If its over then why does he stay in touch
Q. please help me i am in a real mess ,i have been with my partner for over 2 years and up until 3 weeks ago we had a amazing loving relatioship. The last 3 weeks have been very difficult, my partner was seving in afghan when he had to come home early ...
A. 13 September 2011: Hi, I know that basically he is depressed and that plays games with our minds especially the operation is not helping the scene at all .... it is a well known fact that injuries and operations make people depressed and medication make them do and ... (read in full...)
I didn't trust my b/f and now he's distant to me
Q. I messed up and invaded my boyfriend's privacy by going into his email and reading chat logs between him and another girl he used to like right before we met but whom he is still friends with even after we started dating. My behaviour was fueled by ...
A. 2 September 2011: Hi, I know how you must be feeling at this moment it is not easy I'm sorry to hear about what happen between you two... however inexcusable your action might have been, it is wrong of him to blame it on you ... coz what you did is without doubt wh... (read in full...)
Could I only be considered beautiful if I were white?
Q. Is white beauty the 'ideal'? I'm brown skinned, black haired asian female and I'm getting a bit disillusioned about being brown. Blonde hair, thin lips, blue eyes and all that is meant to be the 'ideal' of beauty and quite frankly without gouging ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hi, On this topic I would also like to add that you don't have to be white or pale skinned to look beautiful (o.O) you look beautiful the way you are ... all you need to do is be hygienic and look your best color of your skin should not define b... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over this anger towards him?
Q. I have been with my bf for 2.5 years now and for the first 1.5 years of the relationship he flirted heavily with other girls, met an ex for coffee secretly behind my back and stored recent photos of his ex on his PC. We had a massive row but ...
A. 1 August 2011: I know how you feel zZz... it must be really hard to go through all that and at the same time deal with all that anger ....
you know what is best for you ... besides anger makes people make the wrong decisions so I would recommend that you go for ... (read in full...)
I don't know why I am with her anymore! What should I do?
Q. My gf had a past. she had her ex for 4 yrs. even after being in relationship with me, she cheated me behind my back.she used to enjoy with another guy who was attractive and was her college mate.I made her realise her mistake on time.Now when she ...
A. 29 July 2011: I agree with Chickpea and I suggest that you take it a little slow coz its very hard to co-op with but not impossible. I know its like a broken record playing in your head over and over again but remember this you need a lot of patience, faith and ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty for lying so much to my ex, help me get rid of this guilt
Q. My girlfriend dumped me one year ago. We remained together for two years. It was long distance relationship with occasional meeting here and there. When I looked back into that relationship, I felt guilty and ashamed for lying with her about my job ...
A. 29 July 2011: look pal you know what is best for you more than anyone in this site... OFC! you do owe her an apology for keeping her in the dark. But the way I look at it you should be happy that you didn't end up with a materialistic girl who wants you for a fat ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any clue what might be putting guys off or if I'm doing anything majorly wrong?
Q. This Is probably a question that gets asked alot but I figured it wouldn't hurt asking. I've never had a proper boyfriend in my life and when I talk to people about it they tend to say things like you havnt met the right guy yet. But lately I...
A. 17 April 2011: hi, you probably are not doing anything wrong ... it just could be that you have been dating the wrong guys... or maybe I'm not the right person to talk to about this :S well I have not been on a date and I never had a gf to make matters worse I'... (read in full...)
I hate the way I look and hate every pretty girl I see
Q. I'm an ugly 22 year old female; sure, I'm smart, kind, talented, all those good "inside" things, but I'm ugly outside and there's no questioning, I've got comments my whole life and I can see it in the mirror anyway... and not much can be done, and ...
A. 17 April 2011: I will not say that I know how it feels to be called ugly but yes I was called names in my childhood and it felt horrible ... and I do know how it feels to be left out ... I'm going to be 29 and I've not had a gf till date and I know it can be ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think online dating can work?
Q. I joined an internet dating site. Some people said it’s worth a go, a lot of people warned me off, and told me there are a lot of users and losers out there. I met a guy, he was nice (although he seemed to have dated a lot of women via internet...
A. 14 April 2011: Hi, There certainly are genuine guys who are looking for a relationship through online dating ... I know I'am 1 of them :P hehe... let me ask you ... are you doing this for the other guys or yourself :S about the guys being players .... hmm... (read in full...)
Has anyone here has been lied to by an online love?
Q. Please guys I dont want any negative comments, Okay, I have known this guy for about 6 years online, and we developed feelings for each other, I love him, and he loves me. Problem is I lied about my identity (name and race, but, he has seen...
