Need help in personal finance- straight out of college guy
Q. Hello All, This is not a question on love/sex etc but I am posting here anyway because I have been getting really good answers from the Dear Cupid community. This is a question on personal finance. I am a 25 year old guy who just graduated ...
A. 6 August 2012: I think it's great you are trying to learn more about finances, it shows that you are trying to be mature about your situation. I also think it is great you are happy to just have a job. Many people straight out of college feel like they earned ... (read in full...)
My mother is putting me down because I chose school over getting married and having a family sooner!
Q. I am a 30 year old unmarried female who comes from a very strict Middle Eastern family. I moved away from home 8 years ago to pursue my education in Toronto which is a 2 hr drive from where I live. My parents were completely against this decision as ...
A. 6 August 2012: Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I cannot imagine how you are still able to deal with all this.
I would not give up on your dreams though. If you want to become a nurse practitioner, you should go for it. I understand where yo... (read in full...)
How can I tell he's enjoying himself without actually asking him?
Q. So this is pretty embarrassing but I really need to know. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 6 months and I go to his house a lot. We usually just lay on his bed, watch movies, or makeout. Well, recently he's been trying to finger me...
A. 25 June 2012: I'm sorry, but the only way to truly know if he's enjoying himself is to ask him. I know you're young and those types of conversations can be embarrassing, but if you really want to know you'll have to ask. Once you get past the initial awkward ... (read in full...)
Do women really hate porn?
Q. I have lot of porn dvds at home. My wife rarely watches it. My question is, do all women hate to watch porn or is it some?. If some women like porn what are the categories they like to watch. say, lesbian, taboo, straight, BDSM, oral.... ...
A. 26 May 2012: "The purpose of asking this question is to create interest in porn for my wife. Just I wanted to know what are all the type of porn movies women like (In case they like porn) so that I can get such Dvds to create interest in her."
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm a bad wife because I don't like giving him blowjobs, what can I do to stop being disgusted by them?
Q. Hi, Im 24 years old and newly married for 9 months. Our sex life has been great except that my husband really likes for me to give him blow jobs, but no matter how hard i try i feel disgusted to do so.I think the taste/smell is what puts me off.I ...
A. 19 March 2012: I'm not a big fan of blowjobs either. I do understand that this is something you want to do for your husband though. When my husband and I were dating, I explained to him why I was not that into giving blowjobs. My main hang ups are the smell and ... (read in full...)
How can I compete with my wife's new sex toy? It gets more action than me
Q. I got my wife a new toy. It seems the toy is getting more action than me. However, she has NO problem giving me oral sex. I seem to get more oral sex now and she seems to use her toy more. Is this normal?...
A. 21 February 2012: Can you use the toy together? I started developing problems in the bedroom area a while back and as my wedding gift my husband bought a toy for us to use. My husband loves to use it on me, and I get the satisfaction I really want.
And don't thin... (read in full...)
My height has grown and I'm too slim. How can I put on weight in healthy way?
Q. I am too slim how I can put weight ? Have muscles?my height has grown very well but I am very slim.....plz help here..I am new here...
A. 14 February 2012: Go to myfitnesspal.com and set up a profile. It is an all around health/fitness website. You can set your stats to gain weight and it will calculate how many calories to eat and then you just enter your food in your food diary, and most foods are ... (read in full...)
Do I give up on me orgasming so he can? My Boyfriend says I Squeeze too Much, too Early during Sex :(
Q. OK, so here's my problem. My boyfriend says I squeeze my vagina too much too early during sex. All I'm doing is involuntarily starting to have a orgasm, which happens multiple times during sex IF i'm enjoying it. But he won't let me! He tol...
A. 22 January 2012: I squeeze during orgasms as well, so I can understand your frustration. I had a couple of boyfriends who hated it and complained like your man is doing. I now have a husband who loves it.
Like Beingblack stated, maybe your man wants a more "lad... (read in full...)
Feeling the pressure to "settle down" what should I do?
Q. Hi dearcupid. I am 26 year old single woman, have never been in a long term relationship. I am the only single person within my group of friends, in fact these days I seem to be the only single person wherever I go, work, university. This...
A. 22 January 2012: Chigirl has some good points on needing to want a serious relationship in order to make one work. I was single from 20 until I was about 23 and then I realized I wanted something real. But, it took a while to find that someone.
Just be patient and ... (read in full...)
How can I stop cum leaking out after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especially ...
