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6 August 2009: Well were to begin...Mmmmmmmm!!!!!! Last night I went out quite a random night all in all, I popped out of the club for a ciggy with my fella and this guy was trying to get my attention.It took me 5 minutes to realise he was my ex husbands best fri...
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This question has 16 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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31 October 2008: As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when you...
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I have fallen for my colleague who is married.
Q. please help me..I have fallen for my colleague who is married.He is also very much in love with me and dont want to harm my prestige.But we both know that it cannot be fruitful as we are both married and that is why we dont want to proceed ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi hunny
To be honest if you have been seeing this man for a year do you not feel its time to tell both your husband and his wife the truth so they at least move on....You can't keep doing this and being happy it doesn't work that way...4 lives are ... (read in full...)
My husband gravitates toward the young single women at his work, and I'm not supposed to ask any questions. I need some advice!
Q. I don't how to change the way I feel! My husband works in a large field office with both males and females. Many of the women he works with are just average, married, middle-aged etc. But he gravitates toward the women half his age and those are the ...
A. 11 July 2012: N if u need a chat msg me hun xxxxxx ... (read in full...)
My husband gravitates toward the young single women at his work, and I'm not supposed to ask any questions. I need some advice!
Q. I don't how to change the way I feel! My husband works in a large field office with both males and females. Many of the women he works with are just average, married, middle-aged etc. But he gravitates toward the women half his age and those are the ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi hunny
You know what I would do? Id completely ignore his foolish behaviour, It sounds like he gets enjoyment from your worry...You need to turn things around ....
You need to get your confidence levels up, get some self esteem back..Th... (read in full...)
Can my low self esteem and feelings of worthlessness stem from not being emotionally supported as a child by my parents?
Q. This is kind of a relationship question, about family relationships. Basically i have a difficult family situation. I feel like I have to help, because there are a lot of emotional struggles going on, but I am extremely drained. I love my family b...
A. 29 June 2012: Hi Hunny
First let me say Im working from my phone so I Apologise if the odd mistake is made....
I understand how you feel, my mum is older now and I have been taking care of my dads needs for over a year. I used to care for the elderly befo... (read in full...)
Can my low self esteem and feelings of worthlessness stem from not being emotionally supported as a child by my parents?
Q. This is kind of a relationship question, about family relationships. Basically i have a difficult family situation. I feel like I have to help, because there are a lot of emotional struggles going on, but I am extremely drained. I love my family b...
A. 29 June 2012: Hi Hunny
First let me say Im working from my phone so I Apologise if the odd mistake is made....
I understand how you feel, my mum is older now and I actually take care of my dads needs for over a year now. I used to care for the elderly befo... (read in full...)
I've not responded to this girl sending me nasty messages but she is still doing it, what should I do?
Q. Hi guys, so I've asked about this twice... I'll link the threads if the Aunts will let me. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-friend-bullies-me.html and http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what...
A. 29 June 2012: Hi Hunny
If someone is a bully then they are not a friend. You need to stick to your guns and ignore any nasty. behaviour she is trying to grab your attention with.....
First I would completely change all my networking accounts and start again, A... (read in full...)
He told me he's not head over heels crazy about me but his actions say differently
Q. I need some help. I met this guy online 8 months ago. We have been dating for 7 months now. I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer just before we met. I told him the first night we met that I just had surgery and there was a chance that I would ...
A. 5 March 2011: Hi Hun Now first please excuse any spelling mistakes so forth as Im on my phone and its not an easy one to work with:-D I read you post more than once, Hun sometimes in life when we least expect it when we are most def at our lowest something... (read in full...)
What is the thing you most need in a relationship?
Q. Billy Joel has a song, "The Stranger": "Once I used to believe I was such a great romancer Then I came home to a woman That I could not recognize Though I pressed her for a reason, She refused to even answer It was then I felt the stranger ...
A. 25 January 2011: Hi Hun
I feel honesty, Trust and most important friendship. Understanding each others little quirks goes along way...Money nooooooooo!!!!! People are more important than getting my nails done :)... (read in full...)
Is he trying to control me?
Q. Anytime I do anything besides working on homework, my boyfriend expects me to tell him exactly where I'm going and what I'm doing so that he can go too. He even questioned something simple such as why I changed my facebook picture to a picture of ...
A. 21 January 2011: Hi Hunny
Yep this sounds like he is insecure to me, How long have you been seeing him? Its ok to pay attention to your interests and want to be with you hun, It sounds to me if this could be a problem, these kind of things in my experience get wors... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not 100% honest with me.
