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| | *ichelleAKAmandi's profile:I find interest in so many subjects and have researched so many through out the past 21 yrs of my life. If there is ever a question I'm asked and I don't know the answer, I will find it. ~wink~ I love helping people no matter what way I do it.
I live in South Carolina right now, but have lived Virginia, Florida and North Carolina. I've met some wonderful people in all of these states and met many all over the world via internet and look forward to meeting more.
I'm a VERY blunt and outspoken person. I feel since I've found that way of "being" long years ago, it made more sense and never left anyone second guessing anything I said. Some people read me wrong, but I'm merely like anyone else with slight differences in opinions. I LOVE people! I love being a friend to someone who really is in need of help! (I'm one of those people that either you like or you don't. If you want honesty, ask me. If you want honesty, realize it may not be what you want to hear and if you don't like the truth when it may hurt, don't ask me...lol)
Hopefully I'll meet some new and interesting people here.
I do have to add this...
I love helping people BUT... if someone ask for help and are given advice and that person continues down a path that causes them hardships for months or longer, at some point I will ask why and find out if I should go any further with my advice, for I may feel nothing I or anyone else says makes a difference. Many people need help and advice, but when you seem to love the misery and stay in a bad situation then there may be nothing I can do after trying numerous times.
Also people that feel sorry for themselves instead of taking advice, picking themselves up and making things better after a long while, I will stand by you for as long as I can, but help me help you!!
I am here to help, BUT I can't help you if you're not willing to help yourself with the advice I and others give you! That's the number one thing you have to realize.
Oh yeah... LOL
I usually reply to a post before reading anyone else's answers/replies/comments so if I happen to repeat something someone else has already said to you, I apologize, but I respond right after reading a question so nothing clouds my thought process. (I've had to change up on this lately!)
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How long do I need to wait until I bleed again?
Q. i am a girl. i hve a bf with whom i had sex.when i had sex for the first time i bleeded. later i didnt. but now we broke up and i am engaged with someone else and i dont want him to know that i am not a virgin.so, after how much gap of time or perio...
A. 16 October 2008: It won't happen again. Once your hymen is gone, it's gone for good sweetie. However; some women break the hymen by using tampons and they don't bleed at all their first time having intercourse.
I don't think it is a good idea to keep it a secret/t... (read in full...)
I can't tell him what I want because I'm too shy!
Q. Monk and I got married recently. He's in the military, navy, but he has a pretty decent schedule right now. Before, he used to be so romantic and pationate (oh, we sorta did an online dating while he was in A-school, we knew each other from high ...
A. 14 October 2008: You're very welcome!!
Maybe that's what it took to get some much needed information for yourself.
Good luck and be HAPPY!!
Michelle... (read in full...)
What to do when your perfect guy is with someone else...
Q. What do you do when your perfect guy is with someone else? It's really getting me down. ...
A. 13 October 2008: So you and he were not a couple, but you like him?
Give us a little more information so we can help give you an answer to what you are asking.
and as "Fade" stated below, no one is perfect, however; saying someone is perfect is also a figure of ... (read in full...)
What to do when your perfect guy is with someone else...
Q. What do you do when your perfect guy is with someone else? It's really getting me down. ...
A. 10 October 2008: Sweetie,
If he's with someone else, then he's not your "perfect" guy. The perfect guy would be "with you"!
It's hard to give you an answer here with such little information, but I can tell you that you have to pick yourself up and go on with your... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of doing a spell to get my ex back. Am I wasting my money and do they work?
Q. I'm thinking of doing a spell on my ex to get him back, I'm wondering if they work? I've seen one I can get on the net which will cost around £25. I don't wanna waste my money but has anyone known them to actually work? ...
A. 10 October 2008: Sweetie,
If you have to put a spell on him, to get him back... do you really want him back.
Be honest with yourself, you don't want someone in your life that you have to ask to be in it or make stay in it or come back into it.
Don't waste y... (read in full...)
They don't know I have a boyfriend. How can I keep that idea going?
Q. hey everyone i really need some advice quick... tonight my parents and everyone went out and i was ;eft home alone... so i decided to call my boyfriend round and spend the time with him... i asked my sister to call me as soon as they left so i could ...
A. 9 October 2008: CORRECTIONS:
First of all, if you DID nothing wrong, there is nothing to cover up.