A. 11 April 2011: I suggest that you come clean with him and give him some time to digest whatever you tell him ... he will definitely feel hurt when he finds out that he was lied to by some1 that he was so much in love with .... and he will find it hard to accept i... (read in full...)
His parents won't accept the union and I am heartbroken. Any advice?
Q. I'm madly in love with this guy, but we can't marry because our parents wont accept the union, it's more his parents. He's not even allowed to have female friends, if they found out about me, they'd disown him. We've broken up lots of times bu...
A. 5 April 2011: Hi, I know what you mean :( I'm sorry to hear that eh! I have been in a similar situation.
you need to put it through to him that he can't live his life alone .... and ultimately he will have to think for himself...
besides I'm sure that he is we... (read in full...)
How do people in their 40's hook up?
Q. How do people in their mid-40's hook up? I married young (19) and spent most of my life with someone (25 years) so I cam completely out of touch and I'm not in my 20's anymore so hitting the bars and being coy doesn't work at my age. But I am ...
A. 4 April 2011: hi, don't worry about it just be your self and try talking to guys whom you find interesting and remember don't loose hope .... maybe what's happening is very simple you are forgetting to put on a beautiful smile and being happy... well... (read in full...)
26 and no dating. Is online dating good?
Q. I'm 26 and quite shy. I don't really have any friends where I live and go on holidays on my own(whick i enjoy). I've not had a boyfriend since I was at school and I'm still a virgin. I would quite like a boyfriend, is online dating good?...
A. 1 April 2011: I'm 28 and still very shy coz of which I don't have a girlfriend and I never had 1 and I know how you feel eh! its not very easy to keep going on I know .... but I would say don't worry about being a virgin :S may be I'm wrong but what I'm trying ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me, and it hurts so much! He was my everything! What should I do now?
Q. My boyfriend had being acting funny for a month, asking to go on a break. He'd come back, we'd make up, and he'd ask for a break again. The third time he came back and he said he'd been thinking and that he doesn't want to be in a relationship ...
A. 4 March 2011: shh! honey! I know what you are saying coz I have been there and just managed to survive it ... I know its not easy it is hard and the excruciating pain in your chest would seem so heavy all the time ... try not to think much keep yourself ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but I made a mistake. What should I do?
Q. Help! I'm in love with a guy who has told me to leave him alone about 4 weeks ago which now I admit I was wrong, but I made a mistake. One: this guy who we've been close for 2 years told me in November that finally him and his gf broke up and sinc...
A. 11 February 2011: hi,
I'm going to speak for myself ... I feel that after you asked him to clarify he owed you an explanation and his silence was not much of an answer ....
to be honest I don't think what you did was a mistake coz when he is not ready to take ini... (read in full...)
I cant accept he doesn't like me!
Q. hi, i like my cousins best friend,we used to talk on phone but when he met me for the first time he said he didnt feel the connection with me.......now i'm not able to accept this that he doesnt likes me......i really miss him...what to do? ...
A. 10 February 2011: hi,
sometimes in life you don't have a choice you just have to accept things the way they are I know it hurts but you can't do much about it. What you could do is eat a tub of ice cream and give it sometime .... you will feel better ... all it take... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my girlfriend because I come too fast!
Q. I am a healthy guy of 21.bt each time i wnt to have sex with my gf i always cum quickly b4 5mins.i am confuse i dnt knw what to do and i dnt wanna loose hes cos i love her so much..pls can some one help me?...
A. 9 February 2011: hi,
don't worry sounds like you are suffering from anxiety you need to learn to control it :S hey! w8 a min I never had sex ... damn haha hope it solves your problem :P try meditation or exercising anything that helps you calm your senses .... I me... (read in full...)
So confused. Married but have a huge crush.
Q. Hello, This is my first post so please be gentle with me! My husband and I got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being together. I didn't have any doubts at all before the wedding. However, only 2 weeks after we got back from o...
A. 9 February 2011: hi, I'm not married... but I have some knowledge about lust yet a strong believer in love. after reading your post I came to understand that you have a sudden outburst of lust and its not love... you find him sexually attractive and thats about it... (read in full...)
How can I make things better in our marriage?
Q. i married a man that is seven years older than me and we've been married for four year. at first everything was fine, now things are going downhill. he lost his jobs making 17 dollars an hour, we've been having money problems, he took a job making 8 ...
A. 24 October 2010: I can understand what you are going through ... however you need to understand what your husband is going through ...yes indeed the pay is less but that don't mean you argue about money .... he may be trying for a better job but till he gets that ... (read in full...)
So sick of my husband!
Q. please help ive been married for 5 years, my husband dont cuddle, kiss or have sex with me unless he has been drinking, he goes out to the pub lunch time and comes back when he feels like it and thinks its ok. he constantly complains about my son ...
