Girlfriend punched me in testicles, so I punched her in the hip. Now for some reason, she won't talk to me. What do I do?
Q. I need your help. I'm 15 and my girlfriend's 14. We're in the same year and basically the other day we were in my house after school just chilling, we were having one of our fun little arguments but then we started toy fighting and I floored her and ...
A. 28 May 2011: I agree with youwish. Play fighting is one thing, hitting her out of anger is another. I play fight all the time with DH and we have a lot of fun, but he has to be mindful of his strength v. mine. Maybe he has been too aggressive or I have been ... (read in full...)
I do not want to live the rest of my life never being french kissed and having that closeness and intimacy!
Q. I am 29, and have been dating a 40 year old for a little over 6 months now, when we first got together, he joked all the time about sex, but never made a move. Said every other relationship he was in, he was in bed in the 1st week and he really ...
A. 14 May 2011: I'm with stront on this one. I would think he has sexuality issues and/or has medical problems with his sexual drive. You need to have a heart to heart conversation and see what is going on. If that does not work, maybe it is time to move on. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says "he doesn't do family things"!
Q. my boyfriend of just over a year was invited to my nieces birthday party today. he said he would go 3 weeks ago when asked, then the day before it said he couldn't make it and made up a lame excuse about the time it started conflicting with ...
A. 14 May 2011: If this is a serious relationship, no, you are not asking too much. His reaction could be based on what family means to him or to any difficult event that family gatherings remind him of. Try to talk, calmly, with him (after the event). There is a ... (read in full...)
I'm going to create a fake love interest to test her feelings for me!
Q. I am not sure shall I go for another girl and turn my back completely on her just to see whether she will come back to me. BTW the girl I am going for is only fake. Me and her are going to be in relationship on fb and send love messages to each ...
A. 14 May 2011: Well the truth is there is no way of knowing how she will react. Maybe she will try to win you back or maybe she will just turn her back on you because it hurts her. Women are very difficult to comprehend. Life will continue to teach you this!! ... (read in full...)
Wife just admitted to sleeping with my friend when we were dating!
Q. Hi everyone. I am a 33 year old man who has been married for almost 9 years. When I was 19 and gettign ready to go into my second year of college, I met what would end up being my future wife. i was instantly attracted to her. She was amazing. ...
A. 14 May 2011: Everyone makes mistakes. I am sure you have made them too. It is painful and it is okay to feel frustrated and angry. But you have been together longer than most marriages. You have 2 girls who need you. Do not throw this away for a 15 year old ... (read in full...)
Any good advice on how to handle an alcoholic, my nerves are frayed?
Q. hi i'll keep this as short as i can,three years ago my father inlaw died.my wife of sixteen years took it really bad and started drinking.my father inlaw left her a substantial amount of money .when this came to her she got progressivley ...
A. 6 June 2010: Hi. I am an alcoholic too. We drink because we can not deal with our emotions. Alcohol is our way of not thinking about what is happening. There is nothing you can do to make her understand that. She needs professional help and you do too. In ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 June 2010: There is nothing like being present. Go there on vacation. Give it one more go. Stay for 10-12 days and try to win her back. Talking on the phone is not the same as being with each other. Make plans to stay at a hotel or something and ask her ... (read in full...)
He no longer wanted to have sex once he decided we were friends
Q. Hello all! I'm a 24 year old gay guy, that is for the most part closeted but have come out to a few at work and in forums. I have finally accepted that I’m gay, but not quiet ready to announce it to the world. I don’t have a family so that’s ...
A. 11 September 2009: You are in a very difficult situation, emotionally. It is time to move on and that is really difficult to do when you are living together. It seems he is very clear in what he wants/doesn't want; and he doesn't want a boyfriend type ... (read in full...)
How can I get my mom to agree to me going on birth control?
Q. So, I've been trying my best to have my mom get me on Birth Control... I called up to the help department and they said I could come in there by myself but you know a young girl always wants her mom there with her... I dont know why she is being so ...
A. 10 September 2009: I know this is difficult for you to understand now, but you are her baby. The little, innocent girl that she held in her arms. Now, imagining you having sex... not nice!! You need to help her go through this phase of accepting you are growing up. ... (read in full...)
Can this work with no confidence, trust or compromise?
Q. I have only been married for just over a year and my husband and I are already having problems. Not just issues that any marriage will go through and can work through but he refuses to trust me unless i provide proof that im not seeing someone else. ...
A. 10 September 2009: You are starting off the wrong premise. You decided to marry this man because you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him. He was so charming and great that he must've swept you off your feet.
Now... there are always difficult times an... (read in full...)
I feel cheated...
