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Why did my neighbour lie to me about her experience at the restaurant where I work?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 3 May 2024.

Q. I work part time at a small family run restaurant. As well as working there I often go there for dinner too. The food is amazing and service is wonderful. My neighbor a while back was asking about the restaurant as she and her sister wante...

A. 3 May 2024: Why NOT tell her that you looked at CCTV? She must realize most places have it these days. Tell her you felt you needed to report her complaints to the manager, who then checked the CCTV as he was concerned that someone should have had a bad expe... (read in full...)

Why did my neighbour lie to me about her experience at the restaurant where I work?

Answered by Honeypie + on 3 May 2024.

A. 3 May 2024: Well, now you know what kind of COW your neighbor is. She is someone who will lie to gain attention and probably to make YOU feel bad. I'd stay away from this woman. I'd still wave/say hi, but socialize with her? Absolutely not. ... (read in full...)

Where and how did things deteriorate to this extent with my brother and his wife?

Answered by anonymous on 3 May 2024.

Q. I got married 8 years ago. My wife is stunning, intelligent and everything that I (or anyone) could ever ask for. My parents were very happy when I introduced her to them, as was my brother. My brother is a couple of years younger to me and was ...

A. 3 May 2024: I am beginning to think there might be some mental disorder at work here. My brother told our mother that SIL was recently telling our neighbours that relations with her in-laws are now really good (this after my mother told her to get out of the ... (read in full...)

Where and how did things deteriorate to this extent with my brother and his wife?

Answered by anonymous on 3 May 2024.

A. 3 May 2024: "....she probably makes things up in her mind that upset her and convinces herself that your wife or family have done them". This is so apt! There hasn't been much of an interaction of all of us together but once, just the one time, my wife's ... (read in full...)

Is it time to leave the marriage?

Answered by anonymous on 3 May 2024.

Q. My husband doesn't value me and doesn't believe me, I feel like I have to "prove" things to him. I've been married for 9 years, my husband and I get along well and are good friends. If we could afford to live separately, our marriage would p...

A. 3 May 2024: Hugs! Lots of hugs to you, OP! This post could have been written by me, because in a different corner of the world, I am facing the exact same thing. I'm sitting in my mother's house and typing this, thinking of how similar our lives are. The only ... (read in full...)

Is it time to leave the marriage?

Answered by anonymous on 2 May 2024.

A. 2 May 2024: On paper your husband is doing the right things but he's not meeting your emotional needs. It's hard to leave someone and a struggle not to have much money, but you aren't happy and don't feel cared for. His love language is giving materially and ... (read in full...)

How do you help your partner through depression?

Answered by anonymous on 2 May 2024.

Q. How do you help your partner through depression? My partner has outbursts of rage where he pushes me away, then he he's back to himself and back to the man I love. Then cycles. When he's in these rages he's told me that he doesn't want to be wi...

A. 2 May 2024: I suffer from depression and that is one of the symptoms, losing interest in things. While he's like that there's no point in trying to talk about it. Wait till he's well and expressing regret then tell him how helpless it makes you feel and ask ... (read in full...)

Her kids monopolize all of her time!!

Answered by Honeypie + on 2 May 2024.

Q. Not exactly a huge issue compared to some things on here but annoying none-the less…. I don’t have children so I’m probably going to be told this is normal and im in the wrong…. One of my best friends lives 40 minutes away from me. Neither of...

A. 2 May 2024: OP find a better friend. Her kids are ALL old enough to understand that mom is on the phone, give her some privacy and space. Except, SHE never taught them? Her kids are probably her whole World. But also, they ARE more important to her... (read in full...)

Where and how did things deteriorate to this extent with my brother and his wife?

Answered by Honeypie + on 2 May 2024.

A. 2 May 2024: Oh, your poor brother and those poor kids! Sounds like YOUR wife did nothing wrong, the SIL is just a sad and envious person. My guess is your brother stepped on his own dick and at some point, called your wife pretty or gorgeous in SIL'... (read in full...)

