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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My girlfriend is never horny anymore!
Q. so ive been dating this girl for 2 years things are going okay besides the fact that we argue so much and she is very immature at times .. But anyways i really been stressing because we've always had sex every single day almost multiple times aday ...
A. 24 September 2014: Maybe she's pregnant? Did you ask her why things changed?... (read in full...)
She has caused trouble for us and my friend and I cannot stand her. How can we drop her from our lives?
Q. My friends and I have this issue that we really can't talk to an adult in our lives about without getting into trouble and we don't know how to solve the problem either. There's this girl who hangs around us who we really just don't like and w...
A. 19 September 2014: Why would talking to an adult about her get you in trouble? Just tell your parents that you have tried being friends with her.
I wonder if this girl might look back on her interactions with your clique someday and realize that she was being bull... (read in full...)
Did I really love him? We are now divorcing. Why don't I feel worse? I'm not crying over this breakup.
Q. 6 months ago I thought I married my best friend and love of my life. We were together for 3 years, lived together for the last 2. It was practically love at first sight! We waited to have sex for the first time. Even our first kiss took time, li...
A. 19 September 2014: You're 30-35 and thought you were marrying your best friend. There were some red flags and finally the abuse was too much.
You say you can't afford a therapist--doesn't Canada have a national health care system? Get on whatever list you need to get ... (read in full...)
Three years of emails and now he wants FWB?
Q. When I have known someone for three years and there is no relationship. Just emails. Three dates for coffee and chatting. Emails only. Now he has indicated he can only be friends with benefits as that is the only thing that works for him he ...
A. 13 September 2014: Then block his email, mourn the end of the relationship and eventually you'll find yourself happy to be rid of this time-waster!... (read in full...)
My wife wants a bi sexual thing and has no idea I know it.
Q. I've been good friends with a married couple for many years. I knew her well long before he came into her life and before I knew my wife. My wife and her developed a close friendship which I didn't mind at all. This woman told me my wife is bi ...
A. 13 September 2014: Why can't you confront your wife? Or just have a conversation with her about the situation? That seems like a marriage doomed to fail. If you can't talk about things and present what your concerns are, then what do you have?... (read in full...)
Three years of emails and now he wants FWB?
Q. When I have known someone for three years and there is no relationship. Just emails. Three dates for coffee and chatting. Emails only. Now he has indicated he can only be friends with benefits as that is the only thing that works for him he ...
A. 13 September 2014: Dear Gordon, thank you for letting me know your vision for our relationship. Alas, as I want more than FWB and some random coffee dates, I will have to decline your offer. I have decided to end our relationship entirely so I can move on and find the ... (read in full...)
My husband loves me but I no longer feel the same for him
Q. Dear Cupid. I told my husband I'm no longer in love with him. We have been married for 11 years. I have lost total interest in him. He is so hurt by this that I am willing to work things out. I care for his well being tremendously. He is ...
A. 11 September 2014: You care for his well-being yet told him that you are no longer in love with him and have lost total interest in him. Wow. That's amazing.
You say you are willing to work things out because he is so hurt by this news.
You also don't want to prete... (read in full...)
Do I need to tell guys that I don't shave down there?
Q. Same person who just wrote in about starting over sexually I just thought this was different enough for a new entry--I don't like to shave or really even trim my bush, I do very minimal maintenance.Once you're at that crossroads, where you're ...
A. 11 September 2014:
I think some dudes do care and some don't. If you are this concerned about how your personal grooming habits will be received then ask him about his and disclose yours if you don't want anyone to be surprised in any way.... (read in full...)
He gets drunk and only talks about his ex
Q. I am at a total loss. I am a 35 year old female and my boyfriend is 45 years old.We've been together 7 months. Right now we are living across the state from each other although.we do get to see each other every 2 weeks. We met on Facebook almost 2 ...
A. 11 September 2014: I would take a one-month detox break from this S.O.B. for a month. See how that goes. Based on the visit schedule you listed, it would only be 2 missed visits.
You've been with him for 7 months, x 2 that is 14 visits.
Two years minus 7 months i... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, so does he like me?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and I'm unsure if a guy likes me or not because he sends mixed signals. Sometimes he barely acknowledges me and doesn't bother and looks completely uninterested as he doesn't attempt to make conversation at all. However, other times, ...
A. 10 September 2014: I think when you experience 'mixed signals' from a guy you have a crush on, it means that you are looking for something in your interactions with him that means he likes you.
If you do not have a crush on him then you would most likely not even noti... (read in full...)
Is she loyal or disrespectful?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my gf for more than 2 years now and we are deeply in love. We have a great sense of understanding. Recently her job took her to another city. We do keep in touch daily. Now, the problem is her colleague is really inter...
