When online guy found out I was having a FWBR he got cold and then ended things
Q. Ok so heres my story. I started chatting to a guy who was recently separated on a dating website for a few weeks. It then progressed to texts every day. After about 3 weeks we decided to meet in person. It was a bit of uncoventional first date as he ...
A. 17 September 2010: It sounds like he just isnt the kind of person who thinks casual sex is ok, and as you do, he felt you weren't compatible. Its a shame, but it is a clash of values, which would probably come up again if you were together. Stop the nasty texts and ... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin but I want a virgin wife
Q. Okay, so... I have been very active in my life, more so than most people. I put it down to my confidence levels but many put it down to me being an ass. Except for this I'm always good, never harm anything or anyone and any chance I get I help ...
A. 5 August 2010: Hi, thanks for your followup. RE your reply to me: "Accountable, you're right about the first part, but also failed to see that if I thought she was a bad person I would have ended it long ago."
I am not saying that I think you think she is a bad ... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin but I want a virgin wife
Q. Okay, so... I have been very active in my life, more so than most people. I put it down to my confidence levels but many put it down to me being an ass. Except for this I'm always good, never harm anything or anyone and any chance I get I help ...
A. 4 August 2010: The 'kind of a person [you] sound like' is a massive hypocrite. The way I see it, you can hardly hold a woman you see as a potential partner to an ideal of chastity when you in no way adhere to that value yourself.
Anyway, regarding your curr... (read in full...)
Stuck in a LDR. Is it ok to look for a FWB?
Q. i am a 23 year old lady who is in a stable relationship.however my boyfriend and i are miles away we see each other once in a while like once a month or once in two weeks.when we see each other we make love and we both get contented however the rest ...
A. 4 August 2010: Only if you both discuss it, and he's fine with it, and you'd be fine with him having one too.
I'm in a long distance relationship, have been for a year and a half, and would never dream of having a FWB "on the side". Whatever you want to call it, ... (read in full...)
How can she tell if a boy is a virgin?
Q. My girl friend just told me dat she is still a virgin and would love to marry a virgin guy like her, i luv her so much i don`t want to loss her. Making the relationship last for a life time has been our quest,but i am confused because, i don't know ...
A. 28 June 2010: I imagine she's relying on his honesty about the matter, considering she obviously wants to be in a very stable and loving relationship at the time (in which the man should be comfortable to be open enough with her about whether he is, or is not, a ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 27 June 2010: This isnt your fault at all, he brought it on himself by abusing you in the first place. Not all abuse starts big and dramatic - "a little physical abuse" now could easily develope into serious case. His family is right, the best thing to do is get ... (read in full...)
She says she's too in love with her boyfriend to let anything happen with me!
Q. I'm in love with my friend and she's in love with me but she says she loves her boyfriend too much to let anything happen. what should I do?...
A. 27 June 2010: Move on and find someone else, shes made it very clear that nothing will happen between you, so don't waste your time wanting to be with her when you could be out finding another girl whos great for you :) ... (read in full...)
Why is she angry with me for trying to protect her?
Q. Heres the story.. My girlfriend and I were at a bar/dance spot in town with friends yesterday. By the end of the night things got out of control because a few guys started fighting the bouncers. Naturally everyone started rushing to watch the figh...
A. 26 June 2010: She might have felt you were being over-protective for no reason, is that a trend in your relationship? Certainly until she actively involved herself by making that stupid comment late in the night, she didn't need to be herded out of the bar. It ... (read in full...)
Turban wearing man seeks honest opinions
Q. So I moved into the states when I was 10 and now that I am getting older (in my 20s) I am finding that finding love is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My question is for all women. I am a turban wearing man with a trimmed beard. I...
A. 26 June 2010: The only reason I can see for it "turning girls off" is that they might worry about the religious aspect, and how that might affect the future relationship. It is a very extroverted symbol of a personal faith, and that might scare some girls who ... (read in full...)
