I'm 24 years older than him but am so attracted to him! What do I do about it?
Q. OK this is a question that I hope all you male readers out there will chime in on, as I need a man's perspective. I am a 54 year old woman, routinely told I look at least 10 years younger. I keep my hair colored, exercise every day, try not to dress ...
A. 24 August 2012: doublejack, thanks, my thoughts are along the line of yours. I feel it is always or at least most of the time the man's responsibility to make the first move. Although, I have to tell you, there was a woman in the beauty shop where I work today a co... (read in full...)
I'm 24 years older than him but am so attracted to him! What do I do about it?
Q. OK this is a question that I hope all you male readers out there will chime in on, as I need a man's perspective. I am a 54 year old woman, routinely told I look at least 10 years younger. I keep my hair colored, exercise every day, try not to dress ...
A. 23 August 2012: Thanks folks. Pink Topaz he is a kind and giving person and the thought has crossed my mind that he is just being helpful and polite to an older person, but he dated an older woman in the past for a long time before they broke up. not sure how much ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 years older than him but am so attracted to him! What do I do about it?
Q. OK this is a question that I hope all you male readers out there will chime in on, as I need a man's perspective. I am a 54 year old woman, routinely told I look at least 10 years younger. I keep my hair colored, exercise every day, try not to dress ...
A. 23 August 2012: Thanks folks. Pink Topaz he is a kind and giving person and the thought has crossed my mind that he is just being helpful and polite to an older person, but he dated an older woman in the past for a long time before they broke up. not sure how much ... (read in full...)
Women: Why do you stay with your man?
Q. how do you keep a woman? please im asking this advice to women who are married or have been with someone long term, why do you stay with your man? I am in a relationship with a girl i love very much, and yes we have our ups and downs but i alwa...
A. 22 August 2012: wow kc 100 I LOVE your list of things your man does that keeps you together. I happen to know a man like that, too. We are lucky to find them, although I know you contribute, too! I am copying and pasting your list to remind me from time to time ... (read in full...)
I'm upset that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for my birthday
Q. I'm kind of bothered by the fact that my boyfriend didn't care to get me anything for my birthday. I'm not materialistic and I don't really want any specific item but like the saying goes, "It's the thought that counts" and I feel like he didn't p...
A. 22 August 2012: SageOldGuy, how about you get over yourself instead? Young lady, your birthday is the one day where you are ALLOWED to feel special. I never miss one of my family or friends birthday, even if it is just a card. He is really shooting himself in the ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 25 July 2012: Well, Serpico, I don't know if I buy all of what you say, but you do provoke thought. But I still beleive we as humans, men or women, are at our best when we are at our least base. Anyway, thanks for an intelligent response. ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 19 July 2012: Sort of off topic, Serpico, since age was not part of the discussion here, but I value your opinion. For the record, I have a neighbor who is 30, works on my car and will not accept payment, and we hang out often. I am sure that he would be open to ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 19 July 2012: Oh my goodness, anonymous female, thanks for the laugh. I guess you saw the(typical) male responses below. But I figured it out. I try to learn something from every experience. Here is what I decided: Why in the world did I even answer an ad that a ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 17 July 2012: And just for the record,when I rejected the men I rejected, I was very kind and considerate, saying upfront that I felt no chemistry, that I was probably not what they were looking for, etc. I never said to a one of them, You are lazy, drunk, ugly, ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 17 July 2012: Well, I appreciate all the input, but Dr., I rejected the 6 men for things they CHOSE to do, like drink heavily, refuse to work, etc. I have NEVER rejected someone for how they look, which is not something you choose. As long as they were clean and ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 17 July 2012: Hey, thanks for all the insightful and thought provoking answers, especially from anonymous female, I almost cried after reading your touching and caring answer. I will move on and keep trying, it just gets so tiring when I am ready to accept a man ... (read in full...)
I get the vibe that he likes me but he is just too shy to make a move! What can I do next?
Q. My question is how do I know a man likes me? My daughter is involved in theater and two summers back and man would hang around in the hallways during some rehearsals and all of tech week. He also would go to all the performances. I hang out in ...
A. 17 July 2012: He does sound nice, as do you. But for some reason, wnat is jumping out at me is that he might be gay, but lonely, and would love a friend to see plays and do things with, but does not know how to tell you that because he is not sure how you would ... (read in full...)
I never get a break from him bitching at me
Q. I don't even know where to begin. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years in December. We have a 6 month old together and are living together. I'm constantly trying to make him happy. He's VERY OCD, so I try my best to keep the house clean, ...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi, there. I have just got to say that I disagree with Dorthy here. Not once in her answer did she address the FACT that you, the lady posting this question-
A. Goes to nursing school, which is incredibly hard.
B. Also has the responsi... (read in full...)
Should I end this long-term relationship?
Q. Should I end this long-term relationship My boyfriend of 13 years has a camp on the water where he lives all summer. He has a boat as well and when he goes out on it he always goes to this abandoned state park beach where anybody and everybod...
A. 22 June 2012: Everygody "looks" at people they find attractive. But considerate respectful people do it in a way that is not obvious-and only for a few seconds. Gaping or making comments is damaging to the relationship, as well as immature, and on some level he ... (read in full...)
Should I end this long-term relationship?