Is it time to leave the marriage?

Answered by Honeypie + on 2 May 2024.

A. 2 May 2024: What is your goal? To be financially secure or to have a happy marriage? It seems you can't "quite" have both with this guy. At least not the latter. The thing is OP, your partner doesn't KNOW how to fulfill your needs. He was probably N... (read in full...)

How do you help your partner through depression?

Answered by Honeypie + on 2 May 2024.

A. 2 May 2024: As much as it sucks, you can't FIX this for him. He might not be able to do it on his own, especially if he refuses medication that could help. I think the ONLY thing you can do is TALK to him when he is in a better "mood". He needs to at leas... (read in full...)

Where and how did things deteriorate to this extent with my brother and his wife?

Answered by anonymous on 1 May 2024.

A. 1 May 2024: My husband's brother and his wife and very similar to this. She's also implied that I want my husband's brother, which is absurd. I totally get your frustration, it breaks my heart that my husband and his brother are no longer close bc of the same ... (read in full...)

How do you help your partner through depression?

Answered by anonymous on 1 May 2024.

A. 1 May 2024: You can't help anyone through depression, unfortunately. He knows how loved he is, he knows what he's doing and actively chooses to do it. He wouldn't have those outbursts at work, so he can control it. He chooses not to because he has decided it's ... (read in full...)

Her kids monopolize all of her time!!

Answered by anonymous on 1 May 2024.

A. 1 May 2024: This truly sounds like a one sided friendship. People treat you how they feel about you, if she's not making time for you then it is what it is. Accept her actions as what they are. If it were me, I'd stop calling/planning/etc and focus my energ... (read in full...)

Where and how did things deteriorate to this extent with my brother and his wife?

Answered by anonymous on 1 May 2024.

A. 1 May 2024: It seems to me that your brother's wife was envious of your wife from day one. She doesn't like to be outshone and feels that your wife gets all the attention. She is afraid of losing your brother, afraid that someone will steal him from her. At the ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by anonymous on 30 April 2024.

Q. A long time FWB had open heart surgery recently. I told him I would help with whatever I could when he gets home as he lives alone. His ex-wife stepped in and started filling up his refrigerator, took care of his cat, and has been there every night ...

A. 30 April 2024: Of course she wants to live with him, probably to marry him. She wants to feel it is more than FWBs when she knows it is just that and more. So she lies to herself and us about what it is and what she wants. ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by kenny + on 30 April 2024.

A. 30 April 2024: If you are more than a FWB as you say then why do use the term in your post?. By your own admission you say that you don't want to marry him, you don't want to live with him, so why are you putting yourself through this turmoil?. Save yourself... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by anonymous on 29 April 2024.

A. 29 April 2024: Excuse me. You, the person asking for advice, said he is a FWB. Then you complain when people who give you advice say he is a FWB and you expect too much from it!... (read in full...)

My ex ended things by attacking me verbally

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 29 April 2024.

Q. My partner of 4 years just ended things with me, I'm absolutely heartbroken. I thought wee were okay. Yeah wee had problems but always worked through them, he was good with my daughter too. It's not just that he ended it he ended it in the most ...

A. 29 April 2024: As you've chosen to only tell half a story here, then we need to speculate more than usual on what is going on. You don't say what he is accusing you of, what names he is calling you. I have to assume cheating is involved. If you are, indeed, 100% ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by anonymous on 29 April 2024.

A. 29 April 2024: Just to answer some of the responses. I lived with him 13 years so I think I'm more then a FWB. And I haven't slept with him in months because he's not right after his surgery. I don't want to live with him, marry him, etc. I was just taken back ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 29 April 2024.

A. 29 April 2024: I would strongly recommend you open your eyes and wake up to reality. If this man's relationship with his ex-wife is so good that he informs her he is ill and she immediately steps in to look after him, it should drive home to you that you really ... (read in full...)

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