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| Latest articles: Some of the do's and dont's for relationships...
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8 May 2008: We've all have in been relationships and dates, some of which have ended in good terms and some of which have ended badly. And honestly, a relationship takes more than saying the three words, 'I love you.' Mostly the reasons for relationships last ...
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I'm very crushed and even though I ended it with him because he hurt me, I still have major feelings for him! What is the best way to get over him?
Q. hey everyone. Recently I got back with my ex and it was a huge mistake cuz he only end up hurting me again. You see, he changes girls like he does underwear and at the time I didnt realize this until he told other girls that we never dated. Everyone ...
A. 11 July 2008: Hi there,
I agree with the post sent before. I think u should spend as much time with family, friends, etc, to keep your mind off of him. At least, u are keeping yourself busy.
Also, do not look at his facebook or myspace as well.
Do not... (read in full...)
Does this mean he may propose? Or is this his way of fantasising?
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are both madly in love with eachother, and we are expecting our first child! We have lived together since the day we started dating practically! We have just been inseperable! He h...
A. 22 May 2008: You definitely have found yourself a keeper. He is there for you, he loves you, and wants to work hard and be a good dad. It does look like he wants to marry you, and it seems like it to be honest, and well, right now, he wants to focus on the ... (read in full...)
Please help me to help my friend. His girlfriend is really nasty and abusive toward him, I think he's scaredof her!!
Q. One of my good male friends has a problem with his girlfriend. Well, they have been together for about two years and his girlfriend tells him what to do all of the time and won't allow him any freedom! If he wants to go partying with his frie...
A. 4 May 2008: Hi there,
I would definitely tell your friend to leave the relationship because he is not happy, and have him look at what he is doing to himself, which is smoking. You may want to point that out to him and tell him the fact that you do not dese... (read in full...)
All tests were negative...so then why have I not had a period in nearly 3 months?
Q. Ok. I haven't gotten my period in 2mths. It will be three on may 17. Now here is the weird part. I have taken 5 at home pregnancy test and 1 blood pregnancy test 2 weeks ago. All were negative. Can I be pregnant or what's going on with me?...
A. 4 May 2008: Hi there,
I would suggest going to your doctor or ob/gyn. His/her medical expertise can tell you what is wrong, especially since you haven't gotten your period in two months. I hope all is well and can help you. Good luck... (read in full...)
I want to be with her, I'm 18 and she's 14.
Q. I am 18 and my really good friend is 14, I have never had a relationship, and i think i like her. What should I do? I want to be with her??...
A. 29 April 2008: I would be very very careful. You are an adult here because of your age, and she is a minor. If you do get into a relationship and have sex, you would definitely be consider a sexual offender and you'll very likely end up in jail. She may not be ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he does it from behind..is this normal?
Q. This is very strange for me asking this and have only just found this website but i really need help.last nite my guy took me from behind and it really hurt in which i asked him to pull out which he did but it made me feel a bit sick for a few ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hey there, Your question pertains to health, and it's okay to ask. The position is penetrating the penis deeper. There is a chance the cervix may be hit while doing this position, which may have happened, and he may have went too fast and may lea... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 17, any tips to make my life easier and be prepared for my baby's arrival?
Q. I am 17 and 24 weeks pregnant i am keeping my baby and was with my boyfriend for 2 years but recently he decided that he couldn't cope anymore and we are no longer together. Do you have any tips for how i can make my life easier and make sure i am ...
A. 23 April 2008: Congratulations on your baby. Definitely stay healthy and keep active, but don't overwork yourself. Take it easy for yourself. Also, accept any help or support from others like your family. I'm sure the government may give your some money for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to stop taking the pill so we can try to get pregnant. Should I?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and things are going good. He told me yesterday that he wants me to stop taking the pill and he wants to start trying. Im not really sure im ready. I love him i really do but im not ready im not sure i ev...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi there,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your unborn child. Anyways, back tot the topic:
The decision is all yours because this is your body that you are talking about. if you want to have a baby and you are ready for it, then stop th... (read in full...)
She loves me but she wants to date others, being afraid of commitment. How to deal with this situation?
Q. I have a girl I fell madly in love with, we fit perfectly, I think the world of her, gave her the world. After 8 months we moved in together. 9 months later she left me. Many conversations and weeks later I got the reason that she didn't want a ...
A. 21 April 2008: One thing for sure is that you have to stop feeling bad because you haven't really aren't respecting yourself and what you deserve. Secondly, you need to stop being passive, and start manning up. You may have to start drawing the line that your girl ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and half months and we already had sex.
