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writes:My friend last week on her fb account put in a complicated relationship, what does it mean????Ive asked her if shes ok and if she wants to talk im always hear to speak to but im not really sure what it meansDoes it mean her relationship is in trouble and she would like help or does it mean something elseId love to help but need more understanding of what it means Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 August 2014):
 I agree with Tisha - she is using her "status" on FB to somehow punish her SO or make a point to HIM. And... maybe she wants a little drama and sympathy.
If she CHOOSES to not clue you in, I'd let it go.
At least she knows she can talk to you if need be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): I agree with Tisha 1 and Mystiquek.
I've seen the description on FB as well.
I noticed the same description given by a former neighbor who is in a gay-relationship. I know that he and his partner fight a lot, and that his partner is ambitious and controlling. We have mutual friends, but I keep my distance where they're concerned. I'm otherwise neighborly and cordial. We attend the same functions on occasion.
He on the other-hand creates a lot of enemies for the two of them. He tends to snub people, treat his partner's employees like servants, and has very narcissistic ways.
Judging from their relationship;it means what it implies. The relationship is flawed, but cohesive.
They have unresolved issues, their relationship is problematic, and they remain together as a couple in spite of it. They just haven't broken-up yet. Next step, single status most likely.
Don't address it. She's making a statement of a passive-aggressive nature, by publishing it.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (4 August 2014):
 Normally when someone puts they are in a complicated relationship it means one of these things (this what I have gathered from some of my friends putting it as there relationship status)
1. They are seeing eachother and are not fully going out with one and other.
2. The are on the verge of breaking up
3. They are having difficulties in there relationship.
4. They don't want to be 100% official yet so they put it, before announcing they are with one and other.
5. They are doing it to let there partner know that they are not happy with them or their relationship.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 August 2014):
 I think messages like that are designed to punish the significant other of the poster.
"I'm in a relationship but I'm mad as hell."
"I'm in a relationship but he's cheated on me and I want to humiliate him a bit before I attempt to break his heart."
"I'm in a relationship but we've decided that it's an open one and we can also see other people."
You've offered your support and to listen to her, beyond that, there's not much you can do.
I think people who post stuff like that without explanation just like to draw a bit of attention to themselves.
You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped and if she won't explain it to you then you'll have to let it go.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (4 August 2014):
 Who knows? I don't use facebook any longer myself but I would imagine "complicated" means different things to different people. It could mean they are having problems, it could mean they are married but separated,getting divorced or dating but seeing others. Its really hard to say. Its vague and I believe its designed to be that way so people can chose to use that term however they see fit. I think unless your friend asks for your advice or help, I'd leave it alone for now. She knows where you are if she wants to talk.
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