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Should you always persue a crush?
Q. I am really confused about this. I just don't know if one should always pursue a crush. I believe that since you only live once, you should most definitely go for it. The worst that can happen to you is he'll reject you. But at least then you won't ...
A. 2 May 2008: I agree with the other aunts, keep your distance from this man, as it would be quite inproper thing to do by making a play for him. And also is he a married man with a family, not only would his career be jeopordised but his life with his family ... (read in full...)
Should you always persue a crush?
Q. I am really confused about this. I just don't know if one should always pursue a crush. I believe that since you only live once, you should most definitely go for it. The worst that can happen to you is he'll reject you. But at least then you won't ...
A. 2 May 2008: I agree with the other aunts, keep your distance from this man, as it would be quite inproper thing to do by making a play for him. And also is he a married man with a family, not only would his career be jeopordised but his life with his family ... (read in full...)
Confused about my feelings
Q. I don't know what i want or what to do! me and my ex have been broken up for about over a month now and we haven't spoken much coz i stopped talkin to him then he randomly asked me why i stopped talkin to him n i said wen i hav somethin to say i ...
A. 2 May 2008: Your probably feeling confused and all muddled up because as yous ay you dont think about him when your busy, which would imply that you are just trying to get on with your life or you are moving on. He is obviously struggling and cant move on, and ... (read in full...)
I had oral sex with this guy I work with. I found out he has a fiance!!
Q. I have been working with this guy for a few months. When we first met we flirted quite often then it turned physical. We never slept together but had oral sex. I knew before that that he had a girlfriend. I should have never done anything with him ...
A. 2 May 2008: It makes no difference if its a girlfriend or fiance, the act was well out of line on both you sides. He committed the act knowing he had someone, and you were no better than him because you allowed it to happen. He,s a cheat and I feel sorry for ... (read in full...)
How can one use somebody for sex and NOT feel guilty??
Q. How do guys (or girls) who use someone for sex, sleep at night? I mean honestly I just dont understand how they can use someone for sex and not feel guilty at all. What makes them think its OK to use someone like that? What goes on in there mind? ...
A. 2 May 2008: I beleive its everyone to there own on this subject as there are those who see nothing wrong in it and lead quite happy lives. On the other hand there are those of us who would,nt dream of it. If you the kind of person who prefers a relationship ... (read in full...)
I am driving myself insane wondering if am I a fool to think he will not repeat his past as soon as we get into problems?!?
Q. Really need some unbiased advice. Sorry this is long, feel you need enough information as possible. I can't stop worrying about whether or not my partner will cheat on me eventually. I am finding it so hard to trust him, but I can't break up w...
A. 2 May 2008: No darling your not being a fool just a normal human being, but you need to try and trust him a little more, try and put his past to the back of your mind, and dont let it interfere with your relationship, because you dont want to ruin what you,ve ... (read in full...)
I feel there are three people in this marrage: my husband, I, the wife and his ex girlfriend! Am I overreacting?
Q. I have been married for over a year now. my husband has become distant in our relationship. I recently found a bill with calls and texts to one number on a daily basis, ranging from one up to six times a day for the last 3 months. I confronted my h...
A. 2 May 2008: No you are not over reacting or being unreasonable, I would feel exactly the same way. You,ve only been married a year you two should still be in honey moon period, Sounds to me that the ex has made a big impact on him, and why has she moved to the ... (read in full...)
I have not met my dad thus feel weird among men, my friends suddenly changed and I feel overwhelmed by my problems. Help!
Q. lately everyone seems to be falling out with each other, and i think its because of our exams looming ahead. but my two best friends have gone. with no reason at all. theyve both changed so much and that itself has been getting me down. as well as t...
A. 2 May 2008: Please do not hurt youself sweetie, there are answers to the many questions that I feel you have. You are going through a very mixed bag of emotions, the bst way to deal with them is one by one. First of all I think you and your mum should have good ... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to how she feels about me. Any ideas?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused as to where I stand with a girl I've met recently. I met her through some mutual friends, and over time we have become friends. I was immediately attracted to her, and we have always been able to talk pretty well. We are alwa...
A. 2 May 2008: I think you should continue to be how you've always been with her since you met, She may also be a little confused as to her feelings and not sure in which direction to take them towards you. If shes studying at uni then she is gong to be under some ... (read in full...)
My son was accused of attacking a family member, now my husband and I are having problems. Can you please help?
Q. A year back one of my husband's sisters-in-law saaid in front of every one that my son try to attack her. She was telling lies to proove my son wrong in front of all the family members. She is a currupt person, but still all the family members ...
A. 2 May 2008: Family feuds are heart breaking, and sometimes not that easy to rectify. Don't let this spoil your relationship with your husband or son, as they are your own little family. Be strong together but explain to your husband that you understand he would ... (read in full...)
Big family matters are creating problems between my husband and myself. Help me please.
Q. My husband and i have a big problem. We have a communication problem between us that's related to big family matters which cause bad fights between us. Because of this, my kids are suffering, it creates a weird atmpsphere sometimes. What shoul...
A. 2 May 2008: Depending on what the family dispute is actually over, have you ever thought about getting them all together and making a stand. In a rational and adult manner sit down and let each one have their say, then sort it out fom there. If you make the ... (read in full...)
Anal sex question...any advice?
Q. This is pretty embarassing for me, but..., I want to have anal sex with my bf but I have hemhroids--is it possible to still have a good time? I've been waiting for them to go away but they've been around on and off for about 7 mo. I know, I should c...