A. 22 January 2012: I don't see how it is embarrassing. It's natural for that to happen when a man cums inside you. Personally, I usually put my undies back on before I stand up and use the bathroom right away.
Honestly, at your age, I think you should be using a cond... (read in full...)
I want to have sex every night, he doesn't. How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. I need some serious help, I have a very high sex drive, I want to have sex with my husband every night before bed, but he isn't the same way. Is there anyway I can lower my sex drive? I don't know what else to do, I've tried getting my husband more ...
A. 17 November 2011: Why not just masturbate more often? I have the little vibrator Trojan makes and it is very discrete and quiet, plus it's waterproof. I just spend a little extra time in the bathroom when I take a shower when I am horny and my husband isn't. I don't ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: I am liking this post more and more everytime somebody adds to it. Thanks again Tisha for starting it.
Back to the question I posted about sexual desire changing. I thought about what Tisha said the last time my husband was in the mood and tryi... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: I too, HippyChick, was a sexual natural. But, as Tisha stated, not all women are. I loved sex my very first time and have continued to enjoy it since then. I have also encountered men who have no clue what they are doing in regards to sex. I have ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Four words....I LOVE THIS POST. It sums up everything perfectly. I wish every man would read this. I know I am lucky and married a man that had to have read something similar to this, but from what I read on here, most men don't know most of this. ... (read in full...)
He watches porn every night and it upsets me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 4 years and we have 2 kids, a 2 yr old and a 3 month old. I caught him watching porn back in 2010, and it started a bit of an argument, he thought I was sleeping, he got extremely defensive and almost ...
A. 11 November 2011: Miamine is correct. It has nothing to do with you. I went through something similar just over a year ago and it is hard to deal with, but only at first. Like Miamine said, once you two are able to have a conversation about this, without fighting, he ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my discovery???
Q. Recently, I came home from work and my wife and I had dinner. We have an 8 month old daughter. As we were making dinner, she said the cat knocked over a bottle of wine, and spilled a bunch of wine everywhere. At dinner, she told me she was ...
A. 11 November 2011: I wouldn't be concerned unless it happens again. Just make sure she really does see a doctor. She might not even have to go to a therapist. Sometimes regular doctors can diagnose and prescribe meds for post partum since it is fairly common. The good ... (read in full...)
Before I consult a doctor I'd like feedback from other women about 'the pill'
Q. Hey guys! Any advice will be much appreciated! I'm a little worried. Just as a note, I know I should ultimately consult my doctor, but I would really like other women's advice and experience. I have no one to ask or talk to. I started new birt...
A. 11 November 2011: I know how worrisome it can be to wonder if your are pregnant or not. But, by the way you explained things I doubt your pregnant. To ease your mind, I would take a test and then call a nurse help line after the results. The first thing they will ask ... (read in full...)
My wife is lazy
Q. I have been married for a couple of years now and most things are fine but I find my wife is lazy. This laziness does not extend to her work, as she works very hard and for long hours (we both do), its every other aspect of our lives she is lazy. I ...
A. 8 November 2011: So very confused brings up a good point. Could your wife be ADHD? I really believe my husband is and he is similar to your wife on the laziness scale. He actually told me once that he used to wonder if he was ADHD and told me detailed lists help ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll think I was false advertising! He doesn't know that I wear a weave!
Q. hi.. Ok.. I am a light skinned black woman who has always had issues with her hair. From my complextion you would assume i would have managable hair but i dont. It doesnt grow, and its always looked rubbish. So i add a big lod afro hair piece and it ...
A. 8 November 2011: I agree, it's not false advertising. You don't like what you have to work with naturally, so you added something to it. Isn't that what most women are doing with make up? Many women look completely different without their make up on, yet their men ... (read in full...)
Do women have a problem with scars? Should I get mine surgically cleaned up?
Q. Prefer women to answer this: Im near the end of my 8 week cutting cycle and my long term goal of revealing my abs is achieved. However i have lower abdomen scars from belly fat and have opted to have possible surgery to remove them. Sexually, ...
A. 5 November 2011: I don't see the need to get the scars "cleaned up" but that is my personal opinion. I have tons of stretch marks, I know it's different than your scars, and I have had some men think they are gross and others not care. The first time I mentioned ... (read in full...)
Men are selfish!
Q. Ok, the title says it all and I am sick to death, borderline disgusted by the selfish nature of men. Let's not deny it. It is 100% true. I have no problem attracting men. But here's the thing, The second an attractive woman ignores the man who is c...
