why anymore because I am still young, I am in great shape and I always say yes when he wants to try new things. I mean, not just new posistions but any ...
A. 29 August 2009: This is because you are confusing why men like porn. And some women obviously.
It has nothing to do with you. He is perfectly happy with you. Porn is a different thing altogether. Just like someone that masturbates, isn't always someone that isn'... (read in full...)
Should we move in together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a week. But we have known each other for 15 years. Well we want to move in together. But im not sure if its the right time. Its not gonna just be me and him it will also be his bestfriend which is also my ...
A. 29 August 2009: I agree with Brook e boo.
Follow your heart. If you are now in a relationship, you've already crossed that line. So no point in going on about the 'dont wreck a friendship' bit.
I moved in with a guy after only a few months and spent 9 good yea... (read in full...)
Is this FWB turning into something more?
Q. My friend with benefits suddenly doesn't want sex now but is even more loving and affectionate and attentive.acts like my boyfriend its nice Is the relationship changing to be something more?...
A. 29 August 2009: Sounds like it. Its unusual for FWB things to stay uncomplex. One or the other, or both usually becomes attached.
I had one of these going on many moons ago (9 years ago to be precise) and we both got more attached than we should of done. Caus... (read in full...)
Is 2 weeks of dating too soon to express my concerns about his facebook?
Q. I am seeing a guy i met on the internet, he has many female friends on facebook who are younger and prettier than me. I am jelous of this, and wonder why he needs to flirt with them? I dont know if hes met any of them. We have only been together for ...
A. 29 August 2009: Tricky one. This would probably concern me a tad too if I just met someone.
Chances are he was a bit lonely, whilst he was single. So built up this friendship base on face book. I'm amzed most the time the amount of 'friends' people have on ther... (read in full...)
Knowing whether to use advice or not?
Q. I have asked a e few questions on here now and always got mixed answers though I think its a great site just to air your feelings. . . . . My question is with the fact you get so many mixed messages is a case your just getting what people are ...
A. 29 August 2009: You're instincts will hopefully tell you if you should use the advice given. Sometimes an answer can just give someone that second opinion of what they already knew?
I think its a case of most the time there really is no 1 single answer though? That... (read in full...)
How can she like him after he held a knife to her throat?
Q. Hey i like this girl and we get along rly well we went out a couple of times and than her ex bf comes back along and she now only wants to be friends now that doesnt rly bother me as shit happens what i want to know is how can she still like him ...
A. 29 August 2009: Because she is attracted to the bad boys. Is almost used to the rollercoaster ride of a volitile relationship. Her past? Was she treated pretty crud by her family? Does she actually no any better?
Does she feel she deserves any better?
I wonder h... (read in full...)
If he is sent to prison, should I go and visit him? I still love him and feel bad about all of this...
Q. hi i have just won a criminal court case, against my ex for stealing fraud and driving offences whilst banned. he was an alcoholic, he pleaed guilty to all 5 charges against me. at first he tried to blame my by pleading not guilty, but come...
A. 29 August 2009: From my understanding, prisons are the worst place for addicts to go. Things are easier to get on the inside. So I would think very carefully. If he was going into rehab I would say he's a better bet! Its a tough one. But until he stops stealing and ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 29 August 2009: Its very stressful for his mum right now, but of course you should call the police if he is threatening you in any way! You are so young, it just seems crazy putting up with all this rubbish. There are plenty of guys that will take on someone elses ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 27 August 2009: An ok relationship? Doesn't sound like it to me. The last time I had a relationship that volitile was in my teens. And I soon met someone else that didn't throw his weight about and ended up with him until I was near on 30.
At your age you can leav... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 23 July 2008: You obviously take your vows into consideration. Its hard when some sides of the marriage are ok, but not all. Heart goes out to you. We are only human! Hope you get some response from males.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 23 July 2008: I expect that last bit, is a good indicator of why you got involved with this guy in the first place. If you're not in a good place in life and are vulnerable, then its more likely we make bad judgements.
Ive been in the same situation as your guy ... (read in full...)
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