How can I make him see that I don't want to be anything more than friends?
Q. Hi all, here's the situation. I have been friends with a guy online for 10 years from Morrocco, Recently I have come to notice that he has feelings for me. I tried very hard to let him down nicely but firmly, and let him know that I am involved with ...
A. 22 July 2011: Have you ever met this guy from Morroco in person?
You tried the nice approach. That apparently didn't work. Now just be straight with him. Next time he brings it up, say "i'm not single now, and probably won't be for a while..."
If he c... (read in full...)
I want to start dating others but don't want to hurt my ex
Q. Hi. I recently just ended a five year relationship that has been dying for a long time, we still see eachother every day because really were more friends than anything. And I want to start dating but Im scared to hurt her and I dont want to lie to h...
A. 21 July 2011: I think you're right. You shouldn't feel guilty. You have to move on, and she has to move on. The only way that's gonna happen is by...moving on.
She may be hurt in the beginning, or be a bit jealous, but i think that's natural, especial... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admitted he's 25,000 in debt and now I'm freaking out!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I have been talking about moving in together in the next few months. We've already put deposits down on some bigger furniture items. We both work full time and last year we started a business together which has been s...
A. 21 July 2011: Yeah, i have to agree. I'm not sure that this is the type of guy i would want to set up a business with.
That sort of debt would scare me. I would also try to figure out how or when the debt was built up, and see how much progress is he making o... (read in full...)
Girlfriend broke up with me on Facebook and won't give a reason why...
Q. my girlfriend just broke up with? me 3 months ago by message in facebook and wont give me a reason why, and yet few days ago before our break up. all she kept on saying was "i love you" and "i couldn't imagine life without you"...then she message me ...
A. 20 July 2011: I had something similar happen to me. Was head over heels
for a girl. She told me over and over that she had
never been this happy with anyone before, and she loved
me so much and couldn't imagine life without me.
As a young guy with very ... (read in full...)
Never been kissed and always pictured myself alone. How do I deal with this?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? I'm 19 (going on 20) years old and have never been kissing, asked out on a date, or anything by a guy. The most attention I've ever got from a guy is from a far (i.e. them just staring at me), but them NEVER seen to ...
A. 20 July 2011: Eh, being home-schooled and then being in charge of the kids at home probably limits your social interactions.
I really do think that once you get out to college your whole world will open up socially. Are you leaving home to go to college,... (read in full...)
This girl is being completely flirty with me, and my girlfriend is totally jealous. How should I smooth things over with her?
Q. I've been seeing a girl from work for a couple of months now but due to her living circumstances we have decided to be as friends until she is able to get a place of her own. We do kiss, etc and have been intimate and hope to have a future together. ...
A. 7 July 2011: It does sound like your girlfriend is feeling overly threatened by this flirty girl.
To be honest i think you're doing pretty much everything right. Turning down the facebook invite was huge!
What i would do is maybe leave a message for her ... (read in full...)
He's 18. Am I expecting too much? We broke up. Not sure what to do next?
Q. My boyfriend and i broke up saturday, because on thursday and friday he was with his friends, and they partied. he really doesn't hangout with his friends a lot. Nor party a lot. he wasn't texting me like he use too. so i got mad and assumed ...
A. 7 July 2011: One question i have: how long have you 2 been together?
Is he excited about the baby? What are his feelings?
Are you living together?
I would sit down with him and talk to him about this recent behaviour. Let him know that, especially at... (read in full...)
How can I help my GF who has very low self esteem?
Q. My girlfriend thinks that she is ugly...and the problem is, she's been told this all her life by various sources(including her parents) to the point that she believes it is the only truth...when I tell her she is pretty(she is), she just tells me ...
A. 7 July 2011: Eh, if she's been told it all her life it's not gonna turn around over night, know what i mean?
All you can do is just keep trying to change her perception
by continuing to compliment her.
I've dated a couple of girls like this. I remember on... (read in full...)
He never called me so I'm hoping he doesn't bother now, should I just change my phone number?
Q. He said he would call and I haven't called him in over a week. He still hasn't called. Do you think he is going to call? I'm over him now but I wonder if I don't want to hear from him should I just change my phone number? I don't want him to call ...
A. 5 July 2011: I would change the phone number.
I had an issue like this, oddly enough, through email, as well. Eventually i cancelled my account because of it, and to be honest it was the best thing i ever did.
The load off of my shoulders was tremendous, ... (read in full...)
Korean girlfriend ends things just when I'm ready to tell her I'll go to Korea with her!
Q. I met this Korean girl a little over a month ago. We started dating, everything was going great. After a couple of weeks she mentioned that she will have to return to Korea in October because her Visa will expire. I thought it over quite a bit...
