Where is this going?
Q. so, its 6 years we have known each other 5 and a half we have been a couple, since feb we have lived together. he is a part of my life in every way christmas with my family, birthdays new year. but i have never met his parents, and i cant do it ...
A. 16 September 2009: Your not the issue here so dont start blaming yourself for a more personal issue. After six years is strange that you havent met his parents, rather than working around it simply say to him... he doesnt really have a lot to go on i mean its obvious ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex back?
Q. Hi, My name is dapo and i've been in a relationship for just more than a month. I met this girl at a time when i wasn't even thinking of dating anyone but for some reasons, she stole my heart away and we started dating 1 week after we met. There ...
A. 6 September 2009: Its got to work both ways, you start on 'wasnt even thinking of dating anyone ... she stole my heart away' the girl obviously really liked you but because you werent looking for it you didnt give all that much back.
Its a case of dont know what youv... (read in full...)
I love him, but its not the right time
Q. So I've been talking to this guy for about seven months and I completely love him and he loves me, but I can't handle it anymore. I love him so much and I don't want to hurt him, but how do I tell him right now just us the right time. ...
A. 2 September 2009: Be honest with him, thats all anyone can ask of you.
Tell him how it is, he hes genuine in his love for you then im sure hell understand, maybe time apart will make you both see how much you like each other.
Becareful in how you word it, sometime... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going back to uni and I don't think he will miss me at all
Q. So basically, I'm having doubts about my boyfriend's feelings towards me. He has never been very expressive with his emotions but recently he has become even less so. He rarely tells me he loves me without me having to say it first, he rarely ...
A. 2 September 2009: Firstly i dont think you crave attention at all, its got to work both ways and your bound to feel this way when it doesnt, dont start blaming yourself for his faults.
Its hard to say why hes acting as he is, maybe after a year together he feels your... (read in full...)
What can I do to make her come back??
Q. My girlfriend of over a year recently broke up with me. She is 17, i'm 19. She said she wants to be single and date around and doesn't want to be tied down to one person right now, which I understand seeing how we are both young. I love her to death ...
A. 1 September 2009: Youve given it one last shot and yet again its been thrown back in your face, maybe she likes the game? maybe she genuinly loves this other guy, until she makes a descion and sticks to it stop playin to her tune, listening to her false promises that ... (read in full...)
Can you be friends with someone who doesn't talk to you much?
Q. Can you be friends with someone who doesn't talk to you much? My friend ignores me a lot and doesn't talk to me but were always ok with each other! Its like a distant relationship! We see each other at school and when we talk he jokes around with me ...
A. 29 August 2009: You class him as a friend and im sure vice versa, some are closer than others some just get along as they have to. You obviously want him as a friend so why not try talking to him more, next time you get the opportunity to talk go out of your way to ... (read in full...)
B/f says I don't open up to him
Q. My boyfriend keeps telling me I don't open up to him. I know I have a problem with this..I have to get councled for this and a few other problems I've encountered. He dosen't understand how hard it is for me, considering the fact that I don't even ...
A. 29 August 2009: You sound really brave, a lot of people who holdback are sensitive on the subject and many live in denial, at least youve admitted it is how it is.
Always remeber your bf loves you for who you are, he fell in love with you and he takes all that come... (read in full...)
Do you ever forget your first love? Your ex?
Q. Hi! do people ever forget their first love? is anyone still in love with their ex? is anyone still friends with their ex? please share your stories on this post! Id love to hear it an it would help to know im not the only one whose lost their first ...
A. 29 August 2009: In respose to your first question i think that you cant forget your first love, whatever the situation or however it panned out their called your first love for a reason and i think that that reason stays with you for the rest of your life and ... (read in full...)
This guy won't stop staring at me. How can I feel better about myself and move on?
Q. There is this guy at work, in which he and I have been staring back forth at each other for a long time. We have spoken and few times and I feel that we are physically attracted to one another, but we would never get to that point. I wanted to keep ...
A. 28 August 2009: Youve done the decent thing for you start and you should be proud of that, i know many would of carried on the games regardless. My first response to you would be to say something to him, next time you see him looking over give him a funny look as ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make her come back??
Q. My girlfriend of over a year recently broke up with me. She is 17, i'm 19. She said she wants to be single and date around and doesn't want to be tied down to one person right now, which I understand seeing how we are both young. I love her to death ...
A. 28 August 2009: If i were you id let her have her fun, let her go life this 'new' lifestyle and see how far it gets her. You showed her genuine love and commitment for her to walk away from it leaving you with false promises for a future and telling you not to talk ... (read in full...)
How do I approach girls to get their phone numbers?
