I've had sex - if I tell the doctor I haven't, will it make a difference?
Q. My mums putting me on the pill soon seen as I'm neary 16 and I've been with my boyfriend 2years. The thing is, we've already had sex a few times. So if the doctor asked me if I was already "sexually active" and I lied and said no because my mum was ...
A. 4 February 2010: Best to be up front with your doctor about these things. It may well affect the directions he gives you about starting the Pill. Your mother does not need to accompany you in to the doctor's office even though you are under 16. Ask her to wait in ... (read in full...)
Would you prefer a real rose or a fake one?
Q. Valentines help! I've been with a girl for a couple of weeks and have planned to take her out for a meal on valentines. I just wondered though, I'm planning on giving her a single red rose, but wanted to know on whether that rose should be real or ...
A. 4 February 2010: REAL! Definitely. She can always dry or press it it if she wants to keep it.... (read in full...)
What do I do when my best friend lied about not loosing her virginity?
Q. I cannot trust or look at my best friend of 6 years the same way again after she lied about not loosing her virginity to her boyfreind of less than 1 month and they have had an on and off relationship throughout that month. The day prior to her ...
A. 28 January 2010: What are you pissed about? Because she did something that you disapprove of? Or because she wasn't honest with you about her intentions?
Either way, I don't think it's worth losing a solid friendship over. You don't have to agree on everythi... (read in full...)
She is not at that stage in her life to date me, what does this mean?
Q. what does it mean when a girl says that she is unable to date u, as she wasnts to remain single 'at this stage in her life' and that she doestnt want to have everything in life planned out in the moment and doestnt want to think of the future and ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think she's enjoying the single life too much to want to settle down with one boyfriend.
Or it's a polite way of telling you she doesn't want you as a boyfriend
Either way, I wouldn't expect a relationship from this lass... (read in full...)
Would he be dissapointed if I wont perform oral sex on him
Q. I need a boys to ask me on this question. Here`s the thing; I`m little bit scared of doing blow job. Actually, I`m not absolutely sure that I want to do it, but also, I don`t have aversion or anything like that. Would my boyfriend blame me, or would...
A. 28 January 2010: You don't have to give him a blow job. You shouldn't have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If he loves you and is a nice caring understanding kind of guy with your best interests at heart - he will not blame you or hold it against ... (read in full...)
I really want to return the favour for my boyfriend, but I'm pretty scared to do it!
Q. Hi I need a little help, see me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years (since highschool were 20) and we both are still deep in love. We lost our virginities to each other when we were 18 and the sex is great! My boyfriend doesn't have ...
A. 28 January 2010: Any idea what you find so distasteful about it?
Are you worried that it will smell or taste bad?
Or are you worried that you'll choke or gag?
Or just that you'll do it wrong?
FatherlyAdvice gives you some good advice, especially about the porn m... (read in full...)
Can high blood pressure medication change someone's personality?
Q. Can high blood pressure medication change someone's personality? When my boyfriend doesn't takes his, he is awful! His combative personality almost destroyed our relationship early on, then his doctor switched his BP meds and magically he mellowed ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think you need to speak to a pharmacist about this one. It's not something I've heard anybody mention before. There are lots of different medications that are used to reduce high blood presuure. One group of drugs are called beta-blockers (their ... (read in full...)
Have any of you ladies out there been pregnant while on an SSRI (anti-depressant)?
Q. Hello everyone - I am hoping some of the folks here can give me some good advice. I am in my mid thirties and my husband is in his early forties. We have a great relationship and are like best friends. Of course, there is a problem or I wouldn't ...
A. 27 January 2010: LonelyTwo gives good advice - this is a question for a pharmacist & OBGYN.
As far as I know, fluoxetine (prozac) does not harm a developing fetus but the baby may experience some withdrawal effects after birth. (I am not sure exactly what the baby... (read in full...)
Something I can take to make my period end faster?
Q. I'm on period, and well, I'm on birth control. However up until a couple of weeks ago I was working long shifts which meant I had to take my pills on different times each day. So the thing is, I started spotting like a week before my actual period ...
A. 27 January 2010: Celtic tiger gives excellent advice here and I don't think I can add much more.
You should go back to your doctor to discuss this. When I was a shift worker I had to take my pills at varying times of day and it didn't affect me like that. If you a... (read in full...)
I have been having sex for a couple months now and now she's been having stomach problems.
Q. Hi my girlfriend and I have been having sex for a couple months now and now she's been having stomach problems that she's never experienced before, but she doesn't have any of the other pregnantcy symptoms and I was just hoping someone could he...