Q. if i am on the shot and he cums in me more than once and one time the day before i get the shot is it possible that i could be pregnate?? he tells me that i am the first girl that he has never used a condum with me and that he wants me to have his ...
A. 16 April 2008: there is a possibility of you getting pregnant. you are too young, and i do understand you want to have a baby. also, please consider that you are still young yourself. i would use condoms, and having a baby at your age is not good at because you ... (read in full...)
I re-used a condom 3 wks later. Am I Pregnant?
Q. hey... so ... here is my problem... me and my boyfriend had sex with a re-used condom about two weeks ago. the condom we re-used was first used about three weeks before we used it the second time.. does the sperm die off or what? he cleaned it out ...
A. 16 April 2008: Reusing condoms is just gross. At least you were very careful; but if i were you take a pregnancy test in a couple weeks, and please get new condoms and i would consider getting yourself on the pill. it will prevent you from getting pregnant and if ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find love?
Q. hello i'm a virgin and i know that there are alot of genuine females but my penis is little between 2 and 3 in" well i ever find true love...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi there,
First of all, there is someone for everyone. Do not worry, you'll meet that special girl.
Secondly, what is most important is your honesty and confidence. Penis size should not matter as long as you are open and happy and can show her... (read in full...)
I like this girl a school, but I'm shy and need some help.
Q. Hi, i kind of have 2 questions; First...there is a girl i like but don't know how to approach her, to be honest i'm quite shy so i dont know how to start a conversation with her, any form of help will be appreciated. My second is that she is in year ...
A. 15 April 2008: I say take a chance, even if your friends are not too happy witth it, who knows? It could be something worthwhile. It is quite clear that there is something about her that you like and can't stop thinking about.
I would also talk to her and get ... (read in full...)
My best friend just wont hang out with me, why?
Q. I have a friend that I've known since high school 10th grade. We used to always hang at her house and we've been to the mall ONCE out of our entire friendship. Whenever I call her up and say, "let's hang out or go to a restaurant" she always come...
A. 11 April 2008: It seems to me that you always have to make the contact, not her. Plus to me, she does not seem like a friend worthwhile anymore.
Along with that I definitely agree with the first answer. I would read that and consider it a good answer,t... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend pulls out, could I still become pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have unprotected sex everyday yet he pulls out. what are the chances of me falling pregnant? ive heard there high but yet for four months ...nothing. could something be wrong?...
A. 7 April 2008: If you haven't gotten your period within the past 4 months, then it may be likely so. I would get yourself a pregnancy test to test if you are. Also, If I were you, next time, use protection like a condom. With that, I would go to the doctor and get ... (read in full...)
I'm black, he's white. HE still to this day hides our relationship from his parents whom he still lives with. He says they are racist.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years I am 26 he is 25. I met him right after a previous serious relationship with a person I had a child with. My daugther was three months old when we met through work and we hit it off really well. ...
A. 3 April 2008: You definitely deserve better. He hasn't really grown up, and he still lives with the parents. He is likely using using you, and the excuse that his parents are racists is not going to cut it. Maybe they are, but what if they aren't? I would ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have sex only once or twice a month?
Q. Okay,another l-o-n-g story/question. I know that you will not always be on the same page (couples) but is it normal to have sex only 1-2 month, he has to initiate because he flinches when I touch him (says I always tickle him), so I'm shellshocked ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi there,
I definitely think being blunt is the best way to have him talk and open up to why he doesn't want to do it. Also, it would be good to let him know that you are not happy with the very small number of times you have sex, and that he ... (read in full...)
All we ever talk about is sex so do we really love each other?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy since last yr. We are very attracted to each other and we love each other. However, most of the time all we talk about is sex or having sex. Is there anything wrong with it? Or How do we figure out if its physical ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
I am in the same boat as you. Sex is definitely one way to show how much you love each other. I would alsod consider asking yourself the questions suggested by Double M. They are very good ones to ask yourself.
Also, I would try to n... (read in full...)
Stuck in a relationship with an alcoholic, is my reason to stay a valid one?
Q. I hate my boyfriend more and more each day. I dont know why I am with him. maybe its because I dont want to be a mom who has men in and out of my daughters life. but then again he isnt her father and it isnt really fair to subject her to him. I ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
I am sorry to hear that things are not going well. The situation from what I understand it to be is not a good one. The fact that your boyfriend is an alcoholic is not good especially since he is a father to your daughter, and it is no... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have sex when your period is on?
