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I believe ......That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
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I believe.......That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
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I believe.......That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
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I believe.......That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
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I believe.......That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I believe.......That we are all responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
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I believe.......That you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I believe.......That my best friend and I could do anything or nothing and have the best time.
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I believe.......That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I believe.......That sometimes when I am angry, I have a right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
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I believe.......That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
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I believe.......That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become.
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How men like making wives jealous
Q. This is trick of the mind.My male cousin has been cheating on his wife since time they've been married.We don't know what it is that he's telling her but shes posting things on fb to prove that their marriage is great.He don't tell us much but the ...
A. 31 March 2012:
I think if I was in your position, I would speak to your cousin - if you have proof and know that he is having an affair, then tell him you know - tell him either he stops and tells his wife, or you will tell her yourself!
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How do I pursue my one night stand? It seemed like he wanted more!
Q. So I had this one night stand with this amazing guy, we cuddled afterwards and he held my hand. He spent the night and cuddled me in the morning and did it again. We spent some time talking and had alot in common. We felt connected and he blew off ...
A. 30 March 2012:
If he is interested in you he will pursue you, believe me, because that is what men do when they are interested!
Personally I have never had a one night stand, but I would guess it is rather odd the following day and a little awkward. He... (read in full...)
Blow job with a condom?
Q. I want to give this guy a blow job but I can not stand semen! People tell me to spit it out but even the thought of having it in my mouth makes me wanna throw up. What should I do? Is it OK to give a blow job with a condom so that the semen doesn't ...
A. 30 March 2012:
Like previously advised - Condoms are good for protection. In my opinion having sampled flavoured condoms when in my younger years, they aren't that good, and the flavour goes within minutes.
A true gent will tell you when he is about to cum... (read in full...)
Do men like to be chased first?
Q. Do men liked to be chased? When they're not calling and texting you is it because they do want to or they waiting for you to do it?...
A. 30 March 2012:
From my experience with men - They are hunters, and enjoy doing the chasing! If they arent texting you its because you arent on their mind or they arent that interested. ... (read in full...)
She says I suck in bed because my penis is too small and I'm not very good at having sex with her! What can I do to give her the best sex she's ever had?
Q. Hi I have a really big issue with my girl Basically she says I suck in bed that there is only one position that she likes that gives her pleasure but not nearly enough to satisfy her. She thinks it's because my penis is too small and since I lo...
A. 26 March 2012:
I really do dislike women who talk in this manner about the size of men!
Rather than making out that you're the one with the problem, who is to say that it is not her who has the problem - how would she like it if you said "well perhaps its ... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell someone the stupid stuff I did as a kid if we're in a relationship?
Q. Hey everyone. When I was kid, and a younger teen I did some stupid stuff, that I regret, it's nothing serious, just stupid stuff. My question is to have a serious, long term, intimate relationship, do I ever have to mention the stupid thing...
A. 25 March 2012:
Hey, unless you are a mass murderer, don't beat yourself up about it! If you have got yourself on the straight an narrow, that is all that matters now and good for you.
If you meet someone, you don't need to tell her on the first date. I we... (read in full...)
Dating a divorced man
Q. Hi everyone! I have been with this guy for 2 months now and he is in the process of getting a divorce. He was very honest to me in the very first time. He told me after he broke up with his ex wife, he only went out with 4 girls and nothing seri...
A. 25 March 2012:
This guy has just come out of a marriage, he is starting to feel his feet and enjoy the single life. He feels like a child in a sweet shop, lots of single females to choose from and is going to enjoy as many of those sweets as he possibly can beca... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012:
Have you ever asked yourself the same question.... why are you bothered by it?
Personally it doesn't bother me, simply because I am happy with who I am and at no point have I ever felt threatened by the beautiful women in the porn films. Not ... (read in full...)
She wont talk dirty to me!
Q. Av been with my gf 7 months and i really want to talk dirty with her but she wont.how can i change her mind ????...
A. 24 March 2012:
You can't change her mind and you have to respect her wishes.