A. 24 October 2010: So let me get this straight he has no job, does nothing to help you out, not bothered about his son nor you, irresponsible and is not bothered to check whether you are happy or not .... how dare he command you to \get another job . I can ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed because I've never had a relationship
Q. i'm 16 nearly 17 and i never had a relationship and its getting to the point where i cant tell know one because i feel imbarassed to tell my friends and family except my mum who understands.I do want a relationship but know one has ever taken an ...
A. 23 October 2010: hi, don't worry about your size well I've been waiting for the right girl and I'm 28 now never kissed a girl nor had any relationship ..... its not like I don't wanna have. I would in fact love to have a relationship but I'm just waiting for the ... (read in full...)
I'm mad at myself for being so vulnerable
Q. So I asked a question before about this guy I liked and whether to tell him I liked him etc...and everyone said to go for it and I did...He knew I liked him and this time I just went for it...Well he replied he has a girlfriend and wanted to make it ...
A. 21 October 2010: I'm sorry to hear what happen .... hey look at the bright sight you can now breath coz you know its over and you don't have to break your head thinking "what if".... but wow there gurl those words "lost whatever faith I had in guys" now those are ... (read in full...)
Is it because I saw him with someone else that I'm starting to really think about him more?
Q. A few months ago i dated a guy around my age. It didnt last long and it sort of drifted apart. I regularly see his sister in law and she keeps me up to date on if hes ok ect. Last weekend i went to her partner's (his brother) 21st party and he ...
A. 21 October 2010: it is natural to feel that way it is just coz you saw him with another woman .... well that's how I feel ... it was probably anxiety.... don't worry it will pass just takes time .... ... (read in full...)
What should I do if I see him?
Q. Can you help me figure out what to do ?. I like this guy who i used to know at school. He has a funny sense of humour ! We are on each others friends lists on facebook. I was online very late at night once, well actually, it was the early hours of ...
A. 19 October 2010: If you see him around let him make the 1st move because this will help you figure what his intentions are and after reading all that you said ... If I were in your place I wouldn't associate with him no matter how well I knew him . I don't think I ... (read in full...)
I think I've falling in love.. but he lives so far away.
Q. So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything ...
A. 19 October 2010: I know what you are saying and it is hard ....when you miss him too much and you are not able to reach him and tell him how you feel about him coz you both decided to be friends make you feel like you have a knife stabbing your heart I know it :( I ... (read in full...)
My ex who dumped me is now drinking excessively! what can I do?
Q. My ex has started going out drinking since our breakup, she very rarely drank alcohol before we broke up and now she's out doing it a lot. I care about her still, as much as I want to move on, I kinda don't want her out doing stupid things, she's ...
A. 2 October 2010: Hi, my 1st question to you is since you did say you care bout her .... do you still have feelings for her .... I don't know what happen with her and I'm not going to assume things
....whatever it is after the breakup she tried to work things out ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be in love with my best friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really need your help it's about me and my bestfriend of 4 years. We first met in middle school and it was love at first sight we immediatly clicked after months of talking we began dating. We dated on and off through middle s...
A. 1 October 2010: Eh! I had the same thing happen to me so I know how you feel ... I fell in love with my best friend and she told me that she loves me too but when she told me that she was pregnant then :( and she came to me cried and told me that she told me that ... (read in full...)
I've done nothing wrong and I end up in this situation.
Q. Well I met this girl on a trip away when we were both still in relationships. It went really well and we both ended up breaking up with our partners to be together. Her ex ended up in hospital after being beaten up and she was asked to go visi...
A. 11 September 2010: I agree with tennisstar88 look pal you are still young and there is a lot more to life than that so. Its a beautiful world out there that you need to explore and enjoy... remember
why do we fall? so that we learn to pull our self back together... (read in full...)
Is he a FWB or a boyfriend?
Q. my friend doesn't know if shes boyfriend and girlfriend with this guy shes been having sex with. she likes him alot. but every time she wants to see him, he says yes we will meet up but then when she calls him he would tell her hes busy or not...
A. 11 September 2010: I really think that your friend should forget this guy regardless of what their status is because this guy obviously has commitment issues he just can't live up to his words ... I mean his words are empty with no value ... even if he says I love you ... (read in full...)
He was insecure about his size and I think I have made it worse
Q. Sat here feeling terrible - okay so I met a guy on a dating site three months ago we have been talking every day.Just last week he confided in me that he was embarrassed about the size of his manhood tonight we met and later in the evening we ...
A. 11 September 2010: Sarcasm
LOL if you didn't feel right why did you continue with him and if the situation didn't feel right why would you have s3x with him ....