A. 4 July 2011: Only knowing each other for a month is a long time to consider displacing yourself to another country, for.
She may have realized this.
At this stage i'm afraid the ball is really in her court. If she was drunk, you may want to give her... (read in full...)
I don't know how to end a relationship with no valid reason to end it
Q. I have been with a girl for a few months, and it feels like I have been almost pressured into being with her. It's only been about 2 months, but I am already finding myself craving time alone without her there. She hasn't done anything wrong, but ...
A. 4 July 2011: Eh, really i would just tell her exactly what you feel.
It may be harsh, but being honest is the best way to go here.
Tell her you felt pressured into the relationship from the get-go, and that you've thought it over and since it's ending when... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 2 July 2011: Eh, i suppose there's a possibility that revealing that you're pregnant may act as a wake-up call for him, but i'll be honest.. I think your friend has got the right idea..
Why would you ever want to be with a guy that uses you as a stripper... (read in full...)
My best friend since kindergarten now says he likes me, and I see him as a brother...AND I have a bf! What to do??
Q. Hey i just need advice on to how to deal with this situation. Me and my best friend who is male have been best friends since kindergarden and we have been together through high school but lately he has been saying his feelings for me are getti...
A. 2 July 2011: Haha, the classic "friend from Kindergarten has secretly been in love with me for years"...Taylor Swift writes songs about this stuff!
Best thing to do here is be straight with your friend. Nip it in the bud right away. It'll probably be hard ... (read in full...)
Is he starting arguments to break up?
Q. I have had a couple of questions with some really fantastic answers which have been really helpful, with a difficult relationship there are a lot of questions which spring to mind, I've just had lunch with my partner of four years, he consistantly ...
A. 28 June 2011: You've been together for 4 years. You're bound to kind of grate on each other and argue a bit. How long has he been harping on trousers/buttons? What i would do is sew them, and then tell him "alright, then, our relationship is perfect now.... (read in full...)
My confidence has gone after dating a man way out of my league!
Q. Ok, so here is my dilemma. I am 33, I am ok looking, not ugly and some may say pretty, but not anything special just your average girl in the looks department. I would say a 5/6 out of 10. I have happened to meet a man who is 30 and who is drop dea...
A. 28 June 2011: My sister dated someone like this. He told her straight up the only reason he was with her was because he couldn't currently get anyone else, and the minute he found something else he would leave her. She didn't buy into it, and stayed with him ... (read in full...)
Any chance that he’ll come back around? What did I do wrong in the situation?
Q. Two years ago I started dating a man who is a single father. I have no children. He has full custody of his now 16yr old daughter and one year ago, found out he is also the father of a two year old son. (The mother located him 1.5yrs after the child ...
A. 28 June 2011: I'm not sure that you specifically did anything wrong. I think it really sounds like a situation where, when you first met, he was looking for a relationship, however all these roadblocks in his life have presented themselves, and he's really ... (read in full...)
Should I try Oral or will it be a disaster ?
Q. My boyfriend has been trying to give me oral sex for about a month now. But i wont let him. I give him oral all the time but now for me i just feel like it'll be embarrasing! Why is this?...
A. 28 June 2011: I think it's pretty common for girls to be a bit shy about the idea of a guy performing oral on them. Especially early on. I dated a girl like that. Anytime i even got CLOSE to her "down there", she would immediately roll, or grab me and move... (read in full...)
What did that kiss mean?
Q. Men, i really really need to know why he was kissing me like this please!!? I've never had someone do it in this way before, so i could use advice. Two nights ago i met up briefly with this guy that i really liked, and at the end of the night when ...
A. 28 June 2011: He was feeling the passion. Like you said, he "went for it". Probably not advisable on a first kiss, but i think quite often the first time you have a first kiss that really GOES for it, you're gonna find some awkwardness involved. Like, the... (read in full...)
Can you be a FWB with an Ex?
Q. I'm 18 and still friends with my ex. She recently dated a much older guy [in his twenties] and split with him, although they still sleep together for the fun. She is a very open person, and before we dated, she was keen on casual activity. I want to ...
A. 28 June 2011: My first question would be whom broke up with whom? Did you dump her, or did she dump you? Are you really sure you are over each other? ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have something on your phone that has private numbers show on Caller ID?
Q. Is it possible to have something on your phone that screens through private numbers? As in, someone can call on private/witheld number, but their number still shows up? My reason for asking is that I was feeling curious as to whether my ex-bo...
A. 28 June 2011: I would just not call your ex again, ever. You don't want to give him any fodder to imply to other people that you're stalking him. You are right, you should just leave it, next time. That being said, if you only did it once I wouldn't w... (read in full...)