However, has she explained why she won't do it? Is she embarrassed by it? If that was the case then you could try talking dirty via text first and build it up from there as her... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012:
There appears to be lots of similar questions being asked of late relating to porn - I am unsure as to whether they are purely from you, but my gut feeling is that it is you. Apologies if I am wrong and I am by no means having a go about it as w... (read in full...)
Is he abusing me?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has been verbally and emotionally abusive. I have been devastated but he says it's not abuse. Again today he shut off the cable, the Internet and the phones. All meanwhile he is calling me a slut, dumb bitch, stupid and my 10 ...
A. 24 March 2012:
What you’re describing is emotional abuse.
This verbal abuse and mental torture is classed as domestic violence and he shouldn’t be allowed to treat you this way.
You’re not a dumb bitch or stupid - This is a very common thing for an ... (read in full...)
35 years late he insinuates himself into facebook conversations with emotional references to the past!
Q. my first boyfriend went away to college said we should date and sleep with others while he was away said we should start doing this before he left he did not take me to his prom I found out later that he even slept with my best friend he came back ...
A. 24 March 2012:
In my opinion he could be looking for some excitement in his life. Married life has probably become rather dull etc and you came to mind so he searched you on FB.
He is probably testing the water with you by coming out with silly comments lik... (read in full...)
Should I change my hair colour for him?
Q. I am dating a new guy and his type is brunette with olive skin. I am blonde, which i dye. My natural color is dark brown. Should I go back to my natural color? He asked me to but acted like he was joking but i dont think he was. So stay blond or go ...
A. 21 March 2012:
You have whatever hair colour YOU want.... don't change yourself for a man - don't ever go down that route please!!!! ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts..
Q. I lost my virginity about a month ago. since then, i've had sex about 4 times. the problem is that i have pain during penetration. he can get it all the way in but he is not able to thrust because it hurts me. will this go away or is there something ...
A. 21 March 2012:
You are probably tensed up and a little nervous as it is all new to you. Try and relax, have lots of foreplay as this will help you relax and arouse you enough for intercourse. Try not to worry, it can be quite daunting when you first start havi... (read in full...)
How can women watch porn with their partners?
Q. One thing that bugs me is how can women watch porn with their boyfriends/husbands? Aren't you bothered he's getting turned on by another woman, who he possibly thinks is hotter? The thought is horrible....
A. 21 March 2012:
Having watched porn myself with a partner, Its not the sexy hot bodies that turns me on, its more the watching of the act that can be arousing. (Men correct me if I am wrong here) - but I think a lot of men see it this way too. Most men real... (read in full...)
The girl I was dating slept with a co-worker and then ended things with me. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. About a month ago, I went on a chat site when I was at a loose end, I wasn't looking for anyone but ended up chatting to a girl. She gave me her number, we texted and eventually decided to meet. She looked lovely, genuine, and said she looked f...
A. 21 March 2012:
Thats nice of her to inform you - adding more salt to the wounds!
Carrying on ignoring her, she will hate it and besides she isn't worth wasting a text on or any more of your time for that matter!... (read in full...)
Dumping a guy over pornography use?
Q. Has anyone here ever dumped anyone over pornography use? How bad was it? I want to find a man who doesn't use it so I can feel special for once....
A. 20 March 2012:
I am sorry to say, but I think you need to take your rose tinted glasses off!
I doubt there is a man on this earth who has never at some point watched porn, or women for that matter unless they haven't got electricity!
Perhaps the probl... (read in full...)
FWB with you ex boyfriend...good idea or bad?
Q. friends with benefits?? good or bad idea with your ex boyfriend?...
A. 20 March 2012:
FWB are not ideal at the best of times because more often than not, one person usually starts growing feelings for the other and then it gets messy. I personal think it would be a bad idea for you as you have already had feelings for him sinc... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 19 March 2012: Thanks for your follow up. I am sorry that it hurt, but the truth always does, but you must realise that your wife is hurting a lot lot more right now.
It must be extremely difficult for your wife if this woman is local and I guess everyone... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he obsessed with me?
Q. So this guy has wanted to be with me for a very long time and finally had the chance to make his move. We have many things in common. We've always got along very well. We've been seeing each other for about a month and we've said just about ...
A. 19 March 2012:
I think you are struggling with the fact that someone really does genuniely love you.
