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| | *opeful Romantic's profile:I am in a great relationship with a guy who is good to me, successful, positive, supportive, and simply fun to be around. I try to make him happy and feel special in return.
Communication is the key to every relationship as everyone surely knows and we are pretty good at that. Every day is not perfect and little things get to me sometiems, I try to get over them.
Relationships are hard because we all want everything to be perfect and they're not. It seems so easy to just break up when one is mad when what we really need to do is sit back, think about it, calm down, and analyze the situation.
I only hope that I can help a couple of people with the lessons that I have learned. I love to give advice as well as receive it. Funny how I can be of help to others with their problems, but I in turn need advice from others to help me with my problems, so we are here to help each other out, which is why this site is so wonderful! |
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I find our 3 year relationship boring but am afraid of leaving b/f
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now. The last 6 months I have not been feeling the same. He is a lovely guy and I know he loves me but I find our relationship quite boring, I don't have any want to have sex with him (and ...
A. 6 May 2012: Dump your boyfriend and go after the new guy.
It would be silly to stay with your boyfriend if you're feeling this way. ... (read in full...)
Smother-in-laws
Q. What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...
A. 6 May 2012: You are welcome for the update and I am sure you are a great grandmother. :) You give good, normal advice.
Just to let you know, we did let Granny stay with us a couple of nights after we got home with the baby. She did help out. She did drive me n... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 6 May 2012: Be proud. There aren't many 42 year old women that get the opportunity to bang it out on a young guy again...
it would probably be fun. lol ... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 6 May 2012: Do not tell your husband.
It is normal to have a guy from your past that you always wonder "what if."
Especially when you're mad at your husband or things aren't going your way, it is super easy to wonder, "Would it have been better with that oth... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 6 May 2012: I think it's good you stood your ground and told him how it's going to be.
If he doesn't agree with how you want things, then you won't be a part of what he wants to do.
Never give up on what you want and what you believe in.
Say no to the ev... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 5 May 2012: I am sorry you have to deal with a "what if" in life.
Many of us do - there is always that guy that we'll never know for sure if it would have worked or not. If it would be better with him....
Just try to shake it off and think of somethin... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 5 May 2012: Ignore the sister as much as possible.
Do not contact her at all for any reason.
If you are forced to see her at a family event, kill her with kindness... say hi, ask how she's doing and smile.
Ask your husband not to tell her anything abo... (read in full...)
I am engaged to a good man who will only have sex with me about once a month.
Q. I need a lot of advice. I am engaged to a good man who will only have sex with me about once a month. (If I'm lucky) ... here's our history... we've been together for 6 years. I wanted to marry him as soon as I met him. During the 2nd month he ...
A. 4 May 2012: It could be a hormonal thing.
It could be bad diet, maybe too much drinking, but he usually uses excuses like...
he's stressed, overworked, tired, I've been being too moody, we don't go to bed at the same time every night, he's sick- his ear hurt... (read in full...)
I am engaged to a good man who will only have sex with me about once a month.
Q. I need a lot of advice. I am engaged to a good man who will only have sex with me about once a month. (If I'm lucky) ... here's our history... we've been together for 6 years. I wanted to marry him as soon as I met him. During the 2nd month he ...
A. 4 May 2012: It could be a hormonal thing.
It could be bad diet, maybe too much drinking, but he usually uses excuses like...
he's stressed, overworked, tired, I've been being too moody, we don't go to bed at the same time every night, he's sick- his ear hurt... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 4 May 2012: Make sure he's 19. Make sure he's not a friend to one of your children. Go for it if you want, but remember, young guys are wild and aren't always faithful. So, try not to fall in love. ... (read in full...)
She said once we were married the sex would get better, but here I am a year later and she still does not want sex!
Q. I've been married for about a year, and my wife only wants to have sex about once a week (if that). She has had minimal interest in sex since we first started seeing each other about three years ago. She has said she's just not that interested ...
A. 4 May 2012: I would love once a week, but I'm lucky if I get it once a month.
So see, it's not always the woman who doesn't want it, in my case it's the man.
And I never in a million years thought I would find myself in such a situation.
Try seducing her... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so controlling towards my boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I didn't realize as such before but the other day my boyfriend told me I am too controlling and demanding in our relationship and is sometimes hard to handle. I then realized I am. The only trouble is ...
