I'm having a hard time dealing with my girlfriend's ex girlfriend!
Q. Hey. I am 18, just so people don't think I am so some fifteen year old. Lol I am in a transgender/lesbian relationship (my girlfriend being the transgender, not that it matters Lol) I am having a hard time dealing with my girlfriend's ex ...
A. 20 January 2012: You need to break up with her, she is playing you for a fool. She is treating you badly by not respecting your wishes and seeing her ex behind your back. The worst thing is that when you catch her out, she is telling you that you have a problem. ... (read in full...)
I saw him kissing another girl before he kissed me
Q. Really could do with advice, so please be honest guys and tell me what you really think of the situation. I've tried to put it as short as I can, so it doesn't sound like an essay of a story.. This guy I met in a bar just over two weeks ago, we've...
A. 20 January 2012: Hmm, I think you should just play it safe and honest.
Let him know that you liked him, but that you saw him kissing another girl that night and then afterwards he came and kissed you. Simply not on. And embarrassingly, make sure you let him know... (read in full...)
My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!
Q. Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the ...
A. 21 September 2011: The 'norm' these days is to pay for your wedding yourselves. I did with mine. If your mother can help you, that is wonderful of her - but I think it's extremely SHALLOW of you to expect her to pay for what you want - which is one big fat expensive ... (read in full...)
How do I discuss with my daughter any future contact she has with him if it is the case that he really is mentally ill? And how can I get a healthy and less victim-like view on how he has treated me?
Q. I got married when I was very young and the marriage lasted around four years. My home life prior to that had been extremely chaotic with a severely schizophrenic/violent elder sister and an abusive mother. In contrast my husband seemed calm, but I ...
A. 19 September 2011: I think you really need to see a counsellor. It is too long for this type of dwelling on your ex-husband of only 4 years. I know how frustrating it is to have to deal with ex's in regards to our children, I am in a similar circumstance myself. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone worried about having an unattractive child?
Q. so this isnt a bf/gf type question but i do need a bit of advice. Has anyone ever been worried about having an unattractive child? It may seem selfish....but i cant believe im the only one who has ever worried. Help please?...
A. 12 September 2011: Yes - you are not alone! I find out in 5 weeks if I'm going to have a 'butt-ugly' or a beautiful princess!
I know they say you shouldn't even THINK of such things, but honestly, every mother does. I don't know why, but we do - and to be honest i... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 12 September 2011: Hello OP, I agree with CindyCares, they both sound like a bunch of A******s... Good riddance to them.
But please, try hard in future not to give so much of yourself away until you really know that person first, because you deserve some of your kin... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 9 September 2011: I don't know any other way of saying this ... but your attitude is a bit weird. I would never think to get so angry and het up over a casual sexual encounter. Are you secretly in love with him to get so overworked about this issue? 1. You k... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had masturbated and then couldn't cum when we had sex. Is it ok that I am upset by this?
Q. My boyfriend recently masturbated in the toilet when I was round his house to porn. Usually porn doesn't bother me but I feel like he chose this over me and suddenly like i'm not hot enough. We went on to have sex later and he didn't cum and just ...
A. 6 September 2011: I would be very hurt by his actions, so I completely emphasise with you. AND I would be extremely angry to.
He has put wanking over his girlfriend and that is not just unfair, it's a really shitty thing to do to the girl you're in love with. M... (read in full...)
How can I get him to talk to me about his fetish for 'shemales' so we can start building the trust again?
Q. So i realize that other people have posted on here about this topic but i was kinda looking to see if anyone could give me advice on my paticular situation. I've been dating my bf for about 3 1/2 years now and we have lived together for a good ...
A. 6 September 2011: I dont know, it sounds like there is a bit of a double standard going on here from your posts?
You yourself are into threesomes and are bi-sexual - so why can't he be into shemales? You're into porn so you understand that it's there to just tur... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I know about the porn he watches?
Q. My bf is 25 and we have sex once a month! last time I had it was 6 weeks ago. and he was drunk. it was perfect though. but the first 3 intercourses (when we just started dating)were unsuccessful, I mean he couldnt come at all. and he just stopped. I ...
A. 15 August 2011: How are you? I have just seen your follow up (fantastic and very informative). You poor thing, what a BASTARD... If I could reach through the internet and scratch out his eyes for you, I would! Please try and be strong. I know that you are goi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want sex unless we are watching porn!
Q. Please you guys out there, help me!!! Since early on in our relationship my bf liked to talk dirty ok i tried it he liked it for a while, but then wanted more. So we started watching porn while having sex and looking at pictures of naked women and ...