A. 10 September 2014: Your girlfriend is accepting gifts from a man who has proposed to her. You may be deeply in love with her but she is not deeply in love with you.
Sorry.
I think it is time to accept that she chooses the gifts over you.... and end the relation... (read in full...)
My girlfriend choked me in an argument and I'm extremely disturbed. What do I do?
Q. I got into a silly tussle/fight with my fiancé a few months ago. She had been moody and snappy with me and her parents all day. At the end of the night I got fed up with her horrible attitude and said I was leaving for the night. As I s...
A. 9 September 2014: I would call this number: 0808 2000 247 which is the hotline for the womens' aid charity meant to fight domestic abuse against women. I expect they will have a resource for men who are abused by their partners. Ring them up and ask for a local ... (read in full...)
I do not want to send him the pictures he asks for. Why should I send these pictures?
Q. im dating tanzanian man since like 7 months ago we chatting every day online. he is calling me on viber...he sent me pictures of his private parts,and he said he wants pictures of my private parts. i said yes to him but i do not want to send suc...
A. 7 September 2014: Why are you dating a man you don't trust? ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 27 August 2014: Sorry, hit 'send' too soon, my bad.
You've lost a whole size in clothing which must feel amazing! Well done.
Keep on finding what motivates you and look for the healthy choices. Sometimes a healthy choice is to have a piece of chocolate. Sometime... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 27 August 2014: Great job, you have done so well! No diets with the word "strict" in them are sustainable. So well done for not depriving yourself.
The key is to find balance. Enough exercise and activity and the right amount of food with the nutrients that will... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't look at other girls...lying?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend lies about looking at other girls. I've always known that men, even in a committed relationship, look at other women. Obviously I know some do it more than others and for some there's just glance. My boyfriend claims he ...
A. 27 August 2014: You're setting him up for failure here, OP. If you browbeat him into saying "ok yes, occasionally I do notice a really attractive woman" you will be watching him like a hawk to catch him out on it.
If he persists in trying to protect that frag... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't look at other girls...lying?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend lies about looking at other girls. I've always known that men, even in a committed relationship, look at other women. Obviously I know some do it more than others and for some there's just glance. My boyfriend claims he ...
A. 27 August 2014: "Do these pants make me look fat?"
"Are you thinking about me and only me during sex?"
"Do you think that I am the most beautiful woman in the world?"
"Would it bother you if my Mum came to stay for 2 weeks? She can help out by cooking and ... (read in full...)
The man I love can't give me a baby
Q. So my husband and I were having some trouble concieveing. We are in a very fortunate financial position despite our age and feel we can give a child a good upbringing. With me, everything seemed to be fine, but my husbands test results weren't so ...
A. 27 August 2014: Many people experience infertility issues. You are not alone. There are support groups and options for you out there.
Rather than think it's a choice of him or a baby all by natural means, why not just embrace that this is something you will go thro... (read in full...)
If I stay with him, I feel like my soul will die. If I leave, I'll leave with the clothes on my back and my child, with nowhere to turn...
Q. So I need some advice/help... I'm 24 and a mother to a beautiful 7 year old daughter. I have also been in what I have discovered to be a very toxic relationship for 5 years. To sum it up, we have both hurt each other for no reason but too...
A. 27 August 2014: These folks help out women in your situation all the time: http://www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233 for guidance and a local referral.
Best wishes to you. Your health and safety are paramount. It doesn't matter if you have a job if you are ... (read in full...)
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
Q. Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
A. 20 August 2014: This is a great list! May I add one?
11. Don't pretend to like or enjoy something you do not actually enjoy or like. If you are not sporty and athletic, don't suggest that you're ready for a marathon with him. If he's into sex acts that repulse you,... (read in full...)
I want to get married soon but don't know how to tell my mum
Q. How do I tell my mum I want to get married soon? So I've been seeing my bf for a year now. He's really sweet and totally into me and wants us to get married in a few years soon. I love him and we make each other happy. He's now ready a...
A. 19 August 2014: Introduce them to each other.
Then let us know how that goes. ... (read in full...)
Experiences with losing your virginity in a one night stand or to a FWB??
Q. So recently I was asked by a friend I have know since I was five if I wanted to have sex with him in a fwb kinda thing. My problem with this is that I am virgin. I'm just wondering what are some experiences anybody has had with losing their ...
A. 19 August 2014: I wouldn't have and did not. I waited until I was 19 and I thought I was with my forever guy. As it turned out he was controlling and jealous and basically a nightmare.
If you knew without a doubt that this was the best decision then you would have... (read in full...)
Could I have found the right guy?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for 3 months and things seem to be going very good. Except that his ex is still in his life he says they are just friends. We hardly fight and he says that when he he's with me that he doesn't think about anything...