He keeps cheating on me and lying about it, why?
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost a year now. It is very clear that he and I have a lot of passion for one another. We have everything in common and spend a lot of time together. To make a long story short ... I started noticing signs here and ...
A. 26 June 2010: He keeps doing it because you keep putting up with it. He's proven himself to be unfaithful and untrustworthy, and because you have stayed with him despite the cheating you have effectively told him his behaviour is something you will accept.
C... (read in full...)
How often do you see your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. I really hate spending a whole day without my boyfriend. I hate the thought of going for a day without him and when he's gone I miss him so bad. Whatsmore is that with my exes I often used to go days on end without them and relied on msn but my ...
A. 25 June 2010: Im 18 and I don't see my boyfriend very often, as I'm at college and he's at university in another city.. usually I stay with him for a week every 6 weeks or so, and yeah, it does suck being apart, but I think it makes us stronger as a couple, and ... (read in full...)
He is 17 I'm 13 and I really like him A LOT !!
Q. Their is this 17 year old boy im 13 who is in my form because he is my mentor.. I really like him a lot, he looks at me and smiles and looks away and sometimes stares at me and when i notice, he looks away, then looks back when im not looking....
A. 22 June 2010: Glad things worked out for you :) x... (read in full...)
Why do ex-wives always blame 'other women' for the dissolution/destruction of their marriage?!
Q. My boyfriend told me he was single when we first met. Then pretty soon I get a phone call from a woman claiming to be his wife! I confronted him- He said he didn't tell me he was married because they were already separated. He hasn't lived with her ...
A. 22 June 2010: Hi, I haven't been in your situation before, but my take on it (from what you've written) is that despite the separation, she felt they would still be together in the future. Separation is not, in my eyes, divorce; it is a lot less final than that ... (read in full...)
Do interfaith relationships ever work out?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. We have a seven month old daughter. A few months before she was born, my boyfriend started talking a lot about religion, namely chrisianity. In the present day he now seems to be obsessed with ...
A. 19 June 2010: My mother is christian and my father is atheist and theyre happy together, but I think it works for them because neither of them go around preaching their beliefs, and they both respect each others right to their beliefs. Basically, it isnt an issue ... (read in full...)
I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore and madly in love with another man, what can I do?
Q. Ok, i just need a pick me up to cheer me up . . . Simplest way to put it is, i have been in a relationship for 6 years. I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend but i dont want to tell or hurt him. I am madly in love with someone else. He is from ...
A. 19 June 2010: I think the fear you feel when you think of a future without him is a more a fear of the unknown than a fear of losing him. It is a big step to take, letting go of someone; things will feel unfamiliar and your future will seem uncertain, which is ... (read in full...)
How do I approach her to see if she's ready to take our relationship to the next level?
Q. NEED TEENAGE GIRL ADVICE Hello, first off I'd like to explain my story some and then get down to the question. Ok, so me and my girlfried have been dating since I was 13(16 now) and me and her have been talking about having sex for quite some t...
A. 19 June 2010: Like you say, youve been waiting for 3 years so I dont think you'll ever look back and think that you rushed it :) awkwardness usually only comes if its something that was unplanned, or happened too quickly, or if one person felt forced into it. I'm ... (read in full...)
I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore and madly in love with another man, what can I do?
Q. Ok, i just need a pick me up to cheer me up . . . Simplest way to put it is, i have been in a relationship for 6 years. I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend but i dont want to tell or hurt him. I am madly in love with someone else. He is from ...
A. 19 June 2010: If you chose to forgive him and try to restart your relationship, you can't blame him for what you did with the Canadian.
I agree with you, we cant choose who we fall in love with, but when you get into a relationship you are committing to one pers... (read in full...)
My long-distance partner just told me he is going to get an escort to deal with his sexual frustration!