Q. I know that this is sort of a nasty question but I need to know is it okay to have sex when your period is on? Does it really matter to men that it is our time of the month when they want to have sex, because I told this dude I'm talking to it is my ...
A. 1 April 2008: It depends on your preference. Some women have sex on their period, and some just don't. Just as long as you use a condom, it's okay. If you want my opinion, I'm not too crazy about it because it can get messy and you and your bf may have to worry ... (read in full...)
She keeps cheating on me, how can ever trust her?
Q. Dear Community, I need advice. I have been dating my g/f for 9 months now. Through out the relationship a lot has happened. I am no longer able to conduct my thoughts in a proper manner. I constantly think she is seeing someone now. It all beg...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi there,
She seems like the girl that is selfish with her love life and takes her sex life too lightly. I think you are better off without her. it is important to have trust, love, and respect for one another.
It seems like love is the only thi... (read in full...)
Worried about contraceptive pills' effectiveness after the recommended break!
Q. i have been on the pill now for about a year and i did start taking it again for about 3 weeks after my break, i am experiencing breast tenderness, a bit of nausea and period like cramps, what could this mean, help?...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
If you took a break from the pills and just went back on, what is happening to you are pretty much side effects since you stopped taking them. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I may be pregnant!
Q. Hi, I'm 17 years old and have been on the pill for a number of years. Recently i came off the pill and had the implant inserted. I'm really worried because i havent had a period for a number of months. Could i be pregnant?...
A. 31 March 2008: Hey there hun, I would go to your gynecologist and have yourself checked. He/she may know what to do or what to tell you. I hope this can help you, hun. Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?
Q. Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?...
A. 30 March 2008: it does look like a debate here. i would say, if you are in a relationship with someone, cuddling with another friend is inappropriate. cuddling is intimate and between you and your bf. friends show afftection by hugging, but cuddling with a friend ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to let me watch porn to get me aroused when we have sex?
Q. Been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years now... she's my second long-term girlfriend. Before I met her I was into porn, and lad mags, and generally just liked looking at women all the time. After I ended my relationship with my first long term ...
A. 29 March 2008: You should be honest and tell her how you feel, but tell her in a nice way, so that you don't blame her. She is likely going to be disappointed, but that would allow here to research and find other ways to spice things up, or who knows, if you both ... (read in full...)
How do we know if emergency contraceptive will work?
Q. Hi I posted about how you tell if a condom's split before and thanks for the replies to that one. But speak of the devil, today the condom did split!! Atleast now I know how to tell... anyway, here's the thing: my gf is on day 7 of her cycle ie ...
A. 29 March 2008: I have used the emergency contraceptive pill, and it is also known as the morning after pill. One of the reasons women use the pill is in your situation, when the condom splits or breaks during sex. It works best up to 72 hours. You have to take the ... (read in full...)
Mommy's 'Baby Girl'...how do I handle this?
Q. My 5 year old blew me away recently. She said her private area was tickling her. I let her know it is important that she can talk to me about things. I did express my concern that this should be private to her. I've noticed stuff that I don't want ...
A. 29 March 2008: Hey there,
There are two possibilites. Once could be that maybe she is exploring her body and learning more about her anatomy. The other could be that maybe she did thrush, and maybe why she could be scratching may lead to some sort of infectio... (read in full...)
Please help me, am I pregnant? Should I do a test?
Q. i think i might be pregnant, i've still been getting bleeds around my time of the month, but they are very light and only lasting 2 or 3 days and are either brown in colour or bright red. i'm 23 and have always been regular and heavy. if i am i ...
A. 29 March 2008: You could be pregnant. The best thing to do is to take a pregnancy test on the week of your due period. that will best say if you are preggers or not. ... (read in full...)
My sheets were stained with blood..was it from my period starting??
Q. Hi, just wondering if anyone could help, i am 18years old and have been with my bf for 2years and sexually active for 1. I usually have regular period cycles, starting between 1st-6th of every month, but on wednesday after sex, i found the sheets ...
A. 28 March 2008: Hi there,
It is definitely your period, hun. Wash your sheets, and it is nothing to really worry about. Hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I take a test or wait a few more days?
Q. i think i might be pregnant... im 22 and i already have 2 children and i've been with their dad for 4 years, he is older than me and has two older children with his ex. Our relantionship is good we hardly ever argue.But after our daughter was born ...
A. 28 March 2008: Hello there,
My best advice is to test the day you are due. If your result is negative, then you are not pregnant. It may mean your period may be late for some reason. Test again in a few days, and if the result is the same, then your period s... (read in full...)
