How do I know what his sexual fantasies are, and do I tell him mine?
Q. Im 23 and my partner is 26 we have been together for 3yrs and are both madly in love but our sex life needs a bit of sparking up but how do i know what he is into, what his fantasies are and how do i let him know what mine are with out bluntly ...
A. 8 February 2010: I'd agree with the other posters.
Just ask him if he has any. Let him know that it turns you on that he does. Let him know you are open to trying new things. Then ask him to whisper in your ear to you one of those fantasies. Let him know if ... (read in full...)
Plagued by indecision and don't know what to do for the best... please help!
Q. Plagued by indecision, and am in need of some advice, or maybe someone to shed some light where I can not see! I left my boyfriend of 4 years a few months ago, we have a 3 year old, and Im 15 weeks pregnant. (Im 28) I am so thrilled to be p...
A. 8 February 2010: You sound like a really nice person.
I am not sure what you should do, because only you know.
It's probably good for your son to have a father.
On the other hand, that shouldn't have to mean that you have to date this guy if you are no l... (read in full...)
Absolutely heartbroken...
Q. So I walked into my girlfriend's house yesterday to find another man there. I already knew she'd been involved with a different fella over the past couple of months, but then I find this new guy there. Looks like the first one dumped her and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Maybe she likes the fact that you love her so much. I'm not sure what the ring is about. Though, get her to pay you for it! At least then you'll save some money and not have to deal with the extra baggage.... (read in full...)
I want to break up but he has paid for the holiday!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for about 18 months, were both 19 years old, and I used to love him very much, but I just don't anymore. I've thought about it long and hard and I'm pretty much decided that I want to break up with him, but there's a ...
A. 8 February 2010: Haha. Your mum is funny.
Is there any way you could get a refund for his part? I'd start calling expedia or the hotel or whoever it's booked with and find out.
Otherwise, I'd find some other friend or guy who's willing to pay the money to... (read in full...)
What to do when you were fooled once again?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) Well, The story is damn long, but I'll keep it simple: I fell in love with a girl that hat a boyfriend. She ended falling in love with me. 2 weeks later her boyfriend broke up, and 3 days after that, we were coming t...
A. 8 February 2010: Honestly, just be confident and friendly with her, and wish her well. The more clingy and angry you are the less attractive it makes you.
It's her life. If she wants an abusive guy so be it.
I think the best thing is to laugh it off, at how a... (read in full...)
I told him he has to be out by March but I want him out now!!!!
Q. I have a huge problem ! My boyfriend and I broke up I called it quits after 5months. He was living with me and my son and I told him that he has to give me half of my rent which is 400 my rent is 700 no problem he has been doing that. Latley we have ...
A. 8 February 2010: Hi, I was in a similar situation some time ago.
The way I got my former lady to leave was shutting down the Internet in the house. I had given her notice, but she had no intention of leaving. That made her really upset at me, and got her to l... (read in full...)
The waiter has my number, should I call him to ask him out?
Q. Okay so there is this really cute waiter at a restaurant that my friends and I frequent. I met him about a year ago and recently he seems to be showing more interest in me because every time he sees me he greets me with a hug(a little longer than ...
A. 8 February 2010: Call him! He's not scared! He's been making lots of moves. It's time for you to reciprocate.
... (read in full...)
Absolutely heartbroken...
Q. So I walked into my girlfriend's house yesterday to find another man there. I already knew she'd been involved with a different fella over the past couple of months, but then I find this new guy there. Looks like the first one dumped her and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Wow, you must really love her. It might seem sad but you really need to move on, or you will lose all self-respect.... (read in full...)
Do you think she is actually committed to me?
Q. Ok so here is my question. I am enaged to the woman of my dreams, love her very dearly. Recently I feel as though she is not committed to me in our relationship. I recently had a good friend's fiance ask her some questions. My boys fiance asked her ...
A. 8 February 2010: I did not think there was a problem until you mentioned the minimal sex. The two together sound kind like the relationship is going downhill. I'd try to talk to her about your relationship together; and ask why it's not the same anymore? You guys ... (read in full...)
We've been talking back and forth for awhile now... What does it all mean?
Q. He is a relative of mines, yet distant. a few years ago, he contacts me for a favour..something to do with his music. I said I dont have what he wants but then he started talking more and more...until one day he just showed up at my door without my ...
A. 8 February 2010: I think he fancies you because of his behavior. He's showing obvious interest in you, and you've been blowing him off or ignoring him. Therefore, he's interested in you and you are not interested in him. Sure he hasn't come out and just said, "I ... (read in full...)