A. 27 January 2010: Yeah - I agree that "stomach problems" is a bit vague. To the average layman the term "stomach" can mean any place between the the ribs and the pubic bone. There are an awful lot of organs crammed into there so you'd need to be really specific about ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel like peeing during sex?
Q. While having sex, i have this great urge of peeing.. is it normal? Never had orgasm before, so was wonderin if tat might hinder it.. thanks...
A. 25 January 2010: Some people do feel that they need to pee during sex. The urethra (urinary opening) gets stimulated by penetration and in some positions there is more pressure on the woman's bladder. Both can give you the sensation that you need to pee.
If yo... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 25 January 2010: I agree with Angzw - this sounds much more like the effects of clinical depression but I'm no expert in testosterone levels. I think you should share your concerns with your G.P to get some support for yourself. He may also be able to help you get ... (read in full...)
I never want to kiss my hubby anymore, could this be because of the pills?
Q. Hi guyz,i hav a problem;since i got married(3 months ago),my urge 4 kissing has completely gone,i never want 2 kiss my hubby anymore for no aparent reason.am confused since before we got maried i used 2 love his kisses.could it be the contraceptives ...
A. 25 January 2010: Has your libido (sex drive) also disappeared or just your desire to kiss? The pill has been known to reduce libido in some women but this would affect your sex drive as a whole (not just your desire to kiss)
If it's just kissing that's the prob... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after having sex 3 times and bleeding lasts 1/2 a day! whats going on?
Q. Hey everyone, I am just wondering if it is normal for a girl to still be bleeding after the 3rd time you've had sex with a guy? This is the 2nd guy I have been with. The 1st guy I was with for 2years and I didn't bleed my first time. Now he (the 1st...
A. 25 January 2010: I think male endowment might have something to do with it, especially in the deeper penetrating positions because it can knock the cervix, which can cause both pain and a small amount of bleeding. This would only happen in certain positions, though, ... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday in July and I'm so nervous about being on my period...
Q. I'm going on holiday in July and I'm so nervous about being on my period. What do you girls suggest? I know I can go on the contraceptive pill, but I've never been on it before and my friend told me she bled constantly for 2 months... I d...
A. 24 January 2010: I'm tempted to say, just have your period. It seems an awful lot of hassle to go on the pill just for a holiday. I went camping in a field with no facilities whilst having my period and it didn't really cramp my style all that much (if you'll pardon ... (read in full...)
Facial hair and depression. Could the Pill be causing this?
Q. I need some advice on the pill, I am 26 and never wanted to go on the pill however, I have noticed that I am getting quite a bit of hair on my neck, chin and face, I have read that some forms of the pill can help, I also feel quite depressed just ...
A. 24 January 2010: Discuss your options with your G.P. The pill can certainly help with premenstrual syndrome including mood swings. Depression can also be a side effect of the pill, though but not all that commonly - usually in women with a history of depression.
... (read in full...)
Any ideas of how I can get my dog to chew his food and stop choking?
Q. I dont know where else to ask this question so I am going for it here since most people have pets. I have two 4 month old miniature chihuahuas. They are brother and sister and the female Pixie is larger than her brother Bubba. I am having a problem ...
A. 24 January 2010: Bubba might be wolfing his food too quick, especially if he is the smaller dog. If you don't eat it quick, someone bigger will get it, right? Even if they don't seem to squabble over food to human eyes, it might be happening at a subtle "dog" level. ... (read in full...)
Why do his exes delete him off Facebook?
Q. what does it mean when a guy goes out with girls for only few weeks?? or months?? what does that say about him?? and the girls dont ever speak to him again?? deletes him off msn and face book?? what does that say about the guy?? and w...
A. 24 January 2010: I can't speak for everyone but I cut contact with my exes because it helps me move on. I find that, if I was really into the guy, any attempt at maintaining contact is actually an effort to keep things going in the hope that he will come back. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl
Q. My boyfriend has a bestfriend and she's a girl.. I knew about her before me and him became afficial.. the talk every now and then.. and once before my boyfriend gave her my number and she called me saying "you don't ever have to worry about me and ...
A. 22 January 2010: My best friend is a guy and wouldn't sleep with him. Yuck -It's really not a place I want to go.
The fact that she's made contact with you and wants to meet is a great sign that this a platonic friendship, I think.... (read in full...)
Will it pay off to look more my age?
