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... Send *argentsgirl89 a private message | | | *argentsgirl89's profile:I live in Wyoming with my four year old son, my two year old daughter and my boyfriend of four years. I am the second oldest of seven children, five girls and two boys. My mother passed away in 2009 and I've felt her loss every day since. I miss her dearly. My kids are my world and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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Marriage being damaged by wife's male friend who has now stayed for more than 2 months
Q. I have been married for 2 years, I am 41 and my wife is 30. We have always been amazing together, and I thought we were happy. We recently started trying for kids, which was her idea, as I was never going to push her until she was ready. She has ...
A. 18 December 2013: My husband would freak out. She, to me, is completely disrespecting you and your marriage by letting him stay there. Especially since his visa has expired and you both know that.
I'd kick him out, if she gets mad about it, then she can join him... (read in full...)
Why do men send photos of their genitals to women they barely know?
Q. Okay, inquiring minds must know. This appears to be a relatively new phenomenon, but in all seriousness, why do men send pics of their penises to women? I'm not talking about if you're in a committed relationship or if the girl ASKS for it. I'm...
A. 18 December 2013: Ego.
Visual stimulation.
Men are very visual sexual creatures and I think that they think we are visual too and so, penis pictures. My boyfriend used to do it all the time and when I asked why he basically told me it's a male ego thing.
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My boyfriend mentioned my ex's name.
Q. This morning i asked my bf if he liked that i said his name during sex and he said he did. That it was much better then saying ( ex name) or something else. I thought it was super weird that he said my ex name since ive never mentioned it to him. ...
A. 18 December 2013: You shouldn't do anything. You asked a question, he answered. He probably picked up that you were lying when you said your exes nickname. Perhaps he found out through a mutual friend that the name you said was your exes nickname.... (read in full...)
Does my wife want me back just because she knows I was seeing someone else?
Q. I have been with my wife tens years and married five . She recently left me for about the third time 6 months ago. We have an 8 year old daughter who is not biologically mine but i have raised her and love her as mine. Each time we break up wife ...
A. 18 December 2013: YOur wife sounds like a manipulative bitch. Take her to court and get shared custody of your daughter so she has to let you see her and move on with your life.
Your new lady sounds wonderful and you deserve some happiness in life.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever out there ever cheated and changed his/her ways?
Q. I've been having thoughts of guilt because I cheated on my bf 5 months ago. He obviously found out and he broke up with me. I was aware that what I was doing was wrong, but I still kept on cheating because I didn't feel sexually attracted to him ...
A. 18 December 2013: I don't understand why you didn't just break up with him? Instead of cheating? I've always wondered what the thinking on that was. I'm curious, if you don't mind.... (read in full...)
My deployed boyfriend cheated! I need advice!
Q. Me and my boyfriend been going out for 2 years we were plaining on getting married and everything we'll before he deployed I found out he cheated when he went home on leave 4weeks before deployment I flipped on him and wanted to break up but he ...
A. 13 November 2013: I've never had a deployed husband or boyfriend, but I caught my boyfriend talking to another girl over his phone, sexual things about what they'll do to each other and he's picturing her naked and blah blah. He changed his number when I told him I'd ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of paying for her daughter's clothes!
Q. Ok, my girlfriend and I have been with each other for 10 months but are not living together. She has a 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage living with her. When she takes her daughter with us shopping I'm expected to pay. When I complain ...
A. 13 November 2013: Stop paying for the clothes. Just refuse to pay for the clothes.
My husband pays for my son's clothes, but he's the only dad my son has ever known and is his dad.
You aren't her father, she has a father and a mother who are perfectly capable ... (read in full...)
Should I invite my mother wedding dress shopping, even though it will be stressful?
Q. Hi! So my question is probably a little different. Im wondering whether or not I shoud ask my mom to come with me when I go Wedding dress shopping. I love my mom, but we really dont get along. My fiance and I actually live with her, we moved into ...
A. 27 September 2013: Getting married is an extremely big step in one's life and if I were you I would ask myself would my mom being there be a good memory for me or a horrible memory for me?
You can't pick your family. Your mom is from what you said, disabled and decl... (read in full...)
Do you just let your ex become a stranger?
Q. My ex isnt willing to see me with someone new and i dont want to see his either so we defriended each other on facebook (FYI: It was a bad breakup) We are in different countries so we will never ever see each other again. Do you guys just let your ...
A. 27 September 2013: I think it depends on the two of you as people and your relationship that you had. I've had exes that stayed my friend when we broke up and it was alright and I've had ex that I tried to be friends with and it was horrible.