Q. Should I end this long-term relationship My boyfriend of 13 years has a camp on the water where he lives all summer. He has a boat as well and when he goes out on it he always goes to this abandoned state park beach where anybody and everybod...
A. 22 June 2012: Oh my gosh. He criticizes and disrespects you, and doesn't sound like he appreciates things that you do, (I would be thrilled if someone made the effort to frame my pictures), and is well on the way to being if not an actual alcoholic, at least a ... (read in full...)
Do you think he really only wants to be my friend, or could he want me to go out with him again, or do you think he might just be after sex?
Q. Do you think my ex still likes me ?. I heard from one of his friends that he told them that he regretted that we broke up last year, and that he thinks a lot of me. He called me out of the blue last weekend, as he had seen me out in a pub with my ...
A. 22 June 2012: Sounds like the "I only want what I can't have" syndrome, seen more often in the male gender. I bet 5 bucks if you broke up with your current boyfriend and hooked back up with him, he would be over it in no time flat. Sounds like an ego trip for him ... (read in full...)
Is all lost with our relationship? Or can we make this work?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for roughly 19 months and things recently started to go wrong. Now, last year he broke up with me just all of a sudden, because he had a lot of other personal issues and could not think clearly at...
A. 21 June 2012: I think maybe a mutually agreed upon breather would be a good thing for you both. Then you would have time to think about whether this relationship is fulfilling your needs and ways to improve your self esteem. It is not a man's job to make you have ... (read in full...)
Very frustrated with the men I am meeting, and to make it worse the one guy that I like has a girlfriend and is a lot younger than me!
Q. Oh, where to start? I am 54 years old, work 2 days in a beauty shop and 3 or 4 days as an in home health aide. I am struggling, even working 2 jobs. After going from couch to couch for 6 months last year, I finally saved enough to get my own tiny ...
A. 21 June 2012: Thanks, Tisha. Everything that you said is right on, I guess that I just wanted to hear someone else say it. You are right, I do feel stuck. I do try something differnet, like going to festivals, and I did go to a senior dance last month. 40 women ... (read in full...)
Very frustrated with the men I am meeting, and to make it worse the one guy that I like has a girlfriend and is a lot younger than me!
Q. Oh, where to start? I am 54 years old, work 2 days in a beauty shop and 3 or 4 days as an in home health aide. I am struggling, even working 2 jobs. After going from couch to couch for 6 months last year, I finally saved enough to get my own tiny ...
A. 21 June 2012: Thanks, Tisha. Everything that you said is right on, I guess that I just wanted to hear someone else say it. You are right, I do feel stuck. I do try something differnet, like going to festivals, and I did go to a senior dance last month. 40 women ... (read in full...)
Why did he lie to me about wanting to get married?
Q. I'm a 30 year old female and I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I am devastated because I genuinely thought that we would be married. He said that we had a long future together, that we would never break up. When I asked him what was going on ...
A. 21 June 2012: anonymous gal, what a good answer! I wish that I had had your advice 15 years ago before I had wasted over 11 years in a situation just like this young womans! Move on, young lady, while you can still have children and find a quality man. No if's, ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my partner or my family?
Q. hello, i love my partner dearly but he lives away from me and i am with my family at the moment. my partner has asked me to move with him but im torn. i love being with my family and i know i would miss them a lot, especially since i would not...
A. 21 June 2012: Sage guy, you had the best answer anyone could have given. This young lady would be putting her future at risk without any sort of up front committment from this guy. What is she gets all the way there, and he gets "tired" of her after a while, like ... (read in full...)
He is not looking for a relationship - should I go out with him anyway and hope it turns into something more? Could we end up as a happy couple?
Q. hi cupids I have this dilema and would like some advice were possible. I have over the past year had a crush on my bus driver ( I know pretty out there ) lol and one day I became a bit brave after a few dutch courage drinks and wrote my phone n...
A. 21 June 2012: I agree with everybody else. You are setting yourself up to be taken advantage of and used. Don't do it.Don't play his game. Keep yourself available for someone who wants what you do. Check out a great website called Baggage Reclaim that is all ... (read in full...)
Very frustrated with the men I am meeting, and to make it worse the one guy that I like has a girlfriend and is a lot younger than me!
Q. Oh, where to start? I am 54 years old, work 2 days in a beauty shop and 3 or 4 days as an in home health aide. I am struggling, even working 2 jobs. After going from couch to couch for 6 months last year, I finally saved enough to get my own tiny ...
A. 21 June 2012: Beleive it or not, I did join meetup.com and livingsocial.com, but a lot of the activities take money, which I have limited supply of. I do have friends, but one wants to drag her husband along everywhere he go, and he is obnoxious, the other one ... (read in full...)
Very frustrated with the men I am meeting, and to make it worse the one guy that I like has a girlfriend and is a lot younger than me!
Q. Oh, where to start? I am 54 years old, work 2 days in a beauty shop and 3 or 4 days as an in home health aide. I am struggling, even working 2 jobs. After going from couch to couch for 6 months last year, I finally saved enough to get my own tiny ...
A. 21 June 2012: Honey with 2 jobs I stay "busy", plus I do volunteer at my church, which has only 35 members and they are all married or under 25. I do karaoke once a month at clubs, and rarely see anyone over 30 there. The demographics of my neighborhood make it ... (read in full...)
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