Is he stalking me... Or am I just delusional?
Q. There's a guy I know who seems to follow me around campus. We're both in college and have very different schedules. I'm not sure if he's actually following me, so I can't make any judgements. But he always seems to find me (just to talk). I have...
A. 7 February 2010: sounds like this guy is your favorite stalker. :)
to be serious though, sometimes we will rationalize things to ourselves due to fear of conflict. for example, you might not really like this guy, but you say he's cool because you're afraid o... (read in full...)
We've been talking back and forth for awhile now... What does it all mean?
Q. He is a relative of mines, yet distant. a few years ago, he contacts me for a favour..something to do with his music. I said I dont have what he wants but then he started talking more and more...until one day he just showed up at my door without my ...
A. 7 February 2010: he *likes* you and you don't *like* him. obviously he's not gonna show it at a family dinner party since you two are relatives. he seems like the shy type too. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am getting the blame for his past bad relationships. What do I do?
Q. Im in love with a man who is scared of getting hurt, when we are together we have lots of fun and do everything except have sex. He says he doesn’t trust women and doesn’t know if he ever will again. Iv been hurt too and as far as I know iv never ...
A. 7 February 2010: it sounds like he has issues from his past and isn't ready for sex.
so blaming would be like him punishing you or being mean to you for his past relationships. if he's doing that then that's wrong. if he's doing that you need to let him know... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may have texted too much and scared him away!
Q. Met a man online. Thought he was great got on really well. Has a very stressful job. Used to text him and he wouldn't answer me so I would text him again he would answer with something like, yes still alive, just stressed and thatv would be it. So ...
A. 7 February 2010: Both Griffo and Angzw's advice is really good.
Honestly, you just need to move on. ... (read in full...)
I love her. She likes me. How do I tell her that I want to be with her?
Q. My friend and I are close, and we are gradually getting closer to being in a relationship, but we both are hesitating. I'm afraid. I love her and I know she doesn't feel the same back. I know she only likes me. I don't want to pressure her but as we ...
A. 7 February 2010: JazzedUp's advice is really nice. I have to agree from speaking from personal experience. Since she's your friend she'll understand if you just tell her.
The truth is you won't know for sure until you walk through the door. So you can't know how... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or is my partner actually taking the piss with me?
Q. Basically, I feel my partner is taking advantage a little bit... for example, tonight, he was going out with his friends, which I was absolutely fine with, obviously! But 2 hours into the night, he says he's bored and wants to see me, which i ...
A. 7 February 2010: If it were me I'd lock the door, and forget about it. Some people are more comfortable than others with ambiguity and flakiness.
I'd either reward his flakiness with absent-mindedness or put your foot down.... (read in full...)
Is it weird that a 19 year old is interested in a 16 year old?
Q. hii, im new to this sitee but i jus have a quickkk question. well imm about to turn 16 and the guy imm dating will be 19 this week. is it weird that hes interested in me? (bc of the age) neither of us have a problem with the difference, i was jus ...
A. 7 February 2010: I personally think it's kind of weird and possibly illegal.
Age differences mean a lot more the younger you are. I personally think 19 year-old guys who date 16 year-olds have a serious problem trying to adapt to adulthood.
Then there's ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 7 February 2010: I know people are giving a lot of reasons.
But the biggest reason is just that you are 15. You are still a baby. :) I know it doesn't feel it because your body is changing so much, but you have no idea how young you really are. Stay young gi... (read in full...)
It's Friday night and here I am, alone again!
Q. It's friday night and I'm alone. I was at a friend's b-day earlier tonight. It seems like every night I'm alone. I like being to myself but this is getting ridiculous. When I was out at the restaurant I saw many cute girls out with guys. One of ...
A. 7 February 2010: thanks for your suggestions. i now have a date for later this week thanks to okcupid.
i can't help but feel skeptical of the class suggestion. attractive girls maybe consist of like 2% of the adult population. a given club will have like a r... (read in full...)
It's Friday night and here I am, alone again!
Q. It's friday night and I'm alone. I was at a friend's b-day earlier tonight. It seems like every night I'm alone. I like being to myself but this is getting ridiculous. When I was out at the restaurant I saw many cute girls out with guys. One of ...
A. 6 February 2010: to answer the questions, i'm 28 years old. this past week i probably worked like 50 hours.
i have somewhat flexible hours because i work creative job. so it can vary between like 35-80 hours a week, depending. often times, it's up to me. som... (read in full...)
It's Friday night and here I am, alone again!