It's really up to you. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me but is constantly on Facebook and has messages from other women on his phone.
Q. So my Boyfriend of 6 months that loves me to death and worships the ground I walk on is constantly on FacebooK. I actually Deactivated my account because of him. I just got tired of constantly seeing him on there... So tonight when he was checking...
A. 8 September 2013: If he has nothing to hide then why did he snatch his phone back? I don't care how good of friends they are, other women shouldn't be calling him anything other than what his name is.
I am always on my facebook, checking it and perusing my newsfeed... (read in full...)
Disrespectful daughter is on the streets now she wants to come home should I let her come back?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am a very blessed single parent of two girls and one boy my son is the baby .All of my children are grown .But my second oldest daughter we have been at each other throats everyday since she got her period we have been in to it every ...
A. 26 August 2013: As a mother it's hard to see your children struggling and not want to help them.
My sister is in the same situation and I do what I can, she is in jail now for something her boyfriend did while she was with him and I'm going to let her sit in t... (read in full...)
New mom and I'm going a bit stir crazy.
Q. I'm a new mother of a 6 week old. She's wonderful, but exhausting. I'm breastfeeding so she's on the breast all the time. She's not much of a sleeper, day or night, so I don't sleep much. She's very needy of me, mostly because she's hungry, so to ...
A. 26 August 2013: Congratulations on becoming a mother, there is no greater feeling in the world. I have two children. A son and a daughter. My son was a breeze. He woke up, ate and went back to sleep and then he started sleeping through the night at about two months ... (read in full...)
Any advice for swinging? I feel jealous of the rapport between my b/f and the female
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a few "swinging" encounters and we want to continue in the lifestyle. I enjoy being with other women without a doubt. Once I am in the heat of the moment I also enjoy being with other men. The problem is that the last ...
A. 23 August 2013: I don't have experience with swinging scene. My older sister and her husband were swingers and it didn't work out. They got a divorce because he was fooling around with this other woman behind her back that they met while swinging.
I'm not judg... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't approve of one night stands and now she won't speak to me because I told her that I had one!
Q. So a few months ago I went home with one of my friend's roommates after a party (I was a freshman in college) and we ended up sleeping together. I don't regret a thing, but my best friend from high school doesn't really like how college has changed ...
A. 23 August 2013: Obviously her views and your views are very different and she is apparently incapable of accepting yours as a person and continuing with her own. Who you sleep with, one night stand or not, is none of her business unless you decide to tell her. She ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous using facebook? Why?
Q. Ok this is really really Weird. This guy I have a major crush on tagged me in a picture on Facebook. The picture was of him, his friend and two girls! None of these people were tagged in the picture,he only said "just having fun right now" and ...
A. 21 August 2013: Or he could be vying for your attention and didn't know how else to get it. You were ignoring him and he wants you to pay attention him and you weren't giving him that attention.
I'm sure wants to be more than just friends and doesn't know how... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing for my son?
Q. I got pregnant with my son at 18 by a guy who told me I was a whore and the baby wasn't his. He was my first. He didn't talk to me for four months after that. Then he decided to contact me at which point he basically used me for money and rides when ...
A. 19 August 2013: I did change my number three years ago, they just messaged me on facebook, three years later. I do believe I'm doing the right thing. My fiance and I have agreed that when he is older, we will sit him down and tell him the truth. I love my son and I ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing for my son?
Q. I got pregnant with my son at 18 by a guy who told me I was a whore and the baby wasn't his. He was my first. He didn't talk to me for four months after that. Then he decided to contact me at which point he basically used me for money and rides when ...
A. 18 August 2013: Thank you all so much. I was very sheltered growing up, he was my first and I got pregnant. I didn't know his family's background, it was just him and his mother when I met him. He didn't see my son. He never considered my son his. My fiance has ... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 13 August 2013: Bras are constricting. Her boyfriend shouldn't have the ability to dictate what she wears, which by her own admission he doesn't.
If you don't like wearing a bra outside sometimes, don't wear the damn bra. If you want to listen to your bf and take... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to spice things up but I'm worried that things would be weird between us afterwards
Q. Hi There, I wanted to get some advise from anyone who might have been in my position. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we have always had a fairly normal and active sex life. We've never been very experimental before, but he's...