Q. In LDR for six months, together years. Boyfriend lost his job had to move for a new job. I make special trips to see him 5 days a month. He wants me to join him where he is but I can't leave my job to go with him because he makes no promises of any ...
A. 19 June 2010: I'm not surprised, you honestly deserve someone who does make you feel special and appreciated. Especially since it sounds like you do put in a LOT of effort! Its tough, maintaining a long distance relationship - both partners need to be willing to ... (read in full...)
My long-distance partner just told me he is going to get an escort to deal with his sexual frustration!
Q. In LDR for six months, together years. Boyfriend lost his job had to move for a new job. I make special trips to see him 5 days a month. He wants me to join him where he is but I can't leave my job to go with him because he makes no promises of any ...
A. 18 June 2010: This is completely out of order. Essentially hes just cheating, but claiming it is justifiable because he is sexually frustrated. I am willing to bet that if you told him you were feeling the same and would also schedule an escort for yourself, he ... (read in full...)
I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore and madly in love with another man, what can I do?
Q. Ok, i just need a pick me up to cheer me up . . . Simplest way to put it is, i have been in a relationship for 6 years. I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend but i dont want to tell or hurt him. I am madly in love with someone else. He is from ...
A. 18 June 2010: Ok, the first thing I think you need to do is gently break it off with your boyfriend... I know you dont want to hurt him, but in the long run you are hurting him more by staying with him when you don't love him, let him go and find love with ... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits or work on a relationship that makes me miserable?
Q. I am a 26 year old woman. I have met the 'love of my life' two years ago. At first things went smoothly and we enjoyed the same things. As days passed things started to change. He does not respect my privacy. He asked me to give him my email ...
A. 18 June 2010: A relationship is supposed to enrich your life and make you happier. In this case it sounds like you'd be happier alone! He isn't allowing you any freedom, and unless you can communicate with him and he decides to change his ways it sounds like this ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't want me to go to strip clubs but why???
Q. Hi i have a question... the situation is my friend gets mad when i go to the strip club... im a virgin but i still go for lap dances... there's strippers that would have sex with me though or at least a bJ and some werent even going to charge.. ...
A. 18 June 2010: It sounds like she's just looking out for you, and doesnt want you to get hurt... I am not saying strippers can never be in relationships, but it does sound like this one is just grooming you, as YouWish explained well. You are her client. She has ... (read in full...)
How do I approach her to see if she's ready to take our relationship to the next level?
Q. NEED TEENAGE GIRL ADVICE Hello, first off I'd like to explain my story some and then get down to the question. Ok, so me and my girlfried have been dating since I was 13(16 now) and me and her have been talking about having sex for quite some t...
A. 18 June 2010: How old is your girlfriend? And are you both of legal age in your state? If not, that might make her feel uncomfortable about it. But if you guys have had a stable relationship and are in love, then the topic is probably on her mind too - I wouldnt ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? If so why does it hurt so much?
Q. Okay so I've been crushing on a teacher of mine for maybe 2 years now, and well, I haven't done much to hide it, and he hasn't done much to stop it. In fact, we're really close like we talk almost every day and we completely understand each other ...
A. 18 June 2010: You definitely made the right decision :) it will feel hard now, because its always difficult to let go of something you care about, but not too far from now you will look back and be proud that you put a stop to things before they got too serious. ... (read in full...)
Are double standards ever fair?
Q. Here's one I think people might actually have strong opinions on.... Recently an old friend came back into my life. My boyfriend was thrilled for me when I told him, and was just as excited for me as I was since I REALLY enjoy their company. Y...
A. 18 June 2010: You should absolutely call him out on it. If you dont, you'll end up resenting him for it, and it may well be a slippery slope of control.. next he'll be telling you what you can and cant wear for fear of attracting male attention to yourself, and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I think she's bad for him?
Q. Hello Please help me. My best guy friend is in 'love' with a girl who I'm worried about: My current boyfriend's ex. She cheated on him for eight months in a argumentative relationship before they finally split up. My boyfriend stills tells me ...