Why do people try to block out the past with relationships?
Q. Hi guys. I got a question. With relationships, why do people try to block out the past? Sometimes, you can ask your partner a question and they lie about something that happened in the past. Why do they do that? Why won't people admit ...
A. 28 June 2011: When you said she made advances towards you, who did you say this to? Just to her, or were there other people around?
If there were other people around, and if she was in a profession that did not allow the patient to ask the Doctor out, then of ... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: I guess I would ask: does your best friend realize that his wife dislikes you?
I think i would talk to him about it and say that you feel like you really need to dial back how much they rely on you because you just aren't comfortable with the wife... (read in full...)
15 years old, boner problems!
Q. Hey, first post here. After countless other questions asked anonymously, I thought I'd make an account so I can look back on all my previous, stupid questions later in life and have a good laugh. But as of right NOW this is no laughing matter.. ...
A. 28 June 2011: Yep, it really is all mental. I know it's hard to do, but once you figure out how to stop thinking about the problem it'll go away.
Just remember: sex isn't supposed to be something that
stresses you out, it's actually a big time stress relie... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girlfriend?
Q. I have been single now for about 2 years (I'm 22 years old). I would love to get a girlfriend but I just don't have any friends who know any girls and I am not in school anymore so I can't meet girls in school. I don't really like to go out and ...
A. 28 June 2011: You can try a dating site..I've had mixed results with those, though. I hate to say it, but the best thing for you to do is be patient, be attentive, but don't rush anything.
A watched-kettle never boils, ya know?
I have been in the same situ... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: I hate to say it, but i think i would dial back how much involvement i have with the family.
When you come around to hang with the kids, do you just drop in unannounced or do they know you're coming?
You say when SHE goes away for work you com... (read in full...)
I was a wild child, so he begged me to change and I did....now he thinks I'm boring!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. When we first started dating i was a wild child. I partied drank an smoked weed like every other day. I always tried to get him to go to the club with me or get his friends together for a night of ...
A. 27 June 2011: I kind of feel the same way. I had a relationship where the girl kept complaining that i needed to change my ways. All i wanted to do was make her happy, and so i made some adjustments. At that point she became verbally abusive and man... (read in full...)
My partner is addicted to online gaming and he has no interest of putting any effort into our relationship.
Q. Hi, My partner who i live with, is addicted to online gaming. Not only that, but when he does deign to spend any time with me, it's generally him wanting to "get it on", he cannot seem to understand why his behaviour and attitude towards me and t...
A. 27 June 2011: Wow, this guy really is in deep. I have to admit i'm a bit of a gamer myself. When my wife and i were dating, and leading up to our marriage, she lived 3 hours up the road, and so i spent my weekdays alone at an apartment near my work. I gamed a... (read in full...)
Why are women less likely to give a blowjob or hand job when your in a relationship with them?
Q. why do women let me finger them and have sex with them but they wont give me a blowjob. I have gotten blowjobs from women without even asking, these females where either friends or strippers or random drunk chicks and the strippers didnt even make ...
A. 27 June 2011: I find your disdain for kissing oddly fascinating. I don't think i've ever heard that before! I can understand it, but it is still quite different! I'd be interested to know what other method you might use in foreplay, if not kissing, to get a ... (read in full...)
My partner is addicted to online gaming and he has no interest of putting any effort into our relationship.
Q. Hi, My partner who i live with, is addicted to online gaming. Not only that, but when he does deign to spend any time with me, it's generally him wanting to "get it on", he cannot seem to understand why his behaviour and attitude towards me and t...
A. 27 June 2011: Are there any positives he brings to the relationship? He sounds like a complete waste of time.
It really seems like this is a relationship headed nowhere fast.
I think i would bring that up with him. Tell him how unhappy all of this makes yo... (read in full...)
I really want to get pregnant -- should I?
Q. I want to get pregnant but I know I'm young... I'll be 17 in two months and I've been in this relationship for almost three years. My boyfriend is in the Navy and I love him very very much. We've had a miscariage and it hurt both of us very badly...
A. 24 June 2011: Eh, my recommendation for you would be to be sure that you at least graduate from High School before you consider marriage.
Not getting your high school degree now would REALLY really limit you later on in life.
I would say NO, don't risk getti... (read in full...)
In the past she had affairs with married men! Is this a deal-breaker?
Q. a girl I have been dating for 6 months, and who up to now, I have liked a lot, revealed to me that in the past, not too distant, she dated a few married men. she is 28. one was when she was about 20, the other when she was 26. she slept with both of ...