I have a friend who is experiencing the exact same thing right now. She has been with her partner for 18 months but struggles with all the love and affectio... (read in full...)
I think he's married but he denied and now has little contact with me!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now! i have asked him from the start if he was married he has repeatedly denied that he was! the other day another woman sent me a pic of him and his so called wife. When i asked he said it was his ex. ...
A. 19 March 2012:
Well having read your post and your follow ups, if you trust him, then why don't you confront the woman who keeps sending the emails and photos?
He may be right, she could be an ex who just won't let go.
This isn't normally my style, h... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 19 March 2012:
I am sorry to say but I doubt your wife will ever forgive or forget and no matter what you try and do to win her heart back, it will NEVER EVER be the same again! Two years is a very long time to have betrayed a loved one.
My advice is, let her ... (read in full...)
I feel badly that I pushed him away because I was having doubts!
Q. Dear cupid, My name is stella,Please help me with your advice. I met this man online dating,we have been out on two dates so far.We seem to like each other and get on well.But on our second date i pushed him away,because i kept having doubts ab...
A. 19 March 2012:
I believe in gut instinct as it very rarely lets us down - but in saying that, I myself have foolishly only just started listening to mine!
The same as you, I met a guy online and on the second date was having doubts, and my gut instinct was... (read in full...)
She cried when I said I just wanted to be friends!
Q. Hi, I recently met a woman who is a few years older than me. We got on really well, talked on the phone for hours and were texting eachother constantly. I saw a couple pics of her and decided to meet her in person. She was even better looking in the ...
A. 19 March 2012:
If you aren't over your ex then you really shouldn't be looking at other women. You need to take a break from women completely for a while and get your head clear.
She is ignoring you because you have hurt her - she cried because she thought ... (read in full...)
How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012:
It depends on him really and as to whether he likes to hold it back.... you can be the best hand job queen ever but if he likes to make it last he will do... so don't worry about how long it takes! lots of hand movement,and don't be afraid to use ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont spend mothers day with me - am I overreacting?
Q. This time last year my grandmother died and it is mothers day weekend as everyone knows and my mum is working all day today and tomorrow. My boyfriend knows how upset i am, i was crying yesterday because I am just feeling quite lonely. At Christmas ...
A. 17 March 2012:
You appear to be hanging on to the fact that your grandmother died last year and that is why your emotional. Is this your mothers mother? Because if it is, she appears to be dealing with it and is working all weekend! I am sorry to sound so hars... (read in full...)
Where do I go to find my biological father?
Q. Biological Fatherless Child. Worse than fatherless. I looked up and thought another man was my father. He was not a great man, but he 'was' my father. 12 years old I found out otherwise. I am brunette, I have 3 brothers now, 2 blonde.....
A. 17 March 2012:
As already suggested search online, there are lots of sites and some are free.
However, what I am more interested/concerned about for you is, ARE you ready in your mind for a bad outcome from this - because it could be!? I am sorry to sound neg... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a 16 year old to go out with a 20 year old?
Q. Hey im just wondering peoples opinions on this. Is it weird for a 20 year old to go out with a 16 year old?...
A. 14 March 2012:
I guess everyone is different, and it depends how mature the 16 year old is for their age and if the parents are ok with it.
I was 16 (back in the early 80s) when I met my first ever boyfriend who was also 20. We actually lasted 6 years!... (read in full...)
Are hospital A&E departments not supposed to give out the morning after pill?
Q. so i was with a guy for nearly 3 years, and we always practiced safe sex, but one night we had no condoms and we just could not help ourselves, so we had unprotected sex. i went to the hospital A+E the next morning and got the morning after pill. ...
A. 14 March 2012: I think your GP was referring to the fact it wasn't really an emergency, in that it wasn't a matter of life or death since you have up to 72 hours to take the morning after pill. Having worked for the NHS I know that some, but not all A&Es actually ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my younger FWB?
Q. I have left my 19 year old FWB and now I miss him more then ever. I have gone in a depression mode. At first it was just all for sex and then i started having feelings for him. I want a relationship with him but he doesnt. I really dont think he ...