A. 15 August 2014: Before we can weigh in on him being the right guy, I have to ask, what are you fighting about? You've only been dating for 3 months, what is causing the arguments?
I worry about a volatile relationship that started before he even ended his othe... (read in full...)
I have herpes and had sex with my friend, he says he feels burning down there and is going to the doctor. Does anyone have experience with this?
Q. My bestfriend and I have been best friends for 3 years. Recently we've found out we have these new found love feelings does eachother. I have genital herpes. He's known since the day I found out in June. He's my best friend so of course I told him. ...
A. 15 August 2014: You are where you are, if the friendship/relationship alters as a result, well, he chose his own path, didn't he?
I would stop panicking about things that haven't happened yet and just be patient and let this unfold.
He know what you have, he proce... (read in full...)
Should I ignore him for a while? Should I just stop speaking to him?
Q. I've been chatting with a guy for almost a month now. I know him through uni friends but have never properly hung out with him. At first we flirted and spoke through fb and moved on to textinh every single day, throughout the day. But now he tak...
A. 15 August 2014: Is this the same guy: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-flaked-a-few-times---.html ?
I think you're wasting a lot of time and mental energy on a guy who isn't into you enough to actually follow through.
If he wanted to meet you in person, ... (read in full...)
We are going to a costume convention and the other girl is wearing the same outfit!
Q. I need advice, though not really relationship advice. My boyfriend and I are going with a group of (his) friends to a costume convention. Think comicon if that helps. This is my first time going to one. We came up with a theme in the beginning of ...
A. 15 August 2014: So you haven't spoken with her or interacted in any way? Would it be better for you two to meet up before this convention so one big anxiety trigger could be mediated?
And have you considered getting some help for your anxiety? You don't need to s... (read in full...)
We are going to a costume convention and the other girl is wearing the same outfit!
Q. I need advice, though not really relationship advice. My boyfriend and I are going with a group of (his) friends to a costume convention. Think comicon if that helps. This is my first time going to one. We came up with a theme in the beginning of ...
A. 14 August 2014: On the boyfriend/sensitivity front: does he know you have these anxiety issues?
Look, most people on this planet look different than you do. Not better, or worse, just different.
Why has this comparing thing popped up now? I'm wondering if you are ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this difficult friend?
Q. Hey all, I am constantly having trouble with one of my friends. In one sence we are close, we go though phases where we tell each other everything, protect each other and you coudln't wish for a better friend. But then he goes though phases wh...
A. 14 August 2014: This type of friend would go into the "fun but unreliable" list and I would act accordingly.
If he complains that you are treating him differently at some point in the future (I doubt he'll notice), just explain that you learned early on not to rely... (read in full...)
We are going to a costume convention and the other girl is wearing the same outfit!
Q. I need advice, though not really relationship advice. My boyfriend and I are going with a group of (his) friends to a costume convention. Think comicon if that helps. This is my first time going to one. We came up with a theme in the beginning of ...
A. 14 August 2014: It's interesting that she winds up with the exact same outfit as yours.
If you suffer from anxiety and worry that someone will look "better" than you do, are you really sure you are ready to face this?
I'm not asking to be mean, I asked the ques... (read in full...)
We are going to a costume convention and the other girl is wearing the same outfit!
Q. I need advice, though not really relationship advice. My boyfriend and I are going with a group of (his) friends to a costume convention. Think comicon if that helps. This is my first time going to one. We came up with a theme in the beginning of ...
A. 14 August 2014: Well, if he's thrown your role under the bus, come up with a new one. Save the outfit you have for Halloween or a costume party or another convention.
You wanted to stand out but this was a group costume, and she bought the same outfit you work... (read in full...)
My husband and I are getting a divorce but he refuses to leave the house, which is in my name. Is there anything I can do?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Recently we has a huge fight in which he now wants a divorce. He is seeing an attorney who told him to stay in the house in order to receive a share of the money if we have to sell the home. The house ...
A. 14 August 2014: What's really kind of weird here is that you went from one bad fight to him seeing a divorce attorney. It feels like some steps were missed there, like you figuring out if marriage counseling was an option. The estrangement was so fast and sudden ... (read in full...)
I have herpes and had sex with my friend, he says he feels burning down there and is going to the doctor. Does anyone have experience with this?
Q. My bestfriend and I have been best friends for 3 years. Recently we've found out we have these new found love feelings does eachother. I have genital herpes. He's known since the day I found out in June. He's my best friend so of course I told him. ...