A. 8 August 2013: My bf and I have been together for four years and we spiced things up a little bit about two years in and it made us closer. When I was able to express myself to him sexually and experiment with him and trust him completely, it took our relationship ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting by being upset that my boyfriend didn't come to see me when I was ill?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm just looking for some advice on whether I'm overreacting about this or not. I was taken into hospital yesterday with suspected appendicitis. I text my boyfriend of 4 years on the way there to let him know what was happening. When I ...
A. 8 August 2013: I would expect my boyfriend of four years to be there for me if I was hospitalized regardless of whether or not my family is there.
I think it's perfectly normal for you to be upset. He should have seen you as soon as he was able. To see you, flow... (read in full...)
Is it normal for women not to have enjoyed sex when they were teenagers?
Q. This is something that really shouldn't mean anything I guess but I'm just curious about. My ex wife had slept with a guy 7 times as a teenager. She said she never enjoyed it and didn't want to do it.My current wife had slept with 2 guys as a ...
A. 8 August 2013: Probably sexually inexperienced teenagers having sex with each other don't necessarily yield orgasmic results. It could have also been because they though they were doing wrong. I didn't have sex until I was 18 and it wasn't great. At all. I was a ... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: Your body, your choice what you wear. Although when you're in a relationship you want to respect your partners opinion within reason. Would he like wearing a bra to support his nuts? That would probably hurt right?
I don't think it's obscene.... (read in full...)
My fiancé is still in touch with his ex and I'm concerned about his feelings for her
Q. So I know snooping etc and everything is not a good thing and I guess I wouldn't normally but the opportunity arose as my other half left his email open and I couldn't help it......my fiance had dogs with his ex wife and as far I knew they still ...
A. 7 August 2013: I don't understand why you feel guilty about looking at his email? There shouldn't be anything in there that you can't see anyway. There shouldn't be any secrets in marriage. Ever.
I understand that he considers the dogs his children, cool, he... (read in full...)
I only want to date men, so why am I becoming addicted to lesbian porn?
Q. I have this problem I am 100% straight I know this because I date only guys and I am attracted to only guys, yeah everyone dreams of a model body and I am rather insecure sometimes. But my issue is I am worth lesbian porn quite alot recently and ...
A. 28 July 2013: I am straight as well. I am engaged with two children and I watch lesbian porn. I don't like the straight porn where the guy is always banging the girl and it's usually always the same positions.
Lesbian porn is just better to me I guess. Sens... (read in full...)
My fiancé is still in touch with his ex and I'm concerned about his feelings for her
Q. So I know snooping etc and everything is not a good thing and I guess I wouldn't normally but the opportunity arose as my other half left his email open and I couldn't help it......my fiance had dogs with his ex wife and as far I knew they still ...
A. 28 July 2013: Yes, all of this raises a very large and waving red flag. They still talk about their dogs they had together? Really. Okay, I guess some people consider their dogs their children so I'll roll with it.
Even if they are supposedly still in cont... (read in full...)
Can I get an hpv virus and pass it off to my wife if I have never had sex with anyone else?
Q. we were married in 75, and in 82 my wife had a rapid weight loss issue that prompted her to go to her dr. he found beginning stages of cancer on her cervix and had to remove them. she never mentioned how she got it but now we know about hpv. is ...
A. 25 July 2013: Not all cervical cancer is caused by HPV. Men carry it and because it usually has no symptoms in them, is very difficult to find unless that is what you are specifically searching for. Were you tested? There are a million different ways she could ... (read in full...)
Should I be the one to bring up sex first in our relationship, or should he?
Q. It about 3 months i started dating my bf and he has never raised an issue on sex but i want us to talk about sex so that i can tell him my opinion on sex in a relationship and know his opinion to,should i be the one to bring up the topic or shud i ...
A. 24 July 2013: if you want him to know your opinion and you want to know his, then I think you should bring up the topic of sex, just so you know you're in the same place in your relationship.
One of the first topics my husband and I discussed.... (read in full...)
His ex wife still lives with him
Q. my boyfriends ex wife is still living in the house.she pays no rent and does not contribute to purchasing groceries or paying housing expenses. she is always using his money on her personal entertainment. Instead of being grateful she is always bitc...
A. 23 July 2013: Why doesn't he kick her ass to the curb?... (read in full...)
I want his girlfriend to know he's been cheating on her with me!
Q. So I've been talking/hooking up with this guy and he has a girlfriend of a few years... I don't want to change my situation with him yet but I do want her to know what he's doing. She seems like a really good (virginal) girl... How could I do this ...
A. 23 July 2013: Whether you want to be in the middle of this or not, you already are. One woman to another, you should tell her. Admit to your fault in this and tell her you feel she should know what she's getting into. I would also want to know. Boys can be very ... (read in full...)
