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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Am I asking for too much? Should I just settle down with her? How do I know she's the one?
Q. I (38 M) dated this girl (26) a few years back. I was infatuated with her at the beginning. As time progressed, our cultural and age difference began to emerge (I'm originally from Asia but lived in the west for 12 years; while she is a native ...
A. 31 July 2020: Hi there. It sounds like you both have a few things in common, to be able to enjoy some good times together.
Regarding the cultural differences, it would be a great idea to sit down together and discuss what are the positive things in the rela... (read in full...)
Struggling to raise three kids, partner is not helping and I am pregnant again.
Q. Hello, I'm a mother of 3, with one on the way. I'm not sure if its hormones, or what, but I'm feeling really down lately. Honestly, I didnt want a 4th, but not having the baby isn't an option. I'd never think of adoption, so I've kind of dec...
A. 9 June 2020: Hi there. Is he working? Even if he is, it is possible that he is becoming overwhelmed with having three children and another on the way.
Plus, the restrictions having young children, places on your life, and what you can and can't do because ... (read in full...)
How does agreeing to coffee or a walk suddenly change direction like this?
Q. A good friend passed away last year. It was very unexpected. Her husband [widower, I think you call him] contacted me yesterday afternoon and asked if I would like to go out sometime. I was pleasantly surprised and told him I would. Now today...
A. 9 June 2020: Hi there. This is one of those situations, where you need to read between the lines.
I would say, he wants a bit more than just a coffee, a walk or dinner.
It does seem like sex is on the cards.
Of course, he's not going to say that straig... (read in full...)
I'm sick of babysitting an immature co worker
Q. How do I tell my coworker that I am not here to babysit her sadness for her or to control the capacity she has for emotions. Everyone in the office literally caters to her when she pouts and screams. She’s laid on the floor at one point to get ...
A. 9 June 2020: Hi there. If I were you and the other co-workers, it seems like it is time to go to the boss first, tell him/her exactly how this woman's behaviour affects your workload and others also.
And mention that because of this, you are seriousl... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about becoming a single mother to my twins.
Q. Hi I have just broken up with my partner of 7 years things hadn’t been right with us for months before I ended it we have Twins together were still living together for the time being due to being on lockdown I am going to look for somewhere for me ...
A. 9 June 2020: Hi there. I am thinking your twins are newborns, or at least under one year old.
So it is likely you are not working, as you need to stay home to care for them.
This would be financially challenging for you once your partner does move out.
... (read in full...)
I'm not happy with my girlfriend's appearance and lack of self care.
Q. If I’m not happy with my gfs appearance do I have another choice rather than leaving her? We were both in good shape when we got together few years ago but she is now borderline obese. Also our eating habits are opposite. She has this obsession w...
A. 2 June 2020: Hi there. You haven't mentioned here whether she works at all.
Is she employed at the moment?
And are you employed at the moment?
If she has no work right now, eating and snacking all day long, could have a lot to do with boredom.
And ... (read in full...)
Being in lockdown has forced me to see how unhealthy our relationship is.
Q. Hi all! I would appreciate some advice on how to handle an issue with my husband or rather a problem hes has that is seriously influencing my life. In a nutshell, he has some problems with relationships with people (I understand WHY). R...
A. 1 June 2020: Hi there. Maybe what he is having, is a midlife crisis of some description.
He might also be suffering with depression, which might explain the negativity.
This would definitely be very hard for you to live with.
Well, as you said, yo... (read in full...)
I'm mourning a friendship that may have dissolved.
Q. I used to have very regular contact with a female friend whom I will name as "A" who attended the same church as me and we coordinated a youth ministry together with other team members. I was close to A and so were the other team members and ...
A. 26 May 2020: Hi there. Perhaps her new romantic interest doesn't want her to come back to church.
Especially, if this new man doesn't belong to any church himself.
He might have stopped her from coming to church, because he thinks it will mean less time w... (read in full...)
I'm in the US, sister in UK is making some rash decisions, how can I help her?
Q. I moved to the us 16 years ago. My family is back in the UK and my sister had a diagnosis for early onset Alzheimer's a few years ago. Her and her partner have broke up and she says she wants to move back to London - she lived there for some years ...
A. 23 May 2020: Hi there. Perhaps it might be wise to have her fully assessed, as to whether she can safely live by herself, and take care of herself.
With Alzheimers disease, things can happen like leaving the stove on and burning the kitchen, or even burning ... (read in full...)