Q. Hey people I REALLY need some advice... My girfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years now and even though we had our rough periods (4months breakup) that happened almost a year ago we still are back together and are going strong.....
A. 18 January 2011: If she said she would'nt mind, (sorry) Then you are not on the same wave length ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not 100% honest with me.
Q. Hey people I REALLY need some advice... My girfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years now and even though we had our rough periods (4months breakup) that happened almost a year ago we still are back together and are going strong.....
A. 18 January 2011: Hi Hun
The one thing I really dont like is half truths, Going around in circles and not really being totally honest is not in my mind right, if you love someone then you should have nothing to hide at all...
Guys will come on to girls women al... (read in full...)
Why is my mum like this?!
Q. help i really don't know what to do, i don't feel like i can let my mum be so controling all the time. Everyone in my house tip toes around her, she is self employed but never puts in effort to get work so we live off my dads wage. She has ruined e...
A. 12 January 2011: Hi Hunny
I can 110% understand how you feel, When you try to talk does she walk away? If there is a problem is it brushed under the carpet unless its directly to do with her?
My mother was quite different towards us when we were younger and olde... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being punished for the mistakes of his two ex wives!
Q. I've been dating this gentleman for the last 5 years. I've come to realize that we will never have a future together. He has 5 children and three live with him. He's been coming over to my place every weekend(shares my home and food) and never ...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi Hunny
First why are you being made to pay for his ex wives mistakes? Where in you post does it say that his wives made terrible mistakes? It takes 2 to make a marriage work.
Have you ever said in conversation "hey hun bring some food with yo... (read in full...)
This is heartbreak at its worst.Any suggested coping mechanisms??
Q. There's probably not much anyone can say to this so its probably more like a rant.. Me and my bf of 4 years have just broken up. We both knew it was coming to an end, and I snapped and it was me who said it was over and he agreed. We had become mo...
A. 6 January 2011: Hi Hunny
First your not going insane ok, Ive been right were you are now broke it off after a 5yr relationship. How you describe it is just the same. My huge mistake was not giving myself healing space, He still wanted to talk via m.s.n ever... (read in full...)
He told me not to tell anyone we were talking, then he gets back together with his ex?
Q. I'm 16 years old and told I look a lot older, last year my sister got married and I was a bridesmaid. I was standing at the bar getting a drink and my sisters friend (23) put his arm around my hip and said "your beautiful" and "I love your dress", ...
A. 15 December 2010: Hi Hunny
First sorry to hear about all this you must be very confused and quite angry at this young mans behaviour towards you.
Respect is very important and I'll be honest with you he didnt show you respect from that very first night by ask... (read in full...)
Why am I so paranoid and controlling when he has never given me any reason not to trust him?
Q. Me and my partner have recently got married but i have never hated myself so much in my life! A week or so before we got married he went out with a friend for some drinks which of course i wasn't happy about because i am so jealous and paranoid! ...
A. 8 November 2010: Hunny
Take a look at those links I sent you, They will help I understand how you feel TAKE CARE OF YOU XXXXXXX... (read in full...)
Why am I so paranoid and controlling when he has never given me any reason not to trust him?
Q. Me and my partner have recently got married but i have never hated myself so much in my life! A week or so before we got married he went out with a friend for some drinks which of course i wasn't happy about because i am so jealous and paranoid! ...
A. 5 November 2010: Hi Hunny
First I have to ask have you been badly hurt before?
This could be such a fear that you have constantly thought about so often that you are actually believing your irrational thought pattern..If you constantly think and feel negative tho... (read in full...)
How offten does a normal couple have sex?
Q. Dear cupid, Please help have been married for 24 years have 3 children 23,19,and 11 not currently working off on disability due to back problems have had back problems since 1990 and now most recently Fibromyalgia im pain all the time some times so...
A. 11 October 2010: Hi Hunny
Pain all the time is very depressing and can really take its toll on you, I understand only to well about back pain.
Obviously your husband knows how much pain you are in and this is what gets me..That he is thinking about his own needs wh... (read in full...)
What causes a man to have a dry orgasm??
Q. What is the main cause when a man has dry orgasms in his fifties? My partner was having sex with me, and shortly after, he told me he had a dry orgasm. I have never experience that with a man before. What can cause a man to ejaculate with a orgasm?...
A. 1 October 2010: Hi Hunny
Ive found a helpfull link for you, Hope it helps....
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex-and-relationships/facts/dry-orgasms.htm
Take care with love mandy xxxx... (read in full...)