A. 4 May 2012: I tell my man how to do things as well and he also hates it.
My argument is, am I really suppose to live with you doing things the way I don't like it forever?
There is no easy answer to solve your question...
My best advice to you is what I ha... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so insecure?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are perfect together. However I am quite insecure due to being lied to and cheated on in the past, my past 2 ex-boyfriends chosing to be with someone else over me. I have nothing to complain about with my current boyfriend (we've ...
A. 4 May 2012: I have been in your shoes before... cheated on by many and insecure in a new relationship... honestly, I don't think you'll get out of being insecure until you have been together long enough to realize you do truly trust him.
And even 4 years la... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so insecure?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are perfect together. However I am quite insecure due to being lied to and cheated on in the past, my past 2 ex-boyfriends chosing to be with someone else over me. I have nothing to complain about with my current boyfriend (we've ...
A. 4 May 2012: I have been in your shoes before... cheated on by many and insecure in a new relationship... honestly, I don't think you'll get out of being insecure until you have been together long enough to realize you do truly trust him.
And even 4 years la... (read in full...)
Should I accept my brother's girlfriend Facebook request?
Q. This may seem like no big deal but I should let you know that I keep my facebook friend list very limited. I don't go around sending or accepting requests for and from everyone I meet on the street. (this isn't twitter). I have about 100 hundred ...
A. 4 May 2012: I would add her and limit her and delete her if they break up...
I also try to keep mine limited, but not as much as I would like to.
I'm sure this girl just wants all of his family to like her and if she becomes your FB friend, maybe ya'll wi... (read in full...)
Smother-in-laws
Q. What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...
A. 4 May 2012: Funny, now that our baby is 9 months old, she has babysat at our house 2 or 3 times and only 3 times at her house...
seems like she is now too busy to babysit -
she asks when she gets to babysit again, I ask her when she wants to - then she give... (read in full...)
Smother-in-laws
Q. What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...
A. 29 April 2011: You are absolutely right. And I appreciate your advice. :)
But I still wish she would chill out on the future requests.
For some stupid reason it stresses me out & I know I don't need stress.
I need to figure out how to tell her that I feel ... (read in full...)
Smother-in-laws
Q. What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...
A. 29 April 2011: I understand that she will be a huge part in babysitting when we need that. I just can't stress enough as to how overwhelming, demanding and intruding she is. And I just don't like the future plans that she is trying to set in stone before I even h... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 19 November 2008: That is a great name!
Is she still living w/ you, has she made up w/ her parents & possibly moved in w/ her boyfriend instead?... (read in full...)
What should my next step be?
Q. I had been married to Hindu girl. Before marriage, she got herself converted to Muslim and accepted Islam as per me and my guardian’s wishes. We got married on Jan ’08 and started staying ourselves ( only me and her ). She got pregnant within t...
A. 14 October 2008: Oh my goodness, what a mess! I am so sorry you are having to deal with all this. First of all... you are her husband, so I do not understand why she would not want to be with you during the delivery of your baby. You have as much right to be a part ... (read in full...)
Should I choose the good boy? Or the bad boy?
Q. i posted this on yahoo, so the 3 bottom paragraphs are in response to questions. that is why they are phrased strangely. they are pertinent info though so i left them Went home for my cousins wedding, met a boy, hung out with boy, liked boy, boy...
A. 8 October 2008: I have dated many bad boys and have learned many lessons from doing so. You can't turn a bad boy into a good boy - it just doesn't happen. I recommend going after the good boy. Not only will you have much more fun w/ the good guy, but your life will ... (read in full...)
32 year old christian virgin - should I lose it in Amsterdam?
Q. I'm a 32 Christian male, single (and have always been) and still a virgin. All my friends are getting married and I feel left behind. I've never been very out-going and this "no-sex-before-marriage" thing is engrained in me but recently getting ...
A. 6 October 2008: Yes, girls love guys in their 30's!! (I do any way) ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to keep our unborn child?
Q. Hello cupid readers.... I once came upon this site about 3 months ago, when I had just found out that I got a 15 year old pregnant. I decided to delete my old account becuse of the rude things I was told. Now I have come back for advice, but not for ...
A. 6 October 2008: The only way I can see you talking her into keeping the child is if you were to get into a relationship with her. Are you two together? Or are you still just her brothers friend? I think you should consider her being your girlfriend, ask her if this ... (read in full...)