A. 15 August 2011: I think you need to seriously rethink this relationship. Get rid of him. From what you have written, he is just plain SELFISH and LAZY. You are sexy, beautiful and hot - find someone else please - you don't have to put up with slim pickings or ... (read in full...)
I don't want my fiance having strippers at his party!
Q. Tomorrow night will be my bachelorette party and my fiance will be having his bachelor party. We are having two separate parties and I would like him to come home that night. He refuses. Our mutual friend who isn't going to his told me that there ...
A. 13 August 2011: I've just read your post and the other Aunts/Uncles replies. I wholeheartedly agree with the others, this is not right and do you really want the insecurities and attitude he is showing you just day's before your wedding, for the rest of your ... (read in full...)
He lied about having HIV, and I don't know if I can stay with him.
Q. Okay, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months now, and i just don't know what to do anymore. i've been friends with him since we were 11, and i thought we knew so much about eachother, but ever since we've been going out h...
A. 9 August 2011: Please leave him, immediately.
He has lied to you, put your health at risk and you are so young with your life ahead of you. He is jealous and possesive, these last 2 issues are enough of a concern, let alone the HIV.
Please let this one go,... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my gf's sister and my gf is abroad.
Q. hello everyone, thanks for reading my post. here is my story. i have a gf for 3 years and 2 mos and i really love her. then she left abroad to work as a nurse. my gf is pretty while her sister is not so. before she left i'm already having lustful ...
A. 9 August 2011: You are displaying shameful behaviour here. Add to the fact that your girlfriends sister has repeatedly asked you not to crack on to her, yet you keep approaching her. Listen to her and take NO for an answer. She has children, a husband and loves ... (read in full...)
He won't put pictures of us together on FB but will happily post pictures of a female colleague!
Q. Hi everyone. My hubby recently get hook with facebook, with his photos posted alone. when i handed him, some photos were taken together with me.But on facebook screen, he cut it without me inside.He remark he didn't want people to know he's ...
A. 9 August 2011: What a mean thing of him to do - and say to you! He doesn't want people to know that he is married, how dare he. You are his wife and you have every reason to be feeling insulted right now. Does he treat you like an invisible person in normal, ... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 9 August 2011: Dear OP,
Your follow up is wonderful - I am so glad that you sorted this out and have expressed everything together! You must feel so much better and reassured now. How helpful having an Uncle in the family who is a cousellor. I wish you the ... (read in full...)
Is he still loyal to me? Or is he besotted with this girl at his work who looks like a porn star?
Q. i am distrustful of my boyfriend so logged into his computer without him knowing. i searched through his internet history and found that he had found porn star images that look exactly like a girl who he works. And I know that girl at his work likes ...
A. 9 August 2011: I would be really upset if I found that on his computer, as he's fantasising about a real woman and using porn to fuel his fantasy. That is not respectful or loving to you. I would have a talk with him (and pray that the whole globe can't hear you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I know about the porn he watches?
Q. My bf is 25 and we have sex once a month! last time I had it was 6 weeks ago. and he was drunk. it was perfect though. but the first 3 intercourses (when we just started dating)were unsuccessful, I mean he couldnt come at all. and he just stopped. I ...
A. 23 July 2011: Hello gorgeous, I've just read your post and feel so awful for you. He is not treating you the way a partner should treat you full stop. And as for being a man in love (!) his values are completely wrong on all levels. The types of porn he is ... (read in full...)
Disgusting problem and feel of shame
Q. Ok, there's my problem: through a long time I used to watch and like some bizarre bestiality porn (Women with dogs, horses etc., animals mating). I'm not into real animals. Having sex with an animal - grossie, too weird... Currently I don't wa...
A. 22 July 2011: Hello, I can tell that you feel pretty bad about it, which shows that you are thinking normally, which is great.
From what I've read about all the posts, porn is something men watch for pure fantasy. You would never act these things out in real ... (read in full...)
He says he still loves me. Can I trust my ex after he cheated with hookers?
Q. I recently broke up with my ex two months ago because I found out he was sleeping with hookers when he was working away. He's now back at home and wants to start over again. I love him dearly but he broke my heart. He says he is still in love with ...
A. 20 July 2011: I agree with what the poor annonymous poster wrote who is now married and pregnant to the guy who cheated on her with hookers and girls. You will always be comparing yourself to how he did it with the prostitutes. You can't help it, and you will ... (read in full...)
Is the ex just bitter or is he a lying cheat?
Q. hi yeah how are yeas ok im 20 and my bf is 25 we have been going out for almost a year. He left his pregant gf for me well anyways she was angry at the break up and she said he was a cheat he said she just saying that cos she's p****ed so fast ...