A. 14 March 2012:
Try not to blame yourself because you did nothing wrong, other than enter into a FWB relationship and fall for him. I will confess, I did something similar recently and fell for a toe rag (but no gf involved), and now I too am licking my woun... (read in full...)
I eat as a stress reliever, how do I stop?
Q. For over 10 years i thought i suffered from panic attacks. I had all the symtoms. I was stressed. I'd get hot and panicy. I'd have serious chest pain that would not leave me for hours. I couldn't always breath and calm myself down. I was told it was ...
A. 14 March 2012:
When you go and see your GP, ask if they can refer you to a Dietitan. I know they have them in the Health Centres as I used to work for the NHS.
It may help you to keep a daily diary of what you eat and what symptoms occur and take that with yo... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a partner's thick pre-ejaculate?
Q. Hello all and thanks for reading :) I've given my new partner oral sex in the shower and in bed, but it was after having made love already earlier that evening. However, most recently, we were getting into the mood, lots of foreplay, so I too...
A. 12 March 2012:
Like the previous advise given, wipe it off with your hand. If you want to do it discretely then as you are down there sucking, just twist and twirl your hand up and over the end of his penis and wipe it off that way. Failing that, why don't you ... (read in full...)
How do I convince him that I love him and he should stay in this country with me?
Q. This guy is from Lithuania originally and I met him a couple of years ago when I started working at the same place as him. We have really gotten to know each other but he is so shy, even now! I know he has feelings for me and he cares, but he's been ...
A. 12 March 2012: He sounds extremely mixed up emotionally and it appears that no matter what you do or say won't change this. Besides, none of us have the power to convince someone to do anything - it has to come from within and you must allow him and respect his ... (read in full...)
The girl I was dating slept with a co-worker and then ended things with me. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. About a month ago, I went on a chat site when I was at a loose end, I wasn't looking for anyone but ended up chatting to a girl. She gave me her number, we texted and eventually decided to meet. She looked lovely, genuine, and said she looked f...
A. 12 March 2012:
My opinion for what is worth is, let her go! Do you really want to be with someone who puts it about so freely?
If you did start seeing her how would you feel when she went away dancing again? You would be thinking she is up to no good and rig... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset about the fact that my girlfriend still keeps photos of her boyfriend who died 12 years ago?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for three years. She kept photos up of her and her deceased boyfriend (posed together) who died 12 years ago. We had none of us. After we had been togehter 2 years, I mentioned that I felt that she was living in ...
A. 12 March 2012:
Have you ever lost a loved one? I guess not, otherwise you may look at it differently. However, I do think that eventually she will take his photos down but she needs to do it in her own time.
I kind of feel for you, because I understand t... (read in full...)
I pushed him for comittment and he made his excuses, now I find pictures of nude girls on his phone!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a few months, at first everything seemed great until he started acting strange disappearing not calling as much, texting ppl late etc... When I started pushing commitment he started saying I have too many make friends ...
A. 12 March 2012:
Ignore his texts... and move on!
He is a dog, a pig and a complete player! This guy is not ideal boyfriend material. He will make you think that you are the crazy one (if you allow him to) but he is the one in the wrong.
He won't change -... (read in full...)
Do I make a move yet, or just wait and invite her over as a friend?
Q. I have liked this girl for a long time. We're great friends and I would love to be with her. However, she has always had boyfriends, and when I did ask her out, she sent me a nice email saying that we would never be more than friends (that was ...
A. 12 March 2012:
I really don't know how to put this to you, other than being completely straight!
This girl isn't interested in you other than just purely as a friend who she can talk to - besides she has already made it clear to you that you will always be no... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: Butterfly, time is the only healer unfortunately which is how I am getting myself through it too right now.
Like your guy, the one I was seeing said he wasn't sure what he wanted - so he used the word "casual" instead of FWB (rather clever e... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 11 March 2012:
You obviously haven't realised that the problem lies with you and not your girlfriend!
You are seriously insecure and you need to address this before you lose what appears to be a fantastic girlfriend. If you aren't careful she will be the ... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 11 March 2012:
Basically, what he is wanting you to do is provide him with sex and keep you as a back up whilst he sources something better. I have lost count how many times I have heard a man say he isn't ready for a relationship, but happy to have sex with... (read in full...)
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