Why did he ghost me after acting so insecure ?
Q. For the past 4 weeks I have been going on dates with a guy I met in a grocery store in March. At first i was a little skeptical because he’s a tad bit older but not by much. On our first date we met up at Dairy Queen. We talked for three hours , ...
A. 22 May 2020: Hi there. He does sound a little insecure, for whatever reason that is.
And asking you questions all the time, about what did you do today, etc. etc. etc.
It almost sounds like he needs frequent reassurance from you, that you care about him e... (read in full...)
Where did I mess up with the LDR who faded on me?
Q. This girl and I first met a couple of years ago, casually hanged out a couple of times, then went back to our own countries on the opposite sides of the world. A few months later, we briefly met one more time when I travelled to her country; we had ...
A. 22 May 2020: Hello again. It is probably also very lonely for you trying to make something happen, that might never do so.
And two years is a long time to be hanging in there, hoping for something more.
It could also be this loneliness you feel, that is wh... (read in full...)
Where did I mess up with the LDR who faded on me?
Q. This girl and I first met a couple of years ago, casually hanged out a couple of times, then went back to our own countries on the opposite sides of the world. A few months later, we briefly met one more time when I travelled to her country; we had ...
A. 22 May 2020: Hi there. I suspect that she definitely liked you as a friend, but in the back of her mind and over time, she could see that with the distance between you both, it would be unsustainable for any length of time.
Two people when they meet, really d... (read in full...)
I feel devastated at his betrayal. Do I move on?
Q. Hi. just wanna ask some advices. so i have this LDR bf for a year and 4 months now.bwe met in person January 2020. things went well and planned future together. as we continue being in a LDR, its not easy to keep the relationship strong and healthy. ...
A. 16 May 2020: Hi there. It sounds like now, you want this relationship more than he does.
It also sounds like he can see it's not possible or easy to continue on when there is some distance between you, and with no chance of actually getting together in the f... (read in full...)
This guy I've met shares a house, and sometimes meals, with his ex wife.
Q. I have met someone He is divorced and has 3 grown children the youngest is 20 and still in college. The ex wife and he share a house he lives in the basement and she lives on the first floor. They sometimes share meals and when daughter comes home ...
A. 15 May 2020: Hi there. I don't think I would feel very comfortable in that situation if it was me.
The fact that they go out for dinner as a family, and go on vacation as a family makes me think are they doing this for the children, even though they are adul... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he still wants to bother
Q. Hi! So I have been speaking to this guy for a few weeks now - met on tinder but have talked on the phone and everything. He’s after a relationship as he said he’s had enough of one night stands or whatever (this isn’t the point of the question ...
A. 15 May 2020: Hi there. It sounds like you haven't actually met in person, as yet.
Only chatting on tinder.
And you say he is working from home, which means he is being paid to do his work on his home computer, otherwise he won't get paid.
And so ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boss I've changed my mind?
Q. This is not exactly a relationship question but has raised through me trying to become independent after a relationship ending. I work several different jobs as a lecturer, all of which are on yearly or termly contracts. Recently here in the UK t...
A. 15 May 2020: Hi there. It seems like flexibility is important to you, and being able to work remotely from home.
I can understand that, plus your other "on the side" work you also enjoy.
I guess it really comes down to what is more important to you... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 14 May 2020: Hi there. So there is no question as to the fact you recognise each other in the street.
And if you see him in the supermarket as you said you did, he lives local to you.
Perhaps when you said you were busy with clients the next day, and th... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 14 May 2020: Hi there. So there is no question as to the fact you recognise each other in the street.
And if you see him in the supermarket as you said you did, he lives local to you.
Perhaps when you said you were busy with clients the next day, and th... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 14 May 2020: Hi there. So there is no question as to the fact you recognise each other in the street.
And if you see him in the supermarket as you said you did, he lives local to you.
Perhaps when you said you were busy with clients the next day, and th... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 14 May 2020: Hi there. So there is no question as to the fact you recognise each other in the street.
And if you see him in the supermarket as you said you did, he lives local to you.
Perhaps when you said you were busy with clients the next day, and th... (read in full...)
What can I do to create the spark we used to have? What needs to change?
Q. We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doesn't ...
A. 31 October 2014: Hi there. It sounds like marriage shouldn't be on your agenda, while things are the way they are.
After 5 years of being together, you were both probably late teenage when you met, I am guessing.