Q. I've always loved to have a girl to share my life with but anytime i meet a girl i am interested in, i do find it difficult to approach her even to the point of getting her phone number cos i don't know what to say. plz how do i approach them? ...
A. 28 August 2009: Girls are really diferent, they dont all look for the same guy, some girls will see you shyness as a quality they like, the best thing you could do is be honest with them every girl appreciates that. Start on light humour e.. im not very good at ... (read in full...)
If we are still good friends, why would he ignore me? I don't get it!
Q. My guy friend has not been talking to me. I just got an AIM and thought that I would IM him. I didn't want to tell him who I really was because I thought he would ignore me on that to so I talked to him on there and he figured out it was me. He ...
A. 28 August 2009: Im not sure why he reacts this way but after reading your post dont you think you should let it go and simply be friends? You obviously get on but handle it in the right way rather than having to play games all the time, the more confusion you add ... (read in full...)
Once a cheat always a cheat? Can you be faithful to "the one"?
Q. I have cheated in the past but then I thought I had met the "one" and I could never do it to them. People say once a cheat always a cheat I don't believe this. Does anyone think that once you have messed someone around its simply because they are...
A. 26 August 2009: A lot of people believe in the moto once a cheat always a cheat but which ever side you are wheather you are the cheat for example there comes a time when you stop causing the hurt and realise i dont want to do this any more.
You know when youv... (read in full...)
He likes me more than I like him....
Q. Is it necessarily a bad thing if my boyfriend is a lot more into me than I am him? He liked me for longer than I liked him before we got together and we've been dating for about a month and a half. He seems a lot more confident in our relationship ...
A. 26 August 2009: Its usually the girl whos one step ahead and in it with a full heart yet in this case its the opposite, i dont think theres anything wrong with that just dont ket things travel too quickly too soon. Make sure your feelings towards him are clear and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to scare him off, how can I let him know I like him?
Q. Theres this guy that I really like. I mean butterflies, the whole 9 yards. I dont think I've ever felt this way about anyone to be honest. Heres my problem. First of all, he lives in another state. Secondly he is in a band [but not a typical ro...
A. 25 August 2009: The best thing you could do is be honest with him, i see why your afriad of being so open but if you never say then youll never know and livin in the what ifs is a lot worse than living in the o he didnt feel the same, you need to know where you ... (read in full...)
My parents will reject him for ethnic reasons. How do I make this work?
Q. hello everyone. I'm having a huge problem. Me and my friend have been talking for a while and we really like each other, we recently began dating and it will be a month soon. He treats me exactly how I deserve. So caring, and nice, just really m...
A. 22 August 2009: Its an arkward situation in that you want to stand by your new found happiness, a guy that shows you the love you need yet at the same time your parents, who dont see any of what he brings to your life. Sometimes although you accept what you dont ... (read in full...)
We're apparently good friends, so is there a reason why we hardly talk to each other?
Q. I'm confused...erm if you read this your a saint! And if u even attempt to try and think about it and reply to me....well your officially the best! You see, I'm very confused about one of my friends...he's male, we went to college together but we ...
A. 22 August 2009: Well firstly i dont feel that you should ignore him or cut him out your life, its obvious he has such a huge influence in your life and he matters to you. The thing is i think hes scared of everyon elses opinion. You have a very close relationship ... (read in full...)
This guy I've been talking to on msn has told me to choose between him or my boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. i have been talking to this guy for about 4years on msn and a really do like him like actually soo much but he lives soo far away and he wants us to be more than friends but i just cant see it working because of the distance and hes away on holiday ...
A. 20 August 2009: You say the 'guy youve been talking to on msn,' that gives the impression that you dont know him in person, if that is the case then there shouldnt even be a choice to make.
The fact that hes making you choose shows how genuine he is, your happ... (read in full...)
Being friends with an ex. Why is everyone against it?
Q. im friends with my ex ...i am genuine about my friendship and she matters to me a lot as a friend ...but her friends and wellwishers are against this friendship and tell her to break it off because they dont believe in it ...she says she is on my ...
A. 20 August 2009: You always have to be steady with the ex theres no harm in being friends but you have to reach a certain point where you both realise thats it. Obviously you have a connection and a lot of people are close with the ex, its when they move on settle ... (read in full...)
Was he just testing the waters to see if he still wanted me in his life?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me last month and it became very messy. I have been devastated but I cut contact with him because I heard it was the best thing to do if I ever wanted him back. Last week he got in contact with me and was telling me that ...
A. 19 August 2009: He came back into your life for one reason or another but the fact that he left it so suddenly would have mt thinking were his intentions as genuine as i assumed.