They may give you a talk of how you shouldn't have had him there in the home, but having him as a friend IS fine.
Sorry for my errors/typos I'm extremely tired,... (read in full...)
May I be pregnant?
Q. I had sex three days before my period and my boyfriend ejaculated in me. Now I am late...may I be pregnant?...
A. 9 October 2008: This is VERY possible, however; have you been really stressed and/or worried about the fact that you may be pregnant?
If so, this can delay the start of your cycle. Don't be worried about it, if you are. Wait a few days and get tested or go get a ho... (read in full...)
They don't know I have a boyfriend. How can I keep that idea going?
Q. hey everyone i really need some advice quick... tonight my parents and everyone went out and i was ;eft home alone... so i decided to call my boyfriend round and spend the time with him... i asked my sister to call me as soon as they left so i could ...
A. 9 October 2008: First of all, if you didn't nothing wrong, there is nothing to cover up. Let them know that you two are just friends and if you would have thought they would have minded, you wouldn't have had him stay when he "popped down".
Sweetie, you are 18 o... (read in full...)
I have trouble being faithful in a relationship, how can I stop being this way?
Q. hi... I wondered if you could help me? I have trouble with being faithful in a relationship. Every time I'm in a relationship i always destroy it by cheating and lying I wondered if you can tell me the best way to stop this? ...
A. 7 October 2008: The way to stop it is to just stop. You are the only one that can stop and no matter what we say, unless you really want to, you're not going to. It's great that you can admit that you have this problem. That's the first step, the second step is to ... (read in full...)
How do I help him through this? He's married and I love him...
Q. I fell in love with a married man, we are perfect for each other and we have been together for 6 months, he says he is in love with me too. He has not been happy with his wife of 9 years for a very, very long time and planned on leaving her even ...
A. 7 October 2008: All you can do is be there for him, however; be aware that he may resent you somewhat. Not that it is ALL of your fault that this happened, but it may be a way he deals with her wanting a divorce now.
The old saying, "Be careful what you wish for"... (read in full...)
Who's more likely to end up with the girl? - A hypothetical situation
Q. Hi internet fans! I'd like to cut to the chase once and for all in relation to the subject of attraction. Ladies: which man are you most likely to be attracted to: guy no.1 who is good looking, has a great body, has personality and charm, but you ...
A. 7 October 2008: This was pretty cool and I thought all along, "ok, which one is he?"
Then my next thought was...
He's interested in a married woman.
hmmmm... ok nothing on the part of why you added, "imagine you are a married woman". What was that twist for? ... (read in full...)
I caught my wife cheating with my brother!
Q. I caught my wife cheating me with my brother. We manage fix marriage but I'm still worried that she'll do it again. We two have kids (ages 1-4) and don't ruin their childhoods by getting a divorce. What I should do? ...
A. 6 October 2008: If you can communicate with her about this when it comes to bother you then there is a chance you guys will be ok. It will be tough sometimes and that's to be expected, but she must make an extra effort to help you get through this. After all, she ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to keep our unborn child?
Q. Hello cupid readers.... I once came upon this site about 3 months ago, when I had just found out that I got a 15 year old pregnant. I decided to delete my old account becuse of the rude things I was told. Now I have come back for advice, but not for ...
A. 6 October 2008: First things first, do a little research. If you are the father, I'm sure you have to be willing to give that child up for adoption for her to do so. I mean it's not like you don't want the child, regardless of your mistake.
Tell her that you will... (read in full...)
Help me understand how this is my fault! Why is she mad at me?
Q. About a week ago my fiancé through tear filled eyes told me she had just tested positive for HPV and had to get a biopsy for cervical cancer. Turns out she had tested positive for it before we met, but it hadn't shown up on any tests for a whil...
A. 6 October 2008: This is so not your fault and yes it should frustrate you. She is probably still dealing with stress of finding out that she has HPV and then the addition of this all of a sudden made her react. I'm not saying she acted in a manner that she should ... (read in full...)
Is he just a nice person in general or is he interested in me?
Q. There is this guy I sit next to in class. He is really nice to me and we always talk. He seems interested in me, like always asks what i did the day before, what im going to do, etc. but i dont know if he likes me or if he is that way to everyone. ...