A. 15 July 2011: Very ugly scenario posted here. The ugliest side of humanity actually. Your boyfriend is a bastard and I feel sorry for the ex-girlfriend, and I feel sorry for you. There is just something about bad men that makes women flock to them like bees to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 14 July 2011: I've just read all of the posts and your follow ups. Be careful of this relationship. It seems like he's seriously irrational, and the next step past that is violence. This guy sounds very controlling, but the second you want to leave, he'll be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said porn stars are hotter than me!
Q. My boyfriend and porn. Ever since my boyfriend got a new job we've had less time for sex. Whenever we see each other we have a lot of sex. I'm not a prude, so with me anything goes (except threesomes). I let him do whatever he wants. I sometimes ...
A. 14 July 2011: What you have written makes me so angry on your behalf - my blood is boiling!!!!! Geez... if ever there was a time to support cheating .... grrrrrr...
Seriously, please, if you can find the strength in your self to move on, please find someone ... (read in full...)
Inappropriate texts from the ex on his wedding day!
Q. Hey, I'm torn as to what to do about a guy contacting me in an inappropriate way on his wedding day! He's an ex bf, I left him, like 10 years ago after a 2 yr relationship as we'd grown apart. We had no contact at all since then, but neither of us ...
A. 13 July 2011: I would tell you boyfriend at once, and have your boyfriend to reply to the text messages and have your boyfriend threaten him that he will tell his wife if he keeps up this lewd behaviour. That will stop him dead in his tracks. However, I do ... (read in full...)
Husband confessed that he dreamt of coming home and finding me on top of another man having sex. I would love it, but not sure if I should do it
Q. I am a 33 year old married woman with 2 kids. Been married now for 13 years. Now, I won't make this long so I will just get to the point. I was a virgin when I got married and never been with another man, ever. My husband once told me that he would ...
A. 12 July 2011: Sounds like you have a pretty adventurous sex life! Just make sure that you are ok emotionally to deal with the aftermath. Sometimes what feels great in the moment can come back to hurt us emotionally once the act of sex has finished. I ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps taking money from our account!
Q. I just found out my husband took 3,000.00 from our account over the weekend and did not tell me. I found out when i went to pay my mortage of 2,800.00; there was 500.00 left in the account but he continued to use his debit card and now there is only ...
A. 12 July 2011: Please follow the advice that has been posted here! It sounds awful, you are going through hell!!! Another thought, if he isn't paying for sex or drugs, is he gambling? Please take care, your children and you come first. Lack of sex is NO EXCUSE ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my friend's boyfriend to see if he feels the same way?
Q. At the beginning of my sophomore year of high school I met my best friend. I've never been closer with anyone in my life, she knows everything there is to know about me. She trusts me more than anyone, and I trust her. Soon after we became friends ...
A. 12 July 2011: Try and think of your BEST friend, the one who understands you. Don't let your feelings of lust for HER guy destroy her self-esteem, as it will when she finds out that you have feelings for her guy. Yes, maybe he has feelings for you to. But it's ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a two-year-old to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest?
Q. Is it normal for a two year old girl to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest? She's definitely a daddy's girl but a friend of mine told me she shouldn't want to lay on him. As soon as he lays down even if she's not going down for a nap or rea...
A. 12 July 2011: It sounds like your friend has some issues from her past? It is COMPLETELY normal!! She is only 2 and a toddler for godsake! Babies and little children LOVE cuddling up to daddy and mummy, it's beautiful and loving. Enjoy xx... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her sister, she won't leave me alone..
Q. Hello dear cupic and agony aunt,i have a problem,am 22, my gf is 20. Let me hit d nail on its head! My gf and i were having sex in her place (d girl's room) and her elder sister (who is my age) came in and saw us. Now she wants me to have sex with ...
A. 12 July 2011: I can't believe you have to even ask this question! What about morals and personal principles... Try this, imagine if you had a brother and he did this to you, how would you feel? Your hurt feelings (imagine it) should be your answer. Don't do ... (read in full...)
Threesome damage and I knew better!
Q. So, another 3some gone bad. I have history with 3somes' they ruined my first marriage. After I stopped them, he went on to have affairs. I learned my lesson and for 15 years didn't have another while in a relationship. I met my sweetheart almos...
A. 5 July 2011: You poor broken hearted baby... He behaved like such a bastard. To continue with it AFTER you had left must have been indescribably painful for you to have had to sit through and suffer. My heart goes out to you at having been treated so harshly. ... (read in full...)
