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Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them?
Q. Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them? As in, like I care for you enough to the point where I love you but I'm not in love with you. I don't know if that made any sense. sorry! haha...
A. 24 December 2010: Absolutely, In fact most poeple saying i love you very rarely mean it. When you love someone it can mean many things in many ways. However when you are in love with someone there are very few words or ways to truly explain how you feel. For exapmle ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and a virgin!
Q. i am 23 years old guy and going to be 24 this December......and i am still a virgin.... i masturbate when i feel turning on, but about sex with a girl(i feel like is it right to have sex with any girl who likes me, or to whom i like?).....
A. 7 October 2010: Don't worry. I was a virgin until 24 years of age. And ive only had one sexual partner. I ve had sex less than 20 times in my life so dont worry. there is no rush!!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for 13 years old to want to have sex?
Q. I'm 13 years-old and my boyfriend is 13 too this weekend my boyfriend want's me to give him a hand job and a blow job , is it normoal for kid;s our age wannaing to do that ??? Thanks i hope some one can help me with my Question xx ...
A. 1 October 2010: 3 little words
"DONT DO IT"... (read in full...)
Is porn cheating?
Q. I don't no weather porn is cheating but every time I find out he is doing it he lies to me and says am inscure but when he promess he wouldt haw does he excpect me to react ????...
A. 1 October 2010: Personally i dont think porn is cheating, it's just his way of seeing something he likes harmlessly. However if it bothers you tell him. there are 2 options. watch it with him and perhaps allow yourselves to get carried awway, after all one thing ... (read in full...)
Do guys get surprised when the see what the breasts are shaped like without the bra?
Q. Are you ready for a nontraditional question? Do guys get pleasantly/nonpleasantly surprised (you decide) when the bras come off their girlfriends? Girls wear all sorts of push up bras, lifting bras etc. that I'm curious if guys get surprise...
A. 1 October 2010: I was lucky enough the other day to have my girlfriend agree to take her bra off for me for the first time. Now my gf has a 5 month old baby and is still breast feeding, but she is also a model. When she is dressed she has a lovely pair of breasts ... (read in full...)
13 and pregnant
Q. I am pregnant im am 13 my boyfriend is 14 we have been together for almost a year now I love him so so much but i have no idea how to tell my mom and their is no way to tell my dad trust me...I just need to know im not alone and i need advise on how ...
A. 30 September 2010: OK, firstly your old enough to get pregnant so your old enough to take the consequences and a sharp tongue. You stupid girl!! There telling off over, because whats done is done and now you gotta look to the future. Right, first of all tell your ... (read in full...)
Did I say something wrong by saying I wish we can be friends when we have not even gone out on a date yet?
Q. I think I said someting stupid, do I still have a chance? I met this guy online and we started mailing, texting and eventually talked on the phone, he already asked me out on a date. Everyting was going great we exchanged pictures. He sent me a...
A. 29 September 2010: i dont think you said anything wrong, infact i think that being friends and getting to know each other first as friends is a good step. Sadly there are people out there who dont wanna be friends, especially people who meet online, they are looking ... (read in full...)
He hurt me so bad before I don't know if I can trust him to not hurt me again.
Q. I split up from my boyfriend at the start of June. We went out for 6 months during which me and my friends think he treated me badly, it was both our first relationship and we had been building up to it for years and are both 16 years old. we had ...
A. 29 September 2010: Don't even go there. Move on and get youself a guy who will treat you the way all ldies truly deserve. This guy is using you and has hurt you. He will do it again. Your young, enjoy your youth and let mr right find you. Stop looking!! he'll come to ... (read in full...)
I need to do something to get the spark back in our relationship!
Q. Hey hieee, I am Kaustav from India.I m in Love with this girl for almost 2 years now.Recently I had gone for a Trip to Nepal with my male friends for almost a month.We were in in constant touch with her on the phone though.B...
A. 29 September 2010: I think the two of you need to talk or perhaps see a relationship councellor. There is hope here, but there are stale issues in your relationsip. Seek help, she sounds worth the fight!... (read in full...)
How can I break it to a grown man that he needs to stop shoving his tongue down my throat?!
Q. Yes, yes. I'm sure this has been asked many times. I tried searching previous posts, but only found little girls asking questions and, frankly, found nothing entirely relevant to my problem. Sorry if this is seemingly redundant! So, now for my...
A. 29 September 2010: I'm sure that if you just said less tounge he'd understand. I'm a 31 year old very very inexperienced guy when it comes to sex and kissing. I've not ever used my tongue as i find lips action and sucking far more sexually pleasurable. wouldn't know ... (read in full...)
Does this man like me more than a friend?
Q. I am trying not to read into this, but I have some questions that need some outside input. I have this guy friend who I think has been flirting with me. He always gives me a high five when we see each other. He gave me a nickname and he always ...
A. 29 September 2010: I think this guy may like you as more than a friend but i think he is afraid to tell you for fear of losing you, I think your friendship is strong and i believe the two of you could sit down together and succussfully owrk this one out, But i have a ... (read in full...)