Q. Is it really an advantage when you're nearing 20 and you still look 16? And if I don't want to look 16 anymore, how do I come to look more... my age? Thanks....
A. 22 January 2010: I used to have the same problem (sadly no more, but it was only about 4 years ago that I was last asked to prove my age to buy alcohol - I was 35)
I don't think there really IS anything you can do except carry your I.D. card with you and take it ... (read in full...)
If you fall pregnant while on the pill, would you still have your period?
Q. If you fall pregnant while on the pill would you still have your period within the 7 day break even though you're pregnant?...
A. 22 January 2010: Yes, do get a test done if you broke the continuity of your pill routine (but it doesn't automatically mean that you are pregnant.)
Early pregnancy symptoms usually start once the fertilised egg has implanted properly. They may include, tirednes... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 20 January 2010: Well said, bootydoctors. Especially that last paragraph...... (read in full...)
How do I break the big heave ho to him... gently?
Q. Hiya, I really need help! I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, I love him very much, but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore. We met in college, when we were 16/17 and everything was great until about 5 months ago. We have bot...
A. 20 January 2010: I agree totally with caringguy. There really is no way of doing it gently. You might still be very fond of him but I too recommend that you cut contact. He will be very hurt and, if you continue to see each other, he will find it difficult to let ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with smoking pot, how can I talk to him about this when he hasn't listened in the past?
Q. my boyfriend smokes pot all the time and i HATE it. he has his cannabis card or whatever you want to call it, but hes OBSESSED. its basically all his friends do and pretty much all he talks about. any time i talk about doing something in a certain ...
A. 20 January 2010: No you've made youself perfectly clear. You've explained your feelings and wishes to him numerous times. I don't know if he's theoretically agreed to compromise but he certainly isn't trying to change his behaviour. If he hasn't tried to, he isn't ... (read in full...)
How can a girl ask a guy out without looking stupid?
Q. Hello everyone, I want to know how a girl can ask a boy out without looking stupid? (I'm talking about a shy guy here!)...
A. 20 January 2010: If you already know him quite well (things like his favourite band, favourite sports teams, what kinda films he likes etc) have a look at what events are going on in your local area or even further afield if you can travel. Find something going on ... (read in full...)
If you fall pregnant while on the pill, would you still have your period?
Q. If you fall pregnant while on the pill would you still have your period within the 7 day break even though you're pregnant?...
A. 20 January 2010: Yes, it's perfectly possible.
The bleeding you experience during your pill-free break is not the same as a "proper period"
The pill contains synthetic hormones that mimic a pregnancy. A pregnant woman does not ovulate so ovulation is sup... (read in full...)
I'm 18 wks pregnant and my BF is still trying to get me to have an abortion or miscarriage.
Q. hi i am 18 years old im 18 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 yrs is still trying to get me to have an abortion or a miscarriage he said if i love him i would do that for me. mind you dat 1yr ago i had an abortion of havin 2twins 1girl n1 boii - ...
A. 20 January 2010: Hi,
The decision is entirely yours. Don't let anyone bully you into a decision either way. If you really want your baby and you have the emotional and financial support from family & friends, I see no reason for you to abort.
I think you should... (read in full...)
Why does doggystyle make her hurt?
Q. Why is it that when I put my partner "doggystyle" she says that something bothers her and that it hurts?...
A. 20 January 2010: She's not altogether unusual. It's a deep penetrating position and it can "bash" the cervix which some women (including myself) find painful. It also doesn't stimulate the clitoris for some women to enjoy it completely.
My advice is - go slow and... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregnant from this?
Q. Today my boyfriend and I dry humped. He ended up cumming and we humped for like 15 seconds after he went. He had his boxers on and I had my underwear on. We weren't aware that the tip of penis had slipped right above the elastic of his boxers. He ...
A. 20 January 2010: Highly unlikely that you're pregnant. Not absolutely impossible but very very very unlikely. Make sure you have some condoms ready for when you do decide to have sex.... (read in full...)
Did I make the right choice by cutting my losses and moving on?
Q. I am 51 years old and seperated 2 years going through divorce. I became involved with a 49 year old widower. In June of last year. His wife was my friend who died one month earlier. I was extremely reluctant but he pursued me relentlessy with gifts ...
A. 20 January 2010: Sounds like you've both been going through a tough time but I think you've done the right thing in moving on. It's your life - you don't want to hang around for some guy to sort himself out and doesn't appear to want to be with you at the moment.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with smoking pot, how can I talk to him about this when he hasn't listened in the past?