Is it bad to still be a virgin at 13?
Q. I'm a 13yr old girl and I'm still a virgin.Is this bad?I'm worried about me because my friends are already having sex with boys at 13 and 14....
A. 28 March 2008: I would say, no, it's not. If you get sexually active too early, it may be problematic. You may get stds or cause a girl to get pregnant at a very young age. Wait til you are older and in love or until you are married, but mostly, since a lot of ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent her getting hurt again?
Q. hi everyone, just recently one of my best friends found a boyfriend. She had been in a relationship a few months ago and the guy didnt treat her with any respect. I comforted her after this and became very emotionally attached to the girl. I ...
A. 28 March 2008: Hello there,
I agree with LazyGuy. I would be there as a friend, but you need to set your heart free. I would not be too sure if going out with her may be a good idea and sometimes that may ruin a friendship, so best bet, stay good friends ... (read in full...)
How soon can you tell if you are pregnant?
Q. i had sex on the 4rth day of my period and it was unprotected... now i think im pregnant... how soon could you tell?...
A. 28 March 2008: Hi there,
If you want to know sooner than waiting when your period is due, I would test a few weeks after you had sex with a very sensitive hCG hormone pregnancy test. They are pretty accurate and pick up on it, and they can actually tell you if y... (read in full...)
How can I stay strong?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years he cheated over ten times! I finally kicked him out. I don't wanna be stupid anymore I see now that he will never change. I thought I could help him change and now I know he can only change his self! So ...
A. 27 March 2008: Hey,
You did the right thing by leaving him. It might be tough, and you have been with him for 4 years. You deserve better. You also did the right thing by kicking him out. You are also doing the right thing by ignoring his phone calls and text... (read in full...)
My breasts have become tender and I'm getting bad stomach pains, is this related to recently coming off depo-provera injections or could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi there, This may be more of a question for the doctor, but maybe some of you have had the same experience. I was on the depo-provera injection for three months only and came off it on the 14 December. In January a had light bleeding which l...
A. 25 March 2008: Women vary with contraceptions. It just means that your body is trying to regulate itself. I would ask your doctor or look up information on the web relating to depo-provera specifically.... (read in full...)
I had a one night stand while drunk and now I'm pregnant! Do I tell him?
Q. I joined this site as I'm so confused of what to do!! I've been going off the rails lately, drinking waay too much, going to pubs every night and clubs every weekend, having a fair few one night stands.... the truth is, I seem to associate se...
A. 24 March 2008: Telling the guy may be good, but you would want to do in private. Also, if I were you, I would call a Planned Parenthood number (in America) or in this case in England, it would be referred to as Life, and they will help you with advice on what to ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregant even on my period? I still feel like I am and am freaking out...
Q. My last period was February 25th-28th light flow but with cramps and sore boobs...I had unprotected sex on the 14th of this month(March)my boyfriend did not ejaculate in me and then 5days later I started having stomach pains,back ...
A. 24 March 2008: If you have had unprotected sex, you are likely to be pregnant. the only thing i would say is take a pregnancy test after that period is done to see if you are. that can really tell if you are pregnant or not. i hope this helps you. i wish you all ... (read in full...)
My BF constantly preaches at me to point out the wrongness of my religious beliefs!
Q. my boyfriend is deeply religious and raised in the christian church. i however was raised by an deist (that god does not play a part in the outcome of your lifes events) parent and a catholic parent. i chose to take the deist route. my boyf...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi there,
I am not so sure if this is the right guy for you. He seems like he is self-righteous and bigot towards other religions. The way he is acting may be unhealthy, and if he keeps up with that and has a problem with your religion and make... (read in full...)
Do you think he could be gay?
Q. I have been seeing a great guy for a year now and absoloutely love him to death, however, sex has never gotten off the ground, we have obviously tried it a lot but either it is over and one with before its begun or it just doesnt happen. We get on ...
A. 24 March 2008: It could be a possibilty, but I think it is more along the lines of the fact that he's no longer attracted to you. Either way, stay friends with him. Nothing bad happened between the both of you, but at least you kept your relationship with him as ... (read in full...)
I've left 10 texts to my boyfriend with no response, does he still care?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over? ...
A. 19 March 2008: Okay, now, let's not jump to the conclusion that the relationship is over. There may be reasons why he can't text. Some may be, depending on location, he cannot text, or his phone may be broken, he may be too busy having fun. I also would be ... (read in full...)
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