Two people can change and mature a lot in ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so dodgy about this friend?
Q. Hi all I need some advice. I recently found out A is coming back from US and visiting my bf whilst I am overseas. I have never met A and I know my bf met her through camp. A is currently studying in US. My bf initially kept it from me but somehow it ...
A. 31 October 2014: Hi there. It sounds like he has feelings for her, otherwise why would he be trying to hide it and avoid talking about it with you?
It does raise my suspicions, that there is more to it than meets the eye.
And if you were to ask him straight... (read in full...)
I've got my wall up and I don't want to let anyone in, what do I do?
Q. I had been with my man for 2 years before we broke up and I went travelling for a year.. Got back a month ago and we've hung out for the entire weekend every weekend since I've been back and have been hooking up.. I still have feelings for him and I ...
A. 2 October 2014: Hi there. It's not wise to start thinking too far ahead of right NOW.
Just enjoy each moment.
I am guessing the only reason you broke up in the first occasion, was because you had planned to travel.
And that is fair, as many things can... (read in full...)
The guy I like has an obvious type, and I'm not it. Should I ask him out anyway?
Q. I fancy someone I know, but his taste in girls is so different to me I'm wondering if it's worth going for it or if I should leave it. He's not my usual "type" (I usually date guys who are quite similiar to me, but he's the stereotypical very ...
A. 1 October 2014: Hi there. There really is no point whatsoever in comparing yourself to others.
If you are happy with who you are and don't really want to change anything about yourself, then why do it - just to try and fit in with what you think someone'... (read in full...)
Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?
Q. When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...
A. 30 September 2014: Hi there. It all comes down to trust.
You have to prove to everyone - genuinely - that you CAN be trusted.
And you can only be considered trustworthy, if you are always clean - and NOT just when you are seeing your girlfriend.
Y... (read in full...)
My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?
Q. Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with frien...
A. 30 September 2014: Hi there. The fact that he still sees these people on a regular basis, is a big concern.
It is putting him in that way of thinking yet again, and so it could become a temptation for him, if something goes wrong in his own life.
And that's th... (read in full...)
I feel he has lost all affection for me? Or is this always the case.....
Q. I'm in a relationship with a guy a year and a half and I feel he is not as affectionate as he once was.At the beginning he used to send me cute messages poems, kiss me hold my hand open the door for me buy me flowers dinner sometimes . Now all has ...
A. 29 September 2014: Hi there. I guess that after a year and a half, you are now getting into the next stage of the relationship, where you are into a kind of pattern now.
You still like/love each other, but the initial newness stage is wearing off.
It sounds lik... (read in full...)
We are both married but the emotional affair is such a turn on! What do I do?
Q. I met this guy , married with two kids but he is just wow. We have been chatting though for about 3rys. I am now falling in love with this guy , I am married as well. The whole situation is such a turn on idont know what to do. Everytime am with ...
A. 28 September 2014: Hi there. I guess the thrill you are feeling now, is the forbidden fruit situation.
Doing something, that you know is morally wrong.
And it feels exciting to you, because of this.
Or perhaps, the mystery of it you might also find attracti... (read in full...)
How to calm a negative partner?
Q. lately my partner of two years has been VERY negative... and i'm starting to get frustrated! i try to be the best partner possible, i don't know what to do, because lately my partner has been tossing out threats (simple verbal threats like "if you ...
A. 16 April 2014: Hi there. Perhaps what needs to happen first, is that you think about what seems to always make him angry.
For instance, is it always about the same things?
He says to you - "if you think i'll continue to put up with this bullshit you're ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 30 March 2014: Hi there. He has battled with depression in the past, and how he handles things going wrong, is to drink, as this helps to numb his feelings and helps him to escape things for a little while.
And being that he comes from a family where alcoholi... (read in full...)
He's a healthy man of 21 so why is he having erectile dysfunction?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years. We were originally in a semi-long-distance relationship (we'd spend about a third of the year in the same town) but I moved in with him about 6 weeks ago. We've been having sex for over ...
A. 29 March 2014: Hi there. Perhaps it is time for you to both sit down together and have a talk about it.
Not at the time you are about to try and make love, though.
At another time completely, when you are both relaxed and won't be disturbed by anyone else. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to break it off with him!
Q. Any one good at body language?? I think my boyfriend I had over a decade is trying to get me to dump him but I can't he started a fight today.. even during the fight he said I'm not breaking up with you, your gonna do it this time is what he said.. ...