32 year old christian virgin - should I lose it in Amsterdam?
Q. I'm a 32 Christian male, single (and have always been) and still a virgin. All my friends are getting married and I feel left behind. I've never been very out-going and this "no-sex-before-marriage" thing is engrained in me but recently getting ...
A. 6 October 2008: Don't do it, you'll regret it. If you are a Christian, this is a sin and you know it.
I am sure the depression is getting to you as Emily said below. I also get depressed that all of my friends are getting married and having children and I'm not ... (read in full...)
Infidelity flashbacks - how can I get over this now that I'm happily married?
Q. I'm 42, consider myself mature, and am no means weak minded or overly sensitive (I'm in the middle of my third combat tour in Iraq). The closest term I can use to describe my problem is infidelity flashback. I have a long history of being cheated...
A. 6 October 2008: It's hard, I know. I have a similar situation, but vise versa by genders. My dad cheated on my mom, both of my sisters husbands cheated on them, one of my friends boyfriend cheats on her all the time & she keeps taking him back, and all of my ... (read in full...)
She keeps popping into my life all the time, should I ask my mate's girlfriend to tell her I like her?
Q. hi, I was meeting up with a girl a few months ago that had just broken up with her boyfriend. We really liked eachother but I could tell she wasn't over her boyfriend. Although I could tell she really liked me I could see that she would probab...
A. 6 October 2008: You don't know that they are happy. If they broke up and got back together - that tells me they may not be happy. So, just tell your friends girlfriend that you do like her friend and ask her if she wouldn't mind mentioning it to that girl and then ... (read in full...)
She keeps popping into my life all the time, should I ask my mate's girlfriend to tell her I like her?
Q. hi, I was meeting up with a girl a few months ago that had just broken up with her boyfriend. We really liked eachother but I could tell she wasn't over her boyfriend. Although I could tell she really liked me I could see that she would probab...
A. 6 October 2008: Yes, tell her to inform the girl! You've got nothing to lose - you either gain a girlfriend, or it takes a while, but better the girl know you like her, then never knowing, or else you'll never get your chance w/ her, she has to know! ... (read in full...)
Artist block: how can I compromise?
Q. It's been a couple of months sense my boyfriend has moved in with me. He loves my art and I appreciate that very much, but if I don't draw for one day he'll get a little sad, well more like a pouty sad. Basically in my opinion he wants me to draw ...
A. 6 October 2008: Yeah you are just going to have to tell him, "Look, I cannot draw without my music & if you don't like hearing it, I can compromise by listening to my music on my Ipod, but if you feel like I am ignoring you while listening ot my Ipod, then I will ... (read in full...)
I am totally stumped as to what to get for my best friend's birthday, any ideas?
Q. It's not exactly a question and I guess you guys see this type of question on here often, but I need help. It's my really close friend's birthday soon and I don't know what to get her. I was thinking of doing something based on our friendship t...
A. 6 October 2008: When I go shopping I look for unique gifts that I think nobody else would ever think of as well as something I would like.
Here are some options for you: jewlry (necklace, sterling silver ring, bracelet), a gift basket full of different things such... (read in full...)
His family don't want him to be with me and are making our lives hell.
Q. well I am back on here. I told you last week about my man and me. He is 69 years old and I am 65 years old and we have been dating 3 years and 10 months. His kids have never liked the idea of us dating. They want him 24/7 to meet their needs. ...
A. 6 October 2008: I am so sorry you are having to deal with this - it is a shame. One of my friends dads got with a woman whom she did not like. But, her dad ended up telling her that he liked this woman and asked her to try and appreciate that and be happy for him ... (read in full...)
How can I pretend to be a virgin when I marry?
Q. i have done sex before marrige with my boyfriend and now i am getting married to some one else and scared of that he will come to know that i am not a virgin so how can i make him belive that i never had sex before can my vagina b as tight before?...
A. 3 October 2008: I do not agree with hiding the truth. But I have heard that one way you can keep your vagina tight is by exercising it. Basically, use your muscles on the inside (of your vagina) by squeezing & letting go, squeeze and let go over and over again & do ... (read in full...)
What are the effects of cannabis use?
Q. can someone explain the effects of the drug weed to me please? is it seriously harmful if smoked daily? my boyfriends smokes it and has been doin for three years now, just abit concerened for his health. x please help thanks x...