It makes me angry that I can get past my fears to have sex...
Q. Dear Aunties... My girlfriend of a solid (And might I say AMAZING) 3 months and myself are talking about sex every day she comes over. Now, being a 17 year old male, my body wants me to have sex, a lot of sex... But I (as a person) dont. The rea...
A. 19 September 2010: Hi Hunny
First before you start having sex hunny I think you need to find out if she is ready, This could be the problem or as you say something may have happened that she hasnt spoke with you about, Something very hurtfull...
You have shown th... (read in full...)
How can I resurect an old crush?
Q. Ok, I'll try to make this as understandable as I can. Basically, I have liked a girl for some time. Back in grade 7 she asked me to dance at our schools Halloween dance, and I just fell in love. She had liked me for some time before that mostly ...
A. 18 September 2010: Always happy to help hunny xxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
How can I resurect an old crush?
Q. Ok, I'll try to make this as understandable as I can. Basically, I have liked a girl for some time. Back in grade 7 she asked me to dance at our schools Halloween dance, and I just fell in love. She had liked me for some time before that mostly ...
A. 17 September 2010: You did good hunny, Dont think to far ahead just try and let things fall into place slowly and wait untill you feel she has healed enough for you to ask her out, Women always appreciate a kind ear and a kind heart :) Here is hoping that you will ... (read in full...)
How can I resurect an old crush?
Q. Ok, I'll try to make this as understandable as I can. Basically, I have liked a girl for some time. Back in grade 7 she asked me to dance at our schools Halloween dance, and I just fell in love. She had liked me for some time before that mostly ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi Hunny
I found you!!!!!
This may well be your chance, But at the same time she may be upset because of the split. So I would advise that as you know her maybe try and be there for her as a friend, See how things go from there and then see if t... (read in full...)
When I picture my future I don't see anything
Q. Argh. I'm gonna try and make it as short as I can. I'm 24 sitting in my parent's house who I don't really like cause they're selfabsorbed damaged controlling narcissists and the family is pretty much broken and they don't take any blame for it. They ...
A. 8 September 2010: Hi Hunny
Oh my god!!!! You have been pushed from pillar to post most of your childhood no wonder you couldnt settle and get on with your studies and dreams..Everytime you moved you had to get to know different people different teachers who didn... (read in full...)
Will she ever be able to end her abusive relationship for good?
Q. She is 19, studying and her bf is 22 and is working. She's in a unhealthy relationship with him for almost 5 years. She told me she broke up but patched back with him countless times, he's very possessive, she has cried and emotionally hurt so many ...
A. 31 August 2010: Hi Hunny
I have just read Cerberus answer to your post and I agree that if you are hoping for this to become more than friendship you will indeed be waiting for something that may never happen and of course you will be hurt along the way....Yes do t... (read in full...)
Will she ever be able to end her abusive relationship for good?
Q. She is 19, studying and her bf is 22 and is working. She's in a unhealthy relationship with him for almost 5 years. She told me she broke up but patched back with him countless times, he's very possessive, she has cried and emotionally hurt so many ...
A. 28 August 2010: Hi Hunny
I myself was in a really bad mental and physical abusive marriage for 6yrs...I can tell you now that day in and day out you do not no what to expect plus you do not think straight at all..You want to get out so desperately but if she has ... (read in full...)
I want out but can't seem to be able to do it!
Q. I have always been a sheltered girl. My parents made sure i was highly protected, and would never let me do certain things when i was growing up. Because of this, i started to become anxious whenver going out or doing new things. My brothers also ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hi Hunny
This is called emotional blackmail, You are 19yrs old and have found someone who cares for you and as everyone in life does you want to spread your wings and live..
It honestly sounds to me as if your mum is scared of being alone, She has ... (read in full...)
I'm hesitant to move in with him!
Q. I've been with my BF for a year now. Great guy, fantastic relationship, respects me a lot, we’ve met each other’s families etc. He’s been talking about living together one day and recently the talk’s gotten serious. He’s got this plan that he’d l...
A. 13 July 2010: Hi Hunny
He said that he didn’t see marriage in his short term future, But he did not say he does not want to get married ever. Plus if he is making all these plans then he must see you two being together as something he wants in his life and futu... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to want too much sex?
Q. Sex means way too much to me, I know this. And it doesn't come from a good place. It comes from never being touched as a child expect sexually. So I know this isn't just a personality thing. Well it's left me feeling very comforted by sex...