Q. It's friday night and I'm alone. I was at a friend's b-day earlier tonight. It seems like every night I'm alone. I like being to myself but this is getting ridiculous. When I was out at the restaurant I saw many cute girls out with guys. One of ...
A. 6 February 2010: yeah, i've gone to yoga classes for example, i enjoy yoga, but nothing seems to happen.
i have a good job and like what i do.
i've also looked online, and have corresponded but i don't really know what to say to people when it comes to meet... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 6 February 2010: There's a reason people are telling you that. Your body isn't even fully grown yet! Chances are both you and the baby will be much healthier if you wait a couple more years.
You need sleep and rest to grow both physically and mentally. Having ... (read in full...)
To blow or not to blow?
Q. Ive done alot of cyber sex in my day (not too proud either) and lately a guy that i have been talking to for several months now is talking pretty seriously with me as in a relationship...we've never cybered but we do talk openly about sexual ...
A. 23 November 2009: it's time to make a boundary...
ignore his request.
if he asks again...
say no, don't explain why. if he asks why: just say: i'm not into it.
if he continues to ask for it, cut him off, since he obviously doesn't respect the boundary you... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I'm developing an attraction for a guy at work. What do I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I love him to pieces. Recently, I met this other guy at my job and we've been talking a lot. I'm starting to have strong feelings for him. Its the best/horrible feeling in the world. No way would I ever ...
A. 23 November 2009: Summary:
Remove the drama, assess, and control.
Explanation:
You are young and you want to be with more than one guy. That is natural and makes sense. Many girls feel that way.
Still part of the emotional connection you are exp... (read in full...)
He wanted to slow things down, so we had sex. How does he feel about me now?
Q. ok so i dont kno what to do ive been talkin to a guy for 7mos. in the begining it was great but then he said he didnt have time for a gf so we slowed down. recently we took the next step and became intimate. i really like him and i wanna kno what...
A. 23 November 2009: ok, so if you were actually gonna have a serious relationship, then sex would definitely speed things up.
on the other hand, if you are not gonna have a serious relationship, then sex would just be sex, and slow down would now mean friends ... (read in full...)
I don't think he treats me well. Are we doomed?
Q. I'm really stuck in this relationship i'm in. I have such an intense attraction to my boyfriend and i love him to pieces, but i don't think he is treating me right. I broke up with my Ex who loved me to pieces and treated me like i was a goddess,...
A. 23 November 2009: You sound like a really nice person based on what you've said about how you dealt with your former bf.
The simple issue I see here is that if your bf doesn't treat you well, and you stay with him, over time it's going to reduce your level of self-... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to show his affection physically?
Q. how do i get my boyfriend become more physical and touchy?...
A. 23 November 2009: Hmm. That's a fun question.
Well, just trying to think what would work for me.
Method 1:
Sitting on a couch together put your legs on top of his thighs and give a sexy look, then look away.
Method 2:
Sit on his lap.
Method 3: ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me and I'm still devastated
Q. Im so hurt! My ex gf broke up with me on Nov 4 after dating for almost 2 yrs. I always treated her like a princess and loved her like crazy. I found out on a txt msg she sent me by "accident". It devastated me bcuz even though we had been fighting, ...
A. 23 November 2009: I sympathize, but at your age (early 20s) change is the only thing that can be expected.
It's b.s. that she didn't tell you upfront, but all the more reason to be DONE with her.
I think it's important to be honest with the fact that young ... (read in full...)
14 and a virgin, I feel lonely and inadequate because all my friends have already had sex!
Q. I'm 14 and from Hampshire, England. all my friends have had sex. i feel lonley because i'm still a virgin. they arn't saying i MUST pop the cherry but i don't fit in anymore eg. i'm not invited to party. i've always been a bit awkward around p...
A. 12 April 2008: I recommend you take a step back and put things in perspective. What you need is confidence. The strength to be happy with the fact that you are different. That's the kind of confidence that attracts people.
Being different can pay off. It... (read in full...)
He disgusts me so much! All I see is an old pervert instead of the guy I fell in love with!
Q. I'm having some guy issues. I'm going out with a guy who I met online and I have been dating him for 4 1/2 years. It didn't occur to me that he would ever lie to me about his age. But it all started when my mom didnt believe me when I told her he ...
A. 12 April 2008: Yucko. I often get a creepy feeling when I see younger teenage girls with guys who are in their mid-twenties. Really, a respectable guy would usually not go out with a really young girl. Not sure why, but it's just against their sensibilities. ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but have an irrepresable infatuation with someone else. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my fiancée for six years now. We got engaged last year. I love her dearly and want to be with her. The trouble comes when I want to have my cake and eat it too. I'm just not sure how to control these feelings. You see there is ...