A. 6 October 2008: It could be both and without asking, it's hard to tell.
Maybe you should pay some attention to him talking with others to find out if you are different in this aspect.
I do suggest that if you are considering having anything to do with this gu... (read in full...)
Is my husbands fetish normal?
Q. I have a question about a weird fetish my husband has developed in the last few months. Lately, instead of us having intercourse, he likes to watch me have intercourse with a vibrator instead while he holds it. Is this normal, and if so why does he ...
A. 6 October 2008: It's normal for someone to get off on this type of thing, however; it shouldn't replace the actual act of sex. Did he stop having sex with you completely when this started?
This is something that is very exciting for people and it should be enjoy... (read in full...)
His family don't want him to be with me and are making our lives hell.
Q. well I am back on here. I told you last week about my man and me. He is 69 years old and I am 65 years old and we have been dating 3 years and 10 months. His kids have never liked the idea of us dating. They want him 24/7 to meet their needs. ...
A. 6 October 2008: This has to be so hard on you.
I'm sorry you have to put up with the fact that this man can't grasp his balls and make a stand. He is a grown man that should put the "children" in their place. Which is not in between the two of you. This is so unfo... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a 24-year-old to be dating me, an underage girl?
Q. i have a boyfriend thats 24 and am 13.....i need help dont know what to do is it wierd for him to love me ?or is he a rapist and am i stupid for dating him ?...
A. 6 October 2008: YOU are NOT stupid, you are a very young girl that is VERY VERY smart to ask this question and GOOD for you!!
Sweetie, please be careful and for your sake, will you please let your parent(s)/guardian know about this. Even an older brother or an uncl... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he have just told me the truth?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with recently. The reason he gave me was that when he thinks back to his career he wouldn't have time for me and that he rushed into things. I told him how I felt and everything but he said his decision is final. It hurt me so ...
A. 6 October 2008: He seems to be one that has to stand on his own before he can commit to anyone. This is a good thing for the person he will be with. Pride is a HUGE thing for a lot of people, they don't want someone to know that they are not doing well, when they ... (read in full...)
Is he just doing this because he wants me to know how he feels or what?
Q. okay, i have a huge problem me and this guy talked for 6 months and then starting dating and going steady well i went to a party and i got really drunk and me and his brother kissed and well he found out like 5 months later and we are no longer ...
A. 6 October 2008: This is sort of confusing.
You're NOT together...
but he doesn't want you hanging out with anyone but him? and
he doesn't call you?
If you are not together then of course he doesn't have to call you.
If you are not together then why would ... (read in full...)
I really like my ex bf's buddy! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have decided to end our relationship. It's a mutual decision and we're going to stay friends. We're still together at the moment, because we're sorting thing out first... Anyway, the thing is, I've had a thing for one of his m...
A. 6 October 2008: Great question, but you said you were 70% sure he, Nick, likes you. So that's a lot better than a 50/50 chance. When you and your boyfriend finalize everything and you're still hanging out, the 3 of you, that's when you can look for signs. Your ... (read in full...)
I can't tell him what I want because I'm too shy!
Q. Monk and I got married recently. He's in the military, navy, but he has a pretty decent schedule right now. Before, he used to be so romantic and pationate (oh, we sorta did an online dating while he was in A-school, we knew each other from high ...
A. 6 October 2008: Now what?
Stop worrying so much and take what you have and have fun with it.
First things first, let me ask you, do you initiate hugs, kisses, making love and anything or everything like that?
If so, STOP! Let him be the one to do it next time ... (read in full...)
What should I do to smell better?
Q. Okay i am a little embarrassed. My boyfriend says that when I am on my period I smell a bit. What should I do to smell better. I have seen the wipes in the supermarket, should i use them or baby wipes?...
A. 3 October 2008: There are feminine wipes you can use throughout the day. Shower twice a day while you're on your period. Change whatever sanitary item you use OFTEN throughout every day. There are also some feminine sprays you can use, however; I don't suggest the ... (read in full...)
Where am I going wrong, please tell me.
Q. I made a bit of a fool of myself with this guy I thought liked me, I asked him out which took me ages to build the courage to do, and he said yes, then he didn't turn up, I see him nearly every day and we just talk like nothing has happened, and ...