A. 24 June 2011: I'll throw in my 2 cents.
To be quite honest, the way i see it (and i admit i'm giving her the benefit of the doubt here!) is that it's not necessarily true that she has no respect for marriage.
I think she just doesn't care about other peop... (read in full...)
Is this guy being flaky because he is only interested in sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I apologize in advance if this is long winded but I think it might help you understand why I feel so confused. I met this guy at work a couple months ago and he seemed like a nice guy. We barely ever saw each other but when we did ...
A. 24 June 2011: I have to say, you complain about him being flaky.
I think you may suffer a bit from that disease, as well.
How many times in your write-up did i read "well, i was annoyed, but i figured i'd just get it over with" or "i was going to tell hi... (read in full...)
How do I get over knowing he doesn't care that the relationship is over?
Q. Hellllo, Yesterday i decided to break up with my boyfriend of 4 years,because he was lying and cheating and i finally got fed up and i was to hurt this time to try anymore. So i dont really know what to do anymore,im really confused and my ...
A. 24 June 2011: See, this is where you have to really have a strong-sense of self-worth. You're too hung up on the fact that he's not missing you.
Well, the fact is he was probably self-absorbed, selfish
and a jerk and, yes, you're probably right. At the begin... (read in full...)
I am planning to tell him my bisexuality but not my feelings
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 21 years old and studying engineering as an International Student in a German university. I am about to finish my studies (final semester) and my final exams are about to start. But because of this problem I will explain, I even cou...
A. 24 June 2011: Well, one easy way to find out where his sexuality lies is to ask him if he has any current dating prospects. I assume he's not in a relationship, but could you possibly ask if he has any prospects on the horizon? Maybe try to strike up a ... (read in full...)
Do I confide in him my bi-sexuality? Do I reveal my attraction to him?
Q. I'm 16 and still at high school and I seem to have a big problem. I kinda accepted that I was attracted to guys a few years ago, (girls I'm fairly sure I like too) but I think I am crushing on (falling for) this guy at my school really bad. We w...
A. 24 June 2011: A big question for me would be: Why did he break up with his girlfriend?
Have you talked to him about that?
That would be my first step. Find out if his breakup from his gf was related somehow to sexual confusion, or if it was something else. ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with your FWB......
Q. Hi all So I have a question that relates to FWB relationships. I asked on here over a month ago to help decode what was going on with this guy and whilst I knew deep down the answer, I guess I had hoped someone could prove me wrong. I've b...
A. 24 June 2011: I would be straight with him. What's the worst that could happen?
Maybe he will realize that this is something he'd like to explore and ask for something more, and maybe he'll say "thanks, it was fun" and that'll be that.
The one thing i woul... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend is obsessed with me! Help
Q. My ex girlfriend is obsessed with me and won't stop calling and texting me. I've blocked her from facebook and msn but I can't block her number from my phone and I don't know how to stop her. Everyone keeps telling me to ignore her because she'll ...
A. 24 June 2011: Yeah, i would just send one text. Make it quite clear that you're really not interested in continuing to be in contact with her and to stop.
If she continues to text, i would then give her one more warning. Say if she does not stop you will go ... (read in full...)
I am really torn because I don't want to stop the affair but I am also afraid of moving forward.
Q. Hi everyone. I really need some help. I am a married man with a young child. For the past six months, I have been friends with a woman in our circle of friends whom I am very attracted to. We have flirted and it is clear that we have a connecti...
A. 24 June 2011: You say you are not completely happy, yet you say you are comfortable.
Those 2 comments are kind of at odds, for me. If you're comfortable, then why risk losing what you have?
If you're unhappy, well i guess the question is are you unhappy enou... (read in full...)
Told my boyfriend I'm pregnant, is he exited?
Q. Hi i posted a question here yesterday about should i tell my boyfriend im pregnant i did today just to re-cap im 10 weeks pregnant have a 4 year old son he takes care of my son as if it was his own child. I didn't plan on having this baby at all and ...
A. 23 June 2011: Eh, really a man's character in this type of situation is hard to judge. So many things can happen and change.
However, i have to say that, in my eyes, he handled it INCREDIBLY well, with grace and maturity.
At 36, i hope that he understa... (read in full...)
My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. Is there something we can do?
Q. My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. As I've researched this it seems like it's a pretty common problem, but the reasons seems to be it's not enough or oral isn't done long enough. I have never timed myself, but I know I have gotten him ...
A. 23 June 2011: Eh, i'll speak up here :p. I'm a man who has never ejaculated during oral. Many have tried, none have succeeded. I'm actually at the point where i really wish my wife wouldn't try to give me oral, cause it does nothing for me. (She feels she has ... (read in full...)
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