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I try to speak from the heart and give advice that makes sense, comes from personal experience and that you can hopefully relate to your situation.
I'm not perfect, I don't think anyone but Jesus was or is. If I make a mistake in my comment to you, let me know through feedback or a message and I can learn from it.
I counsel a few clients and friends with life issues, faith based issues and anything they need just a welcome shoulder to cry on or talk to.
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How to make wife orgasm during intercourse without her feeling too sore
Q. Hi all, We've spoken about this and she always says she feels like she's about to orgasm during intercourse but for some reason hasn't been able to and becomes sore shortly after after this sensation so I stop. Anyone know how to overcome this, n...
A. 8 July 2023: Hiya,
Some women are unable to actually get off during penetration especially if it does hurt. However penetration isn't the be all and end all of intercourse.
Start with the build up, even before it gets to the bedroom you could cook a nice ... (read in full...)
He uses my secrets against me
Q. How do you deal with a bf who uses your secrets against you? We've been together about 2 years. Whenever he argues which is quite abit he decides to throw things on my face. For example I ruined all my relationships and I can't keep a man, I'm ...
A. 8 July 2023: I'm getting from your question and the little information you give that it's really becoming an issue and no-one who loves someone else would use that kind of language even in anger.
It sounds like your partner may be a narcissist and the sooner y... (read in full...)
Partner had surgery and hasn't touched me since then yet does all kinds of work for friends
Q. I am so frustrated and feel like leaving my partner. Me and my partner moved in together 1 year ago after he had heart surgery. We had been together 10 years. I feel I have been very accomodatong and patient. He has not come near me in any way sinc...
A. 8 July 2023: Hiya,
I've had surgery myself and can honestly say I was gagging for anything after 6 months of going without. I don't know if there are any other issues in your relationship as you don't mention.
The fact he does seem to go do other more strenuo... (read in full...)
I'm upset with myself for falling for a player who doesn't want to wear condoms
Q. Yesterday I slept with a guy I've been seeing for the first time. We were almost naked when I asked if he had a condom - I'm 33 and he's 27 - he said he doesn't ever use them. I demanded he out his clothes back on and we go buy some because there ...
A. 7 December 2020: I'm pretty shocked in the modern world we live in that someone can and is so reckless. There's STD's not to mention getting knocked-up if you aren't on any contraceptives. I would say that in the modern era woman are a lot more on the ball and pro... (read in full...)
Dating a married woman now she suddenly becomes distant, what should I do?
Q. hi, been dating a married woman for a month, but chatted for few years before meeting, know everything about each other, even her husband her family and her husbands family kept hassling her and asking about me (because they keep seeing me ...
A. 7 December 2020: It's hard to know exactly why she is pulling away, perhaps you were just a passing phase - something she had to get out of her system and now she has it has passed. Or, it could have been the fantasy is now outweighed by the reality.
I would ju... (read in full...)
Why do I think about her sometimes even though it was over 10 years ago.
Q. Hi all! I hope you are all keeping safe and staying healthy. Anyways... Just thinking about in my life. I've been through so much in life. Not just in crushes, but life in general. Just thinking about my high school crush over 10 years ago. She g...
A. 7 December 2020: When we look back it's almost through blinkered goggles, everything looks perfect and rosey. It's perfectly normal to look back and wonder what if, but not at the expense of the here and now.
I don't understand what type of closure you can get ... (read in full...)
What should I consider when dating a younger man?
Q. I have come across and found I am very attracted to and have a 'crush' on a younger guy. I feel as if I'm back in high school again! I started noticing him because he would sort of stare at me when we were around each other. He is 20. I feel he is ...
A. 7 February 2016: Don't lie about it. Be open and honest.
It could be an infatuation, or just taking solace in someone who is giving you attention.
Age shouldn't really play a part. You are both consenting adults. I would check to see what he want's out of li... (read in full...)
What are possible reasons why my Bf and I are having these difficulties when having sex?
Q. Hello I have recently begun my first sexual relationship and I just need some help? I've had sex with my boyfriend 4 times now and each time he's struggled to get it in? It's not being too dry that's an issue but maybe I'm too wet? I don't know but ...
A. 7 February 2016: I see this kind of thing all the time. Sex is meant to be fun, don't over think it. He could be semi erect when he's attempting it.
It's definitely not your body, or that he isn't attracted to you, or any of the stuff flooding your mind.
... (read in full...)
When I try to talk about problems in our relationship my partner just shuts down
Q. I have several issues in my 4 year relationship p. I would like to address them but my partner just shuts down and doesn't engage. It's like talking to a wall. I never get any response, except 'just look forward'. Is there any hope and can this work ...
A. 7 February 2016: Time to leave? I think depending on the issues it's a too soon to jump situation.
He may just not want to get into an argument. Or he could be doing the ostrich thing and sticking his head in the sand.