A. 18 June 2010: Usually I would advise people to stay out of it, let people make their own mistakes and just make sure you are there for them if anything does go wrong and they need support; otherwise they could just end up resenting you, and going ahead and doing ... (read in full...)
Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist?
Q. Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist now? A true feminist wants equality in every aspect. Why is that so bad? A true feminist never says things like, "the world would be better if women were in charge." A feminist just wants women and men to ...
A. 18 June 2010: I think its because plenty of feminists have twisted and turned from gender equality, to female superiority. I am proud to say I am a feminist in the sense that I believe in gender equality; but I can understand why feminism has gained negative... (read in full...)
His constant cheating is breaking my heart...
Q. My boyfriend's character towards me changed since two weeks, i find out that he is cheating on me. what do i do? i came to his house and saw a girl inside his car, i called him to let him know that am around he just shouted at me that i should have ...
A. 13 June 2010: Leave him. He doesnt respect you, and as far as I can see, this relationship is giving you more hurt than it is happiness. He isn't worth your time - there are LOTS of decent guys who do respect women, and value their partners, and you deserve to ... (read in full...)
My wife lied to me about her sexual past until 12 years later...
Q. my wife lied too me about her sexual past before we got married, she told me only one partner, too find out 12 year later she slept with four other men when she was a teenager. but she did come out and tell me because it was bothering her for so ...
A. 13 June 2010: Can I ask which part of it bothers you, the fact that she has a sexual past or the fact that she lied to you about it?
I don't think she deserves to be judged for her past, which was obviously just an experimental phase which she matured from and ... (read in full...)
Family dating!
Q. ok, i'm 19 and my cousin just turned 18. since the day i hit puberty and started noticing girls, i have been in love with her. i'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same about me. to me, she's the most beautiful thing i have ever seen. it's not that ...
A. 13 June 2010: I think youve got the right idea holding off on the sexual side of the relationship for a little while. I am glad you're both happy :) but that is one step further into the taboo, and while thats exciting, if its found out and your family are ... (read in full...)
On a break, got drunk and had sex with another girl. What about my ex g/f?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 11 months. We have had 3 breaks since we have been together. The first one was for 2 weeks from the 2nd of January to the 14th of January this year. The second one was about 4 months ago and she and ...
A. 13 June 2010: I would agree with CaringGuy, I really don't think the on-again-off-again thing leads to stable longterm relationships. Youve both proven youre not ready to settle down and be with each other right now - she kissed another guy, and you slept with ... (read in full...)
She wants me to pay her bills yet we don't even have sex!
Q. if im in a relationship with my girlfriend, and she wants me to help her pay bills, but doesnt want to have sex or sleep together, what is my best resolution??...
A. 13 June 2010: I don't think he was implying that he treats his girlfriend like a prostitute... more that their relationship hasnt progressed to the point of seriousness where he feels that he should help her financially.
And OP i agree with you, if you're not ... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he said I should "sleep with my shoes on"?
Q. One of my friends asked me if I wanted to go to a party. We were around a few other people, and one of them told me to sleep with my shoes on. I have no idea what he meant. I have not gone to any parties, and I am 15 years old. I am now honestly ...
A. 13 June 2010: Where I live, if people pass out/fall asleep with their shoes on, it gives other people at the party licence to do whatever they want to them.. obviously not like rape, just humiliating things like drawing on their face etc. One time a friend passed ... (read in full...)
He says he won't change for me
Q. I told my boyfriend if he would ever change for me and he said he'd change when he wanted to; I got upset and I told him I didn't wanna be with him if he wouldnt do that for me. his reply was how do you expect me to change when you act the way you ...
A. 13 June 2010: Yeah, me and my boyfriend dealt with this when our relationship turned long distance (I was 16 and he was 20, so I get where you're coming from. :p). If you both care for each other and are both willing to put in the effort, the distance won't seem ... (read in full...)