Do I actually like him or do I just think I do?
Q. How do you know when you genuinely like someone? I have been friends with someone for years, and we have gone on dates and fooled around with each other, but we were pretty much always just friends. Since he moved away to join the army I keep thin...
A. 29 September 2010: You like him. You have certainly developed feelings for him anyway, whether this is love or friendship though is difficult to say, I'm edging on the side of feelings of love. I think you need to talk to him and perhaps start taking things to the ... (read in full...)
I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend!
Q. First of all this is a gay relationship, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months, and we are living with eachother, I am currently going to college and he is working. I love him with all my heart! We make eachother laugh about anything...
A. 29 September 2010: Is there a compromise here. I'm sure he would let you give him oral even if he's not the biggest guy in the world. If he does not give or top as you call it perhaps he could "do you" with a toy or food item such as a cucumber or banana. Don't cheat ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to come onto me?
Q. how do i get my boyfriend to come on to me? its been 3 weeks since he has even tried to have sex with me and when i try he shoves me away and makes up excuses all the time when i bring it up! so what do i do?...
A. 29 September 2010: be straight and ask him why he seems to have goe off sex. tell him that if something is bothering him you want to help him with it.... (read in full...)
Will he lose trust in me because I lied?
Q. Basically, I lied about how old I was when I first met someone, because I was a year younger than what he said his 'limit' of age gap was, I hadn't expected it to go anywhere and now it is. I know I have to tell him, and have a pretty good idea of ...
A. 29 September 2010: OK, how old did you tell him you were? and how old are you? plus how old is he? To face facts you did break his trust. you lied to him knowingly. However i'm sure that although wrong, at the time your intentions were good. What i would say is we are ... (read in full...)
Failing at school and love... help!
Q. I'm 16 and I am failing at school and love. I want to be a muscian, im not too bothered about financial success, and the fact is that I'd rather ride my moped down to the beach and jam with my friends than go to school. But everyone thinks that i ...
A. 29 September 2010: OK, so get the qualifications you need to study music. You are obviously passionate about it, What about thingas that go hand in hand with music such as performing arts and drama or media. Use the things you are good at to make a career for ... (read in full...)
6 months into the relationship and he has stopped giving me good sex
Q. I'm a 31yr old woman, with a extremely high sex drive. I'm with an older guy, well 7 month older....6 months into the relationship he is no longer getting morning wood....he thinks this is a problem. So this means no sex for me. He is not even ...
A. 29 September 2010: Ok, so your not getting daily sex. is that really important to make a relationship, because i dont think it is. I havent had sex for 7 years and i'm your age so it's no the end of the world. Morning wood is not a sig of sexual arousal, infact it is ... (read in full...)
Failing at school and love... help!
Q. I'm 16 and I am failing at school and love. I want to be a muscian, im not too bothered about financial success, and the fact is that I'd rather ride my moped down to the beach and jam with my friends than go to school. But everyone thinks that i ...
A. 29 September 2010: hey jmtmj, i was goofing up exactly like this guy is, it was 15 years ago i should have been learning my lesson. Kinda proves my point really.... (read in full...)
Advice on love handles?
Q. This isnt a love question but im just curious. I'm 16 years old, weight isnt an issue for me, my figure is normal, but i have this fat belly that really bothers me, like when i wear clothes without a jumper to hide it basicaly! I would like some ...
A. 28 September 2010: Dont overly worry about this, you have a womanly body which is still developing and it's normal. Men actually find love handles and muffin tops attractive. However i am a man who knows a little bit about what you mean and feel cos i to have these ... (read in full...)
Failing at school and love... help!
Q. I'm 16 and I am failing at school and love. I want to be a muscian, im not too bothered about financial success, and the fact is that I'd rather ride my moped down to the beach and jam with my friends than go to school. But everyone thinks that i ...
A. 28 September 2010: Hello fella. You aint going to like what i am about to tell you, but it is good advice so listen up and listen hard. once you've heard me out then make your mind up. I am not going to tell you what to do, but will be honest. As a 16 year old your a ... (read in full...)
I really want to speak to my ex... it ended badly
Q. My ex broke up with me for her ex after she went to see him in hospital after he got beaten up. I had done nothing wrong to deserve this. The last time we spoke was when I told her that I had been threatened by him (he sent me emails telling m...
A. 28 September 2010: I think she has been either forced or has developed the mindset that you are the cause of this fella's beating even though this is not the case. Do you know where she lives and would it be worth writing her a letter to explain how you feel!... (read in full...)
I don't want to trap him, I just really want a baby!
Q. Hi, I'm 29, really keen to have children. I have a new bf of a few weeks. I really like him and things are going great. I'm so broody, though, I'm thinking of trying to get pregnant without telling him. If he wants a baby, great, if he doesn't, ...
A. 28 September 2010: My ex did something along these lines to me. It's heartless and cruel. It's people that do this that give women a bad name. Lets say you go down this line. How much involvement will you give the dad with the baby? what if the 2 of you split up? you ... (read in full...)