A. 3 October 2008: Want to know why weed is not horrible? Because in the whole history of the world, it has NEVER killed anybody!
My suggestion to the writer is ... let your man smoke in the evenings after work, this is much better than taking a "downer" pill or drin... (read in full...)
What are the effects of cannabis use?
Q. can someone explain the effects of the drug weed to me please? is it seriously harmful if smoked daily? my boyfriends smokes it and has been doin for three years now, just abit concerened for his health. x please help thanks x...
A. 2 October 2008: I would rather have a man smoke weed after work than drink alcohol after work. I think alcohol is much worse on someone's temper - the worst thing about weed is the fact that it is illegal in most states. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 1 October 2008: I am a photographer. (my degree was in photographic technology)
I am not married, but have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I am the longest relationship he has ever been in & the first girl that has ever lived w/ him, so we must be doing some... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Apology accepted. :)
I hope you have a great day and good luck to Room or Tenant. ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: I agree that things are different according to being married or just living together. In the paragraph of examples that I gave, half of my examples were married people and the other half were single people - all with different living situations & ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Troubledtoomuch, you know, I did sound a bit bitter in my first entry. I suppose I was, but mostly toward the fact that he is asking her to pay rent when his house is paid off. The only way that would be acceptable in my opinion is if they were not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't wake me up to join him in bed at night, if I fell asleep somewhere else. I don't see why.
Q. I was just wondering what other peoples view on this is... When I go to bed at night, if my boyfriend has fallen asleep somewhere besides bed, I always wake him up to come join me in bed. Last night, I had kind of fallen asleeep on the couch. I...
A. 1 October 2008: DiovanLestat, you're right, he is a good one and I am lucky to have him. Thank you so much. :) ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin that I really do like her?
Q. Me and my cousin liked each other since we were at least 10, but we never did anything. but now we are older and we still know that we like each other but sometimes i resist cause i know we are third cousins but i still have feelings for her should ...
A. 1 October 2008: No, that is your cousin! Find someone else that is not related to you to start crushing on & this should help your feelings toward your cousin cease. ... (read in full...)
This ia about my daughter - which for me at the moment is causing me quite a bit of stress.
Q. My 22yr old daugher has recently returned home after splitting up with her boyfriend of seven years. with whom she lived with for a year. This has become quite a messy situation and I am doing all I can to support her. However, since coming back...
A. 1 October 2008: PS - I would expect her to help with cleaning the house. (just a last thought)... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 1 October 2008: Wow, troubledtoomuch, I am sorry you think I am bitter. The suggestion I gave about what "older folks" say is what my father, grandfather, hair dresser, and many other older people in my family told me growing up. (it doesn't mean that they were ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 1 October 2008: I hope all goes well and/or went well. Remember - you never have to do anything a friend asks you to do, but if you really care for them and love them deeply as a friend, then you try to be there any time they need you. :)... (read in full...)
This ia about my daughter - which for me at the moment is causing me quite a bit of stress.
Q. My 22yr old daugher has recently returned home after splitting up with her boyfriend of seven years. with whom she lived with for a year. This has become quite a messy situation and I am doing all I can to support her. However, since coming back...
A. 1 October 2008: $60.00 is not too much to ask for, but I must be honest and tell you that I would be completely devastated if one of my parents asked me for rent money. I know you are only trying to teach her a lesson and ease your worry on her late nights, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't wake me up to join him in bed at night, if I fell asleep somewhere else. I don't see why.
Q. I was just wondering what other peoples view on this is... When I go to bed at night, if my boyfriend has fallen asleep somewhere besides bed, I always wake him up to come join me in bed. Last night, I had kind of fallen asleeep on the couch. I...
A. 30 September 2008: Thank all of you who replied! I really do appreciate it as it is nice to read others view points.
Funny thing is, yesterday, my boyfriend actually told me, "You know, last night, I was just going to look and make sure there was nothing on the bed ... (read in full...)
How should we split up the bills?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...
A. 30 September 2008: He is using you. Older folks say that the man should pay for everything. If the man wants the woman living with them, then they pay the rent. I wish that were the case these days, but sadly, it's not.
So, it's okay for you to pay HALF of the bill... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 27 September 2008: If you are REALLY her friend, you would be there any time she asked you to be (as long as it isn't for anything illegal.)
Having a baby at a young age is a lot harder than having one at an older age. Your friend is going to face a lot of chal... (read in full...)
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