He says he won't change for me
Q. I told my boyfriend if he would ever change for me and he said he'd change when he wanted to; I got upset and I told him I didn't wanna be with him if he wouldnt do that for me. his reply was how do you expect me to change when you act the way you ...
A. 12 June 2010: Oh ok, that explains things a bit! :) I'm in a longdistance relationship too, and if my boyfriend was acting like that, it would drive me crazy.
How often do you get to see each other? Did he used to be caring and things but has now stopped, as in i... (read in full...)
He says he won't change for me
Q. I told my boyfriend if he would ever change for me and he said he'd change when he wanted to; I got upset and I told him I didn't wanna be with him if he wouldnt do that for me. his reply was how do you expect me to change when you act the way you ...
A. 12 June 2010: What/how do you want him to change, exactly?... (read in full...)
Why is porn bad?
Q. *OP's Original Title* This is more of a question for females. I watch porn and I hate that it upsets my girlfriend. I love her more then anything and try to be a good boyfriend in every way. I clean up after myself, I don't cook a lot but I pay for ...
A. 12 June 2010: Some women don't care. I can understand why some women do, but just so know you know my perspective while reading my post, I couldnt care less that my boyfriend watches it sometimes.
Yeah, some women do consider it to be an attack on the rela... (read in full...)
I cant hide my baby bump anymore but I'm worried about telling my family as my parents are going through a divorce....
Q. I am a 14 year old girl, and i know whats i have done is wrong and i am truly sorry. But when my mam and dad split up 7 months ago i went off the rails such as drinking just to foget about the pain that we would never do things as a family no more, ...
A. 11 June 2010: It sounds like youve been dealing with everything amazingly so far, considering how traumatic it must have been - well done for telling your mum :)
I just wanted to give my personal input on the DNA issue - if I were you, I would have it done. Othe... (read in full...)
Why do men never buy me presents?
Q. I want to know why men do not feel that I deserve presents. I am in a relationship now with someone who (admittedly is in a lot of debt) and he just doesn't get me any gifts. For my birthday he got me a couple of books he picked out whilst in a ...
A. 11 June 2010: I think he makes a lot of fair points - paying his childs maintenance is more important than buying presents.
I understand why it would hurt that he was willing to buy his ex things and not you, but I gather from what youve said that that isnt beca... (read in full...)
Does age matter in a fwb relationship?
Q. Last Summer, I pulled a 25 year old chick at a music festival. It was my first sex for about a year and apparently, she enjoyed it too. I'm only 19 and I think the age difference made it even hotter. Since then, I've been a sorta 'booty call' for...
A. 11 June 2010: I dont really see why it would become an issue, if neither of you are planning to commit. Don't worry about the lack of experience - if she keeps calling you, you're clearly getting it right! Just enjoy it and don't overthink it, I'd say. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Why do men never buy me presents?
Q. I want to know why men do not feel that I deserve presents. I am in a relationship now with someone who (admittedly is in a lot of debt) and he just doesn't get me any gifts. For my birthday he got me a couple of books he picked out whilst in a ...
A. 11 June 2010: Do you get him gifts?
If he's in a lot of debt I completely understand why he'd hold back on buying random presents.. especially if he has gotten into that debt by buying expensive things for his exgirlfriend; he probably does not plan on maki... (read in full...)
He is 17 I'm 13 and I really like him A LOT !!
Q. Their is this 17 year old boy im 13 who is in my form because he is my mentor.. I really like him a lot, he looks at me and smiles and looks away and sometimes stares at me and when i notice, he looks away, then looks back when im not looking....
A. 25 November 2009: Hi, I don't want you to feel as though I'm being harsh, but I think in this situation you're seeing what you want to see.. it seems a lot like you're reading into little things he does way too much, and assuming he has feelings for you based on your ... (read in full...)
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