Personally i've been on the other side o... (read in full...)
I've fallen out of love with boyfrind and am looking elsewhere
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and recently I've started to feel different. Last year he broke the trust in our relationship but I stayed with him (stupid I know). He used to not really give much interest in our relationship ...
A. 7 February 2016: Two parts really.
Keep work at work and relationships outside the office. It's not easy I know but you just don't want that floating round the water cooler.
Secondly, if the relationship with your partner is dead and gone, be honest and come cle... (read in full...)
I've changed my mind about children .....
Q. I made a deal with my husband before we got married in 2011. Back then I was young and immature. We considered each other soul mates. We both liked the care free lifestyle. Like playing video games, travelling and partying. We work in the gam...
A. 7 February 2016: I'd broach the subject now while it's on your mind. Be honest, I really would like to have children and would like it to be with you as my soulmate.
As a man myself, I have said no to children. I was immature at the time and a big kid at heart. I... (read in full...)
I just keep crying and its hard to stop.
Q. Okay so i broke up with a boy about a year ago because it was toxic and not good for either of us, but we were together a year and a half and are in the same social group, we've had a rollercoaster since then. he was messaging me saying we should ...
A. 7 February 2016: Break up's are never easy anyway, there are lots of emotions to work through. You loved this person, then you break up and start to get abusive messages.
There's also the metal abusiveness which I can sense just from not being good for each oth... (read in full...)
What do I do with the expensive gifts my ex gave me?
Q. my question is very simple and small that I have broke up with my gf last night in a legal way ....now I don't know what shud I do with the expensive old gifts she gave me....should I through them out so that I cud fully forget her ...
A. 25 September 2014: If it's expensive, return it to them. If it's not then keep or give it away.... (read in full...)
Steamy emails make me think I might be sharing her
Q. so i found on a shared computer a open e mail account, i opened it and right from the top i saw several e mails to one man in a span of several hours. i stared to open them and read, wow, some very steamy ones. some written in a short story form and ...
A. 8 July 2014: Hi Bretton,
I'm sorry to say this is an open and shut case, but please don't be sorry about it. You didn't do anything wrong except maybe trusting a serial cheater.
It's time to have it out in the open and then, you need to put her to the curb.... (read in full...)
My B/f waits for me to fall asleep after sex and then proceeds to masturbate!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a one year long distance relationship with my boyfriend we love about six hours away and we see each other about once every two months. Whenever we have sex he later waits for me to fall asleep and then proceeds to mastu...
A. 8 July 2014: Hi OP,
I think YouWish, Cerberus and So Very are spot on. The others who disagree are under the assumption he masturbates enough to be desensitized. I would not heap all that at him given you only see him every few months.
Again YouWish... (read in full...)
I was to experiement sexually with my friend
Q. i have been thinking about it for a longtime and i really want to experiment with my close friend. i would like to get him to experiment with him but 1] when i hit on him he dont take it seriosly. 2] if we do what if he tells somebody. so how do i ...
A. 7 July 2014: Hi OP,
This is where you expect me to condemn or damn you to hell, being a minister lol.
But it's natural to want to experiment especially at your age. It could be he feels the same, but is worried you would say something to someone. Maybe h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 6 July 2014: Hi OP, A man isn't something you can train to do what you want. He isn't a puppy for heaven's sake. You are completely happy with everything about this man, his intelligence, personality etc. Given all that, and that you think he's great, why l... (read in full...)
My ex that abused me is moving and its freaking me out because I don't know where he's moving to
Q. Am I over reacting? I don't want to go to much into things but my ex partner abused me. We've been separated a few years now. He still contacts me from time to time. Anyway he contacted me to tell me he's selling up and moving. I thought...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
I doubt he is going to move in next door and so you shouldn't be still this worried about him. He isn't in your life anymore and you need to move on.
How is he getting your numbers, ask your friends and family if they are giving it out. I... (read in full...)
I'd like to let the new girl at work know that I am interested.
Q. So I'm a 17 year old who's worked at McDonald's for almost a year now and recently we just hired a new girl. She is very pretty and she is the same age and grade as me and we go to different schools. I talked to her once a little bit but I was just ...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
Don't mix outside of work with work. You shouldn't be flirting or sexting etc with colleagues from work. Which is where this could go to.
What would be next, sex in the toilets before a shift? Also, she has just started working there, s... (read in full...)
I betrayed his trust by lying
Q. I am 32 and my boyfriend is 38. I love and adore him, and am certain that I want to build a future with him. I know he feels the same way. The problem is that I've betrayed his trust by lying to him a few months ago, and once again recently. The ...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
I have seen this from both sides in my friends lives, in emails I reply to (a lot more than you would think). The messages weren't flirtatious you assert, but the knee-jerk reaction of lying doesn't ring true.