A. 3 November 2011: I'm sorry you feel the way you do. You seem to have had some bad encounters with men. I don't believe that what you say is true and I hope you find someone that can prove to you that not all men are what you say.
Good luck in your future rela... (read in full...)
Should I leave my partner for my education?
Q. I have been with this girl for more than a year now, we met via post secondary and I am deeply in love with her. I feel like I want her to be my wife in the future. She has aspirations for med school which she is most likely getting in come next ...
A. 3 November 2011: I agree with aunt honesty. It will be worth it in the long run to focus on what you need from school. Like she said, there is web cam, instant messaging, email, phone calls and texts. It will be hard at first, but it will also allow you guys to see ... (read in full...)
Does marriage need more than love? My B/f Mom scolded me for wanting financial stability, education completed too, before marriage.
Q. my boyfriends mom scolded me and blamed me because my boyfriend wants to get married before he finishes his education and i told him that i want to get married after he finishes his aeronautical engineering licence, because then he can fully ...
A. 30 October 2011: Great question! So many people think all you need is love, maybe because of the Beetles :), but you do need more. I felt the same way you feel now. I always wanted to finish college before I got serious enough for marriage with anyone. College can ... (read in full...)
How can I make my first time more comfortable for us both?
Q. Okay lets get to the point: I'm a virgin and me and my long time boyfriend have decided to go ahead and have sex (he's a virgin too). We have almost done the 'dirty deed' but I'm a chicken. I'm scared. I don't really know of what, but I'm scared. ...
A. 30 October 2011: The main thing is to relax and do it when you are ready. If you guys want to try to make it real special, maybe go away for the weekend to a B&B or a nicer hotel in an area that has some site seeing. Then, if you feel up to it one night, you can ... (read in full...)
Too strong a hymen???
Q. I'm 26 and I've been married for 8 months now. I was a virgin when I got married and still am. No matter how hard we try, we just cant seem to be able to break through my hymen. I think probably I am having elastic hymen. Whenever my husband try to ...
A. 30 October 2011: I agree with the female anon. You should see your doctor just in case there is something wrong, but most likely you will need to have your hymen professionally cut. It's rare, but it does happen to women.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made a comment about my small breasts and now I don't want to go near him
Q. Hi guys! I need help from you to build my self-confidence. I have a lovely bf and we are planning our future together. However, our sex life is a complete disaster... I run away from him every time he want to get closer to me. The issue is my ...
A. 30 October 2011: I don't think you have anything to be self conscious about. Yes, your boyfriend spoke without thinking and it hurt your feelings, but do you honestly think that the size of your boobs makes or breaks his love for you? Well, it doesn't. Some men just ... (read in full...)
What do women feel when they are horny?
Q. hi !! if a boy or man gets horny he gets a erection !! what a girl or women feels when they are sexually aroused !! hope u wil answer my question ????...
A. 27 October 2011: It's actually very similar to what men feel. The clit is the female equivalent to the penis and it gets enlarged with blood when we get turned on. For me, my clit also gets tingly in a good way. And of course, we get wet. But, for me, even if I am ... (read in full...)
I prefer giving rather than receiving! How common is this?
Q. Well I got a question, not really a problem. I like to give oral to my girlfriend, more then to get oral. Most of the people I know it's the other way around. anyone of you can recall this? ...
A. 27 October 2011: My husband gets off more from my reactions to him pleasing me than to me pleasing him. He has a friend who is the same way. He likes getting bj's but he would much rather go down on a woman. From my experience, men like you pay attention to what the ... (read in full...)
Why does fiance want to put wedding rings on layaway when we have the money to buy them now?
Q. My fiance and I have been together going on 4 yrs. We are engaged for about 2 yrs. Wants to put the rings on layaway. We have the money to right now. The thing is I asked if we can. He simply answered we can but is just another bill coming to us. ...
A. 26 October 2011: Wedding rings can be very expensive so maybe he just wants to be financially sure he is able to pay for them and still have extra money. I know a girl I work with got married recently and spent $8000 on her and her husbands wedding rings and then an ... (read in full...)
Afraid my boyfriend will reject my bedroom fantasy suggestion
Q. How willing are men to play out strange sexual fantasies that are suggested by their girlfriends? I want to do a little dress-up in the bedroom but I'm afraid he'll either completely reject the idea or in the moment, I won't be able to take it ...