A. 2 May 2008: If you,ve had this condition for 7 months then you really should have gone to see a doctor about it. Heamroids do not go away by themselves especially in severe cases. Not only are they uncomfortable but without the correct treatment can become ... (read in full...)
I've had a life of violence and abuse and now my boyfriend cheated. I need help!!
Q. hya, i need all the help i can get i've had the hardest life with domestic violence n sexual abuse which left my emotions shattered. i am 16 and i had a long term bf which i truly loved he was the only this that has ever made me enjoy life...w...
A. 2 May 2008: You are only 16 my love and you have got your whole life in front of you, I realize that this is another knock back in life for you and your trust has been abused again. To stop this never ending merry go round that you are on and to break the ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel this way ,and miss and still love my ex?
Q. I had a tramatic and emotionally abusive relationship that i didnt realize until i was pregnant. A year and a half later i terminated the pregnancy mid February, and i thought from then on i also terminated him from my heart. See, i was with him ...
A. 2 May 2008: I think your beating yourself with a blade of grass darling, You did what you had to do because you knew it was fo the best, being pregnant at the same time as ending a relationship would not have been easy for you either.You have to give yourself ... (read in full...)
He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, Is he cheating on me?
Q. I'm living with my boyfrend. I suspect that he's cheating on me. He turns his phone off when we're at home together, or puts it on silent. He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, especially when he's checking his email, facebook, etc....
A. 2 May 2008: Oh sweetie reading your question I have to be honest, I would say he is hiding something, as to whether he,s cheating is a different matter. Have you asked him out right why he so secretive with his phone and laptop? try asking him and see what he ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 1 May 2008: I think youre article was absolutely fab tish, very straight forward. Brilliant... (read in full...)
How do I avoid bad relationships?
Q. Ever since last year I have been on like an emotional rollercoaster. I havent stoped feeling overly emotional and overwhelemed. It all started when I started dating my ex bf who was emotionaly abusive. I was with him for almost 1 year. I broke up...
A. 1 May 2008: You say that you tried counselling for a bit last year hun, counselling you have to stick at if pherhaps you,d carried on with it for a bit longer you may have felt better. I think you need something to give you back the self esteem that you seem to ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my wife. Should I leave her for my lover?
Q. Hi, I have been with my other half for 7 years now and been married for the last year.I have a job which takes me away for up to half a year at a time. My other half somewhat pushed the marrige on me before i went away last year and this time i'...
A. 1 May 2008: First of all there,s no point in staying in a relationship if you are miserable, to be fair you will have to be honest at some point with your wife as she will eventually find out that you have been having an affair, I f you can sit down just you ... (read in full...)
He's gone grey and I'm embarrassed. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. this may seem a bit like a dumb question but my boyfriend is gray/white at 30 and i'm finding it really a turn off and a bit embarrassing- how can i talk to him about it? because i think he needs to do something. I don't think i'm being unreasonab...
A. 1 May 2008: You could try talking to him about in a nice way by finding out tactfully how he feels about. It maybe worrying him and he may not know what to do about himself. On the other hand he may not be bothered and quite like it some men do and they accept ... (read in full...)
I need to get over him, but he's my boss. What can I do?
Q. Help! I need some advice. Ive read all the stories about married men and am past all of it, Im past all of the hurt...and am now in the realization stage that he will never leave her, or the newborn baby he JUST had. The problem is, in previous...
A. 1 May 2008: I know its hard for you and it doesn't help that you work with the man, but unfortunately it will probably take time for you to get over him. You have to remember you are not a light switch we don,t turn our feelings on and off like light switches, ... (read in full...)
My period is late and I haven't had sex. Could I have a tumor?
Q. Ok well my last period was March 17-24 witch is my normal cycle I havent had sex I am still young but I watched a tv show and a girl have a brain tumor and missed her periods well now it is May 1st and I still didnt get my April period tumors dont...
A. 1 May 2008: Go to the doctors sweetheart, He,ll put your mind at rest, he is the best person to advise you. Try not to let your imagination run over time this will create more stress. Maybe you,ve had some stress or trauma recently this can cause a lot of ... (read in full...)
I've been dating him but discovered I like his friend more, what to do?
Q. hi, there is this guy that ive have been on date with and he is really nice. but as ive got to know his friends i have started to like his best friend more. we get on a lot better and people have said that we go better together. what should i do? ...
A. 1 May 2008: First of all the guy you,ve already had a date with, don,t make arrangements to go out again if your not that interested in him. Don,t lead the poor lad on into thinking that you do. You may like his friend but does he just enjoy your company or ... (read in full...)
Has he been pressured into breaking up with me because of the age gap?
Q. Hi, i'm 20 and was seeing a man of 47 years old who is separated with 2 children. We met at work and started seeing each other when he had problems with his wife, who he eventually separated from. For the past year we were seeing each other and got ...
A. 1 May 2008: I know you're hurting right now and that you feel that other people have interfered, and maybe you feel they should have just kept their nose out. But in reality this man may not of been over his marriage breakup, and he most lightly is missing his ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my Husband beating me?
Q. How do I stop my husband from beating me all the time? ...
A. 1 May 2008: You have to stop this man hurting you before it is to late. Try to find out if you have a women's refuge, you may be able to get this onfo from your local council offices if you have them. They can offer you shelter and can give you lots of other ... (read in full...)
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