In this case, I think somethin... (read in full...)
I love her but I feel we should break up
Q. My gf and I have been together for about 4 years and it's been mostly good. But for the past year I have been unhappy. I've tried to determine why I'm unhappy but don't really have a reason. I just am. I've told my gf about my feelings and tried to...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
You can't love her if you are so ready to give her up. I answer questions like this a lot and my honest advice is: "no one but you can make yourself happy."
It's unfair to expect someone to fix whatever problem is making you sad. Depress... (read in full...)
Now I've got him why aren't I satisfied?
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man for almost over 18 months now, he's been wed for about 6 weeks, has a 2-year-old son, and on Wednesday he announced he's leaving his wife for me. He said he'd told his wife "I'm leaving you, got a new ...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi JennyExeter,
What kind of man would leave a wife he married only 6 weeks ago? That is what you should be thinking.
You are now having concerns and doubts about this man, who so easily left his wife. You have him but aren't sure if he is a ... (read in full...)
I've come to a point in my life where I feel like I have no long term goals or desires. Can someone help me out?
Q. I'm at a really confusing and kinda boring stage in my life and I need some advice. I'm almost 18, and of course any young 18 year old to be should feel young and free and all of that jazz, but the thing is I feel lik...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
You are only 16-17 and it may be that because you have always been academically successful once doesn't mean it is going to come easy. You may need a break. Take a year out to just not think about your long term career or life.
It's OK... (read in full...)
How do I handle his porn addiction?
Q. This is another question about porn, but okay, here goes.. I'm 32, my husband is 34, been married since 2011, over the past few weeks he's been refusing sex. And it's all down to pornography. The "smoking gun" as it were, was a sign-up for a po...
A. 5 July 2014: Hi,
The fact you so readily jump to the conclusion about porn being the smoking gun, checking his internet history because of a lack of sexual interest is appalling.
What's next, keylogging software to monitor what he types? Lack of interest... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend and his ex, what can we do about the problem?
Q. I'm sure you guys get these kind of questions a lot, but I'm currently going through this. Basically, when my boyfriend and I first got together a year and a half ago, he was still pretty hurt about his ex cheating on him and the break up they ha...
A. 1 July 2014: Hi,
I think your boyfriend was going through the stages of a breakup when you got together and you hoped to replace this person in his life.
Yet, you didn't give him time to grieve and so he will still have feelings for this person. You alwa... (read in full...)
Is it a compliment that my husband has been masturbating over our wedding photos?
Q. A few times I have found my wedding photo album not the way I had put it away. I solved this when I found my husband masturbating while looking at photos of me in my wedding dress. He didn't notice me seeing him doing this. I haven't told him anyt...
A. 1 July 2014: Hi,
It is a compliment, he isn't doing it to some unknown or a porn star on the internet.
I do find it slightly odd, but it was possibly the best day of his life and he equates that to sexual bliss when he masturbates.... (read in full...)
How do I approach this without repeating the past?
Q. I’ve been chatting with this guy I know on instant messenger for about 4 days in a row now. We’ve known each other for about 4 months, give or take a week, and he’s been there to help with things here and there because I’m currently in a new country ...
A. 1 July 2014: Hi Waygookin,
You speak to him on instant messanger, that doesn't equate to knowing him. People put up false images of themselves, both to protect themselves or for a bit of fun.
The truth is you can't really know someone, until you have b... (read in full...)
Just broke up with gf of 2,5 years for lying.
Q. Hey everybody, So my gf and I went on a vacation last week. On the third day of our (up untill this point lovely) vacation I noticed her recieving a text message and her acting shady. In all these years I have NEVER allowed myself to be jealous. S...
A. 26 June 2014: Hi,
My ex partner did the same thing as your gf, but she was texting through Facebook them twitter. I caught the messages when she didn't log her PC off one day and there were very graphic messages.
I confronted her, and she'd been telling thi... (read in full...)
I want to help my ex through his gambling addiction
Q. Hello everybody, I don't usually do this sort of thing but I am currently in despair over a break up with my ex. Me and my ex broke up in February and I have been in upset since. We were together for 5 years and although we had our upsets we were ...
A. 25 June 2014: Hi Butterfly,
You can be there for him when he gets help, but you can't help him with it. It is something that a counselor must be involved with.
I have friends who blew thousands of pounds, lost family members and even their job because of a... (read in full...)
Advice for a long distance relationship?
Q. So let me start from the beginning: I'm 15 years old and met my boyfriend at school in August. This was the first year he had ever been to my school, and unfortunately appears to be the last. We've had arguments and such but they always draw us ...
A. 25 June 2014: Hi,
I have to question your parents. You are only 15 and they are letting you spend time with this boy who got into enough trouble to warrant changing schools.