Q. my boyfriend smokes pot all the time and i HATE it. he has his cannabis card or whatever you want to call it, but hes OBSESSED. its basically all his friends do and pretty much all he talks about. any time i talk about doing something in a certain ...
A. 20 January 2010: I don't think he's going to stop just because you ask him to. He'll have to want to quit and it doesn't sound like he wants to -his life revolves around it too much. I think even if he does agree to quit for you, he will do it in secret instead.
... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasise about 15-17 year old males?? 13-17 year old only please
Q. so i am a 13 year old girl but i only fantasise about 15-17 year olds is that a problem or not i really need to know bc i dont like people younger than me or around my age they aren't very mature ive never dated some one younger or around my age ...
A. 20 January 2010: Looking back to my adolesence - it sounds very normal to me!... (read in full...)
Can anyone shed any light on this infection? Is it bacterial or a yeast infection?
Q. Hi and thanks to all reply to me =) Today I went to get a pap smear and when I got home I had a message on my answering machine from the doctors office telling me to call them back and so I did and they told me I have a vaginal infection and I co...
A. 20 January 2010: Yeast infections are really common. If there's a woman out there who's never had one I'll eat my own head. (If you see a headless woman walking around, you'll know what's happened.) Yeast infections are really common in pregnant women, especially.
... (read in full...)
What could this small lump be?
Q. hi everyone, now about a day ago i found a bump on the inside lip of my vagina and it doesnt hurt unless i squeeze it, then when i was just leaning over a mirror to look i also found like a little bubble of blood on the inside right at the entrance...
A. 20 January 2010: Could be a zit. Could be nothing. Could be something. Go to the doctor to be sure. And don't squeeze it if it hurts... (read in full...)
Why might blowjobs be considered degrading? Help me understand...
Q. Hi All, Blow Jobs being degrading is NOT a view I hold. But I hear it mentioned often enough on this site to know that it's a view that many women do have. Usually it mentioned by "male askers" complaining that their partners won't give them h...
A. 20 January 2010: Thanks for all your replies folks - especially the two anonymous female posters who made the most salient points. I certainly agree that it should always be a matter of choice and never an obligation for either sex (Sorry, Bibu) If someone is truly ... (read in full...)
Give the engagement ring back... or sell it???
Q. I was with my ex-fiance/girlfriend for nearly 4.5 years. Our relationship was very up and down, and I believe I never could make her happy. In fact, I don't think she's a very happy person at all. When we met, we were friends, her then 4 month...
A. 18 January 2010: Normally I'd say that the girl has the option to keep her ring although it's "polite" to give it back. It IS a gift but it's meant to symbolise the promise you made to each other.
However, she had that option 8 months when you first broke up and s... (read in full...)
Anxiety and insomnia problems...
Q. Does anyone know any good websites for helping with anxiety and insomnia?? I currently have real problems getting to sleep naturally (due to anxiety/panic attacks) and I worry it will affect my life/relationships! I have tried counsell...
A. 18 January 2010: I've had insomnia for years on and off. I've also had anxiety but I don't think mine was that bad. Never really found a cure but I have learned to live with it. Dunno if I should tell you all my coping strategies as I'm sure not all of them are ... (read in full...)
Condoms!
Q. I watched this video on youtube and it said always wear condom on oral, vaginal and anal sex. -Why is it important to wear a condom during oral sex? -Why can't you put the condom on the wrong way? What happens if you do?...
A. 18 January 2010: It's important to wear a condom for oral sex as some sexually transmitted diseases can be caught in the mouth as well as on the gentials.
Did he youtube video show you how the condom went on? It comes rolled up and you roll it onto the penis. I... (read in full...)
Is there any urine when I squirt?
Q. My husband loves to give me oral,almost as much as I love receiving. I am one of those who squirts[female ejaculation]. He swallows as much as he can,drenching his face. I was wondering if there is any urine in it. He says it has no taste,espically ...
A. 18 January 2010: There may be some urine in it but even if there is, it's harmless. In most people urine is sterile (unless you have an infection). Not to say that one should chug jugs of the stuff but a teeny taste wouldn't harm anyone....
Keep on enjoying... (read in full...)
Could this be my first period, at 14?
Q. Okay so my mom didint start her period till she was 16. so today I started bleeding like dark brown and it was In my underwear? I'm only 14 never had sex what's going on? PlZ help? ...
A. 17 January 2010: It sure sound like a period. Tell your mum if you can... (read in full...)
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