Q. I have been married for 28 years to my spanish husband. His parents lives in Oklahoma. He goes out there and leaves me at home at least 2 times a year. I know they are getting on up in age but, we need a vacation together sometimes. Is it wrong ...
A. 10 September 2009: Well, maybe you are accustomed to this situation but the truth is that him going to see his parents doesn't have to equal time apart. You could go with him; you could meet him there and then go to a road trip together; he could call more often; he ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to see if this could progress into anything further!
Q. Hi, I'm 42 and I've been in an intimate relationship with a 43 year old man for 3 months now. He lives an hour from me and I rarely see him. He only comes to me if I invite him for a reason, such as a firework display etc. I go to his place most ...
A. 10 September 2009: I think you already know/have your answer. Sometimes it is just difficult to accept what we feel is right! Best of lucks!... (read in full...)
Do you think I should break it off with my boyfriend and start fresh in the new school year??
Q. I started my sophmore year of high school today and my bf is a senior. We aren't in any of the same classes and he's planning on working a lot this year plus I have cheerleading every day till 5 and then games at night. He keeps thinking that we ...
A. 10 September 2009: If he is just fairly good to you... yes. Not because of other possibilities but rather that you need/deserve someone that treats you, at least, really good!... (read in full...)
Frustrated and confused...
Q. The man I have been with for 4 years has also been separated from his wife for 5 years. I've asked him to get a divorce but he keeps telling me that costs money. And when I ask him about marriage he just says you never know what the future may ...
A. 10 September 2009: A lot of people who divorce are not interested in getting married again. On the other hand, divorcing is a step into accepting it didn't work and that you will not be with that person anymore. That is a step a lot of people are not willing/ready ... (read in full...)
I wasn't the girl in the picture...
Q. Hello there, I have a big problem. I fell absolutely in love with a guy that I'd never met but its not like a long distance thing we live just minutes away, anyways we took things reallllly slow just because he was so different from any other guy ...
A. 10 September 2009: Hi!
I am sorry to say this, but I think there is not a lot to do. The truth is there could be a number of reasons why he hasn't called, maybe he is frustrated, angry or whatever. The fact remains that he has decided to step back from what you... (read in full...)
I am scared he's freaking out because he thinks he will get ill again if he hangs on to me, his prison of gloom. Any advice?
Q. Hi people googling for answers that can't be answered. I love my boyfriend. We've been together for a few months now. I feel very happy happy with him. But I have always been depressed and have always repressed it and ignored my illness until hi...
A. 26 September 2008: Yup. You need to work on you, hard! This guy got out of something difficult and maybe that is why he "gets" you. However, as you can imagine, recovering alcoholics can not have an active alcoholic as his/her partner; he would definitely go back ... (read in full...)
Am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him?
Q. Dear aunts, I am 30 years old and have no children. My boyfriend is in his 40s, has 2 kids and has had a vasectomy. Whilst I don't particularly want kids, am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him? You n...
A. 26 September 2008: Live day by day... and... look for information, there are ways in which you could get pregnant even if he had a vasectomy (assisted pregnancy). This, of course, depends on him also wanting children.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I keep the temptation of touching her sexually away while still being able to be close to her? Any ideas?
Q. Hello. I'm currently in high school and I'm engaged to the girl of my dreams. We've been dating for quite a while now. I proposed to her around 2 months ago. Since that we have talked more and more about our wedding. We've decided that to avoid ...
A. 26 September 2008: Avoid being alone in private spaces. It doesn't matter how much you think you can control yourself, avoid being alone. You can still go over when there is people around and you can still date as you are used to, just remember to keep the lights on, ... (read in full...)
I'm sick at having to look at my "other qualities" because I'm not as good looking as my sister.
Q. ok heres the deal... i sound really stupid writing this and it seems so pathetic with everyhting horrible that happens in the world but i think im having a nervous breakdown lol ive only just turned 18 and all my life everyones comapred my to...
A. 26 September 2008: Hi there...
None of us are perfect. Everyone has something they could do better at; being prettier, being intelligent, having a nice personality, being a good parent, making a balance amongst the things in their life, etc. The thing is, you will... (read in full...)
How can I lose a large amount of weight without it being unsafe?
Q. Hi, this is my 1st time on this website and i'm asking for help... I'm classed as obese (BMI = 31.2) and i don't want to be anymore. All i want to know is how can i get into the 'normal' weight section on BMI... i would prefer it to be fast as i ...
A. 19 July 2008: I would go with taking up a sport and doing it daily.
There is an Internet site called Sparklepeople (or something of the sort). It's free and it is a community of people trying to loose weight. There you will find people within your age range an... (read in full...)
Please help me lose weight!
Q. Right now I am having a very hard time to lose weight. I keep on wanting to lose weight but it doesn't seem to work out. The main problem is I keep on craving for food. If I don't get those cravings out, I go crazy and it makes me want it more. So I ...