I found gay porn on my boyfriends laptop and he is getting closer to his gay friend, help!
Q. I love my boyfriend very much but I found gay porn on his laptop a few months ago. After much talking and thinking, I decided to ignore it and I hadn't really thought about it. My boyfriend claims it was spam and had no idea why it was on there...
A. 4 July 2011: He sounds like he is spending time with you because there is nothing better to occupy him for the time being. Incredibly cruel to leave you sick on the bathroom floor to wake up along hours later.... how awful. One very selfish boyfriend. As you ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't fancy me, why is he with me and why does he go mad if other guys look at me?
Q. I am in a 5-year relationship and, although my partner doesn't want other men looking at me or showing an interest in me, he obsesses over younger women and oftentimes masterbates as a result. I find that hurtful, especially when we probably have ...
A. 29 June 2011: Your partner's actions are cruel and hurtful. I know men masturbate, but it's the thought process behind his masturbation that makes me livid on your behalf. The fact that he's jealous of other men looking at you (good for you on being so ... (read in full...)
Had an affair and now I'm trying to work on things with my wife but the thought of anything intimate disgusts me.
Q. Ok agony aunts i need your help in the worst way! Heres my problem. My wife and i have been going thru some major issues that have been causing a rift between us. Just know that regardless of my actions i do love her and i do regret what ive ...
A. 28 June 2011: I don't often say this, but I think you should end the marriage. You are not happy and you won't find the love that has been missing from your life if you stay in this relationship. Sometimes pure willpower isn't enough to make something work that ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 23 June 2011: Your wife is extreme in her jealousy and dislike of your sister. All new parents are known for sending photo's and 'boring' their friends, let alone their family, stupid for... hmm... let me see... the next 12 months? Don't worry, it will back off ... (read in full...)
I want to keep the baby but he wants an abortion!
Q. Hello readers... I've recently found out that I am pregnant. I'm thrilled but really hurt at the same time. The father on the other hand is upset and want me to have an abortion. BIG PROBLEM, because I don't want to. I just don't understand how he ...
A. 22 June 2011: Have your baby! I went through exactly what you are going through now, only we had spent 1 year on fertility treatment and I ended up undergoing ovarian drilling on my ovaries to conceive in 2002. I had 10 minutes to enjoy my pregnancy result off ... (read in full...)
I caught boyfriend masturbating and he left, hasn't spoken to me since!
Q. hello everyone. I was wondering if you could shed some light on why my boyfriend acted like this? . . The other morning my boyfriend woke me up, the bed was shaking slightly and it was obvious he was masterbating. I dont have a problem with that and ...
A. 19 June 2011: You poor thing. You did absolutely nothing wrong. He is feeling embarrassment and is taking it out on you. But to switch so suddenly is way over the top. Does he have mood swings? It does't sound right that he would pick a fight with you and ... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 17 June 2011: This is taking the 'getting turned on by a pregnant woman' thing to far. I have an 8 year old daughter and am 5 1/2 months pregnant, so I can appreciate the whole 'he is not the father of my child' apprehension. But in this instance, you have a ... (read in full...)
I really connected with my boyfriend's friend during our threesome, I need advice!
Q. Hey, I'm new here trying this out in need of a lil advice. My boyfriend and I had a 3some this weekend with one of his friends. It was a long time coming. I think his friend is really hot. Anyways, during us doing it, I felt a different conn...
A. 14 June 2011: This is the disaster of threesomes. Sometimes one of you start's to fancy the other party! This is one reason I don't agree with them, however, I am NOT judging you on this at all. How long have you and your boyfriend been together and who... (read in full...)
I think my husband is homosexual!
Q. i have been married to my husband for seven years and have one child. in the past two years things between me and my husband have been very strained and the sex has been non-existent except for when he is drunk. i was on our shared laptop when i ...
A. 14 June 2011: This sounds like a bad nightmare coming true... I think from what you have written that it does sound like he is gay. Finding his new friend so interesting that he isn't coming home, gay porn (that could just be an interest however). The worrying ... (read in full...)
Trying to come to terms with being 3 months pregnant and getting hate texts from the father and his wife.
Q. i started meetin a fellow which i taught to be very nice. was seeing him for about two months when he told my sister that he would like to get me pregnant but for as i have 3 kids myself i felt like i had my lot and was in no way interested in havin ...
A. 14 June 2011: What cruel and calculating stupid bastards they are. You are going through hell right now and this has been an awful shock for you. I know the circumstances weren't great to begin with and this baby wasn't planned, so it is not your fault - he led ... (read in full...)
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