A. 3 October 2008: You dismissed what he did and you should have asked why he didn't show. Especially if he didn't offer an apology for not showing. Demand respect from any and everyone, if you don't, you will get stepped on. You don't want that, it will end up making ... (read in full...)
I can't tell him what I want because I'm too shy!
Q. Monk and I got married recently. He's in the military, navy, but he has a pretty decent schedule right now. Before, he used to be so romantic and pationate (oh, we sorta did an online dating while he was in A-school, we knew each other from high ...
A. 3 October 2008: Ask him, that's not sounding selfish or being demanding. While laying beside him, ask him sweetly for a massage or start playing around, giggles and tickles are fun and attention for you as well.
Some men (and women) don't get into giving massage'... (read in full...)
How do I accept that marriage will never happen for me?
Q. I am 36 years old and never married. I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the last 3 years. I have a 13 year old daughter.(not his) Anyway, He convinced me to quit my job and help him build his buisness. Which I did, with no pay. ...
A. 3 October 2008: First of all, do some research on "Common Law Marriage". You may be entitled to part of the money, which YOU helped earn. He knows exactly what he is doing. He's thinking if he is not married then he won't have to give up any of his business or ... (read in full...)
How erect does a guy have to be to give him a blow job?
Q. Im curious. A guy's penis, does it have to be erect before you can start to play with him or give him a blowjob? All answers welcomed and appreciated. Thanks!...
A. 3 October 2008: No, he doesn't have to be erect for you to play or give a blowjob. It's half the fun getting him there. Put his penis in your mouth and the warmth alone should get a reaction, but it'll grow erect soon enough I'm sure. When you start teasing him ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty for turning him in, as a cheater?
Q. Why do I feel guilty? This guy my friend is dating is charming and smart. They are in a long distance relationship though, but he sends her presents, texts her everyday and has planned to be with her already at christmas and spring break. However,...
A. 3 October 2008: Maybe he's sending her gifts and being so wonderful to make himself feel better about cheating.
Do you know for sure? !110% sure? Without a doubt, that he cheated?
If so, you probably should tell her. Would you want her to keep it from you if she k... (read in full...)
MSN messages from her ex has me concerned!
Q. i am in a long distance relationship, recently i have found out my gf's ex bf has contacted her saying how sorry he is , he realises now what he lost loosing her. she says she only speaks to him as a friend and that he helped her a lot in the past ...
A. 3 October 2008: She is more than likely chatting with him and unfortunately you know the truth already. The truth is that she accidentally sent the message to you, instead of him or some other guy. I'm almost 110% sure that there is no way to send a message to you ... (read in full...)
Intimacy with my first cousin..was it wrong?
Q. hi i had a intimate relationship with my first cousin, we were together for four months and then decided to have sex, but i became pregnant and was made to have an abortion because i was only 17 and my family didn't approve, now me and my cousin d...
A. 3 October 2008: I don't think it was wrong at all. I myself don't believe in having relationships with cousins, HOWEVER; I've never been in your situation and who's to say that if I did have a cousin and fell for him, what I would do. I can't even answer that. I'm ... (read in full...)
I thought he would be ready for casual sex but he started shaking. Why, do you think?
Q. I have been sort of dating this guy from Germany. I bumped into a bunch of his friends when I was walking my dog. They were a bunch of law students having orientation. Well I hung out with him a lot more because we got along so well. But I had just ...
A. 3 October 2008: It could mean he was nervous, scared, shy, had a bad experience, was excited or a mix of a few of these things. It's hard to know without asking him what was going on.
If you are not in love with him, you might want to take into consider... (read in full...)
We were forced apart and now I don't know what to do!
Q. My girlfriend and I were forced apart. During the first few months we were apart, she lied about me, lied to me, and was flirting with her ex boyfriend. Then when she said that we'd "never be allowed together again" she gave up and dated him, yet ...
A. 3 October 2008: Chalk it up as a lesson learned. I know it may be hard, but you can be a "great" boyfriend to someone else. You want to correct your mistakes, but sometimes you have to go on with your life and make future situations/relationships better.
You can ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my penis may be too big?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now and love each together very much. I am 21 and she is 20, we are both graduating college soon and want to start a life together, but here the problem. She is very petite, at a little under 5...
A. 3 October 2008: I think she has to learn to relax. She's possibly tense and that in itself can cause it to be painful, along with the fact that you are definitely above average in size. The foreplay is a definite must, to help relax her and PLENTY of KY or ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to show up or make a move myself?