A. 19 July 2008: At your age, if you only want to loose 25 pounds, I would not do a lot whole of dieting, I would go with taking up a sport and doing it daily.
There is an Internet site called Sparklepeople (or something of the sort). It's free and it is a commun... (read in full...)
More experienced than I am, and loves rough sex, never compliments me after sex, as I do her, instead, I asked a stupid question, and she bragged about her former partners, now I am a little depressed, please help?
Q. Man o man, I am such a mess... I'm not even sure if this even something valid to be upset about, but its like this echoing thought that is pounding my head to death. My gf has had quite a few liaisons, about twice as many as me actually... In which ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well... if you have tried everything then maybe some other posts here are right... maybe there is something deeper going on in your relationship that you need to address. Hope you can find out what it is!
Best of lucks!... (read in full...)
More experienced than I am, and loves rough sex, never compliments me after sex, as I do her, instead, I asked a stupid question, and she bragged about her former partners, now I am a little depressed, please help?
Q. Man o man, I am such a mess... I'm not even sure if this even something valid to be upset about, but its like this echoing thought that is pounding my head to death. My gf has had quite a few liaisons, about twice as many as me actually... In which ...
A. 17 July 2008: I'm sorry... but I am laughing!! This ego thing with you guys is very interesting... have you stopped and think that she IS sexually satisfied with you? If she wasn't she wouldn't be with you at all. Girls who have more experience might have been ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stares at other women... should I be worried?
Q. My fiance and I are preparing to get married next year. We live together and are very much in love. The thing that bothers me is that whenever we are driving places together... he stares so much at other women. He stares into cars, women walking ...
A. 17 July 2008: I agree with Star... this is your call. Does it bother you? If it does, let him know. I say to my hubby (jokingly) that he should learn from me, that I admire beauty as much as he does and I don't let him know. That whenever he has to turn his ... (read in full...)
Do women like watching porn? Can they get addicted?
Q. Do women be addicted to porn and how do they fill when watching all the dirty action?please I prefer answers from female readers only....
A. 17 July 2008: I like very few porn movies, I think a lot of them are made for guys. I really don't like some of the more graphic scenes (the spiting and the cum in the eyes or mouth), and I think those are probably made for guys arousal.
The porn industry... (read in full...)
Was it ever real? Could it work again?
Q. I met the man of my dreams last year December.We clicked,had chemistry,were both divorced,he has two girls,11 and 9,I have two boys,12 and 8.He's amazing with kids and he's a excellent father.We got engaged a month later,moved in together two months ...
A. 17 July 2008: He went to his ex because he still had an emotional attachment to her. If that emotional attachment continues to be there, sooner than later he will go back to her... again. It is very tricky for you to find out his true feelings (he will try to ... (read in full...)
My Virgin Bride was not a Virgin. How do I cope?
Q. Hi, like many other guys I have a problem with my wifes past. I met her 25 years ago, she was 17 and I was 19. we hit it off right from the start and fell in love. we now have 2 kids aged 10 and 12. Every thing was fine until I asked her...
A. 17 July 2008: I think it is very difficult for a third party (like myself) to really understand why you are so frustrated. This happened more than 25 years ago and you've had a good relationship with her with 2 kids. How can something of the past that she has ... (read in full...)
Is my online guy being discourteous?
Q. Hi I wonder if you can advise me. I posted on here before and got some good balanced sensible advice which really helped so I'm back for more! I met a guy in February on an internet dating site. We are going to meet in two weeks time. We got on...
A. 16 July 2008: Well I actually think you should just ask him, in a non-nagging way... if possible! Maybe just out of curiosity (as if you didn't care), or just bring the subject up without directly going into him not answering and see what he has to say.
The t... (read in full...)
I'm trying to better myself for him, do you think he will come back to me?
Q. Hi everyone, Im in need of some advice... My boyfriend of about 6 months recently broke up with me... I think. We had been fighting, mostly on my behalf, and when we broke up he told me that he "didnt know" that he "just thought this wasnt worki...
A. 16 July 2008: Well... your motivation for bettering yourself needs to be on you... if he does come back or if he doesn't shouldn't change that! I do understand, however, how this situation is what brought you to seek help in the first place, but the truth is ... (read in full...)
It seemed great until he told me about his first love. Should I give up?
Q. Okay so I started talking to this guy about a month ago everything seemed so perfect with us and he constantly said how happy he was with me and he thought it was a miracle that we were together (the normal things guys say that almost every girl ...
A. 16 July 2008: Well... he seems to have made his decision! He is emotionally involved with his "first love" and is unwilling to let that go yet. You could, of course, hang around to see what happens... but, knowing you will probably get hurt in the long run.