A. 25 October 2011: Each man is different. I know my husband would try almost anything I throw out there, even when we were just dating he would. But, I have had boyfriends who wouldn't even go for tying me up or playful spanking. My suggestion is to bring up your ... (read in full...)
Partner doesn't appreciate my larger size. Did I make a mistake making it bigger?
Q. I aways thought I needed to add inches to my member. I started in 2003 and worked at the penal excersizes for years. It took for ever the natural way,but worked. I am 8 1/2 in length and 7 1/4 in cir Width Flaccid I don't change that much,...
A. 24 October 2011: Have you asked your partner how she feels about your size adjustment? She would have the answer you are looking for. And if she doesn't like your size, there is most likely a woman out there who will.... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 24 October 2011: Well, you are right in the fact that people end up with others that are just as attractive as they believe they are. There have been many studies that prove that. So, yes, us women do take other factors into consideration when picking who we date, ... (read in full...)
How sexy should I encourage my wife to dress for Halloween?
Q. OK, so we are going to a Halloween party. Same party we went to last year. Last year there were a few (like 3) fairly sexy costumes. Needless to say, these women got a lot of attention, and I am sure were the topic of conversation among many couples ...
A. 22 October 2011: I would agree with Tisha. I think women over 30ish get looked at in a negative way if they try to dress too sexy. And if you are saying that she is in no way perfect, I would assume that means she might look her age. I'm not saying that's bad, but ... (read in full...)
In somewhat of a struggle with my current relationship
Q. Hi there, (warning: this is long) I've been with my girlfriend for 14 months. We've had amazing times and lots of not so good times. Over 14 months she's had issues with a lot of things about me, issues that we've never really resolved that co...
A. 21 October 2011: Wow. I can understand why you are upset. She seems absolutely horrible. I know you say you love her, but you wrote the words that should make your decision easy..."lately it just hurts me to think that this is something I'd have to live with the ... (read in full...)
Used my boyfriend's computer and found out he's been using web sex cam sites
Q. I am living with my boyfriend and I just went to use his computer. He works in online marketing so I was aware there would be a lot of things in that nature that I would see BUT I saw that he has been on web cam sex sites - I doubt he needs to go to ...
A. 20 October 2011: I agree with a lot of the responses. Definitely talk to him about it and ask him if he really is going on those sites. But also know that ads for sex cam sites pop up a lot on many porn sites. And when you have the talk, use more "I feel..." ... (read in full...)
Ladies: describe your PERFECT date!
Q. This one is for the ladies - Just wondering, how would you describe your perfect date? Be as original or cliche as you want i'd just love to get some real life ideas! :) Thanks...
A. 20 October 2011: When my husband and I were just dating, we went out on a wonderful date that still sticks in my mind. He picked me up after he got off of work and took me to a moderately priced restaurant, not your usually cheaper place but not too pricey. He said ... (read in full...)
Should I let him say he loves me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend, and he says he loves me. I'm 16 and he's 15. It's probably not love rather than it is an infatuation...But do I let him say that he loves me? ...
A. 18 October 2011: Honestly whether or not you allow your boyfriend to say he loves you is up to you. If you are ok with it, just tell him that it is nice to hear those words but you don't feel the same. Make sure to let him know that you do like him and how much you ... (read in full...)
My friends think I'm a slut, I'm just trying to get over him
Q. It's been a year since, i guss you could call it a fling ended. For the first 6 months I couldn't really talk to any guys let alone flirt, now it seems i can't stop flirting, but i'm not at all attracted or want anything to happen between the guys i ...
A. 16 October 2011: First of all, you are not a slut by any means. Maybe you shouldn't be running around kissing a bunch of guys, but you are not a slut. You need to tell these "friends" of yours that you don't appreciate it when they call you that name. They are not ... (read in full...)
We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much p...
A. 16 October 2011: First of all, men lose their erections for many reasons so don't think either of you are at fault for him losing his. He was probably just worried about being discovered or maybe his body was just tired. And when this happens again (trust me it ... (read in full...)
How do I stop looking for a problem when it isn't there?
Q. I've taken a partner back after he had an affair - we are on a new road and taking back to our relationship. My problem is trust I keep looking in his phone and checking texts messages, this is my issue and I want to stop it. I recently sent a txt ...
A. 14 October 2011: Unfortunately recovering after an affair is hard. Is it impossible? No. I agree with you that should not be invading his privacy, but I can understand why you feel you needed to. You were betrayed emotionally and you are most likely going to need ... (read in full...)
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