A. 14 August 2014: May I ask, why did you have unprotected sex for just a minute? Was this his decision or yours?
If he knew that you had genital herpes and proceeded with unsafe sex then that was his choice. If you forced unsafe sex on him then that's another situ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are getting a divorce but he refuses to leave the house, which is in my name. Is there anything I can do?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Recently we has a huge fight in which he now wants a divorce. He is seeing an attorney who told him to stay in the house in order to receive a share of the money if we have to sell the home. The house ...
A. 14 August 2014: This is a great question and one that should be asked of the best divorce attorney you can hire, ASAP.
... (read in full...)
How do I feel more comfortable with my penis size?
Q. This is a usual thing for some blokes but how do I feel more comfortable with my penis size? guessing the main answer is to sleep with more women and hope they are really nice lol One issue is because I don't like my size it holds me back as I fee...
A. 14 August 2014: What is it that you want?
Do you picture yourself as a player type with a trail of sexually satisfied lying in sweaty heaps on rumpled bedsheets, while you blow the smoke off your penis, that mighty organ that brought them to the heights of sexu... (read in full...)
Can you cheat in an open relationship?
Q. So I've been in a long term relationship with my partner for the past 9 years. We talk about having children one day and getting married and we already own a home together. We have an extremely happy and healthy relationship and are very open and ...
A. 14 August 2014: "extremely happy and healthy relationship" vs "he would freak as he is extremely jealous"
Does not compute.
Tell him you are ready to enjoy some casual sex of your own, as you are "very open and honest with eachother." I'm surprised that you're e... (read in full...)
What's the point of my existence?
Q. Hi all, I've been very down in myself lately. I've been wondering wat was the point in putting me on this earth? I live alone and I've no kids. I'm not in a relationship. The world could do without me. I really dont make a difference to anyone's ...
A. 14 August 2014: Yes, I do have a thought on this. You sound like you are depressed. It can be treated and you can find the many reasons to enjoy this gift of life we've been given.
Go see your doctor and lay it out; ask for help as you are struggling with this... (read in full...)
My friend's comments have me doubting my boyfriend
Q. Hi, i am feeling quite worried about whether i should remain with my bf, or just break up with him, because of what i am being told by my close male friend who lives overseas. My bf and i are very close and have been together for some time...
A. 13 August 2014: You are in your 30s, you have been with your boyfriend for some time now, why is it that he hasn't met your family?... (read in full...)
He's flaked a few times -- am I being tested?
Q. I started talking to this guy from my uni. We have mutual friends and we've been talking through facebook and now text and flirting all summer non stop. We're both 21 and have a lot in common. Lately however, he has been quite flakey. He said...
A. 12 August 2014: What Cerberus says is right, if you just want a quick sexual encounter, it's fine but if you want more then going to his house and meeting him for the first time there? VERY BAD IDEA.
You've been groomed by this guy, google it, don't stick arou... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking to him knowing we'll never meet?
Q. Heya Well i signed up to a dating site, honstly just thought id have a nose and see what it was all about... I wasnt expecting anything to come from it. I noticed a boy viewed me (that was pretty hot lol) so i messaged him... Hes from ireland ...
A. 12 August 2014: No. Don't keep talking to him. You need to step away from messaging him and rejoin your real life. He is escape. You are using this relationship to avoid dealing with your real life.
Be thankful you are questioning this now and see the learning oppo... (read in full...)
Why do people give mixed signals? I think it's cruel!
Q. Dear agony aunts/uncles. I'm having a problem with my "love life" at the moment. I've been single for the past few months and meeting people out, having one night stands and I've met a lot of creeps and weirdos online who ended up harassing me. ...
A. 12 August 2014: If you feel fragile and hurt already, and don't know how to read his (very obvious to us) conditions on the relationship, then for heaven's sake, don't go see him.
Being cuddly after sex means nothing in a FWB situation. It just means there is some... (read in full...)
Should I pursue trying to date a woman with dysmorphia?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to see what your opinions on this is. I met someone well over a year ago and it was amazing. We got on really well, so much so we had 3 dates on one weekend. When I was at work the next Monday she send me an email and text m...
A. 12 August 2014: You need to work on your communication skills and venues.
First of all, stop trying to make major life decisions based on texts. They are useless in conveying important information. "I'm late for our date for the opera." is fine. "I love you and ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 31 July 2014: Sounds like you have a plan! By the way, you can do weight training with an implant. http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=158156963 is one discussion I saw on this. Lots and lots of women exercise with the implant. Don't let that be an ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should I cycle? And for how long each day?
Q. I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, and for around about a year or so I have been trying to find effective ways to help me shed a few stone. I have always eaten rather healthil...
A. 28 July 2014: Hi, it all depends on you and your body and your level of readiness for a particular exercise. You are new to this so may not realize that muscle soreness is usual after starting up a new exercise. The key is to not worry about it unless you feel ... (read in full...)
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