Q. hi there last year in november i was in love with the love of my life. we both loved each other and enjoyed each other 's company.this year in january i moved away for my studies ,he kept calling and everything was fine. in the holiday i went to o...
A. 3 October 2008: This has been almost a year ago. So he hasn't called you for like 9 months? If so, you should really give up. Especially if you haven't called him already. I'm not sure why you haven't, long ago.
It's been a long while...... (read in full...)
What's the crack with this 37 yr old guy?
Q. Ok whats the crack with this 37 yr old guy. He's been a friend from the pub i go in for the last 3 months. I went to his for coffee and a chin wag a week ago after he invited me. Basically see him as a friend but wouldn't say no to more if i got to ...
A. 2 October 2008: It definitely sounds as if he's not sure of what he wants. Or could he be playing you, to find out just how interested you are? Has he text or called you since you offered the rain check? It doesn't sound too good, that's for sure.
Good luck,
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems, am I overreacting? He neglected me on my birthday!
Q. of course I didn't expect to have a party or anything like that. I live with my boyfriend, so I expected him to at least do something nice. I don't care about a gift, I just wanted him to be nice/thoughtful because he never is. So I got home from ...
A. 2 October 2008: When he asked if something was wrong, you should have said YES! You can't expect some men to know what's wrong, they JUST don't know and don't want the mess of trying to figure it out. You have to tell them. Don't dwell on things when you tell them, ... (read in full...)
Why do girls give oral sex?
Q. do girls give guys bj's because they want to or do they just do it to make the guys feel good in a relationship...
A. 2 October 2008: I agree with most of the response's below. I think it's both. I do it because I know he loves it and also because I enjoy it for the fact that it gives him great pleasure and it turns me on like crazy. However; I do know of girls that dislike doing ... (read in full...)
I feel second best to a stupid computer game, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. I am currently 6 months pregnant with his first child (this problem was happening way before i got pregnant though). He does have a job, and if this wasnt a problem i think our relationship would be almost perfect. ...
A. 2 October 2008: This is so common, believe it or not. It's an addiction and thank god it's not drugs. They are both bad, but his he can walk away from without DT's.
They get so addicted that nothing else is fun to them. You will compete with this for a long time... (read in full...)
He snorts pills! Should I stay or should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. We both are so in love. He had a problem with snorting pills when we first got together. He's promised and sworn on my life that he has stopped for a year and a half. Recently his Mom ...
A. 2 October 2008: Good, I'm glad it helped. I know this can and will be hard on you, no matter your choice, but please keep in mind... this is a VERY VERY HARD habit to break. Make your choice wisely and know that you can only do so much for them. They have to do for ... (read in full...)
We can't break social customs - so is it wrong that I adore her?
Q. I am 54 with a cute wife, in spite of that i was allured to a cute widow co-worker with 3 kids who's 42. I feel happy to look at her and talk to her, i have not had an affair but have a sexual fantasy. She is aware i am fond of her, but we cant ...
A. 2 October 2008: It's definitely not a sickness. It happens to many people!!! Oh so many! However; you can be one of VERY VERY few to not let this interfere with your life, marriage, conscience and love. This would be so horrible for you. I'm sure it feels good to ... (read in full...)
He snorts pills! Should I stay or should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. We both are so in love. He had a problem with snorting pills when we first got together. He's promised and sworn on my life that he has stopped for a year and a half. Recently his Mom ...
A. 2 October 2008: If in fact you know that snorting pills is ALL he is doing, give him a chance by telling him that you will stay with him if he gets help. Tell him you will stand by him and help him get through it, but that you can't go through your life this way. ... (read in full...)
Who's more likely to end up with the girl? - A hypothetical situation
Q. Hi internet fans! I'd like to cut to the chase once and for all in relation to the subject of attraction. Ladies: which man are you most likely to be attracted to: guy no.1 who is good looking, has a great body, has personality and charm, but you ...
A. 2 October 2008: Guy #1 because I wouldn't be suffocated, since we didn't talk every day and he does in fact fancy me and took the time to write it in a letter. (when do we see each other?...lol)
Guy #2 wouldn't be my choice because if he didn't fancy me, then why... (read in full...)
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