Should I fake it till I make it?
Q. i need advice-should i fake it til i make it? been with my fiance 3yrs and we had our first baby 6 months ago. at first, we maintained our sex life (i didn't want intercourse as i was scared it would hurt, but enjoyed giving him bjs). but then on ...
A. 23 July 2013: Even if he is a shiftworker, when you have a baby, both Mommy and Daddy should be pulling duty. Even when he gets home from work. He should give you an hour to yourself. Take a nice hot bubble bath and unwind. Mommy needs time to herself too.
Y... (read in full...)
If you have cheated before, are you not worthy of any future relationships? Are cheaters really 'red flags'?
Q. I have read so many questions and responses on DC. The most common response or feedback is IF HE OR SHE HAS CHEATED ON HIS/HER GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND OR WIFE/HUSBAND BEFORE, YOU SHOULD NOT BE WITH HIM/HER BECAUSE HE/SHE WOULD DO THE SAME TO YOU! ...
A. 23 July 2013: Most people who are continual cheaters generally don't change their behavior, whether it's a psychological disorder or a character flaw. But there are a few people, who if they really want to change and don't want to cheat, then they won't and they ... (read in full...)
I want his girlfriend to know he's been cheating on her with me!
Q. So I've been talking/hooking up with this guy and he has a girlfriend of a few years... I don't want to change my situation with him yet but I do want her to know what he's doing. She seems like a really good (virginal) girl... How could I do this ...
A. 23 July 2013: Did you have prior knowledge of his relationship before you engaged in one with him?... (read in full...)
Can a relationship survive or be strong when sex is not involved?
Q. Whats your opinion....can a relationship survive or be strong when sex is not involved?...am asking cos i dont wish to have sex until i get married.thanks...
A. 21 July 2013: Most definitely.
I think that a relationship is based on more than just sex and if you find that right guy/girl and they are willing to wait until you're married to become physically intimate with you, then yes it can work.
There are more types of... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me confiding in friends about our problem but he confides in a female friend when we fight
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a serious relationship for almost 2 years. We had a spat, and he went to his friend who is a girl and told her all about it, and confided in her!!I don't like it It upsets me because he does not like me getting advice f...
A. 21 July 2013: That does sound very suspicious. I think everyone needs an impartial third party to vent to about problems you can't talk to your significant other about.
If he doesn't like you talking to other people about your relationship problems, then why does... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend the best blow job in the morning, any tips how can I start?
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend always tell me that It would be great if I give him a bj in the morning. But can anyone tell me how will I start? I'm afraid that when I start it in the morning he will stop me because he is still sleepy or not in the mood, you ...
A. 19 July 2013: Most guys I know, enjoy a bj early in the morning and even getting woken up with light touching and kissing. Trust me, he isn't going to turn that away.
My bf doesn't like to be woken up this way because of issues in the past. Please make sure your... (read in full...)
Girlfriend takes medication for depression and is no longer into sex
Q. just a quick question. my girlfriend is on zoloft for depression and it's really effecting her sex drive. before the medication, our sex was incredible. it was all the time and extremely good! now she's not interested in sex, and when we have it, ...
A. 19 July 2013: There are a lot of different depression medications out there. Has she considered talking to her doctor about trying a different prescription? One that won't reduce her sex drive? If you go to google and type in "side effects of Zoloft" go the the ... (read in full...)
I'm willing to give them a deposit on a home, but I want them to make some contribution too
Q. Following a divorce over 20 years ago I haven't lived with children who are now both in their mid twenties. Over that time I have maintained a good relationship with them and have always seen and spoken to them regularly. I am now in the position...
A. 18 July 2013: I am 24 years old and if someone offered me what you are offering them, I would completely understand and gratefully accept your terms.
They don't sound very mature, nor do they sound ready to be responsible for a home since they aren't willing to p... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: How long have you been dating?
Does he get on his facebook on a regular basis? What does he do? Check mail? Message friends? Talk to other women?
Is he computer savvy?
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He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: If my boyfriend made me feel uncomfortable about posting anything on his pictures, then he isn't much of a boyfriend. The fact that his relationship status hasn't changed, he has no pictures, status updates saying he's hanging with his girl, ... (read in full...)
How old were you when you kissed someone?
Q. just asking, how old where you when you kissed somebody or anybody?????...
A. 10 July 2013: 18 when I first kissed a boy and 20 when I had what I consider to be my first real kiss.
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