A. 8 July 2010: Hi Hunny
My situation is different from yours, I had a very abusive marriage not only physical but mentally also..
Im cutting a very long story short, He made me feel very undesirable and it took me years to get well from the abuse. This lead to ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? I'm afraid to ask my mother!
Q. Hi. My name is Quinn and i have been experiancing some weird things. I have been to many websites and nothing has helped. Could you please help me? Okay so this is what's happeneing, I have missed my period for 1 month and 1/2... but i have NOT h...
A. 7 July 2010: Hi hunny
If you have never had sex and are a virgin sweetheart you are not pregnant, The best advise I can give you is to talk to your mum you have done nothing wrong at all. A doctors appointment would be a good idea just to get checked out, My d... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to want too much sex?
Q. Sex means way too much to me, I know this. And it doesn't come from a good place. It comes from never being touched as a child expect sexually. So I know this isn't just a personality thing. Well it's left me feeling very comforted by sex...
A. 7 July 2010: Hi Hunny
If I got this correct you say you had no touch as in hugs as a child apart from sexual touch?
If this is right then sweetheart you are using sex as you say a comfort zone as you feel that is where the love comes from...You feel low and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks his daughter is better than my son!
Q. I have been dating a man for 1 1/2 years now. We have become best friends and now have fallen in love. We talk about living together for many reasons, first of all because we love each other and we spend so much time together. Secondly, ...
A. 6 July 2010: I second that marriedlady that was my first reaction..... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks his daughter is better than my son!
Q. I have been dating a man for 1 1/2 years now. We have become best friends and now have fallen in love. We talk about living together for many reasons, first of all because we love each other and we spend so much time together. Secondly, ...
A. 6 July 2010: Hi Hunny
First of all pfffffffffff!!!!! How dare he make judgments about your family this way, Ooooh that made me really angry..
It just makes me boil when people say others are better than so n so, Better at what? We all have a place and a purpos... (read in full...)
Five years in, do we want out?
Q. We have been together nearly 5 years and have 3 year old together. Our love is unexplainable...is it lacking passiona nd romance. We go through the motions everyday. I honestly think we are trying too hard, forcing, and not 'seeing' each other in ...
A. 5 July 2010: Hi Hunny
Have you tryed not saying a word, I dont mean not talking to your partner I mean just for the time being ignore his distance towards you, Act quite normal on a day to day basis be nice and try and be happy but ignore anything to do with... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 2 July 2010: lying in bed with my EX b/f of 4 months
"So how many have you slept with then???" What???? That is not what I was thinking after what we had just done...
I get tested every year, Whether I have had a sexual experience or not..
I did have a rathe... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 30 June 2010: Hi Hunny
I really think it matters not and if anyone asks me how many gangbangs Ive had Im quite put off..
If I go into a new relationship then it is just that all new, The past is the past for both people involved its all a new beginnin... (read in full...)
How do I convince him to have a baby?
Q. I have been with my partner since Christmas 2009 - we both have children from previous marriages - my son is 5 and his son is 18 but his son suffers with Dyspraxia. I always said that I wanted two children but obviously with my marriage breakdo...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi Hunny
I really dont think that anyone can give you advise on how to convince your partner to have a child. I can understand you wanting a child but it needs two consenting adults and your parnter is saying he feels to old and really doesnt want... (read in full...)
I have been putting up with my wife's nonsense for far too long!
Q. I met this beautiful girl i thought i loved, adored and cherish, would do absolutely anything for her... worst decision of my life. even during our 1st years we had fights and arguments. But always thought it resulted due to her past experiences in ...
A. 28 June 2010: Hi Hunny
I really want to help you, But this is a difficult situation I could say she sounds awfull selfish, nasty, and mean and then I think maybe she needs to see a doctor and get refered to a councellor as it is obvious she has some kind of prob... (read in full...)
A question about the pill
Q. Taking the pill, please help? Last month i started using Loette (the pill). Today is the start of my second round of pills as yesterday was the last day of my period (if this make sense?) I took 7 sugar tablets and now today i took an active t...
A. 26 June 2010: Hi Hunny
If you are on the pill then you really must keep to the instuctions..I would have thought if you miss an active pill you will not be protected.
http://www.mydr.com.au/medicines/cmis/loette-tablets
Any questions that are not answere... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Hi Hun
Well she may be happy in herself, You are not saying she is dangerously over weight, You are not saying you are concerned for her health..You are telling this woman that unless she sheds a few pounds she will not find love...
That will not... (read in full...)
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