A. 12 April 2008: I really like Annalisa's answer. It's true, you might just need tome to step back to reflect, instead of dumping it on your girlfriend. Then you can make a clear-headed decision on your own.... (read in full...)
What can I do about feeling super horny?
Q. I need advice.... Nowadays i get really really super horny. I dont think its hormones. I know alot of diffrent ways to masturbate. But i find it to be unsatisfying. Even when relaxed and empty minded. Btw i'm 14 years old and been masturbating since ...
A. 11 April 2008: Put that sexual energy into something else. For example, do physical exercise. Running is good. Yoga is really good. Your body is likely bored. It will give your body something to do and enjoy.... (read in full...)
Did he really like me, or did I just assume he was flirting?
Q. So here's the deal. I met a guy, a great guy. Funny, smart, tall and handsome. The works. We met while we were both working at the same location, for a few weeks. I think he "attempted" to flirt with me, jokes, teasing, poking me, asking me ...
A. 11 April 2008: He probably was interested in you, but most likely moved on after you showed a lack of interest.
Get in touch with him, let him know how you feel. Not sure what else to tell you. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex girlfreind is pregnant with his kid what should I do??
Q. I need help. Me an my boyfrind have been together for five months and we love each other so much. But he just found out from his ex from ten months ago that she just had a baby and it might be his. Please help me and give me some advice on what sho...
A. 11 April 2008: The main question will be how is he going to deal with this, not you. He has some stuff to take care of now.
Plenty of girls would just ditch this guy at this moment. But it's up to you, how you want to react. Given your confusion, you might wa... (read in full...)
Do young woman say 25 to 35 usually find men say 50 to 58 old and sexually unattractive?
Q. Do young woman say 25 to 35 usually find men say 50 to 58 old and sexually unattractive? I find myself interested in a woman 35 but am not sure if she really feels anything for me sexually or is just being nice as a friend?...
A. 11 April 2008: It's unlikely, but it can happen. Watch the movie "As Good as it Gets."
You could just tell her how you feel and see what happens. She probably likes you on some level. Usually people are "nice" for a reason.... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but have an irrepresable infatuation with someone else. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my fiancée for six years now. We got engaged last year. I love her dearly and want to be with her. The trouble comes when I want to have my cake and eat it too. I'm just not sure how to control these feelings. You see there is ...
A. 11 April 2008: Wow.
Sometimes some of us are just not designed to be in long committed relationships. More than likely this infatuation is a manifestation of your desire to be with other woman. I doubt that it's truly this particular woman who has such a hold o... (read in full...)
How to approach a "shy" girl???
Q. How would you like a guy to approach you if you were shy??? I have a girl in my class who i am interested in, and i think she is interested in me too. everytime i turn to look at her, she is looking back at me, and my friends all say she looks at...
A. 11 April 2008: It can be easier to talk to a shy girl in some respects, as you will come off as confident and cool if you do it right. Just talk to her, suggest that you do something, shake up her world a little. She's not gonna do it, so someone has to get this ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin even though he didnt break me?
Q. hi, yesterday i decided to have sex for the first time, i wanted to, the guy i tried to have it with i love so much, but when he tried to put it up it just wouldnt go in, even still i bled and it really hurt, am i still a virgin even though he didnt ...
A. 11 April 2008: Let's go to the dictionary.
Virgin
–noun
1. a person who has never had sexual intercourse.
sexual intercourse
–noun
1. genital contact, esp. the insertion of the penis into the vagina followed by orgasm; coitus; copu... (read in full...)
He just wants me as a friend now-I'm confused, please help!
Q. Hi there me again, the guy that i've met 2 years ago invited me to his place last night, he stay's on a farm a few km outside town when I got there he has lighten the fire place and got us a nice dvd we were lying on the coough watching the dvd he ...
A. 11 April 2008: Why is it not right? I don't understand either.
I would get to the bottom of it. Does he have another lover? Does he think your too young for him.
Answer that question, why he believes it is not right?
Just be prepared, as he might ha... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just broke up with me shall I wait or let her go?
Q. My girlfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago. I didn't realize that we'll end up like this because I thought that everything is flowing smoothly. We've been together for almost 1 and half years now and she told me that she still have feeling ...
A. 11 April 2008: Wow that's hard. She was pretty clear with you though, which is good. I'd say she definitely wants to be alone. So for the time being, you may just want to leave her alone, and find new ways of spending your extra time.
To be honest, I can't ... (read in full...)
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