At 15, there is no way a boy and girl of that age should be left alone. Your bodi... (read in full...)
I am unable to achieve orgasm with my girlfriend. Any advice?
Q. Hi I am 21 years old and just gotten into a relationship very recently, we have had sex 3 times now, and each time I have been unable to reach orgasm, I think I have somthing called delayed ejaculation... When I lost my virginity I couldn't...
A. 25 June 2014: Hi, I have been through this as have a lot of men and can understand where you are coming from. I disagree that the issue is your old porn habit. Building to orgasm requires to a big extent friction, if your partner is too lubricated there ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to act like a porn star and said I've ruined his life
Q. My husband told me I was a fat disgusting pig! And he watches porn because I'm boring in bed and I have no ambition. These are things he has never said before to me ,we got into a fight and told me he needed to get things off his chest. I have ...
A. 24 June 2014: Hi missbigony,
I think sometimes in long term relationships, the sex does get same old same old. Should he have lashed out? No.
Try adding a bit of spice, some lingerie or more foreplay and see how that goes. There is nothing wrong will telli... (read in full...)
How do I best deal with my Bf who seems insecure about friendships I form?
Q. I moved city this year to live with boyfriend. We flat with his friends: two other guys and a girl. I have a hard time making friends because I'm shy and it takes me a while to get comfortable with people. Recently I've been getting on well with one ...
A. 24 June 2014: Hi,
You are in your teen years and people will come into your life and you may think they are good and mean you no harm. Unfortunately that is a kind of naive way of thinking, some people will want to befriend you simply to get in your pants, o... (read in full...)
Is my dad's lack of trust justified?
Q. My dad won't trust me. I am currently studying abroad in China and I have been here for a year already. My father never gave me any trouble until I got a boyfriend over here. He is four years older than me and I understand why that would worry them, ...
A. 24 June 2014: Hi AnnaKat,
Parents will always worry about their children (unless they are bad parents). The fact is you are thousands of miles away in a strange country and he hasn't gotten to see you in a year so far.
There is so much that could go wrong, ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriend's daughter and I'm currently pregnant with his kid
Q. I know how horrible this makes me sound but I can't seem to stop it, as much as I want to. He has a daughter who i just about 3 years old. Since the beginning of our relationship I always felt a tinge of jealousy when he'd cancel plans with me ...
A. 24 June 2014: Hi,
I think being jealous of a 3 year old is silly. If you don't learn to control these feelings I think eventually you will come to resent her and him.
I would seriously ask you to consider why you decided to fall pregnant. If it was to try an... (read in full...)
How can I convince them to give my new boyfriend a chance?
Q. I have the most loving yet most judgmental family ever. I need help showing them I'm happy in my new relationship even if its not who they would pick for me. I dated the same guy in high school and my parents loved him, they loved his family, ...
A. 23 June 2014: Hi Katierae,
They may never like this new person, if they associate tattoos with a bad person, there is nothing you can do to change their views.
You shouldn't have to convince them, and it isn't your partners responsibility to either. I would ... (read in full...)
Should I try to change career?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female, i have a son who is four years old. I have been in and out of jobs since he was born but i never stick to a job. I am now studying towards a law degree but i feel like giving up already, i thought it would be for me but i ...
A. 23 June 2014: Hi,
It's ok not to have a career or plan when you're only 22. I get from your post, that you are a bit of a flighty person.
You tend to hop from one thing to another, without having followed through. Again, that's fine. However having children ... (read in full...)
Do I let it go or fight for him?
Q. Ok, so do I let it go or fight for him? Here's our story: I've known him for almost 10 years, we were best friends. Three years ago we were helping each other through break ups and we ended up together. I landed a job in a different city f...
A. 23 June 2014: Hi innocence,
You took a job a distance from him first, if I read correctly. Did you ask him how he felt about it or did you take it because it was a job prospect?
When he took a job role, you expected him to discuss with you first before eve... (read in full...)
Should I use a dating agency?
Q. I am 32, single, and had been considering using a dating agency after a friend recommended it to me (he'd met his fiancee through one!). However, the things that concern me are twofold... cost and whether they work. Most of my friends tend to ...
A. 13 June 2014: Hi ChocAndSalt,
There is a growing use of these sites with professionals who don't have the time to date normally. They use them because they don't have the time to go out and meet people.
I would always caution against them, just for the fac... (read in full...)
Should I have sex now or later?
Q. I love this guy so much and I know he loves me.......we've been dating since November last year(2013), seriously, i can't wait 2 have sex with him ( we're still virgins)... My question is, should i have sex now or later(but I'm afraid, he might ...
A. 13 June 2014: Hi Marvy,
Never loose your virginity to keep someone happy or to keep them around. You will regret giving it away so cheaply and it can give you a reputation in the short term of being easy.... (read in full...)
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