If was egaer to get back with you he would of stuck around a lot longer than four days... (read in full...)
Is she still into me?
Q. Hello, to make it quick, I'm in the military and was away for some time in Afghanistan, I returned home after 4 years, but I noticed somehow my girlfriend rejecting me in some way, she isn't returning my calls, she doesn't answer my emails, could ...
A. 17 August 2009: Its really difficult but you have to imagine how it is for her, she has to adjust to a life without you and the pain that must cause her you should feel too, you have your job and she deals with her life and time has forced it into seperate ... (read in full...)
Does she consider me a friend, or more?
Q. hey there, i think i am a man full of confusions when it comes to man-woman relationships. i am a 24 years old virgin never had a girl in my life, i think it is not bcause i have negative feelings for girls, rather i am a strong believer that girls ...
A. 9 August 2009: Firstly you sound like every womans dream, a man who cares and shows respect that takes a lot and not many men show that today so you should be proud of who you are.
Secondly its ok to be confused, i dont think anyones ever found relationships easy... (read in full...)
What can I do about this boy I like? He has a girlfriend...
Q. Okay so i have liked this guy for quite a while now. i told him i liked him a while ago. Now... he had a girlfriend and still does. She puts him through hell, and i have to listen to it all the time. not that i care though. i would do anything for ...
A. 9 August 2009: Until he leaves his gf and is honest and up front with you theres not a lot you can do. I respect that you love him but right now he cant see that and your love is wasted so the best thing you could do is to cool it off for a while, i mean the ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to share your feelings with the girl you love?
Q. Is it a bad thing to share what your really feeling with a girl you love? even if your insecure? im so afraid its a turn off and hurts more than it helps.. Not big insecurities just talking to her about how much u really want to be with them. like ...
A. 5 August 2009: You were honest, nobody can ask for more than that, you spoke from the heart gave all you have what girl would see that a turn off? Theres not many men around that show how there feeling and that sends the wrong message wasting two people who are in ... (read in full...)
I'm overly sensitive, how can I control my emotions?
Q. i think im too sensitive. whenever someone makes a mean or rude remark about me, whether it be about my appearance or my work or anything else, i take it to heart and i remember it. sometimes when its something really hurtful i get teary eyed and i ...
A. 5 August 2009: Dont mix weak with honesty, your an honest and gnuine person and its ok to struggle with emotions we ALL do just some are better at hiding it. You cant change who you are and how you take things but you can stop how they affect you, next time a ... (read in full...)
My partner prefers brunnettes but I'm blonde?
Q. Hi, I need to talk to my partner about this but he gets angry however this is driving me insane i need to talk to him about it or write him an email in a away that he can fully understand me and not shout at me. I have been with my boyfriend ...
A. 5 August 2009: I dont think you need to make him understand at all, in fact it seems hes already over it. Ok maybe your not his set 'type' but hes been with you for two years ongoing! and hes obviously in love with you. It seems your the only one bothered by this ... (read in full...)
I'm so into him but I don't know if he is into me!
Q. i used to like this guy and i knew he liked me he would always hug me more then once in one night and he would try to make me laugh and show off in from of me.something happened he wasnt into me anymore...months ago one night i went to a dance club ...
A. 5 August 2009: Who knows whats going on in his head? Maybe its a guy think they run hot and cold so much not even realising what it can do to a girl, theres only really two ways you could show him, either be honest and say look i really like you but you confuse me ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a relationship with someone when you don't feel the same about them?
Q. is it wrong to go out with a guy who loves you but you just like him? when you might also still have feelings for your teacher? xxx...
A. 1 August 2009: dont lie to him or yourself in the long run hed apreciate your honesty rather than you lying to his face, be honest with your feelings its the best way to start a relationship, you know how your feeling so stick by the facts and what you know you ... (read in full...)
I want to do something for my girlfriend that shows I really care about her, any ideas?
Q. Dear Cupid, My girlfriend and I have been together for three months now. I want to do something for her to show her I really care, but it has to be something really thoughtful and sensitive...you know...something that she'll know I had to put a l...
A. 1 August 2009: Surprise her! It can be big or small just make sure she hasnt got a clue and then spring it on her, even something simple could make her day. The fact that youve thought about it in such detail shows how genuine you are, shes lucky to have someone ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me for liking older men?
Q. I am 16 years old and always find older men (maybe old enough to be my grandpa) very attractive. Is there somthing wrong with me, or is this just my personal taste for men?...
A. 1 August 2009: Women who reach out to older man for love support and comfort are usally attracted to them for a replacement, everyone has a male figure in their life but sometimes things go wrong and you find yourself looking for one elsewhere. At your age it ... (read in full...)