... (read in full...)
How do I fix my scruffy husband?
Q. My husband's choice of clothing has got scruffier and scruffier and I find it embarrassing being out and about with him. As well as that, he doesn't change with the seasons any more as he used to, but wears long sleeved shirt, trousers, thick socks, ...
A. 15 July 2008: I would try to make it humorous... like... put on a very disturbing combination of clothing when you are going out, or different color shoes, or don't brush your hair (I don't know if you shame easily lol). And when he stares or says something say, ... (read in full...)
Any creative ideas/experiences including a jacuzzi and my hubby? I want to make this day unforgetable!!
Q. My hubby and I are newlyweds and celebrating each month of marriage. Next Saturday will be our 3rd month married and it's my turn to plan. He has never gone to a hotel with a jacuzzi so that's were we are headed. I have already planned the basics ...
A. 13 July 2008: Thank you anonymous... I think I tried it but it was quite difficult... emphasis in I think!! We did have a great time however so I'm glad of how everything turned out. Thank you!! Creativity seems to be running low with the other aunts! LOL... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a husband I think is too good for me?
Q. Hallo I am quite average looking. Plain really. Never dated. Tried a few times, but not very successful. Never thought I would get a very attractive partner in life, but that was ok, as long as he was a good friend. Then I met this guy a...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi there...
You really need to address your issues because you will eventually drive him away. If you believe you are not good looking enough for him, thus he deserves a better looking women, your actions will also say this (feeling bad because ... (read in full...)
New relationship and wondering if it wil work out
Q. I have been dating a man for approximately 3 months, although it feels like so much longer. We spend every day together, every night together; we do everything together. He's quickly become not only someone that I am deeply in love with, but also my ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi there... seven years are a lot to leave behind. I was married for one and getting over him took me almost 2 years (until I stopped comparing everyone to him and that sort of things). Everyone is different, and being married, to me, is a whole ... (read in full...)
I haven't seen him since last year but I keep thinking of him. What's going on with me?
Q. I'm confused. I have a boyfriend that I love a lot. He's my first love and when we started dating he swept me off my feet. We have EVERYTHING in common. Really. it's like we were made for each other. When we first met, the chemistry was crazy! We've ...
A. 8 July 2008: I have this theory that we all have this guy/girl in our heads and that when we have a relationship, as wonderful as it can be, we sometimes go back to that person in our heads. We tend to idealize people. This person becomes the one who wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Should I commit to stay with him, when I am not sure I will be happy, in another country?
Q. Really need advice and help urgently. A while ago I posted about the fact I had the chance to emigrate to Oz to be with my boyfriend who had been there several months. I decided on the advice to give it a trial few weeks and that is what I have ...
A. 8 July 2008: Very interesting one.
I think he decided what would make him happy and he is not willing to change that for you (very difficult to acknowledge, but it does sound like that). However, it does not mean it is not difficult for him to choose h... (read in full...)
New relationship and wondering if it wil work out
Q. I have been dating a man for approximately 3 months, although it feels like so much longer. We spend every day together, every night together; we do everything together. He's quickly become not only someone that I am deeply in love with, but also my ...
A. 8 July 2008: I'm with Emily on this one, try to give him some space to figure things out. It's not easy to come off a 7 year relationship and just go back into another serious one, more so if he has not cut off all emotional attachments yet. You don't specify ... (read in full...)
Am I alone in my fight against my husband's methane emission problem? Talk to me!
Q. Totally weird question I know, but it drives me nuts... You know in that special way only a husband can do to his wife :-) (Just before I start: I love my husband and we dont have any major relationship problems, he is a sweetie most of the time...
A. 7 July 2008: LOL nice answer doctor Phil. Well anonymous, my hubby does it too and it gets REALLY annoying. Some times I feel he just does it for the pleasure of seeing my face in disgust. But I do have to laugh it out (most times). I just tell him to please ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my emotional attachment to my ex?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a few months--he is WONDERFUL. I mean I don't even have to ask for anything, he just does it. He's like a prince charming. Everyone in my family loves him and so do my friends. There is only one problem....I don't think ...
A. 30 June 2008: I am with Chi on this one. I would also talk to your current Mr. Maybe about the situation. I would not say I was emotionally attached, but just that sometimes you think or remember stuff about him. Either that or take a break from the ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend's dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own?
Q. How do I get my boyfriends dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own? I've been going out with my boyfrind for 18 months, and moved in with him and his dad 7 months ago. My boyfriend and his dad have...
A. 30 June 2008: Well hon, that's between the two of them. He might feel some kind of "obligation" with his father and the fact that he might not be able to pay for rent alone. I wouldn't leave my dad in the streets either. Thats good family values and you should ... (read in full...)
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