Circumstances
anyways looking at the situation all I can say is he must be feeling used like some1 ... (read in full...)
my bf has only dated teenagers in the past
Q. I have been with my wonderful bf for almost a year. He is everything I could ask for in a life partner. I trust him completely, I know he loves me and will never cheat on me. He is kind and respectful, and we have an amazing time together. We are ...
A. 5 September 2010: I can understand how you must be feeling :( it is painful I know and the pictures that run through your mind don't help the situation either .... if it makes you feel any better let me share with you what happen to me ... I had a girlfriend and I am ... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel I'm good enough for sex and nothing else
Q. I've been friends with a guy since school but we lost contact. We recently got back in contact over a year ago, decided to meet up and it was really nice. After that we started talking quite frequently, we met up again one evening for a drink and ...
A. 26 August 2010: hon! shhh.... things will be ok ... sounds like he is a real jerk so just forget about him and pls do listen to me if he thinks like that then he is as blind as a bat... you are getting hurt because you are more than just skin and flesh you have a ... (read in full...)
Is this a date or just friends meeting up?
Q. I need some advice (hopefully from guys and well as girls). So I'm meeting a guy from work for lunch at the weekend. His suggestion. We've talked a few times at work, and he drops compliments from time to time, but we've never been out together, ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi :) since he told you that he wants to take you out on a date and didn't give you any reason why .... that pretty much sounds like a date -date you know what i mean :P any which ways you don't have anything to loose so why not do something that ... (read in full...)
Being ignored?
Q. I am a female...who is on a dating site...I get more attention than I can handle...and guys are literally proposing online...I am not sure why ...but they do....I met this one man....that out of them ALL I felt I clicked with....we talked a ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi, I really don't know how long you have been seeing him but I do feel that if he is ignoring you like that well I don't think he is playing hard to get coz I don't hear anything happening ... since you did mention that he is upfront guy why not ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I made the right decision!
Q. My boyfriend and I have have been together for nearly a year, the other night something happen that scared me. We were lying in bed and I accidentally hit him in his, er, area, it was a complete accident and I apologized straight away, but he turned ...
A. 26 August 2010: hello! decisions are never right or wrong according to me the best decision you can make is what makes you happy ... at the end of the day it doesn't matter what decision you made because you have to live with it your whole life and if you are not ... (read in full...)
I'm self conscious about myself and when he looks at other girls it upsets me!
Q. My eating disorder is ruining my relationship. I have been with my boyf for two years now and we have some problems, but it all comes down to my insecurity. I'm 20 and he is 23. He has known about my issues with eating for around a year. I was re...
A. 26 August 2010: hey! I really wanna help you .... and I don't think you are ugly at all so 1st of all stop telling yourself that and boost your self-esteem that is very important and what stress are you talking about is that something to do with your job ?
somet... (read in full...)
What gives him the right to be jelous?
Q. i was with my guy for 5 years. good times and bad times. we always broke up and got back together. last time within a few days he met a girl he knew from college. he`s been with her for 4 months now. within a week he said he loved her. okay, but why ...
A. 24 August 2010: gurl the way I look at it you are a good gurl and he is obviously a moron. You still have a lot to enjoy in your life and obviously he is not worth it ...
It takes a while to know a person and to tell some1 I love you it would definitely take a lo... (read in full...)
Please, let lonely, single virgins suffer in silence!
Q. I am not writing a question but posting some thoughts that I have had on my mind in regards to all of the positive responses that readers post on this website, especially in regards to people being depressed, single, virgins well into their adult ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well... I have accepted certain facts about my future ... like the possibilities of winding up alone my whole life ... blah... I know it is very depressing but seriously the only thing that keeps us going is a hope that some day we will break the ... (read in full...)
Any experiences of love spells working
Q. Has anyone tried a love spell? Did you have any success stories, please share them and share the love spells. Please can you provide a love spell for me as I want my partner back so loving and for him to be faithful and worship me. Plea...
A. 22 August 2010: Hey! dijoyful I know you used only 1 bay leaf I'm sure and that's why you got only the 1st name try using two so that you may receive the last name also... :D lol maybe it will help you know which kenneth you need to be looking for :P ... (read in full...)
Stay true to you
Q. Often in a relationship you find yourself behaving more like you're other half would like you to be. Pretending to be interested in the same things as them just to make them happy. Which of course isn't healthy and is really not a good idea at all. ...
A. 6 August 2010: :) how true.... and yes to add I think its an adventure to actually have some things that are not common so you get to explore what the other likes and maybe you have some things that are common but trust me you will enjoy the things that you don't ... (read in full...)
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