Me and my friend like the same guy! What should we do?
Q. we need help!!!! me and one of my best friends like the same guy. what should we do?here it goes. my best friend lives right by him and i don't. we need to think of a fair way to c who should get him. i only c him when i'm at her house. can u pl...
A. 1 August 2009: Well whos better suited? It sounds like it would be ideal for your mate to as she lives close by but a distance can work. Dont let it wruin your friendship though, its only a guy and there not really worth fighting over!
Who likes him the most... (read in full...)
I am fed up with being hung up on him!
Q. hi im 15 and new to this so please help. i was going out with this guy for about a year. but then he dumped me a year ago today. he didnt give a reason. im still in love with him. how do i get over him? please help:)...
A. 31 July 2009: I dont think theres a wrong or right way, each break up is unique to the two of you everyone feels it differently. However a year on, there is a point where you need to say look its out of my control, i need to find myself and get back up from ... (read in full...)
Betrayed by the one I love most in this world! I need some advice :(
Q. Hello everyone, I feel used and betrayed ;_; I met this girl at work about a month ago and we got on like a house on fire; we have soooo many similarities it's like we're made for each other! Anyway, it's only been recently that I have st...
A. 31 July 2009: This is a difficult one, shes come to you for support and guidance somethings shes obviously craving yet shes put you in the uncomfortable position by saying she loves you etc.
Do the right thing, shes staying with this man for whatever reason, mayb... (read in full...)
Do you ever find a good relationship again after a break up?
Q. I'm not sure if anyone can help but i'm just looking for a bit of hope. Ive recently found myself single again after a very hopeful relationship. I'm devastated, although we had our problems it was basically a v good relationship. This man was the ...
A. 28 July 2009: Its hard to trust, especially after a bad experiance. Your supposed to learn from the past not let it dictate your future. Everyones different in how they handle relationships and break ups i dint believe theres a set way of right or wrong in ... (read in full...)
Do you know when a man is still in love with you?
Q. How do I know when a man is in love with me? My man still says he loves me but has been distant lately and a bit cold at times. He says he's just stressed about work. He hasnt been there for me for the last few weeks. I'm not very good at relation...
A. 28 July 2009: The signs that a man loves you should be clear, although smetimes they are there just day to day life sheilds them, it could just be that hes stressed at the moment and his priorities are slighlty mixed up.
You should feel if he loves you, it shou... (read in full...)
How do I keep the fire between us burning once we are married?
Q. hi,am getting married in 2 months and we are happy and in love with each other.my worry is that after marriage,we might get too used to each other and the fire between may vanish....how do i keep the fire between us burning?...
A. 28 July 2009: This is a common worry, people fear of entering the routine stage, where you are so used to each other nothing is new. Change is good so to keep the fire burning as you say do new and exciting things that you havent done before, tell your husband ... (read in full...)
I have three options in asking her out: What one's best?
Q. hi ive just started the sumer holidays and there is this girl in a lot of my classes who is pretty and i like that added me on facebook. we were talking on comments and i THINK that we are flirting. she comments on my status a lot and i comment on ...
A. 27 July 2009: Have a mix of all, get to know her see where that goes and then ask her out, see how long it takes. Who knows you could enjoy the summer with her by getting to know her in person. Start having fun, its what summers all about. Id meet up with her ... (read in full...)
He suggested splitting up, but I know our relationship is worth saving. How can I show him?
Q. I love my boyfried and i know that he loves me, we have the most amazing times together and have often talked about the future, getting a house together, having kids etc, however recently we've been having a bit off a tough time,arguin and stuff, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Sometimes relationships reach this stage, theres no set way of where it should go from here, if you love him then let him know, reasure him your love is still strong and this is something you want to last. Ask yourself what lead him to talk about ... (read in full...)
I need someone to talk to because I feel extremely depressed....
Q. hey guys, i need some help! im not quite sure whats wrong with me doh! Im extremly tired i work a full time summer job have the greatest boyfriend ever feel extremly depressed and i really need someone to talk to iv got no friends anymore their ...
A. 27 July 2009: Everyone needs somebody from time to time, it makes us human. Your under pressure right now and so is your dad so when he shouts try and be supportive, hes only taking it out on you because your the nearest thing too him right now and hes releasing ... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events?
Q. Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events? I have met some family members and he has met some of mine, so I don't understand why he does not invite me to cookouts, dinners, etc when he is with his ...
A. 27 July 2009: Next time he tries to blow you off ask why, you have every right to know where you stand.
However in your post your very self assured, maybe hes not so much. You describe yourself as independant and secure, maybe hes not and that affects him in s... (read in full...)
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