I want to be close to him, but I don't want him to think I like him more than friends yet.
Q. Hi, I met this guy whos actually my friends brother, we get along well, we think the same , and we are very happy together. I want to be close to him, but i dont want him to think i like him more than friends yet. So should i tell him that we...
A. 28 September 2010: yes.... (read in full...)
My son has voilent outburst and hurts himself
Q. Ok my son does not listen to be for his step dad with out realize it tought him not to listen to me. now every time my husband is gone my son and i fight my son is 3 years old, and he has voilent outburst he crys for hours on end and hurst himself ...
A. 28 September 2010: Back to the doctors, You son has major issues. Children do pick up on things and your broken relationship and new child seem to be adversly affecting your son. However he is young and is at a good age to get the help he needs and learn new ways of ... (read in full...)
Svelt fast weight loss pill
Q. Does anyone knows about a weight loss pill called Svelt fast? :)...
A. 28 September 2010: Don't even go there. These things dont work. Just have a healthy balanced diet with regualr exercise and consult your healthcare professional.... (read in full...)
What do I say to express what I feel?
Q. okay, its long. i am 15 years old just to let you know. basically, i was at my bands gig the other day, and my best friend, whos a girl, was there, and we started to get really close. hugging loads, etc. she has a boyfriend, and she tells me tha...
A. 28 September 2010: Let your heart tell you that, only you know the answer!!... (read in full...)
Why wont he give me oral sex?
Q. Well, here's the problem. I have been with the same guy for 8 years...he's my first. we have literally done everything together and lately he hasnt been recipricating the favor....I give him oral sex regularly without question and he asks for it. I ...
A. 28 September 2010: Hang on girls. There could be something more to it than this. He sounds like a guy that has been quite happy to give you oral in the past but something has changed. He says he doesn't like it but there must be a reason why this has suddenly become ... (read in full...)
Totally devastated. How do I get over her?
Q. About 2 weeks ago my girlfriend and I broke up and today I found out she's already dating someone else. As you can imagine this is really painful for me right now, it feels like someone just ripped out my heart. Can someone please tell me what I can ...
A. 28 September 2010: Unfortunately my friend you are going to have to let time heal this one. Believe me i've been there and found this out myself. It will get easier. Don't do anything stupid and don't go looking for rebound relationships. They never work.... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 28 September 2010: You are in a difficult situation my friend because there are cultural issues here that you are contending with. Certain asian cutures hold women as subserviant, they are there to please the man and are often expected to be in arranged marriages. ... (read in full...)
Although I am usually chatty when he is around I just freeze up!
Q. i need help. there's this guy and is OBVIOUSLY too good for me. i really like him. all my friends think i should just talk to him. but i cant seem to bring myself round to it. im usually the most talkitive person ever. i talk to EVERYON...
A. 28 September 2010: Shy and low self esteem. Thats what is the matter here. Firstly nobody is too good for you, dont put yourself down. You are just shy. Get to know this guy as part of a group of friends and that way you'll be chattin before you know it. See how that ... (read in full...)
I don't like my family!
Q. My father has 4 elder brothers - 1 brother and 3 sisters. They've always been united and got along excellent. They're really supportive when one of them has problems, they're always THERE, "one for all and all for one". I honestly appreciate this, ...
A. 27 September 2010: I'm no expert on family matters but i think now is the time to sit down with your family and set the boundaries. You need to tell them that although you love them very much you are finding their intrusive behaviours quite intimidating. It might be ... (read in full...)
Are her parents holding us back?
Q. I have fallen in love and started a relationship with a girl 12 years my junior. i'm 31 and she is 19. We get on so well, we can talk to each other about anything, we share similar interests, we enjoy each others company. we both feel the same about ...
A. 27 September 2010: I think i need to clarify some points, I'm not on a rebound relationship. I've been single for 6 years and have never been in a rush to be in a relationship. I would love to be able to afford my own place. I have a reasonable and respectable job ... (read in full...)
Are her parents holding us back?
Q. I have fallen in love and started a relationship with a girl 12 years my junior. i'm 31 and she is 19. We get on so well, we can talk to each other about anything, we share similar interests, we enjoy each others company. we both feel the same about ...
A. 27 September 2010: thanks for your answer.... (read in full...)
Why does he like to have his hands around my neck?
Q. Why does my boyfriend like to have his hands around my neck during sex?? no tight enough to choke me.. But still :/...
A. 27 September 2010: Seems a little odd if you don't mind me saying as personally i can think of much better and more important things to do with my hands during love making. one word of advice here, CAUTION!!... (read in full...)
Is this boy normal, and should he date my daughter?
Q. I am worried about my daughters new relatonship. My daughter is 17, she is a great kid , we are very lucky that we have never really had any trouble with her. Normally I don"t judge the people she chooses to date but I am a little concerned with her ...
A. 27 September 2010: Firstly what i am seeing here is a very loving father, and i really do congratulate you on this. Your sensible reactions and ways of looking at this problem really do you credit. I think that the answer here is to keep doing what your doing. You've ... (read in full...)
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