A. 29 March 2014: Hi there. It sounds like he is very angry and rather fed up.
A smile over tight lips, is a grimace.
Frustration, and not really happy.
It's happened more than once, before now.
Is this an "on again off again" type of relationship?
... (read in full...)
Since the beginning of this year all we've done is argue, I'm 18 and have a boyfriend and I want a social life aside from looking after her, she treats me like a child and it really annoys me!
Q. My mum has COPD, emphysema and diabetes, all of which she has had now for 4-5 years. She's on oxygen 24/7 and needs a lung transplant. Since then I've had to grow up and take her role, cooking, cleaning, shopping. Over the past two years she's go...
A. 17 March 2014: Hi there. It certainly is a very challenging situation to be in, with someone in the family who is chronically ill, that's for sure.
From what you say, it sounds like it is just you and your mother - no brothers and sisters?
And is your f... (read in full...)
Anyone know about student loans in South Africa?
Q. Hi! I don't know where else to ask this, but I thought I'd give it a try here. It's a finance/school question. So I'm starting University next week. I need R32 000 for tuition (excluding books), then another R30 000 for renting a room, all for this ...
A. 9 February 2014: Hi there. As you say your father can't really help you with this expense for education, you really have no other choice than to take out the student loan.
And especially, as you are about to begin studies next week.
Usually with student loa... (read in full...)
38weeks pregnant he says hes not in love with me anymore
Q. Im struggling, my heart hurts my head is all over the place. My life has been shattered im 38weeks 4days pregnant with my first child ive gone from being happy nesting for the arrival to scared alone and wondering how im going to cope. He says he ...
A. 24 January 2014: Hi there. First of all, how long has this relationship been going for?
Is it a long term relationship prior to now - 2 years or more?
Or, is it less than 6 months old?
Prior to falling pregnant, I mean.
So what I am really asking he... (read in full...)
Is the girl in the pics his girlfriend or his ex?
Q. I was so attracted to guy i met at the mall,he told me he don't have a girlfriend. when i check with his friends they said the same thing. he showed me a picture of a girl and said she was his ex girlfriend and they are not together. he asked me...
A. 24 January 2014: Hi there. It does seem like he is lying.
And hoping you will believe what he tells you about her, when he says she is his ex-girlfriend.
The photos of him and her together on his birthday on Facebook, would seem to prove he is lying.
And th... (read in full...)
What can I do to finally meet my valentine after eleven years of no dating?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I really want a valentine I haven"t been in a relationship for 11 years now my kids are grown and my son is about to graduate and is going off to a higher education I can't really get out cause I am a caregiver for my mom who is an ...
A. 24 January 2014: Hi there. Perhaps you might want to start some hobbies or interests where both men and women can join in.
An interest that would appeal to both genders, rather than an interest where only females would go.
It's a great way to meet some like m... (read in full...)
Are they just playing with me, how can I tell?
Q. Hi I need advice. I am gay, and I have a guy friend who I hang out with. I noticed he was gay. He used to look at me in a certain way, and I began to have feelings for him. He sent me flirty sms. I didn't know how to respond. He met another guy. ...
A. 15 January 2014: Hi there. It seems unusual he shows you some interest at times, makes a time to meet up then makes some excuse why he didn't turn up.
And if he is in a relationship with this other guy, well then why is he still showing interest in you?
... (read in full...)
How much sacrifice is too much sacrifice?
Q. I'm becoming overwhelmed with pessimism. I'm dating a wonderful man, but I'm starting to think there are just too many obstacles for us to get married. He had a vasectomy years ago, and is willing to get a reversal, he still has his name on a mo...
A. 14 January 2014: Hi there. His name on the mortgage loan is a problem, right from the outset.
And the fact, he says he can't get out of it.
And the obvious reason, being that it is easier for his wife to live there with his children - rather than sell up and... (read in full...)
I want to satisfy all his needs but not with a threesome!
Q. Ok so i know this is a probably a typical silly question to ask but i want to know your opinions on having a threesome based in a relationship!! Small bit of background Im with my partner just over 6 months now we are both similar people and even ...
A. 14 January 2014: Hi there. If he is thinking about having a threesome - 2 women and 1 man - it seems like he has a wandering eye.
Just by the fact of wanting another female in the same bed as you, points towards that, don't you think?
The message that see... (read in full...)
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