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writes:Why would my husband have married me when I was cjwarky not his type ? All through our marriage he would make little comments about my looks .. Implying that there were things about me that disappointed him . He was constantly looking at other women admiringly but I could count on one hand the number if times he ever complimented me Now that we have split he says he wants me back but I just can't understand this . I told him straight up that I was someone who is 'into me' and clearly he isn't and never was . At my age ( 40s) it's seems he would only get less into me One classic example of this is that he saw a photo of me when I recently had a makeover and he commented that I looked just like another female we knew ( who I love and think is beautiful too btw) . But then he brought up a photo of her he had recently seen online to show me how nice she looked Maybe I'm overreacting but it just seems le even when he tries to win me back he can't give me a compliment Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2014):
How in the heck did this guy ever get you to date & marry him in the first place if he is so unwilling to give you a compliment?
I rarely go one whole DAY without making some comment about my GF being attractive. You can put up with more your husband but it doesn't have to be that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2014): Girl, I say this as nicely as I can, this is much more about you than about him. What issues do you have, that are causing you to be attracted to this kind of a man? I do understand, I have some of the same myself and working on them, but it's time for you to start loving yourself and then bringing in that love to your life.
Why put up with a man who doesn't get the goddess that you are?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 August 2014):
 ... so.... why would you waste any time and mental energy even THINKING about this guy?????
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (31 July 2014):
 Unless you seriously are considering taking him back, why bother trying to figure him out. He's in the rearview mirror, that water is down in the sewage plant now that you've crossed that bridge, he is ancient history. (How many more metaphors and similes can I slay?)
He may simply have loved you, but was a critical type of commenter. I've seen some people who have this type of verbal diarrhea.
Anyway, unless you are really thinking about taking him back, I'd stop dwelling on it. It seems to make you feel low and unhappy. Why waste time doing that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014): Your husband has absolutely no social skills or idea how to treat a woman. There are guys out there who will treat you much better and make you happy. He will always put his foot in it and make you feel like rubbish. Move on from him, seriously.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 July 2014):
 I think your husband is an idiot, who doesn't know how to treat a woman right, wife, ex-wife or not.
And with all those little comments over the years towards your looks, was/is he a perfect 10?
Why are you even considering taking him back?
He CAN NOT be the man you want him to be. You can't "look" like how he "thinks" you should look to be with him, it's a lose/lose situation and honestly I think you are wasting your time on him.
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